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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 23 June 2006: Actually Pete, I think us woman do the shaving for ourselves and for our benefit and to make ourselves feel good and be presented in the right way... its not for the guys!! Guys that insist girls shave are very shallow indeed, its up to the ... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 22 June 2006: All calm again... But you sure you aint a redhead Willywombat!! tee hee... very fiery! But then well I to do bite on things... Perhaps it is a blonde thing lol!
:o)... (read in full...)
He may be going back to his ex, but stills wants me if things don't work out!
Q. I met this guy about 3 months ago and we immediatly hit it off, we went out at least 3 times a week and he told me how strongly he felt about me and about our relationship..a few weeks later I got a call from a girl sayin that she is his ex of 3 ...
A. 22 June 2006: Good luck little one, it will hurt to begin, but you will learn to deal with that and become stronger. Someone else will be waiting out there for you, but have some time to yourself and go out and have some fun.
Take care x... (read in full...)
I got caught having an affair... non-judgemental advice needed!
Q. I am in deep trouble. My wife has come to know about my affair with a married woman. Initially it was for sex but I fell in love with this woman and now I am committed to her too. I cant leave my wife because I love her as well. Both these women are ...
A. 22 June 2006: I wish the best of luck, but be careful that it doesnt come back and bite you. If you dont tell her now and she some how finds out later on, you will lose everything. Make sure you feel you are doing the right thing, its one thing repairing the ... (read in full...)
I hurt my GF - what is something special I can do for her?
Q. I made my girlfriend very upset. It's been over a month now and she is still very unhappy. I want to do something special to show her I love her and care about her but the problem is I don't know what to do. Please help....
A. 22 June 2006: Well give what I said a go, i just think she is feeling very insecure for some reason, You may need to find out why. Make sure you tell her that you love her often, as it seems shes feeling like you dont. Let her know how upset you are too and ... (read in full...)
I hurt my GF - what is something special I can do for her?
Q. I made my girlfriend very upset. It's been over a month now and she is still very unhappy. I want to do something special to show her I love her and care about her but the problem is I don't know what to do. Please help....
A. 22 June 2006: Wow! Shes a tad ungrateful isnt she!! Talk about give you a hard time. Jeeeezzz your going through the mill and I dont know why, she really isnt making this easy... What does she mean by meaningful presents ? I think the problem is shes got some ... (read in full...)
He may be going back to his ex, but stills wants me if things don't work out!
Q. I met this guy about 3 months ago and we immediatly hit it off, we went out at least 3 times a week and he told me how strongly he felt about me and about our relationship..a few weeks later I got a call from a girl sayin that she is his ex of 3 ...
A. 22 June 2006: I wouldnt hang around for him to make up his mind. If he truly loved you then he wouldnt have gone back to her. he knows whats shes like... Has she got some sort of hold over him ? If he doesnt want the relationship then he has to tell her. For ... (read in full...)
I get a thrill...!
Q. When I'm with my boyfriend is suddenly get a huge adrenalin rush. Is this good or bad ? ...
A. 22 June 2006: Your simply in love!! Enjoy it! Its a great feeling to have!
x x... (read in full...)
I hurt my GF - what is something special I can do for her?
Q. I made my girlfriend very upset. It's been over a month now and she is still very unhappy. I want to do something special to show her I love her and care about her but the problem is I don't know what to do. Please help....
A. 22 June 2006: I think it does depend on what you did to upset her and why shes still unhappy, rome wasnt built in a day and it seems you did something really bad for her to still be really upset. Not sure but flowers may bridge a path with a little love note or ... (read in full...)
Is my 30 year old wife too old for this "playful frolicking" with her dad?
Q. Ok my wife is 30 yrs old and still sits on her dads lap and they cuddle and she gives him a kiss. Hell she still calls him daddy! Isn't she too old for this? Shouldn't all of this stop by the time shes like 10. It isn't sexual or anything, I just...
A. 22 June 2006: I would be a bit concerned too, doesnt sound too normal if shes still sitting on his lap, are you sure that nothing else has occured ? Some people are just very affectionate and there might be nothing in it, she just loves her dad and thats the way ... (read in full...)
