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16 May 2007: I am more experienced on the receiving end of blowjobs then the giving end, but perhaps I can give a few pointers to those who are setting out to try this for the first time. First of all, keep in mind that fellatio (giving blowjobs) is an ...
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have never orgasmed before. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I really love when my boyfriend fingers me, and performs oral sex on me. For some reason, I have never orgasmed before. Is there something wrong with me? How do I achieve orgasm?...
A. 2 May 2007: I don't know if you are the same person who asked this question at http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-have-never-orgasmed-while-being-fingered-or.html.
If you want to orgasm, the best thing for you to do is masturbate. You may not achieve ... (read in full...)
I have never orgasmed while being fingered or recieving oral.
Q. I really love when my boyfriend fingers me, and performs oral sex on me. For some reason, I have never orgasmed before. Is there something wrong with me? How do I achieve orgasm?...
A. 2 May 2007: Do you masturbate? Masturbation is an excellent way to learn to orgasm. You may not get it at first, or for a while, but you can enjoy yourself and experiment with what feels really good, and what creates the most intensity.
A survey once tak... (read in full...)
She wants sex all the time! But I don't enjoy it as much as she does. Is this normal?
Q. This girl I am seeing likes to have sex a lot. We do it maybe every other day. I was a virgin when I met her but I've never liked the sex we've had. Is this normal. I feel I have a better orgasm when I masturbate than when we're doing it. ...
A. 24 April 2007: Sorry.. I typed that rather quickly and made several typos. I should proof read! Among these errors, I meant to say, "Since you were a virgin" not "since you are..."... (read in full...)
She wants sex all the time! But I don't enjoy it as much as she does. Is this normal?
Q. This girl I am seeing likes to have sex a lot. We do it maybe every other day. I was a virgin when I met her but I've never liked the sex we've had. Is this normal. I feel I have a better orgasm when I masturbate than when we're doing it. ...
A. 24 April 2007: I have a suspicion that many women tell me the guy they are with that he's the best she's ever had. Either they just want the guy to feel good about himself, or they genuinely feel that whoever they love at that moment is the best. They quickly ... (read in full...)
She orgasms within seconds then tells me "it's over"...
Q. Hi, I've been with my girlfriend for a few months but sex is very frustrating for me. She becomes very wet as soon as I put it inside her and comes almost instantly.... she assures me that she is not faking and it does feel genuine as I can...
A. 24 April 2007: Normally I would recommend for a man not to "put it in her" until she is good and ready, increasing her chance of having an orgasm before or at the same time as the male. But in YOUR case, maybe you need to wait before putting it in, so that YOU ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for normal people to masturbate?
Q. I just want to know is it normal for people to want to masturbate? Is their anything wrong with it aslong as it doesn't become excessive? I must admit I'm 14 and I find myself wanting to sometimes, I do it privately is this wrong? Chee...
A. 24 April 2007: TasteOfIndia -- What a great site! Thanks. Yeah, looks like I was normal at 14 for doing it 4 or 5 times a day. I wish I had known then what I know now. There was so much guilt back then, because I thought it was wrong. It wasn't so much the ... (read in full...)
I said I wasn't sexually active at the doctor because my mum was with me and I'm only 14! Should I tell the truth?
Q. hey. i have a lump on the lip of my vagina. I have been to the hospital and the doctor asked me if i was sexually active. My mum was there so i said no even though i have been. I couldnt tell him i was cos im 14 and my mum would go mad. He said ok ...
A. 23 April 2007: I don't know how the setup in England works, but in Canada, the doctor usually has a nurse working for him. What I suggest is that you phone the doctor's office when you have some privacy and ask to speak to her nurse. The receptionist may ask why ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for normal people to masturbate?
Q. I just want to know is it normal for people to want to masturbate? Is their anything wrong with it aslong as it doesn't become excessive? I must admit I'm 14 and I find myself wanting to sometimes, I do it privately is this wrong? Chee...
A. 23 April 2007: This question seems to get asked on here often. Mastrubation is perfectly normal. I'm not sure what you mean by excessive. When I was 14 I probably did it 4 or 5 times on some days. I don't know whether that would be considered excessive or not. ... (read in full...)
My vagina gets extremely wet when I'm doing anything sexual. Anyone else have this problem?
Q. I am curious if anyone has a similar problem? My vagina gets extremely wet when I'm doing anything sexual. An ex said he's never seen anyone get that wet before and he used to have to pull out occasionally during intercourse to dry me off with a ...
A. 23 April 2007: Getting wet is a perfectly normal response to sexual thoughts and physical stimulation. Some women have never had a problem getting wet, even at a younger age. For some, a lubricant like KY jelly is required. If you are naturally wet, be ... (read in full...)
I want to give him a blowjob---any suggestions or good tips?
