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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 15 June 2006: I think what wildthaing was saying, is that you should get out and experience life more while you can... not sure... But anyway I think you give good advice, and if it makes you feel good hun, stick with it!
Take care xx... (read in full...)
Was he really talking to his sister?
Q. My b/f and i were at his apartment last night. We were in his bedroom and his phone rang indicating a text message. It was almost 2 am. He goes to the other room to get his phone and said it was his sister. He stays there for a minute or two and i ...
A. 12 June 2006: It could be completely innocent, and its clear you dont trust him. Is it that because you dont trust him that you have blown this out of proportion ? It was probably a slip of the tongue on his part, and you heard it and put 5 together! You then ... (read in full...)
Is my BF using me so he can save money?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and a half. We have lived together for the past eight months. He quit his job shortly after he moved in with me and my roommate. This nearly doubled my monthly expenses, but I was certain he ...
A. 12 June 2006: Sorry but I think kick him out now!!! Hes thinking of spliting up with you when the lease ends! how dare he, you have supported him all this time, its he thats needs to change not you!! Id tell him where to go now, it seems that you will be no ... (read in full...)
GF cheated but I just can't seem to forgive her but I really want to!
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out for nearly 2 years. She went to uni and we have been trying to keep things together. She cheated on me (just kissing) with someone I considered to be a threat from the day I met him. She says she instantly ...
A. 12 June 2006: Maybe you wont ever be able to move on from it unfortunately. Shes broken your trust and you cant get past it. As little as it may seem its still a betrayal, and if you are still struggling with it, it might be that you will never be able to get ... (read in full...)
An intense orgasm makes my foot twich uncontrollably! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Hi everyone, well my problem is kind of embarrassing I hope you can try to help me figure it out. Everytime I have sex, or masturbate, and have a really good, intense orgasm I notice that my right foot begins to twitch uncontrollably u...
A. 12 June 2006: Well it happens to me too! Lol... so no there is nothing wrong with you, sometimes also without noticing my toes curl over, must be me clencing them i guess! Perfectly normal to have a twitch and i have noticed it myself before and sometimes its ... (read in full...)
Is it love if there is no physical attraction?
Q. Do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone if you are not physically attracted to them, even after a few months of dating? We have great chemistry and get along quite well, always laughing and having fun, but the spark isn't there. ...
A. 12 June 2006: Well love sometimes is a wierd thing! Of course you can have love withtout the attraction, the same as you can have attraction without love! Sometimes it is the person that we feel attracted to first and fall in love with them, its not until later ... (read in full...)
Is it better for my friend to gradually pull back her son's contact with the Ex, or do it all at once?
Q. Hi I have a friend whose boyfriend (S) left 6 weeks ago after 8 years together. He is very confused and says he doesn't know how he feels and he doesn't love her anymore, but wants to be friends. She is finding it very hard to get closure as he ...
A. 11 June 2006: The only site that I can find that might be of any help is the one that I have included here. They help deal with children whose parents are divorcing of seperating, so i guess is somewhere along the same sort of lines, someone that he is to having ... (read in full...)
What are the biggest signs that a guy likes woman ?
Q. What are the 10 biggest signs a man likes a woman? The ones that say i'd like to get to know you more, not just to get you into bed ?...
A. 11 June 2006: I guess it depends how he acts around you, if he trys to engage in conversation with you, looks your way, but actually makes an attempt to get to know by talking about things that you like. I dont think there is a top 10 sure way of knowing whether ... (read in full...)
How do I get to know him as a friend, without him thinking that I' m gay, even though I am bisexual ?
Q. There is this guy that works in a clothing store, and whenever I walk past or run into him somewhere we always smile, and sorta become shy around eachother, and once I was at a pub with mates, and he was there with his mates, and he was always ...
A. 11 June 2006: Well i guess we make friends through all walks of life, but its probably more difficult for guy to make a male friend than it would be for a female to make a new female friend. Maybe he does like you only time will tell, as for becoming friends, ... (read in full...)
He's too weak to leave his ex, but he wants me too!
Q. I am seeing a man who still lives with his ex partner. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but says is too weak to tell his ex partner and could we still see each other. I am not sure whether I can handle this all the time and get frustrat...
A. 11 June 2006: Sorry didnt realise that you said EX, i dont think shes the ex yet, so what I posted still stands, Clear that shes more to him than an ex or he would have no qualms in telling her or moving out!
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He refuses to compromise on his evenings out, this is causing unrest, how can I resolve this ?
Q. I am a middle aged married woman with two children.We both work full time. My problem is my husbands partying in the evening.He goes out almost 3 times a week in the evening, which puts pressure on me. i have told him inumerable times to limit ...
A. 11 June 2006: Well he is going to have to compromise as its not fair, why should you stay home all the while, when hes out playing! I know its sounds childish, but why dont you play him at his own game, go off out yourself the days he's home and let him look ... (read in full...)