Normal first period?
Q. Okay, well, I sort of have a problem. I'm not sure if i got my period or not. I was at the beach the previous Sunday and when i came back, the inside of my bikini bottom was a brownish color and im 12 so i figured I probably just got my period but ...
A. 22 June 2006: yes that pretty normal to happen. When i had mine at age 11 thats pretty much how it started. It did tend to go a little lighter in colour, but the strange thing with me is I had a nose bleed the same day! Wierd or what! Anyway the first one ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I'm considering this other guy may make a good, potential f**kbuddy..
Q. I thought this 28yrs old guy at work was very attractive and i knew he was in a serious relationship for the last 3 years. I am 35 yrs and married for 16 years and have 3 kids. We talk alot at work because what we do we need to be in contact alot. ...
A. 22 June 2006: Er... this is called cheating!! You stand to lose the lot if you get caught.. If you loved your husband it would not even enter your head. Stop thinking about this other guy, there is no such thing as a Fu** buddy... One always falls harder than ... (read in full...)
What clues would suggest my husband might be gay?
Q. Are there signs that could tell me if my husband is gay?...
A. 22 June 2006: I dont think there are any definate signs to speak off... Unless you catch him checking out men, or looking them up on the internet then I wouldnt really know how you could tell. Men that are married and are actually gay, go out of thier way to ... (read in full...)
The bastard dumped me and I want him to feel my hurt too!
Q. dear Agony aunts. I was dumped last month still have feelings of anger towards my ex, and I'm feeling angry because of lies and false promises. I really want him to feel bad, I know he felt bad when we broke up- shame, that doesn't help bec...
A. 22 June 2006: Hey I know how you are feeling, but why stoop to his level and be the bad guy!! Yes he is a bastard!! Yes he has hurt you, but by mouthing off at him wont make him hurt, it will only show him that you cant get over him and that he has won!! He ... (read in full...)
I come too quickly... and I'm a woman! Any tips on lasting longer?
Q. I orgasm very quickly whenever me and boyfriend are fooling around. Any tips to stay in the game longer? I'm presuming this is not common among females. ...
A. 22 June 2006: I know the ticklish thing you describe, and i have to tell my man to stop... for a bit, lol well during foreplay sometimes anyway.. but after like 2 minutes you calm down a bit and carry on lol... I think im just greedy... But as Dr Psych describes, ... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 22 June 2006: Calm down willywombat... I hear ya! We all a have different view on it.. I spoke to my man about the subject, me being the blonde one can be a bit dim at times lol and hes pretty clever!! So he tells me that the reason they look darker is because ... (read in full...)
I've got a crush on the supermaket guy, but I'm too shy to ask him out!!
Q. I am 16 years old and have a crush on this guy who works at my local supermarket. Everytime he serves me he gives me the most adorable smile, it makes me feel so good. And everytime I walk into the supermarket he rushes to serve me. From that I hope ...
A. 21 June 2006: Yeah I go with what Dr Psych writes, If your not brave enough for that, maybe jot your name and number on a piece of paper and pass it to him the next time he serves you ? That way if he calls you will defo know that he was interested, if not you ... (read in full...)
Know any good Icebreakers!?
Q. Im so scared ...... im going out with this guy but i never know what to discuss with him ? have u got any like ice breakers? lol ...
A. 21 June 2006: Well, do you know what sort of things he is into ? Does he like football, basketball etc.. thigns along those lines... are there any things that the two of you yet have in common ? Half the time its the fact that you are on a date thats important, ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone but not want to be with them ?
Q. Is it possible to be in love with someone but not want to 'be' with them? My friends bf say he's in love with her but doesnt want to be in a relationship. surely if someone is in love with someone they'd want to be together? Opinions please, we ...
A. 21 June 2006: Well I dont think it is possible to love someone and then not be with them.(unless in different countries or the like) Love is about being together, and aching when you are apart, love is wanting to be near that person every second of evey day, ... (read in full...)
