I love him, I don't think he feels the same, what do I do?
Q. Hello Here is the thing, I think I'm in love with my best friend, which is not good, one because I feel guilty for liking him when he trusts me and sees me as his bff. And because I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same, so I don't wanna get hurt...
A. 26 May 2010: Just accept the situation that nothing can come out of this relationship. Go back to the same level as before and treat him like a best friend and nothing more.... (read in full...)
Desperate for a second chance
Q. I am in need of some desperate advice. Recently my girlfriend and I broke up. We have been together roughly a year. The break up occurred due to a 4 day full blown argument. The argument started for the following subjects; abstinence, friends, ...
A. 25 May 2010: Your chances of reconciliation is very bright. You only need to make her your priority and everything will go smoothly in your relationship.
Keep up the hard work and never criticize or complain about her but instead offer her genuine praises ... (read in full...)
Desperate for a second chance
Q. I am in need of some desperate advice. Recently my girlfriend and I broke up. We have been together roughly a year. The break up occurred due to a 4 day full blown argument. The argument started for the following subjects; abstinence, friends, ...
A. 24 May 2010: Now is not the time to talk about marriage but about repairing your broken down communication lines.You need to keep them open if you want any chances of getting her back.
She may want to extract your pound of flesh and blood for that mistake ... (read in full...)
Elp ! I want to trust him !
Q. Ok so Ive been with my Boyfriend for over year we had some problems at the begining with him leing and various other things that went very wrong last year, In August last year we split up for a month and since getting back together in September he ...
A. 24 May 2010: Thank you! You are welcome !
What you feared the most, it will come to past. Thus have no fear because perfect love cast out all fears.
You only have one life and you need to live to the fullest. There is no rewind in your life.
Worrie... (read in full...)
When you lose a baby do you bleed?
Q. Im 13 weeks pregnant and still waiting on my scan. im just worried because i dont really have symptoms of pregnancy, i have had no morning sickness, my boobs aint as sore as they were at first. the only things are is that i get tired, more hungry, ...
A. 24 May 2010:
Every woman is different when they are pregnant. Some symptoms may not appear in some .
The baby cannot just disappear. At 13 weeks , you can see the visual image at the links below.
If you fall down or experience a sudden violent movem... (read in full...)
Supplement pills and the morning after pill
Q. hey all, am really worried. i had unprotected sex wth a guy bt took the e-morning pill the following morning. i have never used the pills b4 n @ the moment am taking sm supplements tablets. will they affect the pill? wht chances do i have 2 get ...
A. 24 May 2010: If the morning after pill or Plan B pills are taken within 24 hours of unprotected sex, it is about 95% effective.
You still run the risk of being pregnant. Once conception has occurred, it becomes ineffective.
Some dietary supplements may ... (read in full...)
He was the one who wanted to live together but now I don't think he wants to!
Q. I Have been with my Boyfriend for over a year now, i am 4 months pregnant, we are looking for a place to live together, we are on the council housing list but it will take months even a couple of years to get one, a few weeks ago he applied for some...
A. 24 May 2010: There could be a misunderstanding here. It could be that those private rentals were too expensive for his liking and he may have second thoughts about renting one.
It is not about not wanting to stay with you .
Being pregnant is a very diffic... (read in full...)
Elp ! I want to trust him !
Q. Ok so Ive been with my Boyfriend for over year we had some problems at the begining with him leing and various other things that went very wrong last year, In August last year we split up for a month and since getting back together in September he ...
A. 24 May 2010: Whatever will happen will happen. You cannot change the future or things that will come to past.Everything is really fated.
Just live in the present and enjoy each day as it comes. Stop worrying whether he will cheat on you . You cannot prevent ... (read in full...)
I have trouble reading the signals -- does she like me?
Q. I really like this girl, and im fairly sure she likes me too. she says things like "if you stopped talking to me, my life would end" and how when we have missed opportunities to meet up she regrets that we didnt. My question is does she like me,...