Confused about our breakup
Q. i was a (high school) freshmen and i went out with a senior this past year and a few weeks b4 he graduated he broke up with me and i dont understand why he lied about his reason for breaking up!! when he broke up with me he told me it was cuz of his ...
A. 11 June 2006: Maybe he's trying to let you down gently. Hes going into the army and doesnt want you to have to wait for him. Moreover he thinks that while his away you should have someone there looking out for you and as he wont be able to he thinks you will ... (read in full...)
He's too weak to leave his ex, but he wants me too!
Q. I am seeing a man who still lives with his ex partner. He says he loves me and wants to be with me but says is too weak to tell his ex partner and could we still see each other. I am not sure whether I can handle this all the time and get frustrat...
A. 11 June 2006: Sorry but he either want you or he doesnt, it has nothing to do with being weak, if things were that bad in the relationship hes in why is he still there!? If he wants to be with you and thinks your so great why hasnt he taken the plunge? Most ... (read in full...)
So desperate for a boyfriend it's affecting other aspects of my life...
Q. I'm 16 and I'm looking for a boyfriend and it's driving me so crazy. It is putting so much stress on me and that shows in the way I treat other people. I don't know what to do cuz I tried everything.. I know it would be easy just to forget about it...
A. 11 June 2006: To be honest you are young so whats the rush ? Yeah I know im telling you to patient, but well at 16 theres a long way to go yet!! You should find what makes you, you first, find yourself and enjoy being you, you need to have another person to do ... (read in full...)
Stress is affecting my cycle. Is it still OK to continue taking my pill?
Q. Hey guys, I'm worried. I am sexually active but we always use a condom and I'm on the pill. This past month I've been extremely nervous about getting into my university of choice and stress out on other family issues. I started to spot before I ...
A. 11 June 2006: Yes carry on taking it, its very common for you to miss a period and being on the pill actually gives us a dummy period on the 7 day break. Of course we would normally have a period but the pill is controlling that, and thats normally the time that ... (read in full...)
Men; what irritates you about a women??
Q. Hi, im just wondering if any guys out there can help me with my problem. Im a 23 year old girl and quite recently I have been getting alot of male attention from different guys. I dont mean to sound big headed, but I am an attractive girl with a n...
A. 11 June 2006: Perhaps its a case of trying too hard! Maybe you come over as too eager to please, to eager to make him feel great! Its all about the two of you, what you both want, Men like a girl that can stand up for herself, but not be overbearing. They ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my crush I have dreams about her
Q. do you think i should tell my crush that i have dreams about her a few times per week eg. stroking each others legs. i wouldn't want to scare her. i would like to ask this girl out but do'nt really know what to say....
A. 11 June 2006: Well just be yourself again, what she saw she liked, Im guessing she just doesnt know you are interested again. Contact her ask her on a date and let her know you still like her.
Take care x ... (read in full...)
Am i too old for her?
Q. i would like to know if its wrong to talk to a girl 2 or 3 years younger i got added by this girl whos 2 years younger then me and i would like to know if its wrong to talk to her and what would happen if i asked her out on a link, because she said...
A. 11 June 2006: You can chat to whoever you like, but to date someone under the legal age of consent would be frowned upon if you intentions we dishonourable. An age gap of 2-3 years isnt wrong, my partner is older than me by 4, and thats not looked at as odd, ... (read in full...)
I fancy a boy at school but I am not sure about how he feels
Q. there is a boy in the year below me at school that i like. i talk to him everyday and always have a laugh with him and my best friend. my friend started saying that he likes me and when they found out that i like him they wanted to try and get us ...
A. 10 June 2006: Well you either sit back and do nothing, or take the plunge. If you sit back you will never know!! Life is about taking the chance. Just by asking him out for a date wont ruin a friendship, just be cool about it, if hes interested you will know. ... (read in full...)
I fancy my mechanic, what shall I do?
Q. I need some help. I met this man at his shop through my driving instructer and I'm going to buy a car from him. I gave him my number to call me when the car was ready. I went to his shop last week and he was fixing it all up for me and he'll let ...
A. 10 June 2006: I think you need to take it by the horns and asl him.. He probably gets alot of work put his way by your driving instrctor and hes probably good at his job and good at doing the job for a good price. Just because he has your number doesnt mean ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my crush I have dreams about her
Q. do you think i should tell my crush that i have dreams about her a few times per week eg. stroking each others legs. i wouldn't want to scare her. i would like to ask this girl out but do'nt really know what to say....
A. 10 June 2006: I wouldnt tell her no. It might spook her! If you want to date her, ask her, she may feel the same way. Unless you ask her on a date you wont know, but I dont think telling her your dreams are going to help. See if shes interested in seeing you ... (read in full...)
Am i too old for her?