Q. Hi, I'm in a very strong relationship with a boy and we've decided to go a step further - not sex i want to give him a blow job. Have you got any tips and should i swallow or spit out the cum?? X..Layla..X...
A. 23 April 2007: For the person who said to gently scrape it with your teeth... Well, that might work as an advanced technique, but I do not recommend that you try it out the first time! Ouch!
Layla, I gave some tips to think about at this posting: http://w... (read in full...)
What are the chances of getting pregnant even if a guy doesn't ejaculate?
Q. What are the chances of getting pregnant even if a guy doesn't ejaculate?...
A. 23 April 2007: Sorry, that should read, "But IF he came out way before, it is very unlikely."... (read in full...)
My husband is in Iraq, on his second tour of duty. I cheated on him and I feel horrible. Should I tell him ever?
Q. i have been married for three years and my husband is on his second tour in iraq!!! i cheated on him for the first time with one of my co-workers and i feel so guilty and horrible, i dont know if i should tell him im scarced to. should i just take ...
A. 23 April 2007: You are going to get mixed reviews on this one. Some here feel strongly that you should tell.
I personally do not believe you should. As "Blue Rat" says, it will only bring needless heartache to him.... (read in full...)
What are the chances of getting pregnant even if a guy doesn't ejaculate?
Q. What are the chances of getting pregnant even if a guy doesn't ejaculate?...
A. 23 April 2007: It depends. How close to ejaculation was he when he pulled out? Did he come right away afterwards? Even before the ejaculation takes place, a small amount of semen can come out from the penis. But he he came out way before, it is very ... (read in full...)
Okay guys... does being stressed affect your sex life?
Q. Hi All, I would like to ask, mostly the Guys I guess. Does being stressed efect your sex life. I am asking this, as when my partner and I were first together, we were like bunnies. But he is under stress with his ex at the moment and seems to ...
A. 23 April 2007: Yes, sex can be affected by stress levels. Getting into a funk can as well. Remember the brain is the largest sex organ, and if you are under stress, your mind is occupied with other matters, it can be difficult to let go of it all and think about ... (read in full...)
Are egg whites fattening?
Q. Are egg whites fattening? I need to know due to my health issues. *Moderator Note: next time, you can do a search on Google.com. It would yield faster results.*...
A. 20 April 2007: Egg whites are not a significant sourse of fat. They are a source of protein. The fat (including cholesterol) in the egg is in the yolk. Egg whites are one of the best sources of protein in that the body can digest them and use them very easily. ... (read in full...)
How do you give the perfect blow job?
Q. I wanna give my bf the best head but I don't kno how to do it...also I've never done it be4...
A. 20 April 2007: There is also this one, that gives some first time suggestions: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-give-my-boyfriend-a-great.html... (read in full...)
My penis won't co-operate when it comes to the crunch and now she's getting annoyed!
Q. Everytime (Three times now) I try to have sex with my G/f it goes soft. I'm a virgin, but I'm positive it isn't nerves. Last night, like everytime we're about to have sex, we were kissing for like 45-50 mins! Now during all that my penis was erect ...
A. 19 April 2007: A long foreplay period is excellent, but due to the circumstances, I think that next time you should take the iniative earlier on. You can start taking her clothes off after 5 minutes, as you have suggested, but you can still wait a little longer ... (read in full...)
How should I go about asking my "fling" guy out this weekend?
Q. Hi there, Me and this guy are friends, we go clubbing together. We ended up in bed together and it was really good. Neither of us wants to have anything serious as I have had a big relationship and so has he also I am thinking of moving abroad...
A. 19 April 2007: If you have his phone number, just call him up and tell him you want to see him this weekend. Actually, instead, why not tell him you you want to see him for breakfast on Saturday morning, "...and so could we meet at say around 8 pm on Friday?"... (read in full...)
Is there any law against cousins having a love relationship?
Q. can you please tell me if there is any law on first cousins being together and having a sexual relationship and if we could get married please help...
A. 19 April 2007: The anonymous person who said this would be "disastrous" based on genetics is presenting the ungrounded misconception held by many people. This thinking is derived from the higher rate of genetic diseases that are prevalent in historically isolated ... (read in full...)
I want to lose weight. Any good diets I could try?
Q. I want to lose weight to try and get a girlfriend. And to raise my self-esteem. I just want to know what will help me exactly beside aerobics and stretches. Any diets or anything. Please and Thank You....
A. 19 April 2007: Anon -- It is good that you want to get in shape. Just don't make the mistake of trying to get there overnight. Dieting is a multi-billion dollar industry, but it just doesn't work! If you lose, lets say, 10 pounds, you are going to lose three ... (read in full...)
Would a girl say no to dating me, by saying her parents don't approve rather then telling me the real reason?
Q. This is going to sound a bit of a silly question: If you want to go out with a girl but there is an age difference, can she say no because of oher factors, like worried about parents, rather than what she really wants to do?...