A. 24 May 2010: If you want to know if she likes you or not, just ask her for a date. If she agrees , then she likes you .
If you are interested in her, you should let her know or you would be placed in the friend's category.... (read in full...)
2 days after sex I find part of condom in me
Q. My boyfriend and I had sex 2 days ago and today I found the top half of the condom inside of me.. Is there any danger with having had the condom(latex) inside of me for such a long period of time? HELP!...
A. 24 May 2010: Anything left in the vagina can produce bacteria. Bacteria exists due to the environment that it can grow in.
There is a higher risk or urinary tract infections.
You may also get Toxic shock syndrome if it was left inside for too long.
Do ... (read in full...)
Desperate for a second chance
Q. I am in need of some desperate advice. Recently my girlfriend and I broke up. We have been together roughly a year. The break up occurred due to a 4 day full blown argument. The argument started for the following subjects; abstinence, friends, ...
A. 24 May 2010: There are two methods you can use. The first method is to call her out and you discuss those issues until you will reach a consensus.
If this method does not work, you will have to cut her off completely and do not show your sadness but to enjoy... (read in full...)
My best friend is seeing my ex, what should I do?
Q. Last week, my friend came out to me and told me that he's been seeing my last ex girlfriend for the last month which I saw coming. I've told him exactly how I feel, that I can't say I'm happy for them, because I thought it was an unwritten rule to ...
A. 24 May 2010: If your present perspective is making you unhappy , then you need to see this issue from another perspective.
Everyone has a right to choose who they want as the g/f or b/f. We have to respect others if we want others to respect us.
You wer... (read in full...)
I love him, I don't think he feels the same, what do I do?
Q. Hello Here is the thing, I think I'm in love with my best friend, which is not good, one because I feel guilty for liking him when he trusts me and sees me as his bff. And because I'm pretty sure he doesn't feel the same, so I don't wanna get hurt...
A. 24 May 2010: Keep your distance from him and if he is interested in you, he will cross over to join you .
Keep your options open . If he see's your doors are opened and he does not want to enter, it means that he is not interested . Cast your nets in another ... (read in full...)
My parents don't like that I am in a FWB relationship
Q. I'm in a casual relationship with this girl. To be blunt all we really do is meet up and have sex every few days. What I really don't get is that people dissaprove of it, especially my parents. They say it's not right and that I should be in a ...
A. 24 May 2010: Sex and love are strong emotional forces and when unleashed , you may be swept away by the strong tides.
You may think it is just fun and nothing else. I am sure your parents are well aware of those pitfalls in a FWB or FF relationship.
You may... (read in full...)
How can you tell if a guy you've been friends with for many years has developed a crush on you.
Q. How can you tell if a guy you've been friends with for many years has developed a crush on you. We are past the point of long loving glances, as we look each other in the eyes when we talk anyway. I have fallen from him, but I don't want to screw ...
A. 24 May 2010: If a guy has no interest in you ,he would not spend his time with you .
His face would brighten up when you are around and he would like to engage you more in conversations.
He would put you first on his priorities.... (read in full...)
Are we doing the right thing by temporarily being apart? Or should I call it quits?
Q. Sorry if this ends up being long. So, I've been in an ongoing issue for the past month or so. My boyfriend cheated on me(more info on past post). We did discuss it over and over and over again. He felt like a complete dill hole(which he should h...
A. 24 May 2010: Listen to your heart and go where it tells you . Love can overcome all sins.
Don't box in yourself with those self righteous rules.... (read in full...)
Too late to end the relationship over cheating?
Q. My girlfriend cheated on me 6 months ago when I went on holiday. I told her I forgave her but the I haven't really felt the same since. She made msn her everynight and told me how much she hated me, and made my whole 2 months miserable. I have re...
A. 24 May 2010: You can end it anytime you want. If you are not happy and don't find the peace of mind, why stay on?... (read in full...)