Why do some women feel so jealous over their sons!!!?
Q. Why do some women get jealous if their son has a girlfriend? I mean isn't that sort of wierd. I could probably understand her getting jealous if her son had a close relationship with his step-mom, she may feel replaced. But his wife? I mean how...
A. 21 June 2006: My dad is the one in our family!! Me and my sis were not even allowed to mention the word boyfriend when we were younger as he so wasnt having anyone near his girls!! Now we are both grown up and have our lives, he's still cagey about our men, no ... (read in full...)
Will masturbation cause me illness?
Q. i masturbate almost 4-5 times a day . is it normal and would it cause any kind of cancer os some other disease. I am 17...
A. 21 June 2006: Pretty normal for a male of your age to masturbate that much! It wont harm you in the slightest if you like it carry on! I asked a male once why he masturbated as much and his answer was because I can! lol so dont worry about it, it wont cause ... (read in full...)
I've fallen in love with a married guy!
Q. I was helping a friend of mine (girl) move, and I met a good friend of hers who was a male. We had instant chemistry, we thought about each other everday since then, and have gone back and forth between this girl. Only problem he's married, he's not ...
A. 21 June 2006: Well he is married. As much as he says hes not happy, he has to make the decision whether to make his marriage work or not. Until then you are pretty much going to be in limbo. He owes it to his wife to either make a go of it or split up. He ... (read in full...)
How can I increase the changes of getting pregnant?
Q. I took birthcontrol pills for 4 years. I stopped taking them about a three months ago or so. Me and my husband have been trying to have a baby...I know that the hormones of birthcontrol pills remain in the body for quite some time after you stop ...
A. 21 June 2006: I dont think you can get the pill out of your system by doing anything, We are all different. Some fall straight away after they stop taking the pill, others can take a year! It depends on the person. It can take couples that have never taken the ... (read in full...)
She can tell me she loves me by text or letter, but not face to face, how can I get her to ?
Q. Hey everyone, This is the first time I've ever done this im usually the one giving advice but this time I think I should admit I need help.... Its kind of stupid and I'm sure with time I could find it in myself to come to terms and face the re...
A. 21 June 2006: Well maybe try telling her more often and she may reply with the same. Why are you so concerned that she doesnt love you ? Are you afraid that she is commited ? Do you not feel that she loves you ? If shes says that she does and you feel that she ... (read in full...)
I was lied to and now I want to let him go...
Q. My boyfriend of 9 months has recently lied to me, telling me a girl was not at his house when she was!! I want to get over him and let him go but I can't; it hurts so much! What can I do to ease the pain of been lied to by someone that I love wit...
A. 21 June 2006: Did you ask why this girl was there ? Is it conceivable that it was just as freinds and he knew you would flip out so told a white lie so that you wouldnt feel bad ? Lying is never good, but he may have only did he so as not to hurt you and make ... (read in full...)
I got caught having an affair... non-judgemental advice needed!
Q. I am in deep trouble. My wife has come to know about my affair with a married woman. Initially it was for sex but I fell in love with this woman and now I am committed to her too. I cant leave my wife because I love her as well. Both these women are ...
A. 21 June 2006: Er big of a pickle this one then! SO your fingers got burnt! Hmm and you want advice on what to do... well under normal circumstances it would be to stay with your wife if she wants you to.. but you say you have another child with this other ... (read in full...)
Sweet sixteen and having lovin' troubles... is it time to give up?
Q. I'm 16, and I jus feel like I've had enough. No relationship for 16 months. People younger than me have gone further than me, i feel stupid. Friends tell me to wait for the right time or you'll find that perfect person... well I havent!! I'm jus fed ...
A. 21 June 2006: Hey! there really is not rush for all this relationship malarky! We all find the right person when the time is right. No point giving up, the dating game hasnt even started yet hun. What does it matter that others have gone further than you ? ... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 21 June 2006: Actually im blonde and the hairs on my legs have indeed got darker... It doesnt happen over night, and they havent gone black, but more of a light brown colour which actually now makes the hair on my legs more noticable! I dont think it matter when ... (read in full...)
