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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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Is female cheating really acceptable ??
Q. we all have grown to accept that most males cheat almost to the point of accepting and forgiving it all the time, when it happens. Is female cheating acceptable? When they cheat it almost definetly ends in breakups. They never get chances like males ...
A. 20 September 2006: Dazzer the point I was making is that cheating is not condonable and that when a cheater starts out cheating, its not generally because they NEED to, its more of a they WANT to, in effect they choose to rather than needing to! ... (read in full...)
He refuses to sleep in our bed, and doesnt come near me anymore, is he just playing me ?
Q. I have been single for nearly four years. i met a man with two children one adult and one 17. i get along with the kids very well. Actually the 17 year old and i have bonded so much that my boyfriend makes comments such as, what they think you're ...
A. 15 September 2006: Well if hes not going to tell you what the problem is and continues to act in this way then you really do not have a choice. He is totally selfish. Does he truly realsie what he will lose ? There is clearly something that he is not telling you. ... (read in full...)
Is female cheating really acceptable ??
Q. we all have grown to accept that most males cheat almost to the point of accepting and forgiving it all the time, when it happens. Is female cheating acceptable? When they cheat it almost definetly ends in breakups. They never get chances like males ...
A. 15 September 2006: Yep I totally concur with you Yos, But we do forget is that sex is a WANT not a NEED.
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Is female cheating really acceptable ??
Q. we all have grown to accept that most males cheat almost to the point of accepting and forgiving it all the time, when it happens. Is female cheating acceptable? When they cheat it almost definetly ends in breakups. They never get chances like males ...
A. 15 September 2006: Yos, Thats a deep way to look at it! Agree cheating is not acceptable in the slightest from in my book. But I dont think that everyone that cheats or has been cheated on(i have been cheated in) thinks in that way, its the physical side and the ... (read in full...)
Is female cheating really acceptable ??
Q. we all have grown to accept that most males cheat almost to the point of accepting and forgiving it all the time, when it happens. Is female cheating acceptable? When they cheat it almost definetly ends in breakups. They never get chances like males ...
A. 15 September 2006: I asked my partner this question the other week. Being an aunt on here you do see lots of questions regarding cheating. But the ones that tend to have a problem moving on and letting go are the males. It all boils down to women are actually more ... (read in full...)
If porn is desensitizing to men is the flip side, true? My gf prefers her vibrator to me!
Q. Dear Malyce (agony aunt) and yes it is a nice name I have read some of your objections to men "jerking off to porn". It can be desentisizing, as you say. Tell me if the flip-side is true. Since my partner got herself a wand vibrator and ano...
A. 15 September 2006: Hmmm The first Anon poster on here was very unhelpful... "Vibrators are demeaning to men" Oh my word, thats so way out there it hit pluto! lol
I'd agree yeah they can be addictive, but one of them is no contest to a willing caring sharing ... (read in full...)
He refuses to sleep in our bed, and doesnt come near me anymore, is he just playing me ?
Q. I have been single for nearly four years. i met a man with two children one adult and one 17. i get along with the kids very well. Actually the 17 year old and i have bonded so much that my boyfriend makes comments such as, what they think you're ...
A. 14 September 2006: Honey whatever you do, dont hand over your money to him until you know where this relationship is going. Its no way to behave in a relationship. have you tried voiceing out how you feel, told him that you dont want to live like this ? This is not ... (read in full...)
It shocks me that he is no longer in love with his ex-wife
Q. How long does one need to recover from a heart-break relationship? Will it be different between guys and girls? My situations is this. My boyfriend was divorced 1 yr and 3 months before we met. We've been together for 1 year as of now. He was marr...
A. 14 September 2006: Why are you worried about it ? Concentrate on you two not him and the ex... We all deal with things totally different! If someone cheats on us we are more likely to have anger more than love for them. So your saying that you think it is odd for ... (read in full...)
How can we tell her parents the "right way" that she is pregnant???
Q. Hi.. my gf is now 6 weeks pregnant, her parents didnt even know i exist... we already want to tell them the situation to ease our burden and Im willing to accept the responsibility... Our problem is.... How to tell her parents? I mean the right ...
