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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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I guess I'm looking for a little reassurance does this guy like me... I'm confused?
Q. ok I've been seeing this guy alomst 5 months. its been a bit of a strange one. we have talked almost everyday,since we met, we've seen each other as much as we can (he lives some miles from me) and its him doing the travelling. he has said he needs ...
A. 26 July 2007: Well it sounds like he does as you say he seems to be stepping the relationship up a bit now, i think you are just going to have to wait and see how things go.
If you start questioning him about how he feels he might run a mile, it's still earl... (read in full...)
Raped by my ex last night.
Q. Hi, need advice and help please. I was raped last night by my ex, i let him in as he said he wanted to talk, anyway we were chatting normally he then tried it on, told him i wasn't interested, he forced himself on me. I couldn't fight back, i froz...
A. 26 July 2007: Good on you babe, you are doing the right thing and you will be fine.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He showed their sex tape at a party.
Q. So i have been dating my gf for about 6 9 months and it's all going great except for the fact she sometimes talks to her ex's.. she doesn't call them they call her but she is to nice not to pick up.. the one that really upsets me and i don't w...
A. 25 July 2007: I think if she can get over it and forgive, then so should you.
She is only talking to them and she obviously tells you about it so i would not worry.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he is cheating.
Q. I have been married for a little over a year, my husband and I fight constantly. I think he is cheating but I am not sure. I found a few phone numbers but nothing that confirms he has dated or had sex with another women. He has outside children...
A. 25 July 2007: If you do not trust him, maybe it would be best for you to move out and move on with your life, as i really believe no relationship can work without trust.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He kissed someone else by mistake.
Q. Boyfriend of 3 years kissed a coworker by mistake i want him back he dont want to be with her and he dont feel the same about the relationship he dont think we can get back what we had HELP!!!...
A. 25 July 2007: You don't kiss people by mistake, ok he might have regreated it but he knew what he was doing.
Maybe the fact that he told you and has now said he does not think you can get back what you had, is his way of getting out of the relationship.
Best ... (read in full...)
We ahve to children and i have just found out he cheated on me in my last pregnancy.
Q. Ive been with my fiance for 6yrs and we have two kids 2getha. During my last pregnancy there were rumours going around that he'd cheated on me with a girl from our local,he admitted to cheating but it not been her. He has just confessed to me that ...
A. 25 July 2007: Only you can make that decision babe.
Do you think you can get over this and you will be able to trust him again?
How long ago did this happen?, are you convinced he has been faithful sinc then.
People do make mistakes and if you love them that mu... (read in full...)
Is ten years too big a difference?
Q. There is 10 years difference between myself and my girlfriend. She is 47 and I'm 37. She has been married and divorced but has no kids. I'm not sure if I still want kids. I do care for her and enjoy being with her, but don't know if 10 years is...
A. 25 July 2007: You are both adults so there is only a problem if you think it is a problem.
What i would suggest though is you try to find out if she wants children because if you don't then she needs to know, so at least she has the opportunity to be with some... (read in full...)
I have an undiagnosed mental health problem and my partner says he doesn't love me any more
Q. Please help, I don't know who to turn to. My partner of 12 years told me a week ago that he no longer loves me and has been feeling this way for months. The reason he gave is that I have been suffering from an undiagnosed mental illness and won't ...
A. 25 July 2007: My husband told me the same thing almost a year to the day, he said he no lomger loved me and that was after twelve years.
He moved out a moved in with some one else in feb, we are now back together and he tells me daily that he loves me and also... (read in full...)
He set me up to catch me snooping.
Q. Until two weeks ago, I had been living with my boyfriend for the last year. Over the last 6 months, I have had some major trust issues with our relationship. I had been finding some emails and texts to other girls that were questionable, so I ...
A. 25 July 2007: It's only a thought but have you considered he might just be turning this all around on you and just covering his own back.
You say 'we decided it would be best if i move out', was that really a joint decision or was it something he suggested, and ... (read in full...)
Is it easier the second time round.
Q. I had a baby 3 1/2 months ago. I had a very tough labor. I was induced, and it didn't work, but the hospital staff refused to break my water until the 2nd day I was there. I had really bad nurses who seemed very inexperienced. I was in labor 40 hrs....
A. 25 July 2007: Most of us have bad experiences the first time round babe and thats partly due to the fact we are going into it blind, i found the second was a million times easier than the first, i was more in control as i kind of knew what to expect and it's ... (read in full...)
Shall i give him another chance.