My husband loves bj's but I don't like the taste
Q. My husband loves bjs. What guy doesn't right? Well, I hate the taste of sperm, I mean I really hate it, but I adore my husband. I went online to find spermicide free condoms to see if maybe giving him a bj with out tasting it would leave us both ...
A. 24 May 2010: Pop some peppermints in your mouth while doing it.... (read in full...)
Boys like my friend more than me, what can I do, don't want to hate her?
Q. when i met a boy it all goes well until they met my friend and then they fancy her. i dnt knw wat im doin rite. i knw this shouldnt be happin because she my friend and friends should always cum before boys but im startin to hate her 4 it. what ...
A. 24 May 2010: If you hang out with her often, it will always happen that way. The only way is to hang out with those that are not as good or as beautiful as you are. Time to change who you hang out with. The other way is not to let the boys meet her ... (read in full...)
Found a condom in my car, boyfriend cheated, do I need to know who?
Q. My bf cheated on me in my car! I was at work and later found the condom wrapper. We split for a couple of days and I really want to know who it was. Is it better to know or not know?...
A. 24 May 2010: That's pretty lowdown of him to use your car for his tryst. You are very certain it is not one of yours? If you can find out , it would be satisfying to see who that skunk is. Who do you suspect? ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my boyriend to want to hang out with other women without me??
Q. So, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 8 years. He doesn't believe in marriage, so, we're not married but we own a house together and have always been very close; the only thing a married couple has that we lack is a ring. After all ...
A. 23 May 2010: If he really cared about you he should not be going out with the other girl and her friends.He has no respects for your feelings.
I am afraid ,you have been designated as a home buddy and nothing more. Someone to come home to like a piece of furni... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't like it because I say what is on my mind
Q. My husband say's I'm mental because I say what's on my mind and if something is bothering me in our relationship. How can a person change there ways for the good of there relationship? Let the past go and live for what they have now, forget the ...
A. 23 May 2010: If some thing is bothering you and you don't say it out, how would he know what is going on in your mind?
Is he a mind reader?
Men are more stoic and keep all their feelings and problems to themselves. They bottled it up until it explodes.... (read in full...)
My ex keeps contacting me but behaves very distant.
Q. Me and my ex have been broken up now for 2 1/2 months. 3 1/2 weeks after establishing NC she contacts me telling me she's been thinking about me constantly and has been missing me incredibly. Well I kept my guard up by not acting desperate and ...
A. 23 May 2010: It is possible that she is just dangling you in mid air as she does not want to give you up but at the same time , she is not too keen on you too.
More like a stop gap measure until she finds someone better.... (read in full...)
Fiance is posting ads for bi sex
Q. I snooped into my fiance's (of 8 months) emails and discovered that he's answering and posting sex ads as a bisexual man (he posted as such). He's never discussed this with me. I don't have a problem with it as I realize that sexuality comes in ...
A. 23 May 2010: Probably , he feared that you would leave him if you come to know that he is bi sexual or have gay tendencies..... (read in full...)
I need to get away from my boyfriend!
Q. My boyfriend (Since October) is becoming increasingly controlling and passive agressive. I am scared of things getting wrose and as i have already started to have anxiety attacks I think it's best to end it. Problem, I don;t think i have the ...
A. 23 May 2010: Most women would feel powerless or mentally paralyzed like you and would be unable to leave.
You need to stop feeling sympathetic for him and harden your heart and let him find his own sources of survival and support.
Just walk away and do... (read in full...)
A complicated question about residual feelings for exes and current girlfriends...
Q. I found out that my boyfriend was looking at his ex's profile online. I snooped, I know I shouldn't, but he was acting shady. Then I confronted him about it. At first he completely denied looking at her profile, and then got angry. Later he admitted ...
A. 23 May 2010: If you love him and he treats you well, it should be good enough . No one is perfect and you cannot expect perfection in any relationships.
It is difficult to erase the past and it will always be there.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to be sad about losing your virginity; could I be pregnant?
