Should we own up to her partner?
Q. I recently bumped into an old friend from school and college, who had been away at university for a while. She had come home for the Summer. She was the girl who took my virginity, and so when I met her again after a while, the inevitable happe...
A. 22 May 2010: You are assuming a lot of things. Her friends saw you both leaving.You assume that she will tell him eventually. You assume that she is not good at keeping things.Your assumptions could be wrong.
It would be better to sit tight and do nothing.... (read in full...)
My job, car, and house suddenly don't seem good enough to ask for her hand!
Q. Hi, I am under a little bit of stress over my relationship. We have been together for 3 years and had plans real soon of asking for her hand; however all of the sudden my job, car and where I live gets brought up. Funny thing is that it wasn't ...
A. 22 May 2010: That is a red flag. She has now realized the importance of money . Maybe , she is comparing with someone who is better than your financially and is regretting some.Hence those new standards for you .
No matter what you do , it will never be near ... (read in full...)
I don't understand the things he said when we were making out
Q. I let my boyfriend of 3 weeks finger me yesterday. Before he did he asked if it was okay and I said yes, if I was allowed to touch me. He said "I'm not as exciting." What did he mean by this? I ended up just kind of rubbing him through his jeans ...
A. 22 May 2010:
Here is my take .
He said "I'm not as exciting." Probably meant that he was not very experienced and may not be able to satisfy you or do a very good job.
"But in the middle of that I felt what seemed like a hot liquid maybe?"
You co... (read in full...)
She makes it seem like I'm the bad guy and says stuff like "you're my bestfriend, my only real friend" which is true.
Q. Long story short, I've been with my girlfriend for 2.5 years. I have found out one year into the relationship she got bored of me and thought I didn't care anymore and started flirting with guys and eventually a year later she leaves me for a guy ...
A. 22 May 2010: "You're my best friend my only real friend" This is only true when you allow her to stay at your place and you provide all her needs. She is only marking time at your place until she finds another one.
It is better to rear a dog than her. At least... (read in full...)
Am I missing something here with my boyfriend, wedding rings and man code???
Q. Been with my b/f 5 years and we've discussed marriage in the near future, like this summer. We're not planning a big wedding, in fact we want to just elope in Vegas, no frills. I've been looking at rings (nothing elaborate or extremely expensive) ...
A. 22 May 2010: Oh! That's the way some men would pretend to show their pseudo concerns but inside, they are glad that the ring episode is over. Nothing to get worked up over this.
They are glad that you did not drag them through 10 miles of walking through ... (read in full...)
17 and pregnant. Can my parents stop me from moving out?
Q. I am 17 years old and I live in Kentucky. I am pregnant. Can my parents stop me from moving in with my baby's father? Thank you. ...
A. 22 May 2010: If you are under 18 in Kentucky, your parents can obtain a warrant from the police to have you returned home if you are living in a place that puts you in need of protection.
Whether they will do that or not depends on the circumst... (read in full...)
Who do I trust, God or my friends?
Q. So I have been in a relationship with a gal for over 2 years. we agrued alot. till 2 months ago I stopped. after nearly 5 weeks of not fighting or arguing with her, she decided its over... My heart feels broken. Had dreams of mairrage ect.. I believ...
A. 22 May 2010: Never trust anyone except God. He will never turn His back on you .
The thing about God is not to have blind faith. Open your eyes and use your brain too. God gave us a brain to think.... (read in full...)
My parents don't approve of my 20 year-old boyfriend
Q. i am 15 (and appear 17.. to some).and i have always been told that i am very mature for my age as far as the way i behave, talk and the way relate with adults.i am already in the eleventh grade and ready to graduate next year (two years ahead of my ...
A. 22 May 2010: I am sorry for what you are going through.It is not the end of the world yet. You only had a temporary setback and you will soon get over it.
This experience will teach you about patience, love and life.You will become stronger when it is over.
... (read in full...)
Should we own up to her partner?
