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writes: thank you everyone answering my questions prior to this one. i really appreciate it even if i don't have the time to show it.my girlfriend saw her ex boyfriend on our first week going out with me. he gave her a dozen roses. she borrowed my camera to take a picture of the roses and she digitally framed the picture of the roses that she took.i am furious. she says she is over him. she says she likes me even thuogh when we first went out she didnt like me. i consider this cheating on me. because she should know better. before, she used to call me and tell me how happy she was. i would ask why. because she saw her ex boyfriend. another time she would say she would compare her dates with her ex boyfriend with her future dates.i am so angry, but i dont know if i should confront her about me knowing about the roses she got. she deliberately hid the roses from me, on the day we went to watch movies. after i came over her house she showed them to me, she basically showed it off to me wihtout telling me who gave it to her even when i asked.should i confront her about this? i really feel like messing up the ex boyfriend right now. it must mean she didnt tell him we were going out. otherwise thats the only reason why he gave her roses. and if he did know we were going out and he still gave her roses, then he is going to die this month. figure of speech, relatively.i am so frustrated. it has been such an unhappy one month so far, but i dont wnat to break up with her because i like her so much, more than she'll ever know.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (7 April 2006):
 She really isnt over her ex. I think you may need to accept that she is probably dating you just to get at her ex and try to make him jealous. I would give her some space, let her know that you unhappy how things are turning out and explain why are unhappy, and that you would like to make a go of things, but in the current climate on the way she is behaving you are unsure that it will work, and that some time apart may help the both of you to see what you clearly want. You need to do whats right for you, if you are this unhappy now, it will only get worse and may even turn into resentment.
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reader, tux  +, writes (7 April 2006):
 It sounds like me that she still isn't over her ex and she is not being fair to you or any other guy she'd date. She seems happy to see her ex.. and seems to want to compare any guy she sees with him. But the problem is not with her ex, but her.. if you do anything to her ex.... I can count she won't be with you anymore. but you may want to give her time.. and I wouldn't confront her on the roses... I would wait to see if this behavior towards her ex continues.
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