Q. i would like to know if its wrong to talk to a girl 2 or 3 years younger i got added by this girl whos 2 years younger then me and i would like to know if its wrong to talk to her and what would happen if i asked her out on a link, because she said...
A. 10 June 2006: Ok, are you the guy that posted that by accident that you managed to add a 12 year old girl to your MSN list ? If so then yes its very wrong indeed! If not you need to provide slightly more detail for us to be able to answer. How old are you and ... (read in full...)
Will this guy work out long-term??
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 4 years but just recently I've realised he and my dad have many similar characteristics. When I was 12 I was given the choice of living with either my mam or dad. I choose my mam because I felt she needed me ...
A. 10 June 2006: Well first off it must have been very very hard for you to deal with all that you have in your life and still made a success by doing your degree!! Well done you!! You have gone through it all and come out the other side! You are a very bright ... (read in full...)
Breaking up with my ex has been very hard
Q. I know I'm being stupid, but I need the opinion of someone in a relationship that was the one that "broke up" the relationship. I'm keeping my distance from my ex and its really killing me, and I haven't called or been in contact nor has he even ...
A. 10 June 2006: I too as David says, had a relationship end and I thought I would never get over it, it hurt like hell and i didnt go out for ages! I was with him for 6 years and really thougt we would be together forever! Wasnt to be so I had to accept it even ... (read in full...)
We always seem to end up together but now he has a gf and im distraught!!!
Q. Ive liked this guy for a really long time and we have been sexually involved but have now gradually grown apart, although we still have the occasional kiss and one night stand! We've both seen other people in the time we've known eachother but we ...
A. 10 June 2006: I think you have got in to the classic, nothing else much going on and the two of you get thrown together. hes quite happy to have casual sex, but has decided that your maybe not for him. Hes seeing someone else again, and i guess if you do its ... (read in full...)
She acts all sexily around me, even though we broke up because I cheated, I want to be more than friends but what is she telling me ?
Q. I broke up with my long term girlfriend after 7 years when I cheated on her and confessed. I then moved away for 6 months and came back. She still calls me to hang out and do things together. She says things jokingly like "Don't try to seduce ...
A. 10 June 2006: She still has feelings for you and is basically given you the run around now, as you cheated on her, she doesnt want to hurt you, but at the same times wants you to know that she can get other guys and is trying to show you that you shouldnt have ... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 10 June 2006: Oh David, I am so sorry to hear that, words fail me at the moment. I will do my best to advise as if I were in that position. Just be open and honest with her, it will be hard to hear at first but she needs to know to be able to be with you more ... (read in full...)
If I ask for her new number will she think im stalking her ? What should I say to her ?
Q. My crush has left school now and I never had the chance to ask her out or get her mobile number. We went out two years ago for 4 months but I broke up with her after 4 months (I'm so stupid!!!). I love this girl and miss her so badly. I dream a...
A. 9 June 2006: What harm would it do getting her number ? I cant see the harm, you like you before she probably still does! Start along the lines of how are you and let the converstaion evolve, and ask her if she would like to join you at the flciks something ... (read in full...)
I need help on how to lose some weight!
Q. i am 15 yrs old and i am fat, i have tried everything to lose weight but cant, is their any other way of losing weight, i have the height to hide it but my stomach is the problem, can someone hellp mee please and by everything i mean gym, excercise ...
A. 9 June 2006: I think that maybe you have to carry on what you are doing and in time you will notice a difference. The things you are doing a good diet and excersise will help, but they have to be continued, and sometimes over a longer period before we notice ... (read in full...)
I have man boobs, how can I fix this?
Q. i am a teenage boy and i am fat and i seem to have my man boob stick out, and i want to ask 2 questions: is it normal?? how to i get rid of it?...
A. 9 June 2006: If you are a little overweight it might be advisable to lose a bit of weight and take up some excercise. Dependant on how old you are you may well grow out of the man boob thing, but the weight issue may not help. Get yourself a good well balanced ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure where I stand with him, but his friends say he really likes me!
Q. i have been sleeping with this guy for about a year randomly. We have been on a couple of dates, but he's completely unreliable!! he blows hot and cold and i dont know where i stand. all his mates seem to know who i am, and all say he really ...
A. 9 June 2006: Hmm your able to randomly have sex with him but cant ask if he wants more ? You have been having sex on and off with him for a year but hes scared of what ? that if he says no to a relationship his casual sex disappears ? I would indeed say that ... (read in full...)
Will I get into trouble ? There is a girl that was added to my messenger I chatted to her but found out she is only 12 ?
Q. I use MSN Messenger so that I can talk to my friends at school. A month or two ago someone picked up my address by randomly adding it. Anyway I talked to her and although we had a bit in in common I found out she was 12 (and I'm 18). I haven't ...