Q. I recently bumped into an old friend from school and college, who had been away at university for a while. She had come home for the Summer. She was the girl who took my virginity, and so when I met her again after a while, the inevitable happe...
A. 22 May 2010: Why do you want to rat on your friend? Do you want her to get into trouble?... (read in full...)
We argued, broke up, now I want him back, what can I do??
Q. Here's the thing: My boyfriend and I broke up a while ago because he didn't know what he wanted and also wanted to be more independent as we're both only young. Because I was confused as to whether we were still together or not, I ended the ...
A. 22 May 2010: Sorry to hear that. You did all you could and there's nothing more you can do except to move on and have no more contact with him.
If he is yours , he will come back to you . He sounds rather immature.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend really has an interest in me or shes just using me or avoiding me
Q. hey guys, I was wondering if my girlfriend really has an interest in me or shes just using me or avoiding me. We started dating about a week ago but shes so confusing. She dosent like talking on the phone and never talks to me on myspace anymore. ...
A. 21 May 2010: You are her meal ticket. She is not really interested in you other than being a provider for her needs.
... (read in full...)
He has been flirting with other girls on Facebook, and he doesn't even see this as being a problem!
Q. i recently opened up a facebook account to keep in touch with my old school mates however when i went onto my bf of 2 years page i saw that he had been flirting with some girls online saying things such as oh you such a hottie and calling other ...
A. 21 May 2010: If I am a man ,I would also give the same answer like that. This is to justify my flirting's with the other girls and continue to indulge in my favourite pastime without considering your feelings.(Those excuses are all lies and B/S to pacify and ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant?
Q. I am freaking out I got my period twice this month, I'm soppouse to be taking birth control but I'm not I only took one pill and that's it. So my first period started on may the 3rd ended on the 7th then again on may the 16th and ended last night ...
A. 21 May 2010: If your periods are coming less than 23 days apart (counted from the beginning of one to the beginning of the next), then you should see your gynecologist.
A biopsy may be necessary to rule out an abnormal thickening of the uterine lining. ... (read in full...)
He has been flirting with other girls on Facebook, and he doesn't even see this as being a problem!
Q. i recently opened up a facebook account to keep in touch with my old school mates however when i went onto my bf of 2 years page i saw that he had been flirting with some girls online saying things such as oh you such a hottie and calling other ...
A. 21 May 2010: You may think you are silly now but if you leave his flirting s on FB unchecked, some day you will learn to regret this decision or yours. The small boy if undisciplined will grow up into a big demon.
You may not be able to see further down the... (read in full...)
"I'm terrified of dying and leaving my wife"
Q. Hello. I'm not sure if anybody can really help me but I need it. I broke up from a bad relationship around 4 years ago. It was so bad that I spent the next four months on a downward spiral. I drank every night but what's worse is that I started u...
A. 21 May 2010: Life and death is not in our hands. Nobody knows which hour or day he will die. Even the fit and the very young can die before their time too.
There is nothing you can do to change your destiny.All you can do is to go on living and enjoy each day... (read in full...)
Why do a lot of older people think that teenagers don't know what true love is?
Q. Hey i was wondering why do not all, but alot of older people think that teenagers dont know what true love is? and that it wont work out in the end? Because my boyfriend asked me to marry him, I said yes. I am 17 and my boyfriend is about 7 months ...
A. 21 May 2010: School life is like a cocoon world where you are provided fully and protected from the harsh realities of the real world.
The real world is outside when you start to work for a living and when you have to face everything on your own.
You can... (read in full...)
He has been flirting with other girls on Facebook, and he doesn't even see this as being a problem!
Q. i recently opened up a facebook account to keep in touch with my old school mates however when i went onto my bf of 2 years page i saw that he had been flirting with some girls online saying things such as oh you such a hottie and calling other ...
A. 21 May 2010: No doubt he is telling the truth that it was just a bit of fun but he does not really feel or realize the full implications of what is going through your mind.
Little issues may become big issues when you don't pay attention to them. Now, he only ... (read in full...)
I can't stand my boyfriend any more!