Q. I need advice. I have just split up with my fiance as he has kissed another girl. i dumped him once before because of the same thing. However, he promised that he could make me trust him and we got back together. Since then, I have never reall...
A. 25 July 2007: If you don't think you will ever be able to trust him again there is not alot of point getting back together, as that is one of the most important things in a relationship.
Go with what you think though as friends always say don't go back and if i... (read in full...)
We are both 16, and we want a baby.
Q. Me (16 in 5 days) and my boyfriend (16) really want to have sex and have a baby, we have had safe sex and now want the real thing, but we are both are in the middle of some A levels. we have our own flat together so it is not like any of our parents ...
A. 25 July 2007: Babe the fact that you are asking for advice about both of these issues says it all to me.
If you wanted to have a baby and get engaged you would not need to ask anyone.
I was just nineteen when i had my first child, and love him i do but i think ... (read in full...)
17 and 27, is that a problem?
Q. I'm 17 and I've just started to get involved with this guy who is 27, is this wrong?...
A. 25 July 2007: It's only a problem if you or him see it as a problem, you are both adults so you can do what you want.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Still a virgin at 25!
Q. Hello. I am almost 25 years old and still a virgin. I went to 2 boys schools as a child, so up until I left school at around 18, I hadn't had much contact with girls as I was very shy and introverted. Subsequently I spent 4 years at University an...
A. 25 July 2007: Good on you for still being a virgin, and i think i can speak for most women when i say we would not see it as a let down, in fact i think it is a very attractive quality.
Just take the plunge and ask the girl out, as you say she clearly likes you.... (read in full...)
Brother's new girlfriend is expecting, should I tell my ex sister in law?
Q. Please help! My brother cheated on his wife. She found out, patched it up, but made his life unbearable. He left and went back to the other women 9 months ago. We didn't know until he announced they were having a baby due now! My brother and ex-w...
A. 25 July 2007: I also think you should tell her as hard as it will be for both of you i think it would be better coming from you than someone else, she has a relationship with you and obviously trusts you.
I'm sure she will apprieciate you and you're family bein... (read in full...)
Even though we havent had intercourse, could I get pregnant?
Q. hi ppl. i got my bf to put this on at 3am in the mornin coz i am reli worried i may be pregnant. we havent had full intercourse but i am worried the lil tadpoles as i call em, well the sperm can get me pregnant, im too young n he wnt buy any ...
A. 25 July 2007: If you both can't be grown up enough to get contraception sorted then you really should not be messing about taking risks babe.
Yes you can still get pregnant even if he was not inside you, especially if he has been near you in that area and he had ... (read in full...)
When is it time to leave?
Q. I keep going round in circles and need help in knowing when 'enough is enough' in a relationship. I have been with the same guy for 12 years and I am not happy - the things that make me unhappy are not always dramatic things but they are ...
A. 25 July 2007: Babe if you are not happy then i think that is the biggest indication that it's time to leave, and the only way you can do that is by sitting him down and explaining how you feel.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
It did not work in the past, so why should it work now?
Q. So a girl I went out with a few times in college, about 5 years ago, (we went out on a few dates but really didnt work out and no hard feelings afterward) and was somewhat friends a little while thereafter the few dates we went on...emailed me out ...
A. 25 July 2007: You have both matured abit by now so what's the harm in meeting up and just having a chat.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Awkward situation or player?
Q. Can a guy really like 2 girls at the same time? I met a guy i know through my ex partner one night in a club, he was out with friends and a girl who he had agreed to meet that night (she had a boyfriend at home). We ended up kissing and he off...
A. 25 July 2007: Did he ask her to leave her ex, if not he has no reason to feel guilty as she made the choice herself, he may well like you but if he does then he needs to get rid of her and be with you only.
You need to tell him this because if you carry on goin... (read in full...)
My boyfriend think's he is Brad Pitt, and chats all the girls up.
Q. Hi everyone, My boyfriend of 7 months and I cannot agree about what is acceptable behaviour when socialising with friends. I have no problem with my boyfriend meeting with his friends for a drink at the local but feel that going out every couple...
A. 25 July 2007: Of course you will find someone with the same attitude as you when it comes to relationships, not every man thinks he's god's gift and disrespects his girlfriend going round chating other people up.
I would personally get rid and find someone that... (read in full...)
She's got an Std, but isnt going to tell her boyfriend!!
Q. I have a friend who has herpes. She got herpes when she began to have unprotected sex with her fiancee who didn't deem it necessary to tell her that HE had the disease. Needless to say, they are no longer engaged, but she does have this life long...
