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writes: When i am making love to my girlfriend, (in the beginning) I always have a hard erection. but, as we go on, my penis begins to go soft which makes us stop having sex. I was wondering if you had any tips on what I should do without taking pills to maintain a strong erection. Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2005): Hello,
I have found that if this happens doing kegel exercises regularly can help. This is where you practice squeezing the muscle that stops you from urinating midstream. I am sure you can find many instructions on this on the internet.
Good luck!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (7 July 2005):
 it could be that you are worrying about it without realising. Its not uncommon for this to happen.. it may be a case of relax a bit more, have some more foreplay, found out what it is your girl likes so that you know you are doing the right thing as this could be playing on your mind. take your time and see how you can get each other off without sex first off and then move on to that... once you know you can satisify her without your penis being in her it will probably be easier.. get each other to orgasm with sex, and the gradually move on.. that will take the pressure off you as you will know you have already made your girl happy, and done what she likes...and will be easier when having penetrative sex.
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reader, Bev Conolly  +, writes (7 July 2005):
 If you get a hard erection at the start, then I don't think that you need a pill. Can you have an orgasm when you masturbate? If you can, then I doubt that you have any serious medical problems; there might just be something bothering you.
Maybe you need to think about what's going on in your head right before you start to get soft. Are you thinking about something else? Do you feel guilty about something? Are you nervous? Are you worried about something? Is your partner unhappy or uncomfortable or too talkative or too quiet, etc?
I think that what's causing your problem is something being on your mind and preventing you from concentrating on the sexual act and enjoying it. Only you know what's in your mind, so try to remember what you were thinking about when you realised that you'd lost your erection.
I hope that some men who've had the same problem and gotten over it will also add their ideas.
Good luck!
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