Q. Moderator's note: two questions combined So I just started taking birth control. I've been on it for about a month now. Me and my boyfriend are usually really good about having safe sex(condom) but a couple weeks ago he didn't use one. He said tha...
A. 23 May 2010: Get a pregnancy test to confirm as no conception method is 100%. It could be the stress which caused your period to be late.
There is nothing to be sad or depressed about losing one's virginity.It just happens.... (read in full...)
All I want is to feel special and loved
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 4 years he is 22 and I am 21. He has never been an extremely affectionate person but lately he hasn't been affectionate at all or anything. He recently started working 2 jobs so all he does is work and ...
A. 23 May 2010: If he cannot give you what you want , it is time to change to a newer model. Staying put will only make your heart bleed more.
He has taken you for granted and does not know how to appreciate you anymore.When a thing is gone , then will they kno... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and says she wants to be friends
Q. omg u guys. The girl I wuz in a relationship with broke up with me last month because she said that she didnt know if she wanted a serious relationship right now. That's fine 6ut now she tell me she still tells me she wants to be just friends for ...
A. 23 May 2010: Don't be too clingy to her. It can be a big turn off. Take it slow and easy.
Take up some interesting hobbies or activities so that you won't be so fixated on her.... (read in full...)
Is it healthy to start a relationship with this guy after his GF dumped him?
Q. This guy I know, he's a friend of mine and recently was dumped by his GF. He says he loves her, but she treated him as crap after he had trouble in his finances over some bad decisions he took. The thing is the guy is broke and he realizes he has ...
A. 23 May 2010: I think it is not a good idea to start a relationship with someone who has just broken up.
Their minds and emotions are still not stabilized and they can make flip flop decisions.
Give them enough time for them to see the road ahead clear... (read in full...)
What should my Parner's child call me?
Q. I need a name for my other half's two-year old child (boy) to call me. My own name isn't an option (the child's Mother would find it annoying to keep hearing my name). My other half and his ex had split up 6 months before I started seeing h...
A. 23 May 2010: You can select from a list from the link below.
http://www.mothersdaycelebration.com/mother-in-different-languages.html
It is the word 'mother' in another foreign language.... (read in full...)
Why stinky toes?
Q. Dear Cupid. I know this isn't about sex or relationship but it's generally about my body. When I cut the nails of my big toes, I cut them as far as I can and when i do that, this horrible smell comes out and I think it's because in an already si...
A. 23 May 2010: In medical terms, toenail fungus is also known as Onychomycosis which is a very common problem in all those who ignore the hygiene of their toenails.
Microscopic fungi also known as dermatophytes are the main cause of toenail infection and fung... (read in full...)
Are men attracted to overweight women?
Q. hey aunties and uncles. I'm going to be direct with this question because I've always wanted to know. is being overweight a real turn off for boys and do they get attracted to overweight girls? I myself am not overweight or anything but I am curious ...
A. 23 May 2010: Some men are attracted to confident women and it does not matter about their sizes.
There are also overweight men and they are right for each other.
Men are attracted to overweight women because of their personality ,character and jovial natur... (read in full...)
Need help on how to win him back, what can I do?
Q. [Mod note to poster: TURN OFF YOUR CAPS LOCK. All caps is considered to be shouting and is difficult to read] Hi everyone. I love psychology and i want answers based upon men psychology. I used to have a ex bf who was obsessed with me and thou...
A. 23 May 2010:
You cannot change him but you can change yourself .When he see's the change in you, he will change also .
Be kind, be loving, be compassionate, be forgiving of his faults and in time , you will change his perspective and win him back.... (read in full...)
Managers do not think I am doing a good job but now are ignoring me
Q. Hi I started a new job just a month ago into what i thought would be a good job. A few days ago i was called into a meeting with 2 of my female managers to check my progress, and the first thing they told me was ive been doing poor in my wo...
A. 22 May 2010: You are still new on the job.What do they expect from you ? Listen to their complains and see if you can do as they wanted.
Give your best and if it is not enough, just accept whatever comes your way.... (read in full...)