A. 25 July 2007: You could try telling him, but seen as she is a good friend of yours and it is the first tome you are to meet him it's possible he may think you are just jealous and trying to split them up.
He could then tell her what you have said and it migh... (read in full...)
Why has he stopped answering my calls and emails?
Q. An old boyfriend called in January. He lives 4 hours away. He called and emailed daily for months. We saw each other in February, and he continued to call/write. In April, he stopped calling and rarely emailed. I would call periodically and cont...
A. 25 July 2007: It's hard for any of us to understand why he has stopped calling and emailing, maybe he has met someone else and has not got the balls to tell you this or maybe he is scared of getting involved with you because of your daughter.
I think you just... (read in full...)
I'm dating a wonderful guy but I keep cheating on him
Q. Hi everybody! okay, at 24 I have been in a steady relationship for nearly 10 months with an awesome guy.I do enjoy my first real gay relationship. He is sweet and attentive and loving and caring etc. Yet I have cheated on him three times......
A. 24 July 2007: I don't think you can really love him, because i know very well that i would never cheat on my husband.
I love sex but it does not make me want to go elsewhere for it i just go to him.
Personally i think you should tell him because this sort of ... (read in full...)
How can I motivate myself to make more of an effort in the bedroom?
Q. I have a small problem that I need some help with. I've been married 23 years to a good man. We have a good marriage. He has always had a stronger sex drive than I do. He's not asking for sex every night but he says he finds our sex life to be ...
A. 24 July 2007: Would you not consider going to see a sex therapist?, i know sex is not the be all and end all of a marriage but it's a big part and it might be nice for both of you if you could change that aspect of your marriage.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do i do it when he's hard or soft?
Q. hi, I'm about to go out with this guy and he is more experienced than me and i wanna kno how to give a blow job. and when you do is he hard or soft when u start?...
A. 24 July 2007: I agree with the previous poster you can start off when it's soft and let it grow in your mouth, or just wait till it's already hard.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My ex doesnt want me to come to the party
Q. my ex lives with my brother and cousin in gainesville. i was going up their this weekend as it was arranged .he tells me he wants me back but we need time he really dosent want me to go the party that theyre throwing because he dosent want people to ...
A. 24 July 2007: Sounds more to me like he does not want you to go because he thinks you will see what he is getting up too.
No-one need know you are on a break, so i think thats a pretty pathetic excuse really.
Sorry take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How can I motivate myself to make more of an effort in the bedroom?
Q. I have a small problem that I need some help with. I've been married 23 years to a good man. We have a good marriage. He has always had a stronger sex drive than I do. He's not asking for sex every night but he says he finds our sex life to be ...
A. 24 July 2007: Why are you not interested any more? i think you need to address this issue before anyone can give you any advice as to sort it out.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have a mad crush on a customer
Q. I work and I see frequent customers. There is this one main guy who comes in about every week, and when i see him, i get sooo red. Expecially when i communicate with him. And I'm sure he notices too!! I've seen quite a few attractive guys,...
A. 24 July 2007: You're young i say go for it , you could even take it one step further and ask him out.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is not contacting her the best thing? Its making me miserable and ruining any chance we had left!
Q. Tomorrow marks 1 month since my long distance, 2 year relationship was officially called off by my partner, who couldn't handle the distance anymore. I've been very up and down throughout the past month, feeling fairly possitive highs, to lying on ...
A. 24 July 2007: It's perfectly normal to still be having bad days, and like you said yourself you have had alot of highs as well.
It's not feeling better yey because it is still early days babe.
I think it is best not to have that contact with her, because ... (read in full...)
Does the contraceptive injection stop your periods completely?
Q. hey, i want to go on the contraception injection, i was woundering does this mean my periods will stop for aslong as it is effective? ...
A. 23 July 2007: It does for most people that have it, but i will say the only downfall i and many friends have found with this is, when you do actually want to try for a baby and come off of this injection it can take a year+ before your periods get back to ... (read in full...)
Is she too young for me?
Q. i am 15 and i have recently become good friends with a girl whos 13. i think she wants to be more than just friends and i would too but everyone deems it wrong to go out with someone that much youger. is it right to go out with a girl a couple years ...
A. 23 July 2007: I don't think it is wrong as long as you realise you are too young for anything sexual legally, don't worry about what everyone else thinks.
