I miss my ex, but there is a new guy in my life, should I give him a chance or clear things up with my ex first?
Q. Long story short, my ex-bf broke up with me almost 2 months ago. I miss him terribly. He wants to remain friends with me on skype and whenever he logs on and I am online tries to talk to me, but there are no other signs of him wanting me back (one ...
A. 5 June 2010: You have got the answer from the lion's mouth.This relationship is dead and you need to focus on your new friend.
Wean yourself of your ex , go out, enjoy and have fun.... (read in full...)
B/f chooses to go in with his sister rather than me to buy his parents a gift
Q. Should I be offended if my bf chooses to go in on a b.day gift with his sister instead of with me for one of his parents? I asked him first and he said he wanted to ask his sister first. We've been dating over a year and are in a serious ...
A. 1 June 2010: Three heads are better than two.He acted right and saved the day. That is life.... (read in full...)
Any problem with dating your dead wife's aunt??
Q. is it alright to date your dead wife's aunt...
A. 28 May 2010: It is alright if you both feel the same. When your wife is no more, you are free to date anyone you want.... (read in full...)
Could this "friends with benefits" thing work? And is this a bad idea?
Q. Ok so here's my situation. A few months ago my husband and I were going through a really rough time. There was this guy that i worked with and we became good friends. One night he invited me out for coffee and we wound up having sex. This guy had a ...
A. 28 May 2010: Such type of arrangements are most probably short lived as people are not robots . We have emotions and feelings and either one of you may change after sometime.
Love is the only glue that can hold a relationship together.... (read in full...)
We laugh and joke around, but does she like me as a friend or boyfriend??
Q. I have a coworker she really cute and funny, we talk and spend our breaks even scream to talk to each other shell ask me where am I going we joke with each other she does this alot does she like me back as a bf or friend ...
A. 28 May 2010: In your work place, you are just a friend. You need to go into her private world to feel her out. Date her and go on from there.
If you want her to be your g/f you will have to send clear signals to her or she will think that you are not interest... (read in full...)
Should I move out to be with my boyfriend and go against my parents wishes?
Q. I turn 18 in a few months, and I am in love with my boyfriend, i would do anything for him. My parents don't want me to see him so for about the past year we have been secretly seeing each other, but its getting harder and harder as my parents don't ...
A. 28 May 2010: Some parents are just too obstinate and irrational. You will have to decide what are your priorities in life.
One day you will have to leave your parents and live your own life.
Do you want to go for further education or do you want to live a f... (read in full...)
Some of the things I've found out about this guy make me wonder if I should date him?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months and I have learned some things about him during this time that concerns me. Keep in mind that we are both in our early thirties. Here are some things about him: -Never been in a serious relation...
A. 28 May 2010: Everyone has a past and the past shaped them what they are today.
The tea pot is made from clay and if you think the clay is ugly ,then you should not drink from any tea pot.
Education does not make you an educated person. Going to college... (read in full...)
B/f chooses to go in with his sister rather than me to buy his parents a gift
Q. Should I be offended if my bf chooses to go in on a b.day gift with his sister instead of with me for one of his parents? I asked him first and he said he wanted to ask his sister first. We've been dating over a year and are in a serious ...
A. 28 May 2010: I think you should just accept it, as old habits are difficult to change.
He may not be aware of your feelings as most guys cannot see from your perspective. You could give your suggestions to him and let him decide .This should not be an issue.... (read in full...)
Was distance really an issue or was he just letting me down easily?
Q. Last September I met a guy online and we had a real connection, we chatted for 3 months- just flirting, but I really developed an intense connection with him. He even asked me out, but then for some reason it never happened. We lived far apart, and ...
A. 28 May 2010: No venture , no gain. It does not cost you anything and it won't make you a lesser person if you email him.
At least you will know if this fish is still there or available. Then you can either start a new chapter with him or find closure on this ... (read in full...)
My friend is going through a tough time and is really cranky
Q. I have a friend who is going through a tough time at the moment. She is sometimes arguing with my other friend and she sometimes argues with another girl. She is always complaining about how hard her life is. She gets really upset if you say...
A. 28 May 2010: I think it is wise to get off the track when you see a run away train heading in your direction.
Don't stand in the path of that crazy train. You will only be run over.
