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I live in herts along with my Lovely Staffordshire bull terrier Archie and two lully cats! Rosie and Umbro!
Anyway, I stumbled across this site a couple of years back now and became addicted straight away! Anyway my friends used to always tell me that I gave good advice and I am a good listener.
I guess I try to put myself in other peoples situations and its easier looking in when your not directly involved. So anyway I gave this a shot, and here I am, I have had lots of positive feedback from people who have posted questions and I have done my best to advise, so I must be doing something right!
If I only make one person's life better with the advice I give then its worth it!
I like to make people happy and help if I can. I will go that extra mile if it will make someone smile!
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My fiancee is in love with another man...
Q. I have been with my fiance for over 3 years now and we love each other dearly. recently she told me she has feelings for someone else but she loves me and wants to be with me but she feels guilty because she feels this way. We have talked about this ...
A. 5 July 2006: Oh dear, She loves someone else and you want to still marry her... You are worried about losing her, sorry hun but I think you already have. You cant love her for the both of you.. it doesnt work like that.. I am truly very sorry for you but if she ... (read in full...)
We'd planned to meet, but she's dropped off the map!
Q. My friend and I have been getting along perfectly, then 1 month ago she suddenly lost contact I met this girl in June last year. She is 33, I’m 38. We spoke occasionally when we met through an activities club. Then one month later she gave up her ...
A. 5 July 2006: If you know where she lives, maybe pop round to see if she is okay so at least you can stop worrying. If shes okay at least you will know and then you can give her, her space. But I think what you really want to know is if she is ok. If you do ... (read in full...)
She doesn't like anything sexual-is she even attracted to me?
Q. My girlfriend and I are absolute soulmates, or at least I believe we are. I love everything about her. She is all that I think about, and needless to say, my attraction and devotion to her is indescribable. The love is definately mutual, though ...
A. 5 July 2006: I agree wholeheartedly with Irish... I also think that sometimes fear can instue these sorts of feeling in us. Perhaps shes scared that by opening up 100% emotionally shes let her gaurd down. She loves you and thats great and she knows you love ... (read in full...)
How do I reassure how I'm not out looking for other girls??
Q. I went out with a friend tonight and my girlfriend who is out of town visiting her cousin is mad that i went out to bars. Of course, it didn't help that I didn't tell her I was going out tonight, but i did try to call her all day without getting a ...
A. 4 July 2006: Awww well hun least you can get on out and enjoy yourself without having to worry that you will be told off!! In my experience, the one that shouts about someone cheating is normally that one that is!! They accuse you when its in fact them!! take ... (read in full...)
Having children and getting married is high on her list... But low on mine. Anyone like to share some wisdom?
Q. Hi, I (I'm 43) have met this women that I am very taken with, however I don't want children. We have not been going out long, but in talking have found out that getting married and having children is high on her list. If a women (age 31) has alw...
A. 4 July 2006: I think you need to just be upfront with her and tell her straight out. Im not sure what sort of woman she is so im not sure if the wanting child thing will fade. I am 31 and some days I think yeah I want kids.. the next I think no I dont.. but ... (read in full...)
Why did he "test" me with an email from his ex, and how can we get back to the way we were?
Q. I need as much advice as possible on this one guys, so if you have the time, I'd be very appreciative! Ok, I'm 23...my ex is 41 with 4 children from 3 different mothers. When we were together I found an email from his ex, which was left on the ...
A. 4 July 2006: I Dont get the nature of the test ?? How is that testing you ? Was he just after a reaction ? Fact is if its from her then it was written from her to him, so where's the test in that ? Is he saying that she sent it and he wanted you to read it ... (read in full...)
I think I need to lose my virginity!
Q. Hi I am 14 years old and I feel Im getting to that age where I think I should lose my virginty. I don't have a boyfriend or anything, but I really wanna not be a virgin anymore. Any advice? StIlLaViRgInNY...
A. 4 July 2006: Your only 14, why would you want to lose your innocence for no apparent reason ? Have a little respect for yourself girl. The age of consent is 16 in the Uk for a reason, I personally feel this should now be raised to 18! Cant believe that some ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn? Any comments?
