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writes:My ex and i were together for just over 1 year, we were very much in love but we argued quite a lot and decided we needed a break. This break lasted for about 4 months although the whole time we were still in contact (we did see other people). We started seeing eachother again recently as we both said we were still in love but he won't make our relationship official saying the reason is because we both go to uni in a couple of months and he doesn't want to get too attatched. (When we were together we saw eachother almost everyday whereas now its about once every week/fortnight).This upsets me as he used to be so into our relationship and used to make so much effort. We go out on dates and things and its like it was however he just doesnt make me feel as loved as he used too (not as many i love you's and nice texts etc)Do you think he actually still loves me and is just worried about uni or am i being treated like a mug? Need an outsiders opinion.. thankyou.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010): okayyyyyyyyyyyy.
me & my boyfriend were exactly the same. infact my boyfriend told me we'd break up about 3 months before i went because then it wouldn't be so hard on us both..
we're together 2 years later lol.
they just get worried we'll get distant & change. but keep it the way it is, you don't know what it's like until your doing it. me & boyfriend always fell out over us moving but we got through it because we realised we can do it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Your bf is being sensible. He knows that things may change, particularly in a relationship that was a bit frail to begin with ( you have been together less than one year, and you spent apart 4 months of it ) He knows that both of you are going to meet lots of new people ,and potential partner among them, moreover your energies are gonna be put more in studies and yr new social life than in your relationship. So he does not see the need to officialize a relationship that's gonna be relevantly tested quite soon.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 He is worried that going to the Uni may change a person and the environment may alter a person's thoughts.
They will be many hot guys out there and you may find someone better there.
He is rather insecure and does not want to make promises .After all you have already broken once and this may have some effects to his way of thinking.
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