You can't stop the train , it will have to stop by itself.
If a ... (read in full...)
I love him so much but I need to leave.....but how?
Q. hi i have been in a relationship for almost 4 years and we have been through a lot together we were living together for the most of the time we have been together and i had moved out after constant arguing as it was swinging me in and out of ...
A. 27 May 2010: You need to take control of your own life and you do not need to depend on anyone for your happiness.
Focus on what are your priorities in life and go towards that direction.
You may have to demonize him and focus on all his weak and negativ... (read in full...)
Feel like we are in a relationship without the 'title' yet hes so against it
Q. I've been dating a guy for around 5 months now and have always been on the understanding that he doesn't want a girlfriend or a relationship. However of late his behaviour has changed somewhat, he calls 2-3 times a day and texts constantly, makes an ...
A. 27 May 2010: You should check his background to see if he is married or have some form of relationship with another girl.
There can be no other reasons to explain this queer arrangements .... (read in full...)
She's rejected others. What chance do I have?
Q. I'm a senior, this girl i am just smitten with has some history with me, we never dated but i was close. In the end i fell short, because i couldn't overcome fear of rejection. I've regained confidence and a year later i feel like i can do this. I ...
A. 27 May 2010: "It's better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. ...
Always think more positive and you will attract the positive's.
Your perceptions of her may not be right. She is a girl and she has a different perceptions abou... (read in full...)
Is something going on with his potential coworker?
Q. So my boyfriend gave me his Facebook password couple of months ago. We're in a long-distance relationship at the moment, and we message each other a lot on Facebook. He is planning to move here in 2 months, and I'm flying down in June to spend time ...
A. 27 May 2010: Since you have raised this issue , it is natural for him to delete those messages so that it will not be a bone of contentions between you two.
I think you should just let it go and not ask him why? Close this issue and move on . Lingerin... (read in full...)
How do I trust he's back to stay?
Q. Guys i need your help.i met this guy 2years ago while i was a student.we were head over heels about each other.we had a very great sex,letme say he was simply irrestible.he has a son,he told me his son's mother is married to another man.things ...
A. 27 May 2010: Trust him at your own perils!!! He has such a long record and if you trust him , you will go down the same road again.
Some men will never change. They will lie to get what they want. Some can even talk to those birds high in the trees and pers... (read in full...)
She says she has issues
Q. I was dating this girl for four months and we were having the best sex ever. Hears the problem she has been married twice both of them the guys have cheated on her and she has four children between the two marriages and her last husband molested one ...
A. 27 May 2010: You should thank her because nothing have changed except the tittle only . She does not want you to be pressured or go the same way as the two previous cases.... (read in full...)
Do I confront her with the discovery of her email?
Q. I recently discovered my long-term partner had been exchanging messages with an ex boyfriend on Facebook. I work away a lot and these exchanges took place while I was away in January. What concerns me is not so much that she contacted this g...
A. 27 May 2010: Some information's are useful and some information's are better left alone and never to see the day light.
What good would it do to your relationship if you were to bring it up?
Will it bring you together or will it push you further apart?
It... (read in full...)
What does love but not in love with mean?
Q. When a woman in her mid 50's is married to a man who is 60 yrs. old say's she loves her husband BUT is NOT in love with him---What exactly doe's that mean?? They have two grown sons and no grandchildren. Anyway why does she stay with him if she ...
A. 27 May 2010: "She loves him but is not in love with him." means there is no more chemistry,sexual attraction and passions .Love becomes a chore and not a pleasure.... (read in full...)
How do I get the fire back?
Q. me and my husband have been together 6 years . he used to not be able to keep his hands off me and now well i can't even get a kiss so how do i get the fire back ...
A. 27 May 2010: Men are visual creatures. You will need to change your image and overhaul your perspective of him .
Get a new hairstyle, and some new sexy clothes .Put on some makeups at home and give plenty of praises and compliments to him.
This should s... (read in full...)
We're leaving school and going our separate ways, I'm in pieces and he doesn't seem to care!
Q. I regret not making a move on this guy.. i've fancied him for over a year and he found out i liked him and didn't like me back at the time but 6 months later he started becoming really interested in me and i really have a feeling he likes or liked ...
