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writes: Hi When my penis is about to erect or erected I can pull back hardly any of the skin - only probably enough to see the tip of the head. If i try to pull back more it hurts. I'm worried if this will effect when / if I have sex, as there is this girl I'm meeting soon who isn't a virgin herself (I am) and says she may want to have sex with me! Sounds good I know, but I don't wanna rush into things, mainly cos of if I did have sex with her that when I put my penis in her vagina I won't be able to put it in a lot due to the too much hurting skin problem. Am I different due to this?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): I cant pull mines back either, I was told by my docter it was not uncommon and to clean it with soap and water every day inside and out and make sure to dry. If you do have sex you have to use a condom, because if you can't pull the forskin back there is an infection and you dont want to pass that on. Don't worry though because you just have to clean it. You could speed it up by buying a cream from say wal-mart for $4. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2008): Hey I'm 17 years old and have the same thing, the foreskin wont go back and it's because there is a little piece of something like skin connecting the head to the skin, IT WILL NOT HURT DURING SEX, TRUST ME.
If you're too embarrassed to go to the doctor then all you can do is take hot baths and just slowly start to work it back, do this over and over for a few weeks and it will eventually go over without the bath, when that happens, start using a lotion and try it, the lotion is because the head will be very sensitive after not being touched so this will reduce the sensitivity pain.
That's about all I can say, like I said, I have the same thing and I've had sex without any pain or problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 December 2007): i am not a virgin i have this problem the first time i had sex it pulled back suprisingly it dident hurt it was more of a shock bc i also dident no it was sapose to but now it wont pull back when your putting your penis in try to keep your hand on it and sort of push skin up worked for me with no pain and still felt grate
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 August 2007): hey, if you take a hot bath every day, let your foreskin absorb the water and the heat will make it softer and more felxible. after about 6 minutes in the bath, start to streth the skin, you can try to put a clean finger into it or simply grab it and stretch. be sure to do it very gently and slowly, no need to rush it as it can cause tearing or uncomfort. if this doesnt work, go to a doctor. they can give you many alternatives to circumcisions such as hormone creams that will make the skin more pliable and loose. good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 May 2007): no, i have the same problem...i have no idea how to fix it but from browsing the internet i have heard that circumcision is the only option...or leave it be. and me, being a fellow virgin am haveing the same fears even though i know that wont e for a while on account of my age.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2006): i have the same problem but i mastrubate alot and the skin has streched a little but still hurts and doesnt go back over the head
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reader, willywombat  +, writes (25 January 2006):
 Go see your GP. This sounds like a problem that he/she can help you with.
I wish you good luck and happy times.x
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (6 January 2006):
 Maybe you might need to take a trip to the doctor to see if anything else can be done rather than forcing it... the frenulum can snap you know! I wouldnt just keep pulling it back until it hurts as this could actually cause damage! Some men are just born with a short frenulum, some it doesnt cause a problem to, others it can be very uncomfortable... ask the doctor, if this is causing real bad problems its best to get it looked at and fixed now than to have it snap later on! The advice that this is the same for every virgin male isnt true! we are all different, ive known men that have had sex for years, thinking this was normal to be this tight, and they had pain after and during sex, and it wasnt until later on in life they did something about it and wished they had done it sooner... get checked out, it will be the best in the long run.
Take care
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2006): my bf had the same problem. in fact, at 24, he didn't even know it was supposed to retract until i told him so, bc it never had before. all he knew was it hurt if he pulled on it, so he never did. you should have seen the surprised look on his face the first time i showed him what it looked like underneath. it was like he was seeing his penis for the first time at 24 (in fact, he was).
anyway, don't worry - he's fine now. the thing you need to do is just stretch the piece of skin that connects the foreskin to the tip of your penis (called the frenulum), which is easy enough to do. to start out, try doing it when you're not fully erect; it'll be easier. try to pull it down a little further each day. if you masturbate, that's a good time to do it.
it too me and my bf about 2 months to get his foreskin to where it would come down. it's still really tight, but i can push it down below the head with my hand, as long as i do it slowly, and it doesn't hurt him.
for more tips, try a google search on 'foreskin won't retract' - you'll find loads of advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2006): this is the same for every virgin male.. it wont go back easily cuz it never has done before... i suggest pullin it back till hurts then a lil more every day.. and using some sort of lube would be even better.. it will take a while but eventually it'll get easier and easier to pull back
oh and dont use any alcohol based lotions if ur gonna use anythin like that.. (it hurts)
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