Q. As a man, I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn. Porn itself is not the problem. It the person. I look at porn 5-6 times a week. I watch some movies, read stories and Jerk off about 6 times a week. Also make love with my wife ...
A. 4 July 2006: Hmm Mr Anon got his responses to his question... but didnt reply back with any of his views... Wonder why!?... (read in full...)
He just never listens!
Q. Hi, lately I feel my boyfriend hasn't been listening to me. I don't know how else to encourage him to stop being distracted or be interested in what I have to say. I just feel like nothing I say is considered important to him, and I feel like I ...
A. 3 July 2006: Maybe ask him if he still wants to be in the relationship ? Maybe jolt him into talking to you. Not being in your situatuion and now knowing how the two of you were before is a bit hard to know what to advise, as it seems we here are maybe missing ... (read in full...)
How much is too large an age gap?
Q. I am 28 and my boyfried is 2 1/2 years younger. It's not an issue for us, but is that too big a gap? His friends don't seem to approve although they are my age. Princess...
A. 3 July 2006: 2 and half years is not that big an age gap... I'm 31 my partner is 34 .. to us thats pretty normal! I cant see how anyone would frown at the age difference in the slightest... in any case... whats it got to do with anyone else.. of your happy sod ... (read in full...)
I have his baby and he won't leave his wife for us. What should I do?
Q. hi everybody im so glad i found this website cause i need advice really bad ok it started in nov of 2004 i started seeing this married man see he told me from the beginning that they were planning on getting divorced so we started seeing each other ...
A. 3 July 2006: Not alot you can really do.... If hes not going to leave her, you have to accept it... You will get child support for the child though so get that put into action. But you cant make a man do something he doesnt want to do. He was clearly lying to ... (read in full...)
How can I get sticky-out nips?
Q. Hi, I'm a guy, in pretty good shape although I don't go to gym, I've got my flat abs my pecks although they are a lot more capable of looking even better, my question is, and I know this'll sound daft, but how can I make my nipples stick out more, ...
A. 3 July 2006: Er not heard of any excercises to create pert sticky out nipples... although i do wonder why you would want them to ? There are nipple covers that you can get from sex shops and some other shops online so maybe just invest in some of them, but i ... (read in full...)
Potential girlfriend is a smoker,i want her to stop
Q. hey im 16 and im going to see a film with this girl i like. Im not nervous or anything because i know we both fancy each other. I got my friend to ask her what she wants from me and where our friendship is going and she said she wants a ...
A. 3 July 2006: Somebody that smokes will only stop because they want to, not because someone else tells them to. If shes not ready to give up you will have to accept thats shes a smoker. If you really dont like it then you may have to decide not to date her. ... (read in full...)
Can sperm really do this?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been getting close to each other alot and we've started to pleasure each other. I've been told that if sperm gets on any part of the body it can make its way down to the vagina...is this true?...
A. 3 July 2006: I would find this highly unlikely, but if he were to cum around the vagina area then there is a chance that you can become pregnant. Sperm can only live in the open air for a few hours.. Dependant on room temparture and the surroudings but in ... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my penis too small?
Q. I am 15 and my penis is about 5 and a half to 6 inches long when erect. I did not see a problem with this until a boy in my class was laughing at somebody else for only having a 6 inch when erect and the other lads al joined in during the day. the ...
A. 3 July 2006: Thats a pretty normal size!! They are probably laughing as thats the thing to do at that age, you dont really know much better lol Most guys will have the same sort of size penis, some are fatter some are thinner, some may indeed have a bigger ... (read in full...)
My married guy has made me wait 5 months, and he promised to leave his wife in 3!
Q. Will he leave her for me? For the first time in seven years I have met someone I really love. Only thing is he is married. The woman he is married to is 10 years older than him She is 51 and he is 41 and I am 29 years old. I have only been da...
A. 3 July 2006: He's having his cake and eating it! His got the wife he goes home to every night and you for the sex when he feels like it. If he was really going to leave her, he would have done. Thing is if there are no kids, what is keeping him there ? If ... (read in full...)