A. 27 May 2010: You cannot really blame him for not caring about it because he asked you 5 times to the prom but you rejected him.
You may like him inside, but your body language tells him a different story.
If you like him , tell him or give him chances .... (read in full...)
"My boyfriend said that porn is disgusting but I found out he watches it"
Q. Dear Cupid, A few day a ago I found out that my boyfriend had been looking at a porn website when he stayed over at his friend's house. I heard it from both of the people he was with at the time and apparently he wanted to look at the lesbian ...
A. 27 May 2010: He is avoiding you because it has been shown that he is a liar , a hypocrite , a fake and an untrustworthy person.
Perhaps,he felt that it was very embarrassing and not worthy of your love anymore.... (read in full...)
If a man has cheated in a previous relationship/marriage, is it likely that it will happen again?
Q. If a man has cheated in a previous relationship/marriage, is it likely that it will happen again? I have been dating a very nice man for 6 months. He has been divorced for 10 yrs, I've been divorced for 5. I asked what happened in his marriage, ...
A. 26 May 2010: Try to think more positively. Life is more pleasurable if your thoughts are always positive.
There is no way you can tell if a person will cheat on you .The only person who can tell is God.
We all go through life and make many mistakes be... (read in full...)
Cheating with a married man for 4 years, does he love me?
Q. hi!4 years now i had realationship with a married man.we always have good sex good realation but her wife find out.but even if his wife knows about this.we still together.so many things happend so many fight but yet we have each other.is he really ...
A. 26 May 2010: In Asian cultures, a man may keep 2 or 3 mistresses or unofficial wives.
He probably loves you but you are only the second best unless you legally become his second wife.... (read in full...)
Strong feelings for my cousin's husband
Q. I have strong feeling 4 my causins husband.My causin past away last year (june) since then he didn't have a girlfriend.i clean his house and do his washing every friday,i even wash his under wears.he gives me money and buys me presents.how do i know ...
A. 26 May 2010: He gave you money and buys you presents. Those are his love language. If he does not love you , he would ask you to leave.... (read in full...)
I love him, I don't think he feels the same, what do I do?
Q. Hello Here is the thing, I think I'm in love with my best friend, which is not good, one because I feel guilty for liking him when he trusts me and sees me as his bff. And because I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same, so I don't wanna get hurt...
A. 26 May 2010: Just accept the situation that nothing can come out of this relationship. Go back to the same level as before and treat him like a best friend and nothing more.... (read in full...)
He wants me in his life even though he has a g/f
Q. i know this guy for over 2 years, we hangout everyday he introduced me to his friends i met his mom he met my mom and my sister. he tries hard to make me part of his life. he even told me he likes me but when it comes to actually being together he ...
A. 26 May 2010: He is in the chase ,just for the thrill of it.He is not ready to commit or serious yet and only wanting to keep scores.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend won't let me near his cellphone, is he cheating on me??
Q. My boy friend always locks his cell phone and always textin he dont let me answer his phone but i let him get my phone. i want to know is he cheatin on me....
A. 26 May 2010: Demand that he show you his phone or accuse him of cheating.
If he loves you and respects you , he will show it. Otherwise, he is most probably cheating on you .... (read in full...)
I can't stop worrying about being pregnant, please help!
Q. Soooo, yesterday night, my bf and i were fooling around...i gave him a blow job and he finished by himself, then a little while later he fingered me. I read today that you can get pregnant this way, so i called a sexual health hotline and talked to ...
A. 26 May 2010: Your chances of getting pregnant is like striking the Lotto, 1 in 25 millions. Just relax and I am sure you are not that lucky to strike the first prize.
No contraceptive methods are 100% foolproof. Plan B is only 95 % effective if taken within 2... (read in full...)
She doesn't think I can change...
Q. Hi im 47 and my ex girlfriend is 55 we were together for 2 years i left a partner and three kids for this lady now she has kicked me out because she felt that i was putting a lot of pressure on her cause we used to argue every weekend because i was ...
A. 26 May 2010: Make her your priority . Take an active interest in what she is doing everyday and be there to offer your help or your hand or your company.