A. 13 September 2006: Hey there, Honey I dont think there is a right way for something like that. Im guessing you are quite young and do know that you may have bitten off more than you can chew, but im glad you are prepared for that and are doing the right thing. My ... (read in full...)
Im 20 shes 14, is it legal to touch her up and kiss her ?
Q. hiya i am 20 year old n me girl is 14 i was just wondering if legal to kiss me girl n touch her up im from the uk n need help to answer these questions i know im not allowed sexual intercourse but wondering if allowed any physical touching or ...
A. 13 September 2006: Dont even go there. She is 14, still considered a child. Sexaul acts of any type should not even be thought of until she is at least 16, dont care what others think, but I still say it should be raised to 18 you hear such things!!! But anyway, ... (read in full...)
Could I be bi and if so my friends won't accept me....
Q. I've been thinking for a while now about the posiblility that i'm bisexual. I know im not gay cos im attracted to guys. But, my mate had a house party a few nights ago and we all got really drunk. We were all laughing and carrying on when my mate ...
A. 13 September 2006: I wouldnt say for sure that it would mean you are bi. Lots of women are attracted to the opposite sex for lots or reasons, it doesnt mean they are gay or Bi, just at that time they thought yeah shes nice ... there is a world of difference to being ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is pressuring me into getting his name tattooed on me!
Q. my boyfriend of 4 years is pressurising me a lot to get his name tattooed on my breasts or butts. he insists that this is a definite way of expressing my love for him. i am not sure of social and/or clinical affects of this. i love him deeply ...
A. 13 September 2006: Why does he feel the need for you to have his name tattooed on you ? Sounds like the words of a very insecure person. Is he trying to say he owns you ? No way should you do it, and you shouldnt be feeling that you are risking your relationship by ... (read in full...)
I seem to always get sexual problems, that just dont go away, my bf is now feeling rejected!!
Q. Hello there. I am a 22 year old girl, and have been with my man for 3 1/2 years now. I love him very much, and I know that he loves me. We have been so happy all this time but now sex is getting us down. For the first 2 years, our sex life ...
A. 12 September 2006: Hi there! Well Thrush in itself is nasty when its re-occuring or always present and I dont blame you for not feeling sexy! Please make sure that this is Thrush that you have and not some underlying other problem. Its not unusual for Thrush to ... (read in full...)
Im 24 hes 19, I feel a bit wierd about the age!
Q. I'm 24 years old and seeing a 19 year old I feel really weird but he acts very mature and i do like him am i wrong?...
A. 11 September 2006: If you like him and your happy whats the problem.. its only 5 years difference and in 5 years from now it wont even matter.. My partner is nearly 5 years older than me, so work it back and its the same difference, doesnt matter how old either of ... (read in full...)
Found my bf giving my dad head!!!
Q. Please help me. I have been with my bf for nearly 6 months now. On Saturday we was supposed to be going out for a meal and he was meeting me at my dads cos he works by his house. I live with my dad and came in from work to find my bf giving head t...
A. 11 September 2006: For those doubting this question, I can confirm that this is genuine.
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Found my bf giving my dad head!!!
Q. Please help me. I have been with my bf for nearly 6 months now. On Saturday we was supposed to be going out for a meal and he was meeting me at my dads cos he works by his house. I live with my dad and came in from work to find my bf giving head t...
A. 11 September 2006: Well good luck, I think your better off without the two them if they can do that to you!
Take care x... (read in full...)
he called me nasty names but claims he loves me!!?
Q. What does it mean when your boyfriend of a year gets angry and starts calling you names when you are arguing and he makes you cry, by calling you a "slut", "hoe", "dirty" and that hes had better than you, even though he is in love with you???...
A. 11 September 2006: I dont think love even comes into this... Sounds as though hes a controlling A$$. If someone loves you and they row with you yes they throw words into the ring, but not ones like that!! I think hes having an affiar and is blaming you, trying to ... (read in full...)
Found my bf giving my dad head!!!