Q. Hi... I live with my boyfriend. and i just cant stand him anymore. He smokes pot and he trys to force me to smoke and i hate that. Also he got mad because i didnt wanna smoke, i was watching t.v and he turned it off because he i didnt want to smoke. ...
A. 20 May 2010: Don't be a doormat or a martyr. You won't gain anything but have more to lose if you stay in this relationship.
It will get worse and worse as he will pummel you more until you will lose your self esteem and confidence. Do not let him abuse yo... (read in full...)
Do I have a right to ask my boyfriend to remove certain girls off his facebook friends list?
Q. Do I have a right to ask my boyfriend to remove certain girls off his facebook friends list? A long time ago I broke up with him and he ended up sleeping with someone shortly after. He says it meant nothing and we've worked through this. I ...
A. 20 May 2010: If it does not give you any peace, you have a right to tell him to remove that girl from the list.
After all , your peace is more important than having that girl on his FB list.I am sure , he will delete it because it affects your emotions... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend just using me for sex?
Q. my gf and i have been together 2yrs. im the lst female she has ever dated. she says she is in love with me but when we have sex she wont pleasure me and i always pleasure her. she wont even use a toy on me. is she just using me for sex or does she ...
A. 20 May 2010: She could have a different sexual orientation from you and maybe in time , she will learn to pleasure you back.
Maybe, you need to communicate to her about it and tell her your feelings.... (read in full...)
What should I do about my relationship with my dad? I feel sorry for him but I cant help but hate him
Q. My father had a risky operation yesterday and when he called me afterwards I was genuinely disappointed that he had survived. I know this sounds truly horrible, but he is a bad person. My parents divorced when I was three after a very turbulent r...
A. 20 May 2010: You may want to keep your relationship with your father at a distant but you need to forgive him for all those wrongs .
It is all in the past and do not let the past rob you of your happiness.Forgiveness will also rid the hatred in your heart.
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend says I'm embarrasing!
Q. I don't dance. I don't drink. But I'm a girly-girl, I love to go out and have fun with my friends and him. Today I asked him how come you never take me clubbing?" we been together 2 years. He had the audacity to say to me "out of all the people I...
A. 20 May 2010: If he can go clubbing without you ,then you can go clubbing with your friends. See how he would respond to that idea.
Learn to dance and it don't take much effort to learn dancing.
... (read in full...)
Got fired because my ex married the boss
Q. Years ago I dated a woman for a little while and then we broke up. We were only together for a few months. We did not stay in contact. I had a job working for a small company for ten years. In all that time I have seen a lot of people come and ...
A. 20 May 2010: I am very sorry about your latest development. Try to think more positive .
Everything happens for a reason and I hope you will find a better paying job soon. It could be a blessings in disguise as pinktopaz said.
Wishing you all t... (read in full...)
He has been flirting with other girls on Facebook, and he doesn't even see this as being a problem!
Q. i recently opened up a facebook account to keep in touch with my old school mates however when i went onto my bf of 2 years page i saw that he had been flirting with some girls online saying things such as oh you such a hottie and calling other ...
A. 19 May 2010: If you feel that way , I think you need to talk to him where are your limits and boundaries and he will then know what is or is not appropriate.
Flirting could be just a past time for him and as long as it is within reasonable limits, it should b... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or something else?
Q. ok so im a little freaked out but not that much. I have been spotting for a week and a half now. I am not supposed to start my period for another 6 days. i am on birth control and this has never happened before ever while on birth control. also ...
A. 19 May 2010: You should put your mind at ease as your b/f has spoken positively about it.
Sometimes , those test may only detect it on the 2nd week.If you need a quick result, you could go to the doctor for a pregnancy test.They use the blood test and it i... (read in full...)
Boyfriend cheated on me with my friend, can I trust him again?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We have been extremely happy together. We hardly have even have gotten into fights. Recently I have noticed that he has been a little more distracted. Our friend did move in with us a month or so ...
A. 19 May 2010: I think you should give him a second chance. You have known him for 3 years and you are the better judge of his character.