Is this implant making me sick or could i br pregant??
Q. I've had the implant in my arm 4 about 8weeks and i've started bein sick in th mornings and im feelin tierd all the time. I'm scared about gettin a pregnancy test dont want ppl to think im a tart or out. Could this be just the implant gettin u...
A. 2 July 2006: yes the implant can upset the system... its making the body think you are pregnant remember by releasing hormones just like the pill. I was on the injection for a while, and i became headachy, migraines, sickness and generally feeling crap! It ... (read in full...)
Tempted by the "greener grass" of other guys, even though I love my boyfriend! What's wrong with me?
Q. I'm 19, and am in a serious relationship with a someone who I love dearly, and have been with on and off for about 5 years. However, lately I have been having feelings for someone I work with and I'm really tempted to do something about it, just to ...
A. 2 July 2006: You need to identify what it is that your boyfriend isnt doing for you. YOu say its a strong relationship, but there clearly seems to be something missing, as this is why you are seeking outside attentions. do you really think that your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is heartbroken that England are out of the World Cup!
Q. My boyfriend is absolutely, totally and utterly gutted now that England are out of the World Cup. He can barely speak and I can't seem to make him see that it's summer, life is good, and that there's still fun to be had. Anyone got ideas how to lift ...
A. 2 July 2006: Well im feeling pretty much like your boyfriend... There are now two of us in this house that are really fed up and miserable.. :o( Football means as much to me as the next man and I personally couldnt speak after the game. I know how he feels ... (read in full...)
Why is he so full on then nothing??
Q. Met a guy on the internet got on really well had several dates we both liked each other he is younger than me and single im separated which he knows, but we were supposed to meet up for a date after he text me,but then never got back to me . Just ...
A. 30 June 2006: Did he lie to you and has infact got a girlfriend and hes been caught out ? Without sounding rude, did you sleep with him ? You say you had several dates, did it get as far as having sex, because if it did it sounds like he got what he came for. ... (read in full...)
Am I just being Gullible ? is he cheating constantly and he actually caught this STD recently ?
Q. Hi, i really need some help. I'm 21, been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 and a half years. He's a natural flirt which is hard but i deal with. I may be looking for things here but i need an outsiders point of view. Last year he went to magaluf with ...
A. 30 June 2006: Is is totally abusing the trust that you give him. Not only that hes also putting your health at risk, by having unprotected sex, its all very well having the condoms but if you aint gonna use them whats the point!! Seems being faithful means ... (read in full...)
Is he taking showers to wash away the evidence of his cheating!?
Q. It was my b/f's b-day. I am with him over the year. Just wanted an opinion. I remember when i was with him last summer--he would sometimes take showers when i came over and in the winter not so much..he works inside as well as outside so i can ...
A. 30 June 2006: At least he wants to take a shower! It was his birthday, he was probably thinking that he would get his birthday treat later on and didnt want to be stinky.. Thats more considerate than hiding evidence. You said yourself that he took showers ... (read in full...)
He just never listens!
Q. Hi, lately I feel my boyfriend hasn't been listening to me. I don't know how else to encourage him to stop being distracted or be interested in what I have to say. I just feel like nothing I say is considered important to him, and I feel like I ...
A. 30 June 2006: I think your trying too hard, and expecting him to listen, when i suspect he is, your just expecting him to come out with a radical comment about what you just said and he cant think of one straight away so just replied as if to say yes i heard you. ... (read in full...)
My GF said the open box of condoms belonged to a friend, but I wonder...
Q. I let my girlfriend borrow my car tonight to pick up some items from her mom's bf's place which she didn't get anyways. When she came to pick me up so I can drive her back home, her purse was open and it had a opened box of condoms which she ...
A. 30 June 2006: Fact is buddy whatever the case is here and it does all sound rather suss.... You dont trust her! Rightly or wrongly there is no trust in this relationship, without that you dont really stand a chance. You need to confront her and tell her what ... (read in full...)