Do boys know when girls have a period
Q. do teenage boys know when teenage girls are on their period?...
A. 21 June 2006: Unless you go bragging about it then there is now way they can tell! Is there a reason that you ask this honey ?... (read in full...)
How do I get him to finish with his girl to date me!
Q. I really like this boy, and he's told me that he really likes me too. However he's got a girlfriend. I've told him that I'm not going to do anything with him whilst he's got a girlfriend, but it's soooo tempting! Can anyone please help? HOw do I get...
A. 21 June 2006: Well hes got to want to finish with his girlfriend in the first place... and it seems hes okay with her at the moment, so dont go spoiling someone else's relationship. If it were you how would you feel, that someone came muscling in to steal your ... (read in full...)
Could I still have an STD?
Q. I've been with my g-friend for 3 years. She's been tested for std's and is clean. Could I still have anything?...
A. 21 June 2006: Its always worthwhile getting yourself tested every so often if you do have unprotected sex and a lot of partners. It cant hurt now can it, for peace of mind if nothing else, plus stops the risk of things being passed to others. If she has ... (read in full...)
Can I have a short fling with the Italian boy, and not ruin my perfect relationship?
Q. Hi I'm a girl, nearly 18,and I've been with my boyfriend for a year now (who is the same age as me), I love him to bits and we have been engaged for ages now, and everything's just perfect. But there's a problem, last week my mum invited round a ...
A. 21 June 2006: Affairs are never good, and you always get caught out in the end. If you dont get caught its you that has to live with the guilt and this would drive a wedge between you and your boyfriend anyway. If you really cared for your boyfriend this ... (read in full...)
Give him a second chance or forget it and move on ?
Q. My boyfriend and i been together for 9 yrs and he cheated on me and i found out and he never denied it, we broke up, he came back and asked for forgiveness and he want me to move back in with him and our child. part of me want to move in with him ...
A. 20 June 2006: Okay not everyone cheats again... but its a higher percentage that do. It wont be easy getting back together, as every time he goes out you will be wondering where he is, who is with etc... this in itself could be damaging to you. He knows he has ... (read in full...)
How do I masturbate? Advice please?
Q. i'm 15. i dont masturbate. am i ment to? cos a lot of people say everybody maturbates. second question is how do you masturbate?...
A. 20 June 2006: I think Ive lost the plot now with what tangent Martini was on lol... Ahem bit of a wild one is he tee hee x... (read in full...)
How do I get over a boy who has a partner
Q. dear agony aunt . . . there is this boy who i have been having feelings for, for two years now. we only started talkin about 8 - 9 months ago. one of my friends told me that he wont go out with me but he will do things with me. obviously i didn...
A. 20 June 2006: YOu need to get out and find a SINGLE guy that you can focus your attentions on!! Put him in the past bracket and focus on new things! Join a club, go out with friends, put your energys into other things other than a man and find yourself. Once ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has ADHD and his family hate him
Q. I've been with my bf for 4 days, but we went out for 5 weeks or so last year. We're completely crazy about eachother and i've never been this happy in all my life. However, my family really don't like him because he has ADHD and gets himself into ...
A. 20 June 2006: You may have to ride the tide for a bit and see what happens. You have only know this guy for a short period of time and thats all that your parents and family can see. They cant see the side that you see and are likley not to as they care for you ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to make my periods lighter!?
Q. i have really heavy periods and would really like have lighter ones. is is possible to get medication and what would it do? many thanks...
A. 20 June 2006: Carebear made a good point. The medication she mentions Ponstan, is an anti imflamotary type drug, so helps with the cramps. Its also been proven to reduce the heaviness of periods. So it might be an option for you if you didnt want to go on to ... (read in full...)
He has a gf but I think something is happening between us!
Q. hello im 22 i have this friend whos 24, well he's almost more an aquaintance since i hang out with him at most twice a month, and with mutual friends. but i've known him for awhile, and he always teases me and tries to get a rise out of me, making ...
