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Boyfriend told me he'd leave if I got pregnant, and I tested positive.

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Question - (17 April 2010) 16 Answers - (Newest, 19 April 2010)
A female United Kingdom age 22-25, *eenager writes:

I am 15 and i done a pregnancy test this morning it was positive.My boyfriend said he would leave me if i ever was what should i do?

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A female reader, single gal Botswana +, writes (19 April 2010):

go to the doctor, get checked for pregnancy and std's. from there if positive tell your parents and talk about the next step.

leave that guy out of it. he s not worth it.

its time to think about your possible baby and your health.

nexy time please use protection

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A female reader, jumpupshoutout United Kingdom +, writes (18 April 2010):

jumpupshoutout agony auntdeal with your boyfriend later tell your mum and dad they'll help but its your desision to keep the baby dont let them tell you diff

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A female reader, Ich_liebe_dich Philippines +, writes (18 April 2010):

Ich_liebe_dich agony auntForget him, and decide, talk to your parents, this is not a joke situation, getting pregnant is a big huge responsabilities coming ahead. so better talk to your parents as early as you can, at this age no body can really help you seriously but only the parents or at least the mother. dont wait, every seconds is running the baby is not getting small its getting big so you better think.. good luck dear..

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A female reader, ***__*** United States +, writes (17 April 2010):

You should first go to the doctors, make sure you are actually pregnant.

I've gotten false positives from the store bought pregnancy tests.

If the doctor says you are pregnant, you should really tell your boyfriend.

If he does actually leave you, get help from a close friend or tell a relative.

This isn't something thats going to go away on its own.

Also, You should debate on abortion or not or adoption.

You should really consider every possible angle of dealing with this before making a decision.

and you shouldn't let him threatening leaving be a decision maker.

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A female reader, oliviaclairex United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2010):

oliviaclairex agony auntFirst of all forget about the guy and think about yourself.

When did you last have sex with him last night, 'cause if so you could get the morning after (up to three days after you've had sex) next is the abortion pill, which i think is months after.

there's ways round this, do you want the baby or not?

if you're unsure just go to one of them free clinics, or talk to your mum.

And just think, if he says he would leave you, he's involved he can't just walk away:)xxx

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A female reader, rambini United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2010):

rambini agony aunttell your parents, go to the doctor, ditch the guy, decide what your going to do, and in future USE PROTECTION!!

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (17 April 2010):

Honeypie agony auntWell, not much YOU can do about him right now, you need to focus on YOU and what you are going to do about the pregnancy. You can not "force" him to be there for you so make sure you really understand that.

Talk to your parents, you are too young to have to go though this alone. Go have a test done at the doctors. Also if you decide to keep the baby/adopt you need to start getting prenatal care and regular doctor's visits.

Also.... don't have sex with guys unprotected. Don't have sex with guy who can't handle the responsibility of the act. Even WHEN using protection there can be a possibility of pregnancy. However using protection is always better, not on can they protect you from being in the situation you are in now, but they can also protect you from STD's..

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A female reader, xxjady91xx United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2010):

you would be a very silly girl if you put a man before your child now is the time to grow up dont you think. life is not a game

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010):

You need to think about yourself not him who care's if he leaves you it would show that he does'nt rearly care and why would you want someone that dont care about you. go to the doctors you cant realy trust them test not 100%.

good luck

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A female reader, Miamine United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2010):

Miamine agony auntIf you decide to keep the baby, he can leave you but he will still have to pay to look after the baby.

Anyway, that can wait until later, right now you've got to go and tell your mum.

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2010):

Tell your parents. If he leaves, you'll know he was a rubbish man. But you must tell your parents.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (17 April 2010):

Having sex = risk getting pregnant.

He says he'll leave you if you ever get pregnant = don't have sex with him.

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A female reader, terrifenby United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2010):

terrifenby agony auntWell firstly if he said that then why wasnt he using protection? And why werent you on the pill? That aside you need to go see the doctor to confirm that you are pregnant and they will give you advice on what you need to do! You need to tell an adult you cant go through this on your own! Tell your boyfriend and if he walks away then you should stay well clear of him in future. If he is man enough to help make a baby then he should be man enough to stick around! I know that your head is all over the place at the moment but you need to tell some one soon the longer you leave it the harder it gets!

Your parents might go mad but at the end of the day they love you and will help you through this whatever your decision. You are still their baby.. So talk to them.

Hope this has helped.


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A female reader, kerry169 United Kingdom +, writes (17 April 2010):

kerry169 agony aunt1st things 1st get to the docs and comfirm it they cannot tell your mum r dad so it is safe

2nd u need to tell your boy that u r pg

3rd u need to tell ur mum and dad and his (just becos he may not be willing to help dont mean his mum n dad not)

4th consider ur choices.

look love you will be fine if he runs then let him run but he may just be scared, it will be hard but in the end it will be worth it, also were u2 using condom r were u on the pill?

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A male reader, Heartbroken in love United States +, writes (17 April 2010):

This is the most jackass and selfish thing a guy could ever do or say. Its worse than cheating. He does not care about you if he would say that. You know even if he apologizes to you it still won't matter. A guy would never say that to a girl he loves and cares for. Even if he was scared. You should talk to that people that do care about you and will comfort you. The people that make you feel safe and secure cause this guy will not do that. Good luck hun

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (17 April 2010):

Laura1318 agony auntTalk to your parents or your school counselor or the pregnancy help centre near you to find out what are the best options for you.

Forget about that coward.He is too immature and of no help except to run away and leave you to carry the baby all alone.

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