Q. Please help me. I have been with my bf for nearly 6 months now. On Saturday we was supposed to be going out for a meal and he was meeting me at my dads cos he works by his house. I live with my dad and came in from work to find my bf giving head t...
A. 11 September 2006: I am finding this a little hard to believe... I mean for one if they knew you were going out that night, would they really sit in wait for you to get home ???? Just waiting to get caught ? No I dont think they would! If they did then its downright ... (read in full...)
Who should I believe ?
Q. A friend of mine clsims she walked into my gf cheating on me with some other guy and my friend has told me she has feelings for me and my problem is who do i believe and when she told me this i told her i still love my gf am i making a mistake by ...
A. 11 September 2006: Im thinking this friend is jealous and is making a play for you. She invented a story to get you to break up with your girl and get with her. Simple eh ?? Unless of course you think your girlfriend did cheat, in which case if you dont trust her, ... (read in full...)
My long distance GF is starting to question us.. thinking of getting to know other woman, not to cheat, but to get another perspective!!!
Q. this is prob. a stupid question. still would like some opinions. thank you. i am in a situation where my long time girlfreind is living far from me for about another six months. she is starting to question us. i am sure of us, but with her questio...
A. 11 September 2006: I dont think seeing other women will allow you to achieve anything. Its your girl that has this problem and you need to go some way in to addressing it rather than go out and find other women to talk to ?? I dont understand how that would work ? ... (read in full...)
After all the torridness and lies, I still Love her!! But why is it affecting me this way ??
Q. Hi, Sorry, but this will be a long one as there is a lot of history here. I recently broke up with a woman I reconnected with in January this year. We had lived together for two years 30 years ago and had not seen each other since. The first ti...
A. 11 September 2006: Hey Honey what a rough ride that was! How unfair of her to behave this way towards you and it seems that from the outset all she had in mind was how she felt and no one else!!
Im sorry she turned what was so perfect into to something so bad, it c... (read in full...)
I have lost interest in her because of her breasts!
Q. My gf and i have been in a relationship for over 3 months. I am begining to loose interest in her becasue she has very small breasts. This sounds really immature but I can't help but feel it. I really like her and she has the best personality and ...
A. 10 September 2006: Your mates say drop her because she has small breasts!! So er who exactly has the problem here!! Your mates and its all about keeping up appearances!! We are all different and have different qualities.. we dont know who we will fall in love with ... (read in full...)
My god I'm desperate, my daughter physically beats me
Q. Iam a single mum with a 13 year old daughter who is physically bigger and stronger than me and she has started to hit and bully me. Iam a english size 8 and 5 foot tall and she is 5 foot 8 inches tall a size 24 and 20 stone she totally dwarfs m...
A. 8 September 2006: Hey what a wind up! I too believed it till the last paragraph... Not sure what the sicko wants out of this one guys!!! ... (read in full...)
Is his request normal ?
Q. my boyfriend wants me to call out my ex boyfriends name when we are having sex. i find this uncomfortable. is this normal? ...
A. 8 September 2006: Thats a new one on me!! Sure hes not just testing you ? Or maybe he fancies your ex boyfriend ? Have you asked him why he wants you to do this ? Perhaps hes just seeing if you will! I think if your feeling strange about it ask him why but let ... (read in full...)
Strippers, porn...what's wrong with women saying that we will not accept this rubbish in our relationships?
Q. I just read a post about a woman who was upset her partner is going to a strip show...I was appalled to see the advice that'''oh you should trust him' 'all men do it etc' To me this womens feelings are completely justified and she is demonstr...
A. 8 September 2006: What about those woman mr male anon, that are up for sex 24/7 no matter what the weather, no matter what chores have been done or need to be done, are just available for sex and enjoy a varied sex life with their partners, but get refused because a ... (read in full...)
I split with my boyfriend of 4 years, im now feeling down and not sure about my decision!
Q. I am feeling really rubbish right now. I split up with my boyfriend of nearly 4 years three weeks ago and although we said in the near future we wanted to be friends we haven't spoke in about a week and I am really starting to miss him and wan...