A. 20 June 2006: Remember he has a girlfriend. He is probably just being polite and flirting in a normal manner. Some men are born flirts and cant help themselves, doesnt mean hes going to cheat on his girlfriend. he probably just likes you and likes to have a ... (read in full...)
Wedding is next Monday but I dont want to marry him at all! Help.
Q. Wedding is Next Monday but I dont want to marry him at all! I (27 years old)can not believe I will marry a man(29 years old) I have lost sexual interest in him for almost one year, he is kind,loyal and giving, but he is not my type. At the begi...
A. 20 June 2006: You cannot marry someone because you think it is repaying a debt!! Marriage is about love commitment and being there for one another. You fell at the first one, Love, you dont love him! What would be the point in marrying him just so that he can ... (read in full...)
Mantrap!
Q. I want a boyfriend? Can i have advice to get one....
A. 20 June 2006: Well you need to go to places where boys hang out and make friends to start with and then things blossom. If your in school, talk to some, get to know them and take it a step at a time. You need to let a guy know you are interested before he will ... (read in full...)
How do I masturbate? Advice please?
Q. i'm 15. i dont masturbate. am i ment to? cos a lot of people say everybody maturbates. second question is how do you masturbate?...
A. 19 June 2006: To ad to Martini's post who by the way has referred you to an excellent site! I would just say that its trial and error, take some time on your own and see what feels good for you. None of us are the same and what works for one doesnt work for ... (read in full...)
Could my anger be related to my depression?
Q. I want to know why I keep causing problems with my boyfriend. He's so wonderful and is always there for me, I've never met anyone so nice and I know, deep down, I'm really lucky to have him. However, I keep trying to cause rows and accusing him...
A. 19 June 2006: We tend to take things out on those closest to us, we dont know why, we just do. Im not sure what your depression stems from, but at the moment you are likely to be feeling insecure because of it, and as consequence it comes out towards your ... (read in full...)
A wink and a smile! What does it all mean?
Q. hi im 14, what does it mean if a boy winks at you? my mate knows i fancies him and i asked him out but he said he just wants to be mates. that was about 4 months ago. now recently he has started winking at me and smiling when he sees me. i am just ...
A. 19 June 2006: It could be that he knows you like him so its a friendly kind of gesture and he appreciates it. A kind of I know you like me and your sweet. Or it could be that he now thinks your great to and would like to maybe date you. The only way to know for ... (read in full...)
What is love, and how do I know if I am in it?
Q. How do you know your in love? I realy do think i love this boy i think about him 24/7 butterflies in stomach when i speak to him and i light up when i see him i cnt seem to eat or sleep and i tlk about him all the time and think about him i still ...
A. 19 June 2006: yeah I pretty much think that sums it up! Its a overwhelming feeling and you know you cant be without them! Its even better when they feel the same way!!
So go ask him out, you wont know unless you try!!
Good luck!
x ... (read in full...)
Harrassed at work! What next?
Q. I think I was being harrased at work by a male co-worker. What should I do?...
A. 19 June 2006: If you are pretty sure that you are being harrased, then you need to go to a manager and report this. Even if its not taken any futher at that point someone needs to know that this is happening. If you have a HR department go to them, you can ... (read in full...)
Why does his penis grow to different sizes when erect?
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf awhile now and i've noticed that his penis seems to be different sizes when erect. Its been kind of thick and about 4 or 5 inches and then other times quite long, maybe 2 inches longer then that. I know that some guys add a ...
A. 19 June 2006: Well I think this can be quite common. Ive noticed this before, sometimes a man wont be as aroused as he has been before, or something makes him even more aroused another time and the penis is bigger. if for instance he has already masterbated ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to make my periods lighter!?
Q. i have really heavy periods and would really like have lighter ones. is is possible to get medication and what would it do? many thanks...
A. 19 June 2006: You can pop along to your doctor and they can prescribe the contraceptive pill for you. This will make your periods noticably lighter, might not happen straight away but it will make a difference, you will become regular, and sometimes this can ... (read in full...)
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