Can I make myself any taller ?
Q. hi im a seventeen year old girl, of average height. I wonder if therre's any way to increase my height? or am I too old to get taller? My twin brother is almost 6ft 2" and i'm just 5 4"!! Why? Please help, I desperately want to be taller. ...
A. 29 June 2006: Hi there! Well im 5ft 4 and its not done me any harm! I dont consider it small, its about average height. I think we officially stop growing around the age of 21 though, so you might grow a bit more yet! But dont worry, at least your closer to ... (read in full...)
My GF said the open box of condoms belonged to a friend, but I wonder...
Q. I let my girlfriend borrow my car tonight to pick up some items from her mom's bf's place which she didn't get anyways. When she came to pick me up so I can drive her back home, her purse was open and it had a opened box of condoms which she ...
A. 29 June 2006: Yes it seems a bit suss, but if thats all you have to go on dont assume shes up to no good. But you seem to have already marked her card without really listening to her explanation, so is it that you didnt trust her anyway ? We need to give people ... (read in full...)
I know about my wife's affair, but she doesn't know I know...
Q. I found out about 2 weeks ago that my wife had an affair. It was about 10 years ago (we were married at that time) and lasted for 6 weeks. I know for sure there has been no other affair since. However, although I know for sure it finished after 6 ...
A. 29 June 2006: You have to tell her that you know if you are ever going to clear your head again. You cant move on wihtout at least discussing this with her, your putting yourself through some torture and at the moment the way you are going you will enevitably ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but I don't want to stop seeing the other guy, either!
Q. I'm 14 and I have a really great boyfriend who lives in Norfolk but I really like this guy in my cadet group. I kissed him while we was watching the football and I didn't mean for it to happen. I really don't want to split with my boyfriend because ...
A. 29 June 2006: I dont think you are ready to be with either of them. Your too young to be worrying or thinking about guys that are going to be devastated if you leave them. Its not fair to tag someone along for the sake of it. Its clear you have a lot of living ... (read in full...)
He wants an open relationship, but not THAT open!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 6 months - i love him alot, i was a virgin before (oral virgin aswell) but i have kissed other guys in the past. he gets mad at me because i have kissed other guys. anyways, he told me that he has sexual fantasys ...
A. 29 June 2006: You tell him its you and you alone! its all just because he wants to date other woman and keep you hanging in just in case he cant pick up any others! How can he say he wants it to be open when its only him that allowed a free reign! Its not ... (read in full...)
I like him. He likes her. But we think she's gay!
Q. There is a lad I like. He admitted he fancied me for ages and I told him I felt the same way but nothing happened due to shyness. Then he started to flirt with a lass who is not interested at all in him. My friends said she is gay but likes th...
A. 29 June 2006: Leave well alone, you dont want to be accused of interfereing. If he likes her likes her. If you are sure she told you she is gay, and your not just jumping to that conclusion, afterall if you start to spread a rumour you will be the one with egg ... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant on a period?
Q. can a woman still be pregnant even if she is still having her period? or does the period stop straight when a girl becomes pregnant?...
A. 29 June 2006: Its possible for a girl to get pregnant at any stage of the month, before a period, whilst she's having a period, just after a period. No time is guaranteed safe and you should always use protection. The chances are lower at certain times of the ... (read in full...)
Now my girlfriend is pregnant she doesn't want sex anymore
Q. My Girlfiend and i started for a baby 3 month's ago and we did it like bunny's for 3 month's and this past month she gets tummy pain (weird pain)but she kept having sex like mad 4-5 times a week but when her period's came around she didn't cum on we ...
A. 29 June 2006: It could just be that shes scared of hurting the baby. Its nigh on impossible as the baby is pretty protected, but the early stages of pregnancy are crucial and this in the first three months is when you are likely to miscarry. This has been in ... (read in full...)
My friend confided that he loved me, but said it to someone else!
Q. Hi! I really like my friend. We've known each other for about a year and he said to my other friend he had grown to love me. The problem is this: friend never told me he said that, so I carried on with my own thing. Now I feel guilty because ...