A. 7 September 2006: Honey this is all part of the grieving process. When we finish a relationship, it is the end of a term on our lives and it take a whole lot of getting used to. It is classed sometimes as a loss as its something that we have become so used to for a ... (read in full...)
I passed wind and my boyfriend dumped me!!!
Q. My fella has finished with me because i accidently passed wind!I said i was sorry but he wouldn't listen,he said i was disgusting.I really miss him,what shall i do?...
A. 7 September 2006: Sorry but is this for real ?
I mean passing wind is something that at some point or other we all have to do! No matter how much we hold it in sometimes it happens and its a natural bodily function!
Only an insensitive idiot would dump you ove... (read in full...)
I have a problem with my lip, should it be doing this ?
Q. dear cupid i have a problem with my lip, if i look at the mirror closely i can see part of it beat/move and that part also has a lump when i take pictures it shows, but when i showed it to my parents they said its nothing and now when i saw it be...
A. 7 September 2006: Honey if you cant go to the doctor then what else are you going to do ? We cant fix you or tell you exactly whats wrong, but at least a doctor can take a medical look and see if its all okay. It could be something like a cold sore starting ... (read in full...)
I love him, but dont like sex, I will do anything to avoid it, could this end our relationship ?
Q. i know this may seem realy silly but i do not like sex. i have been with my partner just over 3 years and try everthing to avoid it. We are both very much in love but have only slep together around 10 times, he keeps asking me but i try my best to ...
A. 7 September 2006: Is this your first sexual relationship ? Or has this happend before ? Did something happen to make you feel like this or does sex just not do it for you ? What is it that you dont like about it ? Is there something that you are afraid of thats ... (read in full...)
Should I go on the pill whilst single or wait until I'm in a relationship ?
Q. i have just split from my boyfriend and wished i was on the pill when i was with him, but never got around to doing it! now i am single i am thinking about going on the pill ready for the next relationship! i was just wandering if it would be a good ...
A. 7 September 2006: Its entirely up to you if you go on the pill now or wait. But what you need to remember is that the pill will protect against pregancy if taken correctly, by 99%, but not against STD's or STI's. So do not be reliant on just that method unless you ... (read in full...)
I feel so sorry for myself (long-winded post)
Q. Hi, More than a year ago something happened to me. It's a long story so here goes.. Me and my boyfriend have a great realationship but one night things went wrong. I did something for him but it didn't go to well and then it got worse when he got...
A. 7 September 2006: Honey, Cant you see it was male pride ? He went limp because you couldnt carry out anal sex together for whatever reason, and then decided to go for it the normal way, that didnt pan out as he tripped and things fell on you, he then felt stupid! ... (read in full...)
I feel so sorry for myself (long-winded post)
Q. Hi, More than a year ago something happened to me. It's a long story so here goes.. Me and my boyfriend have a great realationship but one night things went wrong. I did something for him but it didn't go to well and then it got worse when he got...
A. 6 September 2006: OKay so you have communication. But you havent got forgiveness this is what your response is telling me. You say you talk about it lots but does he truly know how you are feeling and why ? I do feel that you are habouring this and you do feel ... (read in full...)
I feel so sorry for myself (long-winded post)
Q. Hi, More than a year ago something happened to me. It's a long story so here goes.. Me and my boyfriend have a great realationship but one night things went wrong. I did something for him but it didn't go to well and then it got worse when he got...
A. 6 September 2006: Dear Anon, I hear where you are coming from... My advice would still stand a little... and I agree maybe the advice was based on something we didnt know about...
Now the thing you say was the reason for all the upset, anal sex.. the reason y... (read in full...)
I'm worried about when I start my period...
Q. My mum is really great and has told me all about sex and periods and everything, but I still cringe when she talks about it to me. I'm worried that when I start my period, I will be too shy to tell my mum about it, and what if I start at school? I...
A. 6 September 2006: To the last anon poster.... You need to go to the doctor.. they can remove it (if it definately is inside and you didnt already remove it) It shouldnt cause you any damage, but you need to get it removed as soon as so that you dont get an ... (read in full...)