A. 9 June 2006: Unless you encountered in some naughty talk or went down the path of being rude then I dont think you should worry too much! at least you stopped talking to as soon as you realised how old she was. And i hope you have taken her off your contacts so ... (read in full...)
Different sex drives are becoming a problem!
Q. I need help. I'm 19 and my fiance is 36, we've been together for 4 years. I love him so much but the age gap is beginning to show. How is it showing? His sex drive is really low. Mine is so high! Its not his fault and I'd never cheat on him but what ...
A. 9 June 2006: You are very welcome, Im glad thay my advice has gone someway in to helping you! If you ever need any futher advice dont hesitate to post on here or to mail me.
Take care and good luck!
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Are all the fights and hurt feelings worth it?
Q. My boyfriend has become very controlling in the last 9 months. He tells me I cant hang out with other guys and yells at me when I spend the night talking on the phone to them. He says he's just greedy, but its like he doesnt trust me. I've tried to ...
A. 9 June 2006: If he is being that controlling now, it can only get worse. If he doesnt trust you then whats the point. He should let you have your friends and be cool with it. He cant control everything you do in your life, he has to understand that you have ... (read in full...)
What kind of penis would women rather have?
Q. What is it that women prefer when having sex with a man? A long penis is or a thick one (in diameter)?...
A. 9 June 2006: I think its actually more about what you do with it and what sort of a considerate lover you are. If your caring sharing and looking out for your partner and its a loving relationship then that superceeds any shape! If your in love then thats the ... (read in full...)
Different sex drives are becoming a problem!
Q. I need help. I'm 19 and my fiance is 36, we've been together for 4 years. I love him so much but the age gap is beginning to show. How is it showing? His sex drive is really low. Mine is so high! Its not his fault and I'd never cheat on him but what ...
A. 9 June 2006: I wouldnt agree completely with the other posts that are already here. I wouldnt say he is trying to control you and hes scared to lose you are surely he would be the opposite ? If he thought he was going to lose you I thihk he would have more sex ... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 9 June 2006: I appreciate that you had a conversation beforehand about what you like, what are you like, and what you like doing. Im sure at no point you told him that you liked it rough and without permission to enter your rear! this still amounts to non ... (read in full...)
He said if I get pregnant again..he would leave or make me miscarry. Should I leave him?
Q. i have a partner who is 19 i have a two month child with him and i ask a hyperthetical question on what would he choose happiness or family he asked me and i choose happiness but he didnt answer so does he really love me as much as he should? also ...
A. 9 June 2006: Not the response I would hope to hear from someone that loves me!! Clearly he doesnt want any more children, and well that his choice, but mistakes do happen, at least you now know that should it happen he aint sticking around!! You need to find a ... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 9 June 2006: I see so he didnt tell us the big part in all of this then!! Im not sure the way you want to go, I for one didnt think you were being unfair, its what us woman do ask silly questions and i have tried to help him to stop being so dumb, but that was ... (read in full...)
I never told her I was really serious, should I have done, is that why she cooled off ?
Q. OK..perhaps one for the ladies to clear for me: I used to work in the next office to a girl I barely knew but really fancied. We used to flirt a lot, then her company moved. By chance I met her again and asked her to meet for a drink, we had a ...
A. 8 June 2006: Maybe she didnt realise that you were into her, and cooled it off as she didnt feel it was going to turn in to anything. Maybe contact her ask her if she would like to go on another date, tell her you like her alot and liked spending time with her ... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 8 June 2006: First of all its rape. If you didnt consent to this happening and you were calling out for him to stop and he didnt then you really need to report what this man has done. He cannot be allowed to get away with this and carry on as normal as there ... (read in full...)
As a Nice Guy, am I destined to finish last with women?
Q. Thanks to all the ladies who posted to my last question but even though their advice was sound I have another question. Why is it that nice guys finish last? I mean all I've ever done is treat women with nothing but respect and I treat ...
A. 8 June 2006: Sometimes i think its the way the cookie crumbles. Its just that you havent found the right girl yet. All woman would prefer a nice guy over a bad one, but some are just looking for the bad guy for more challenges, they sometimes feel they need ... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 5 June 2006: Dear oh dear.... Did you not learn a single thing from the first error!? You should have thought through what you were going to tell her! Then apologised... When a woman asks you what is it you like about these other woman, you do not under no ... (read in full...)
All I did was answer her question honestly, now shes hardly talking to me! what have I done wrong?
Q. Hi, this is my first time doing this, im also using my wifes account!! im really confused, the other day my wife asked me if i fancied any one and i didnt think i did, but after thinking about it all night i realised i do fancy atleast 10 people, i ...
A. 2 June 2006: Speaking from a womans point of view, whilst I agree with Eyeswideopen, sometimes to be lenient with the truth is best. But we should in this day and age be able to speak openly and honestly about anything and everything to our partners. We ... (read in full...)
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