A. 29 June 2006: The thing is, this friend thats grown to love you should have said these things to you, not someone else! How are you to have known that he'd grown to love you if he doesnt say anything ? He probably told your other friend in the hope they would ... (read in full...)
What careers are available working with expectant moms or new moms?
Q. want to work with expectant young mother or young mums. how do i go about it. i've got no experiance only i was a young mum....
A. 28 June 2006: Have you thought about maybe becoming a midwife ? You can take the training, I believe its a two year course as you effectively become a nurse aswell. Is there nothing else you would be interested in, are you sure this is right for you ? I think ... (read in full...)
Been together 5 years and he sends dirty text messages to another girl...
Q. Im really stuck. Ive been with my boyfriend for 5 years and now and we've been through a lot (including a time when we split for a month). Last week I found out he had been sending dirty text messgaes to another girl. It really upset me and I ...
A. 28 June 2006: I am assuming he has now stopped and he has at least tried to apologise ? How dare he send messages of a sexy nature to another girl when hes with you!! Why in the world would he want to ? Where did he find her ? Is she the only one ? This is an ... (read in full...)
My ex ruins my new relationships!
Q. How do I get my ex-wife to leave me alone. We have children so she cannot completely go away but is certainly ruining all of my new relationships...
A. 28 June 2006: What is it that she is doing to ruin your relationships ? Theres not much detail to go on. If she still needs to play a part in your life because of your children then so be it, be calmly and politley tell her there is no future for the two of you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend hounds me for a threesome - with another guy!
Q. every time i have sex with my boyfriend he wants another guy joing us either doing me or him. what should i do?...
A. 28 June 2006: Never do anything you dont want to do. He cant make you, you should always feel comfortable in any activity you do. Have you asked him why hes so keen to engage in this ? alot of men can get turned on my seeing their partners with another man, ... (read in full...)
What does the term "gay" actually mean ?
Q. What is the actual meaning of gay. Is it fancying men (if your a man) and vice versa for women, or is it something else?...
A. 27 June 2006: No it doesnt mean your gay it just means your curious. There are more men that care to admit that they have tasted thier own semen out of curiosity. Lots of hetrosexual men also like there anus played with during sex, during foreplay or whilst ... (read in full...)
I have a boyfriend, but dont feel anything towards him, dont want to ditch him case I dont find anyone else!
Q. I have a boyfriend,but I dont really feel for him.I'm pretty sure he likes me,but I dont like him(In that way)! I dont know any other boys to him and I'm afraid if I break it off I'll never get a boyfriend!What should I do,Is it natural to feel this ...
A. 27 June 2006: Sounds as though you may not be in to him, or its early days and a lot can happen over a period of time between two people. Must have been something that attracted you to him ? or was it everyone else had a boyfriend and you didnt and he was around ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my husband: "It's over"?
Q. Hello! Please some help! How can I tell my husband that I can´t go on with him anymore? He doesn´t want to hear about getting divorce nor to attend a marriage counselor. I am not happy with him and after 10 years of marriage I am feed up of ...
A. 27 June 2006: If your really intent on splitting up and you think there is no way back then you have to make him listen.. Perhaps he doesnt think you are serious. Why dont you file for divorce... Im assuming that you could go for it on the grounds of ... (read in full...)
Where can a new married get information about sex?
Q. I am newly married. I want books or doctors to help me to teach about sex....
A. 27 June 2006: Books or Doctors ? Hmm Maybe try searching online. Maybe purchase the Karma Sutra book, which can be brought from most stores.. try amazon for one and they also do educational videos so it depends what you are after really, as in the main sex is ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn? Any comments?
Q. As a man, I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn. Porn itself is not the problem. It the person. I look at porn 5-6 times a week. I watch some movies, read stories and Jerk off about 6 times a week. Also make love with my wife ...
A. 26 June 2006: Its not always the case that the male is paying as much attention to his wife, thats when women dont like it. If a man whacks off to porn as you put it but is still paying as much attention to her then i dont see there is a problem. It does become ... (read in full...)
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