A. 19 April 2007: Thanks for the added information. In this case, she is not an adult, and you need to respect her parents' wishes.... (read in full...)
We agreed to go ahead with the 3some, but every time it crops up my wife finds a reason not to go ahead!!
Q. Alright, so I read some other similar questions but not exactly the same. My wife and I are both legitimately intrested in a threesome, and (she being bisexual) we are agreed it should obviously be a woman. The problem is everytime I find someone ...
A. 19 April 2007: Do you find she brings it up more often while you are having sex? There could be a fantasy going on in her head, and during sex, it becomes so strong that she believes she really does want to do it. Later, when she has cooled down, she maybe ... (read in full...)
Married, 25 years old with two kids and having an affair with my 2nd cousin! Any advice?
Q. im a 25yr old with two kids. i have been with my partner for 5yrs, the thing is ive been having a affair for a year now with my second cousin. we both wanna be together im thinking of moving to be with him, my partner drinks alot and dont care about ...
A. 19 April 2007: Taboos about cousins getting married are cultural. It is legal in Canada and the UK, although it is not extremely common. In the United States, laws vary from state to state, but in the majority of states, it is legal. For a summary listing of ... (read in full...)
I have friends and family in my life, but all I do is cry and feel alone. Please help.
Q. I still really need some help. Things have gotten to the point were all i do is cry. I just feel so lost and alone even though i have friends and family around. How ever i have not been able to talk to any of them. Not even my boyfriend as i feel as ...
A. 18 April 2007: Hi there...
You are not alone. Teenage years are supposed to be "the best years of your life", but in reality, at these years between being a kid and becoming an independent adult, there can be ups and downs, and sometimes the downs feel pretty d... (read in full...)
My brother-in-law is an alcoholic and it's ruining his and his family's lives - He's even crashed a car when drunk! How can I help him?
Q. Hello - I'm not actually having a problem myself, but my brother-in-law (I'll call him Sam) is and my husband and I would like to help. Sam is about to turn 21 and drinks every chance he gets since going away to college. Over the past few yea...
A. 18 April 2007: There isn't much to add after chachacha's excellent answer. She has pointed out the truth that only an alcoholic can help himself. The only thing you can do it tell him he has a problem. Hopefully he will recongize it sooner, rather than later, ... (read in full...)
I keep thinking about her past even tho she is still a virgin but its the fact she has done more then me! How do I get past this?
Q. I have just got my first girlfriend she used to like me four years n she sed i wos the first she told she liked! bt the ting ws at the time when she liked me i wos a bit silly n thort i cud do better that wos cuz i had other girls telling me they ...
A. 18 April 2007: I don't mean to sound harsh, but I don't think anyone can do anything for you. The only way you can not get hung up about her past, is to change your own thinking. You were not dating her at the time, and there was nothing wrong with her seeing ... (read in full...)
Would a girl say no to dating me, by saying her parents don't approve rather then telling me the real reason?
Q. This is going to sound a bit of a silly question: If you want to go out with a girl but there is an age difference, can she say no because of oher factors, like worried about parents, rather than what she really wants to do?...
A. 18 April 2007: A woman can give any number of reasons for saying no. Often, a woman wants to be nice, and not let a guy down, so instead of saying, "I'm really just not interested in you", she may offer some other excuse. If you try another way around, and there ... (read in full...)
How can a man increase his libido?
Q. What things can a man do to increase his sex drive?...
A. 18 April 2007: This is very general, and difficult to answer without knowing more.
Can you tell us more specifically about this? Are you in a current relationship? How long for? How long have you felt this way for? Approximately how old are you? Do you mast... (read in full...)
I can't EVER have an orgasm with my boyfriend, Is there something wrong with me?
Q. I think there might be something wrong with me because i can't EVER have an orgasm with my boyfriend, doesn't matter what he does it just won't happen and its starting to make him feel bad.IT'l happen for me but i dont like to do it because it makes ...
A. 18 April 2007: First, there is nothing dirty about you stimulating yourself. Think of it as good practice. You know best what makes you feel good. Most guys don't mind when a woman stimulates herself in front of him. It can be a turn on. Talk to him while you ... (read in full...)
Is there any law against cousins having a love relationship?
Q. can you please tell me if there is any law on first cousins being together and having a sexual relationship and if we could get married please help...
A. 18 April 2007: It depends on the country where you live. Here in Canada, it is not against the law.... (read in full...)
I like short skirts and low tops on other girls..but I don't like my gf, dressing this way! Why am I this way?
Q. I know this is going to sound wierd but i have got my first girlfriend, i dnt like her wearing low tops or short skirts or nothing like that bt that doesnt make sense to me cuz i like seeing girls wearing those kind of things as in cuz they look ...