Nobody is perfect and in life, sometimes we are faced with new challenges and we may fail the first time.
Time will hea... (read in full...)
Co-Workers Flirting!
Q. I was at my job and starting and about a year and a half ago I noticed what I think is two co-workers flirting with one another. One of them is married and I know the partner. If you were in a position to tell the married partner whether there was ...
A. 19 May 2010: See no evil, hear no evil and speak no evil and life will be more peaceful and pleasant.
Do not go looking for troubles or troubles will find you .
Do not meddle in other's affairs . They will reap what they sow.
... (read in full...)
Do women love being romanced?
Q. Do women love romance? A romantic dinner walk or special place to go?...
A. 19 May 2010: Show me a woman who does not love romance ! Romance is the essence of their life. It is the elixir of life .Without love and romance, no relationship can survive.
After a crazy day at the office or at home minding the kids, nothing is better t... (read in full...)
He'd been distant, so I broke up by text. But I don't understand his reply!
Q. So my bf has been very distant towards me. Actually he straight up stopped talking to me after a fight we had about my jealousy issue. I understand he needed time to cool off. It was a week then he called me, but I was in the middle of something and ...
A. 19 May 2010: If he loves and cares for you ,he would seek you out to find out the problems. Or if he knows what is the problem, he would talk to you to settle it.
If he does not, it means that he is not bothered or you are no more on his priority list.
... (read in full...)
He dumped me on my birthday! Help!
Q. Help plz!!!!!!!!! My boyfriend said he had a suprise for me on my b-day and then for the suprize he dumped me. Guess what my b-day was 3 wks ago and I still cant get ovr him what shuld ii do...
A. 19 May 2010: If he is a worthy guy ,he would not want you to shed tears for him. He is very cruel to do that to you .
Don't shed anymore tears for him or give him any more of your tears.
He was not meant to be yours ,for God has arranged for a better b/f... (read in full...)
Parents Versus Boyfriend! Help!!!
Q. Im in love with my boyfriend of 8 months, hes gorgeous, smart, funny, polite, he doesn't do drugs, hes never been in trouble with the police and yet even after all this hes still not good enough for my mum and step dad. He isn't allowed to my house ...
A. 19 May 2010: Your cannot blame your mom because she knows where her bread is buttered. She would rather sacrifice you than to be on his bad side .
There is not much you can do about the situation. You need to make peace with your mom and step dad and compromi... (read in full...)
He cried when he found out his ex had a new boyfriend!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for six months and we really like each other. There's only one problem. He keeps bringing up his ex. They were together for 8 months and he still has pictures of her on his phone and computer and talk on ...
A. 19 May 2010: Be there for him and have more patience, compassion's and understandings. You do not need to offer him any solutions but just lend him your ears.
Grieving is a process of healing and it is only a matter of time he will be fine again. Time is ... (read in full...)
Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?
Q. I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...
A. 18 May 2010: Marieclair,
If you think ,I am judging her, you are entitled to your opinions.
One buys sex and the other sells sex.That is my observation and they are birds of the same feathers. If you called that judging , then I have nothing to say. ... (read in full...)
Pregnant by my step father's brother
Q. I am pregnant by my stepfather's brother (step uncle). I have a 1/2 brother (my mother and stepfather's son); what is the relationship between my brother and my daughter/son?...
A. 18 May 2010: On your family side,it would be 1/2 niece or 1/2 nephew and on your step uncle's side, it would be niece and nephew. This is the correct version (Please ignore the earlier post.)... (read in full...)
Pregnant by my step father's brother
Q. I am pregnant by my stepfather's brother (step uncle). I have a 1/2 brother (my mother and stepfather's son); what is the relationship between my brother and my daughter/son?...
A. 18 May 2010: On your family side,it would be 1/2 niece or 1/2 nephew and on your step uncle's side, it would be cousins.... (read in full...)
I fancy a guy who fancies my friend and she him. Should I make a move?
