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writes:I have strong feeling 4 my causins husband.My causin past away last year (june) since then he didn't have a girlfriend.i clean his house and do his washing every friday,i even wash his under wears.he gives me money and buys me presents.how do i know if he loves me too.i dont want 2 tell him,cause i respect him and he is like a brother 2 me
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (26 May 2010):
 He gave you money and buys you presents. Those are his love language. If he does not love you , he would ask you to leave.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 May 2010):
This is something you just have to get over. Perhaps it's the kindness that you've fallen in love with, and not the man. You see, you don't know him well enough to know what he's like, though you do know he's kind. I don't think he loves you in the sense that he wants to be with you, though I'm sure he cares about you because you're family. I think this is something you have to get over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2010): Well, he obviously has great affection and respect for you, but it's impossible to know whether his feelings are romantic. I think you need to let him know how you feel. That's the only way things will change in this relationship.
If he's interested in you romantically, he may be too shy to tell you, he may think it's too soon after his wife's death (perhaps he hasn't gotten over her and/or is uncomfortable about committing to another relationship), or he may be worried about rejection, not knowing how you feel about him.
If you can't tell him face-to-face, perhaps you could leave a short note where he'll find it.
Tell him in the note what you said in your post--that it's difficult for you to express your feelings, because of your respect for him, but that you are very attracted to him and would like to know if he returns these feelings. Don't use the word "love," because that might scare him off at this point.
Leave the note with a red rose if possible.
Good luck and let us know what happens. It sounds like this could be a great guy.
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