Is cheating a genetical thing also?
Q. I have just read one article over the net: Cheating is in the genes. Somehow, I agree to this but not entirely. Coz I remember it now, the ex who cheated on me, together we used to talk about his brother before who was a player and a serial ch...
A. 22 May 2010: You can blame it on their genes.Otherwise, how do you explain so many in their familes are cheaters.
It could also be their culture or the way they were brought up in that type of family environments.
Whether it is true or not, it is up to... (read in full...)
I lost him for no reason, I want him back!
Q. Okay, ... So in march I had a boyfriend, called John. We lasted for two weeks, because of rumours going round saying I was cheating on him when I wasn't, the rumours took him away from me and sent him to my bestfriend, they finished two days ago...
A. 22 May 2010: When someone would rather prefer to believed in rumours, then that person is not worthy of your love.
If that person loves you , he would not care about those rumours and even if it were true, his love will overcome those negative news.
You ... (read in full...)
How can I stop finding fault in other people?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a unique problem and I want to do something about it, but it's not easy. I manage to find fault in people all the time. Not a day goes by where I don't think about something someone did that has upset me. Just a few minutes ago, ...
A. 22 May 2010: No one is perfect and we all have our faults.We should not judge others but to accept them as they are,faults, warts and all.
Have a humble attitude and respect others if you want others to respect you .
... (read in full...)
Colleague found out I was pregnant& everyone in my workplace& now denies it!
Q. I'm 7 weeks pregnant and a colleague of mine found out. I gave up smoking and was off with bad sickness so she put 2 and 2 together and figured it out. She asked me I told her I was and she promised to not say anything. I really wish I had ...
A. 22 May 2010: It had to be her and no one else.It has been done and there is nothing you can undo it.
Sometimes people make mistakes.Forgive her and do not talk to her about anything that is private or important. Sooner or later , your news will leak out.Just... (read in full...)
Do I choose the father of my child or ...
Q. Who do I choose, between father of my child who I had helped become rich and turned around and started an affair with other woman he just comes from another town or a man that I met on line and had similar problems and just hit it off but he also ...
A. 22 May 2010: It seems like your destiny is linked to the father of your child.Make the best of what you have got .
Good luck to you .... (read in full...)
Should we own up to her partner?
Q. I recently bumped into an old friend from school and college, who had been away at university for a while. She had come home for the Summer. She was the girl who took my virginity, and so when I met her again after a while, the inevitable happe...
A. 22 May 2010: You are assuming a lot of things. Her friends saw you both leaving.You assume that she will tell him eventually. You assume that she is not good at keeping things.Your assumptions could be wrong.
It would be better to sit tight and do nothing.... (read in full...)
Is sex with someone while separated classified as cheating?
Q. is sex with someone while separated classified as cheating? i have been separated from my husband for 3 months and met a guy who i known from my past as a friend and colleague, he has a partner (but he has informed me that he no longer shared a bed ...
A. 22 May 2010: If you are only separated and not divorced yet, then in the eyes of God, it is cheating. That is because you are still legally married to each other.
But if you want to follow the world's standards, then you can say you have not cheated because ... (read in full...)
My job, car, and house suddenly don't seem good enough to ask for her hand!
Q. Hi, I am under a little bit of stress over my relationship. We have been together for 3 years and had plans real soon of asking for her hand; however all of the sudden my job, car and where I live gets brought up. Funny thing is that it wasn't ...
A. 22 May 2010: That is a red flag. She has now realized the importance of money . Maybe , she is comparing with someone who is better than your financially and is regretting some.Hence those new standards for you .
No matter what you do , it will never be near ... (read in full...)
Should we own up to her partner?
Q. I recently bumped into an old friend from school and college, who had been away at university for a while. She had come home for the Summer. She was the girl who took my virginity, and so when I met her again after a while, the inevitable happe...
A. 22 May 2010: Why do you want to rat on your friend? Do you want her to get into trouble?... (read in full...)
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