Q. Hi, I have 2 friends that like eachother but the girl doesnt want to hav a young relationship but still txts him all the time and sends him pics of herself and asks if he likes what she's wearing or her hair. Anyway, i like my the guy who still ...
A. 18 May 2010: If your guy has another picture of your friend in his heart, you will always be second best and will be setting yourself up for a terrible disappointment.
It would be unwise to move in unless the guy is after you . You can only be friends for now ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or something else?
Q. ok so im a little freaked out but not that much. I have been spotting for a week and a half now. I am not supposed to start my period for another 6 days. i am on birth control and this has never happened before ever while on birth control. also ...
A. 18 May 2010: If you have taken those pregnancy tests before your period,it would most probably come up negative as they not sensitive enough to detect the presence of the pregnancy hormone, human chorionic gonadotrophin (HCG) in your urine.
If you’re n... (read in full...)
I get the feeling this girl at my university likes me but I don't know if I'm getting the wrong end of the stick or not.
Q. I get the feeling this girl at my university likes me but I don't know if I'm getting the wrong end of the stick or not. I'm 21 and so is she. We have been friendly over the last 18 months, being part of a large group that went clubbing together ...
A. 18 May 2010: Ask her for a date and you will know where you stand with her.This would also send her a clear signal that you are interested in her.... (read in full...)
We argued, broke up, now I want him back, what can I do??
Q. Here's the thing: My boyfriend and I broke up a while ago because he didn't know what he wanted and also wanted to be more independent as we're both only young. Because I was confused as to whether we were still together or not, I ended the ...
A. 18 May 2010: You need to eat humble pie and apologize to him . Do not argue with him and accept his perspective even if you don't agree with him.
If you love him , you should try to please him and walk that extra miles for him.
Avoid those contentious issu... (read in full...)
He seems to care but his actions speak differently..why is he this way?
Q. Hi, It's been a while since I posted something, but I really need your advice. The relationship I'm in is an utter headache. We're together without the "title". We kiss, we fool around, we belong to each other--meaning we don't date any...
A. 18 May 2010: I think you are not on his priority list. You are like 'expendable .' You can come or go out in his life and it would not matter to him. You are only useful when he needs you .
Perhaps he was disappointed when you told him that you would not spen... (read in full...)
I like him but he's leaving in a month!
Q. Hey people !! Ok so i've been liking this guy since the longest and he barely started liking me. Were not a couple but we do act like it (babe, kissing, flirting, etc) I dont want to mess around with him but i do want to be with him so thats why i ...
A. 18 May 2010: Just enjoy each day as it comes.One hour is not very far .For in love, distance is no problem.
Far in space but closed at heart.... (read in full...)
Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?
Q. I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...
A. 17 May 2010: If she is using you , she will check out the size of your wallet and hit it until you feel the pain .
If she likes you , she would be generous with you and provide the things you need. She does not need your money because this vocation pays wel... (read in full...)
Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?
Q. I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...
A. 17 May 2010: Prostitutes have better understandings of men . They can accept that men are that way and sex is nothing to men because they have no emotional attachments about it.
Her business is selling sex for money and he maybe her client but it does not matt... (read in full...)
Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?
Q. I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...
A. 17 May 2010: Some girls are forced into prostitution's because they have no other choice and after being in that trade, they would hope to meet someone who would give them a better life.
It is not naive because there are men who are willing to marry prostitu... (read in full...)
Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?
Q. I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...
A. 17 May 2010: A prostitute is also a human being with feelings. She could be looking for the right man to come along and take her out of prostitution. She knows that she cannot works forever as a prostitute.
If she likes you , she would pay sometimes while on... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant or something else?
Q. ok so im a little freaked out but not that much. I have been spotting for a week and a half now. I am not supposed to start my period for another 6 days. i am on birth control and this has never happened before ever while on birth control. also ...
A. 8 May 2010: It is a high probability that you are pregnant because you were not protected when you missed taking those pills.
Pregnancy symptoms may differ from woman to woman and pregnancy to pregnancy; however, one of the most significant pregnancy symptoms... (read in full...)
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