Im being forced to choose.................. My girl or the bike!! Help I love both!
Q. My girlfriend says that i love my bike more than her, trouble is, i think shes right!? We've been together about 2 years now, we were fine to begin with, but when i got my new bike (HARLEY-DAVIDSON DYNA GLIDE FXDCI) last year i feel that i want...
A. 5 September 2006: You can have both if you divide your time equally!! I can see where you are both coming from! Shes sick of seeing you disappear off to look after the bike and not look after her, and your like but the bikes great i need to do the man thing why ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriends sister and know I am only 75% happy, is there anything I can do ?
Q. I am in love with my girlfiends's sister. I have known both for years but my girlfriend was in my group of friends and it just seemed natural to hook up since we both cared about each other. Now I realize that I don't love her in that way, and since ...
A. 5 September 2006: Have you considered the fact that the Sister wont feel the same way anyway! And besides the reality of you finishing with your girl and then dating her sister is pretty remote! They are sisters remember, and and if she loves you, how heartbroken ... (read in full...)
Too much air in my vagina!
Q. when my husband and have sex he complains about me having too much air in my vagina, i can feel it as well. how do i fix this dilemma? ...
A. 4 September 2006: Well When I first read it, it defo said Air in the question, but the header read Hair... So Perhaps if the person that had the prob could claify just that one bit for us we would be much obliged! If its too much hair and its inside!? Not sure on ... (read in full...)
I feel so sorry for myself (long-winded post)
Q. Hi, More than a year ago something happened to me. It's a long story so here goes.. Me and my boyfriend have a great realationship but one night things went wrong. I did something for him but it didn't go to well and then it got worse when he got...
A. 4 September 2006: Just have to say exellent post from the Anon poster below..
Exactly what I was thinking when reading your post... I myslef have been known to over react at certain situations and make it all about me.. but have learned over the years to calm dow... (read in full...)
Will the doctor have to tell my mum if I go for a pregnancy test ?
Q. i am scared incase im pregnant. is there any really signs that i could be i mean i do child care and it says that u can ave a strange tatse in ur mouth but is that all the time or just in the morning? and i ave also been feeling sick aswell b...
A. 4 September 2006: How old are you honey, You say your under 16, so how young are we talking... It could just be that because you are scarred/worried that this is delaying your period a little.. Technically your not that late... If you were due between those days then ... (read in full...)
Will our betrayals lead to a happily-ever-after?
Q. I am a married woman who is in love with a married man. He loves me too. We have been seeing each other for 3 months and have fallen completely for one another. The times we are apart are spent longing for the next time we can be together. And ...
A. 4 September 2006: Well I guess that depends... are you both going to come clean to your partners and tell them you have someone else and then make a go of it.. or are you going to carry on seeing one another on the side ? If its the latter then they seldom work... ... (read in full...)
Why does my GF resist being touched all of a sudden?
Q. hi I've been with my girlfriend for nearly 2 years and all of a sudden she won't let me touch her. I can't even kiss her without her sighing. Someone please tell me what I can do. I can't talk to her because I would'nt know how to put it. Please ...
A. 4 September 2006: Perhaps you have done something that annoys her... some women expect you to know that you have done something wrong!
Yeah I know your not a mind reader, but I think you are going to have to ask her if you have done something to upset her and take... (read in full...)
Whats a special way to tell someone you love them ?
Q. how do i tell someone special that i love them in a special way? ...
A. 3 September 2006: Well that depends... Have you already told each other that you love each other ? Is this an extention of that love or a new way to tell her ? It does depend on the person and as to what they would like... and how big you want to make it... ie do ... (read in full...)
She gave me her phone number so what am I waiting for?
Q. I if work a with a girl gives me her number, how soon should i ring her? I'm not the most confindent person on phone, better face to face......
A. 3 September 2006: Or you could mail her if your on email at work and just say hi how you doing... was thinking of calling you later on if your free ? kind of like didnt want to call when you are busy and kinda checking that its okay to call! Shes probably really ... (read in full...)
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