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*uzie767
writes:Hi i am a 22 year old female and i have been with the same guy for 3 years. I have been living with him for the past year and a half. The trouble is I think iam still in love with my ex boyfriend. We split up 5 years ago because we were both very young however i still have feelings for him and if i see him i cant stop thinking about him for ages. I know he feels the same way because he has been trying to get back together with me for the past 2 years.im not really sure how i feel about my current boyfriend and i dont really know why i cant take the leap to make the change. I think i would be happier. Please help!
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reader, Suzie767 +, writes (8 April 2006):
Suzie767 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks all your advise really helped. You are brill!!!
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reader, So torn up +, writes (7 April 2006):
You and I are in kinda the same situation. The best advice that i can give you is to first really figure out how you feel about your current boyfriend. Second why did you and your ex break up in the first place, has that issue been resolved. And the biggest thing that Im learning is that no matter how much you try to forget you never can and though you think that your ex will be there forever until you figure it out. He won't be!
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (7 April 2006):
 Lets just say .... The grass isnt always greener!!! You are with the guy you are with for a reason, and your ex is also an ex for a reason. You need to work out what you really want, and be fair to the guy you are currently with. Things always look nicer on the outside when you are not in that situation, you could upsticks and leave your current bf for your ex and be very unhappy, you wont know unless you do it, but once you have done it, there will probably be no going back, so you need to be clear what you really want and if you really want to hurt your current bf, as he may never forgive you!
Take care
x x
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reader, bridget +, writes (6 April 2006):
 Well if that is how you feel, then I was only
answering your question to kinda help you out
not to be nasty, or hasty or to judge you...
Jacqueline
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reader, Suzie767 +, writes (6 April 2006):
Suzie767 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your advise. It is very sound and much appreciated. Just to clarify a few things i never stopped being in love with my ex and i never wanted it to end. I dont know if this changes your opinions at all,probably not but thank you.
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reader, willywombat +, writes (6 April 2006):
 You have a case of cold feet *big time*.
remember your EX is an Ex for a reason, try to remember why!
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reader, bridget +, writes (6 April 2006):
Hello there Suzie767..
I wonder what made you think about your ex boyfriend so
suddenly after you moved in with your current boyfriend..
It is obvious though that you will not know what you feel
for your current boyfriend because your mind is all about
your ex.. you must learn to choose between the two and stick with your decision though... Someone might get hurt in all of this for the sake of a crush... I think that you and your boyfriend (not your ex) should go out and do something for you both, together, and see if you can get the spark back, If you cant and you have tried other methods then maybe its time to leave it alone..
However I seriously doubt if there wasnt any spark, 3 year long relationship and living together takes alot of love and cherrishness for the other person.. Change can sometimes affect a person, but it takes time to settle and when they come round its great!
Id advise you to stay clear of your ex and concentrate on your own relationship jsut now... If you are being treated unfairly or the likes then by all means leave your boyfriend but dont just leave him for someone else thats unfair... If you are having problems with your current bf then id advise you to sit him down and talk about them as this could be instigating the feelings for your old flame...
Good Luck
Jacqueline
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