A. 18 April 2007: Perhaps you are possesive, or insecure, and you don't want other guys looking at your girlfriend. It's a natural instinct. You can tell her how you feel, but remember that you don't own her. Most women will feel more confident when she wears ... (read in full...)
If I stop twiddling so much could I have a better chance of orgasming with a man?
Q. I masturbate quote alot, once a day, and I have trouble reaching orgasm in any sexual activity with guys, infact I have never had an orgasm with a man. If I reduce the amount I masturbate, will this increase the chances of me reaching orgasm in sex?...
A. 17 April 2007: I doubt that mastrubating would have a negative effect. Studies tend to show the opposite.
Do you have an orgasm when you masturbate? How experienced are your partners? It is possible that the men you have been with have been too quick. ... (read in full...)
We are both married, we slept together and think we are in love, Ive asked that we stay friends and stop the sex, now hes not calling me!?
Q. Both of us are married and are having an affair. He works few months here and most of the time overseas.We both know that we really cannot be together, but we are so much inlove or so I think. I know that I love this guy and he says that he loves me ...
A. 17 April 2007: First off, I am not going to judge you or your friend. Affairs happen for many different reasons, and it is easy for those who do not understand to judge you.
It sounds to me like one of three things have happened here:
1. He wanted you for e... (read in full...)
I've masturbated for about 10 years, can I cause my self any harm ?
Q. hi :/ I'm a sixteen year old girl who has been mastrabating since i even knew what it was. Because I've been doing it for practically ten years i am haivng a really hard time stopping. Plus i want to know if there is any damage a girl can get fro...
A. 17 April 2007: Just to clarify... I do think a child touching her/himself is one of those things they should be doing in private. Certainly not in the living room or walking around the grocery store. But if they do it, I would rather say to them, "This isn't an ... (read in full...)
Why do guys ask a girl for her number in a bar or club and never call ?
Q. why do guys ask for a girls number in a club or bar and then never call them? it keeps happening to me, is it because when they sober up they realise how ugly i am or do they later meet better girls after me?...
A. 17 April 2007: Ok, I'm going to be blunt.
There is nothing wrong with casual sex, if you are consenting and have a strong control over your feelings. In this case, and you want casual sex, a bar just might be a good place to meet people. Otherwise, just thi... (read in full...)
I've masturbated for about 10 years, can I cause my self any harm ?
Q. hi :/ I'm a sixteen year old girl who has been mastrabating since i even knew what it was. Because I've been doing it for practically ten years i am haivng a really hard time stopping. Plus i want to know if there is any damage a girl can get fro...
A. 17 April 2007: Starting at the age of six is not wrong. Very very young children will touch themselves because it feels good. I am firm believer that children should be taught that certain things are not appropriate in public, but children should never be ... (read in full...)
How can I stop smoking during pregnancy ? Any tips?
Q. Hello, Yesterday I discovered I am pregnant, (great news) I am a smoker and am looking for advice on how to stop!! I’ve been told I can not have any nicotine replacement as this can caurse spin-bifida… is this true, and how do I stop? Thank You...
A. 17 April 2007: Try doing a google search on the effects of smoking on babies. Each time you go to smoke, think about what it could do.
Try also rewarding yourself. Of course, the ultimate reward is having a health baby, unaffected by prenatal tobacco. But if ... (read in full...)
My boyfriends is touching me more than I want him to, What should I do ?
Q. Hi!Well I have a really bad problem.well my boyfriend is really sweet and everything and I do luv him but the other day we were snogging like we always do and he tried 2 go a little further and I didn't want 2 go further he tried undressing me and ...
A. 17 April 2007: Remind him that "No means No". Your body is your own, and it is up to you to decide what to do with it, and who can touch you. It can be very difficult when you are pressured. If anyone makes you feel pressured, whether it's about sex or anything ... (read in full...)
How important are looks to a man ?
Q. How important are looks to a man? Long hair, short hair? Short, tall? Brown eyes, blue eyes? How big is too big? How small is too small? What about chest size... does size really matter? Let's get really honest here. We're not all supermodels... ...
A. 16 April 2007: Men are often given the bad rap of being shallow and staring at a woman's bust and/or rear. Ok, a lot of the time we can't help it, but ultimately it's not what we are looking for....
Often there is something about a woman that the guy can't pu... (read in full...)
Guys, do you find it really unattractive when girls have a gap between the front teeth?
Q. Hi, I'm a teenager with a gap between my teeth. I was wondering if guys find it really unattractive when girls have a gap between the front teeth. Does it make even pretty girls look ugly in a guy's opinion??...
A. 16 April 2007: I can't answer for all guys, but no, I do not find that a gap makes a girl look unattractive. There are many factors that determine the degree of physical attractiveness (is that a word?). I know she's kind of passe now, but when Madonna was very ... (read in full...)
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