If you like her then you go for it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I like a guy from the gym but can't work out if he likes me too
Q. Hey all, I need some advice. Theres this guy I like but I don't know whether he likes me. Basically, he works at the gym i go to, he signed my mate up and initally joked with me about not being allowed in as i have a free membership, so i pl...
A. 23 July 2007: Why don't you try and get him on his own and ask him about training in the gym, once you have a one on one with him, then you could try asking him if he fancies going for a drink at some point.
Just go for it you have nothing to lose.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How can I tell my protective parents that I'm dating someone?
Q. hi all ok so heres the things i met this guy a month ago and weve been dating ever since , and really happy having fun chattting , and socialising , anyway hes told his parents about me and ive met them and the thing is i havnt told my parents ...
A. 23 July 2007: Maybe you are just to have to bite the bullett and tell them, take your boyfriend with you so they can see for themselves just what he is like.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Since they have moved in with their boyfriends, i hardly hear from them.
Q. I was good friends with 2 sisters and we spent every weekend together. However they are now living with their b/fs so I don't see them anymore. Over the last 7 months I have seen them 3 times. All I get now is a e-mail maybe once a week, I have...
A. 23 July 2007: If she does not get where you are coming from, then give up altogether if you are not bothered about having contact with them anymore.
Just don't reply to any emails.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Want to lose weight by not eating.
Q. Ok well i'm 14 and i want to loose weight as im 9 stone which is like pretty bad for my age i'm fat really..i wanna loose weight by not eatin..but i wanna know what will happen to my boobs? will they shrink?? please answer thanks xxx...
A. 23 July 2007: You need to stop and think about this and i don't mean whether your boobs will shrink or not, which by the way they will.
9 stone is not fat at all, you should not look at so many mags, because they lead you to believe you have to look like a stic... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and my 23 year old crush knows I like him; he has a girlfriend but he says he doesn't like her anymore
Q. Hi i am 16 and i like this boy/man who is 23 is this wrong? he knows i like him but he has a girlfriend at the minute. He calls her names and says he doesnt like her anymore. I really like him alot though any ideas on how i could get over him? ...
A. 23 July 2007: I would say this is wrong but only because you say he is with someone and he calls her names and say's that he does not like her anymore.
Surely when you think about that it should be enough to make you get over him, why would you want to be with... (read in full...)
Even though he pulled out, could I be pregnant?
Q. Hey there, im 16 and I think im pregnant because 8-9 days ago I was at the peak tym of my cycle and me and my boyfriend had sex a few times but pulled out before he came then on that Sunday night my boyfriend did ejaculate in me so we went to get ...
A. 23 July 2007: It is very possible to get pregnant even if he has pulled out, as they told you pre cum is the cause.
You are obviously worried about this so i would suggest getting a pregnancy test now.
First responce is the one that can give you a more accurate... (read in full...)
I want to give my ex boyfriend my virginity as a birthday present
Q. well heres the thing. i'm 14. iv'e split up with my boyfriend about a month ago now. but i still love him very much. lately he's started speaking to me again like how things used to be. i asked him what he wanted for his birthday and his answer ...
A. 23 July 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen it's not a good idea, it also happens to be the stragest birthday present i have heard of.
If he wants to be with you for you then he will wait.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He's seeing my mate, but telling people he's single.
Q. What does it mean when your ex is being flirty towards you;giving you wedgies and teasing you? He suppossed to be going out with a close freind of mine but says he is single! What is going on in his head?? ...
A. 23 July 2007: You need to spell it out to him.
We are no longer together, you are with my friend now so this has to stop.
Maybe he still likes you and wants to be with you again, but if thats the case then he needs to finish things with his present girlfrie... (read in full...)
Raped by my ex last night.
Q. Hi, need advice and help please. I was raped last night by my ex, i let him in as he said he wanted to talk, anyway we were chatting normally he then tried it on, told him i wasn't interested, he forced himself on me. I couldn't fight back, i froz...
A. 23 July 2007: Why don't you want your colleagues finding out, you have nothing to be ashamed of at all.
If you don't report this basta#@ for doing this what makes you think he won't do do it again, he may get it into his head that because you did not report it y... (read in full...)
Looking for info about oral
Q. Im 16, and I know this boy thats 18. He and I are kinda friends, i really like him and he really likes me. But my family doesnt like him because of rumors they've heard, and he's my friends ex, so we cant be a couple. I want to give him oral, and i ...
A. 22 July 2007: You are sixteen so i can not see the problem with it, however i find it very difficult to try and explain, the best person you can speak to about this is your partner when you have one, and they can guide you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
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