In time she will see the change in you .... (read in full...)
Will the guilt ever go away?
Q. My boyfriend and i of 5 years have been going through some rough times but were really trying to get through them. I have trust issues even though i know he would never do anything. Well i just became the worst hippocrite because i recently fooled ...
A. 26 May 2010: The guilt will never go away but if you confess it before God and asked for His forgiveness,it will not bring you pain anymore.
You need to forgive yourself too and don't be too harsh in judging yourself.
God has a way to teach us when we have ... (read in full...)
Have not had sex yet, invited to his house alone, what should I expect?
Q. Yeah we are both in our early twenties and we only just made out (passionate) and some light touching. We've been seeing each other for a while and only just got physical. Now he's inviting me to his house no one there. Does he think we are...
A. 26 May 2010: Anything can happen because you are all alone. You will have to be prepared for it . If you are going to have sex, make sure it is safe sex.
If you don't want to have any sex, stay off from lonely or private places or where you are alone with him... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to date a reformed player?
Q. I have known this guy Steve for a few years, he is a friend of a friend. He was a total player,dating more girls then I can count and totally disrespecting them. A few months ago we were talking on facebook and we ended up staying up all night ta...
A. 26 May 2010: There are risks in everything you do . Life is a gamble.
He may have been a player before and that phase could be over for him . Perhaps, he is now ripe to settle down and to find the right partner.
Trust with your own eyes and your own int... (read in full...)
Am I making a fool of myself, or is my friend just making trouble?
Q. ok so here's the thing I really need another point of view cos this problem is starting to drive me crazy. I work with this guy he is younger than me by 3 years, we get on really well and are very close and I will admit that I am attracted to him...
A. 26 May 2010: If a man is not interested in you , he will not spend his worth while time with you . He would only talk in monosyllables and only on work related issues.
Just flow with the current.... (read in full...)
Do I give up my dream for my girlfriend or my girlfriend for my dream?
Q. Hi all, Since a young age I have wanted to move abroad. My rule of life is that the world is a large place and England is almost nothing on the globe, so go and explore!! I am 19 now and I know it will be years until I have the funds, ...
A. 26 May 2010: You will have to decide if it is her or your dreams.
Perhaps you need to realize your dreams first, to see the world before you want to settle down to mundane life with someone.... (read in full...)
Did I mis-read the signals?
Q. Its silly, I've been married but I've never really been on a normal "date". I met my ex on the internet - our relationship was somewhat abusive and I was socially isolated for most our relationship so I tend to be socially behind my peers, and even ...
A. 25 May 2010: I don't think it was foolish or stupid to ask him out that way. This is one avenue where you can let him know about your feelings for him .Since he is too shy to ask you out and this is the best way to tell him. The rest is up to him .
Where... (read in full...)
My husband makes me feel like a plain Jane.
Q. I've been married for about three years and I find myself less intimate with my husband. I feel like I always have to compare myself with other women. I have a low self esteem because his eyes wonder even if I'm there. I've seen things on his phone, ...
A. 25 May 2010: Thanks for your update.
It is a great pleasure to hear that you have found the spark again in your marriage. Don't let those problems get you down. Overcome them and live a happy and joyful life.
All the best to you !... (read in full...)
I miss my ex, but there is a new guy in my life, should I give him a chance or clear things up with my ex first?
Q. Long story short, my ex-bf broke up with me almost 2 months ago. I miss him terribly. He wants to remain friends with me on skype and whenever he logs on and I am online tries to talk to me, but there are no other signs of him wanting me back (one ...
A. 25 May 2010: Your ex b/f has commitment problems and is too immature to have any meaningful relationship. He is not ready for any commitments .Don't waste your time over him because he has lots of growing up to do.
It is good that you have another choice. ... (read in full...)
Desperate for a second chance
Q. I am in need of some desperate advice. Recently my girlfriend and I broke up. We have been together roughly a year. The break up occurred due to a 4 day full blown argument. The argument started for the following subjects; abstinence, friends, ...
A. 25 May 2010: Your chances of reconciliation is very bright. You only need to make her your priority and everything will go smoothly in your relationship.
