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writes:I've been dating a guy for around 5 months now and have always been on the understanding that he doesn't want a girlfriend or a relationship. However of late his behaviour has changed somewhat, he calls 2-3 times a day and texts constantly, makes an effort to see me everyday, holds my hand and kisses me in public and does lots of other little things. For example I've been kinda I'll lately and he drove me to all my doctors appointments (taking time off of work) and did/paid for my last 3 grocery shops. He also booked a vacation for us soon.It really is as if we are in a relationship as far as I can see but he still says he wouldn't treat me as I deserve and we shouldn't be a couple.I really don't get it? Aside from the "title" I totally feel like we are together. I'd take it easy and go along with it but in truth I hate having to play it down and be strictly "just friends" when his family or our friends are around.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 You should check his background to see if he is married or have some form of relationship with another girl.
There can be no other reasons to explain this queer arrangements .
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 May 2010):
But he's said you're not, and has made it clear that he doesn't want to have a girlfriend. I think he's happy for you to be more of a casual friend. But if you're looking for more, at this time you won't get it from this man. I think you want more, and I think you're setting yourself up for a lot of pain here.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 He likes you and he likes spending time with you,but he does not want to date you exclusively. He's keeping his options open- if something better comes along, you can't accuse him of cheating since you are "just friends ". Maybe he is not even looking around right now, but ,as much as he likes you, he knows that you are not his final choice- his preferences may change.
A very telltale sign is that you have to tune it down in front of family and friends. If a guy is really into you, he will be naively proud of flaunting you in front of people he knows, in fact he will tend to overplay your level of involvement.
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