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writes:So I was dating this guy for the last 2 and half years and I love him so much. But he has this horrible Jekyll/Hyde personality. He can be sweet and romantic and suppportive, but you say the wrong thing and he completely snaps. He makes me cry daily, and he used to hit me but not anymore. I took his abuse for a year and a half, but about a month ago, I couldnt take anymore and I broke up with him. But I miss him so much. We decided to still kiss and hug, but it reminds me of the good times when we were together. I wish I could just forget about him, but I can't. I cry every night, and I want him back. But we both know we can't be together anymore. How do I get over him?
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reader, dearjohn83  +, writes (18 April 2010):
breaking up with someone is like mourning. Allow yourself the time to mourn.
the first couple of months are the hardest but you need to cut contact and take in baby steps. once a whole week has gone past with no contact then you;ll know you can get over him.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (18 April 2010):
 You need to demonize him. Think of all his negative points and the abuses he inflicted on you and your system will reject him.
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reader, justadvise +, writes (18 April 2010):
Hey...I know that right now it seems like everything you know and see remind you of him, that's the way it goes. It's good that you two aren't together anymore, you don't need an abusive relationship like that. You miss him cause you did everything with him for the last two and a half years. The only way to get over him is time. "Time heal all wounds" Yes, it sucks in the beginning, you don't want to do anything but that's the key. You need to occupied yourself so you won't think of him as much. Go out with your friends, not alone. Doing stuff by yourself right now is not going to help. So i guess if you want short and simple answer, it would be. Time, friends, occupied yourself.
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