Keep up the hard work and never criticize or complain about her but instead offer her genuine praises ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the bitterness I feel towards the other woman?
Q. My partner cheated on me and this is not a question about him. I've been dealing with it with him. It's about the girl. I have taken so much anger out on him but she walked away with having no affect in her life and ruining mine. He knew her, had...
A. 24 May 2010: You should not have any bitterness in your heart. The fire that burns in you , burns you more than her.
There is Karma and she will reap what she sowed. Leave it to Karma . Forgive her and find closure to this issue.
If you do not forgive her,... (read in full...)
Why wont my boyfriend hold my hand?
Q. Hi,Im 13 yrs old i love by Boyfriend we've been going out for 2 months but we dont hold hands and i c all these happy couples around me holding hands then i look at us and we r like a billion miles away frm each other.this bothers me. what bothers ...
A. 24 May 2010: He could be shy or is not used to it. You will need to initiate holding his hands until he feels comfortable enough or from much practice.
Perhaps, you need to ask him that question and see what he has to say.... (read in full...)
I feel trapped in my marriage and don't know what to do
Q. I'm very unhappy with my marriage and I am really fed up and want to finish it but don't know what to do. I do all the housework and gardening and shopping and work full time. I have lots of friends and get involved in lots of local activities...
A. 24 May 2010: You will need to formulate a plan to leave him. When you are well prepared, you will leave him to his own devices and survival.
You will need to take back control of your life and by leaving him,you will break his will and obstinacy.
This is... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend a little possesive or am I over reacting??
Q. me and my boyfriend has been together a year and my sis thinks hes obsessed with me because hes weird...hes always telling me im his and trying to force me to say im your all tha time..and he tryed to fight my best guy friend for putting a pick of ...
A. 24 May 2010: He is mentally and physically abusing you . You need to put your foot down and stand up to him over this kind of behaviours.
If he does not respect you and will not change, you will have to kick him to the kerb.
If you stay , it will graduate... (read in full...)
Desperate for a second chance
Q. I am in need of some desperate advice. Recently my girlfriend and I broke up. We have been together roughly a year. The break up occurred due to a 4 day full blown argument. The argument started for the following subjects; abstinence, friends, ...
A. 24 May 2010: Now is not the time to talk about marriage but about repairing your broken down communication lines.You need to keep them open if you want any chances of getting her back.
She may want to extract your pound of flesh and blood for that mistake ... (read in full...)
Desperate for a second chance
Q. I am in need of some desperate advice. Recently my girlfriend and I broke up. We have been together roughly a year. The break up occurred due to a 4 day full blown argument. The argument started for the following subjects; abstinence, friends, ...
A. 24 May 2010: There are two methods you can use. The first method is to call her out and you discuss those issues until you will reach a consensus.
If this method does not work, you will have to cut her off completely and do not show your sadness but to enjoy... (read in full...)
I love him, I don't think he feels the same, what do I do?
Q. Hello Here is the thing, I think I'm in love with my best friend, which is not good, one because I feel guilty for liking him when he trusts me and sees me as his bff. And because I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same, so I don't wanna get hurt...
A. 24 May 2010: Keep your distance from him and if he is interested in you, he will cross over to join you .
Keep your options open . If he see's your doors are opened and he does not want to enter, it means that he is not interested . Cast your nets in another ... (read in full...)
My husband makes me feel like a plain Jane.
Q. I've been married for about three years and I find myself less intimate with my husband. I feel like I always have to compare myself with other women. I have a low self esteem because his eyes wonder even if I'm there. I've seen things on his phone, ...
A. 21 April 2010: You should seek your own happiness. You do not have to depend on him for your happiness.
Think of those things that you want to do.Go and do it and you will feel much happier and it will increase your self esteem and confidence.... (read in full...)
My husband makes me feel like a plain Jane.
Q. I've been married for about three years and I find myself less intimate with my husband. I feel like I always have to compare myself with other women. I have a low self esteem because his eyes wonder even if I'm there. I've seen things on his phone, ...
A. 20 April 2010: How a man treats his wife can make or break her. If there is love in the relationship, she will have joy and radiant in her face. If love is not there, the woman's countenance will suffer and she will always be sad.
You need to go back to the b... (read in full...)
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