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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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I suspect my partner may be cheating - again!
Q. my partner had an affair a year and a half ago.He acts like it was nothing..i have had serious trouble 'getting-over it'. Thing is i am convinced he is at it again...no particlar reason other than 2 main signs that were there the last time and i ...
A. 17 July 2007: I would say you have to go with your gut instinct on this one.
If these are the signs you got last time then i suppose it could be a possibility.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I apolgize to the new guy I'm seeing for sending him a drunken message?
Q. Hey there, I wrote not so long ago with a dilemma in that I liked a guy who was best mates with a guy I had been seeing altho I have now stopped seeing the first one so no problems there. I am due to see the guy I like next wkd but have done so...
A. 17 July 2007: Did you actually ask him any questions?, Maybe he thought he need not reply if you did not.
Just chill out and enjoy the festival together.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How long after my break-up would the next relationship be considered a "rebound?"
Q. Hey everyone. I've just broken up with my girlfriend of just under 2 years. There's nobody I have my eye on as such, but if there ever were; how long after my break-up would it be considered a "rebound"? I'm told rebounds should be avoided,...
A. 17 July 2007: I would have to agree with danielepew, if you are totally emotionally unattached to your ex then whenever you feel ready to start seeing someone is absolutely fine.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He wakes me up for unsatisfying sex - how do I approach him without him getting offended?
Q. My boyfriend wakes me up in the middle of the night to have sex. He pokes me so I can wake up. He does not perform foreplay ever, and I have to get him aroused. Then I must get on top and do all the work, always. I'm really tired of this. He doesn't ...
A. 17 July 2007: I would tell him i would wait for him to do it,but i would be in the other bed.
Maybe then when he has no one to wake up in the middle of the night to please him he will realise just how selfish he has been.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should a guy stay with his girlfriend if she has faked a pregancy?
Q. Should a guy stay with his girlfriend if she has faked a pregancy? ...
A. 17 July 2007: If she can lie about something as major as that what else is or has she going to lie about.
I personally would see this as a big red flag and get out.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I feel like my husband hates me. When I walk into the room disgust comes over his face.
Q. I feel like my husband hates me. When I walk into the room disgust comes over his face. We have been struggling financially because I was in nursing school. Since graduating I am working 2 jobs, raising 3 kids, running the paperwork end of a ...
A. 17 July 2007: I know what financial pressure can do to a marriage and the one thing i can suggest is that you really need to talk about it and don't ignore it because it will cause alot of hatred.
Maybe you should both visit your doctor as you may well both be s... (read in full...)
Contraception concerns...need some advice!
Q. Hello I have a question in regards to FEMULEN (progestogen only contraceptive pill). I have been put on this pill due to having DVT (thrombosis) 2 years ago. I was on a combined pill about 2 months ago, but i ran out and was on holiday. So...
A. 17 July 2007: From the information i have looked at and generally you are protected after seven days.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Dated 2 men but now I'm wondering--did I choose the wrong guy?
Q. i was casually seeing two guys,but iv just started dating the guy who is the same age as me,21, and he's a lovely guy and we have lots in common but there not much of a spark, the other guy is 33,we have fun and he makes me laugh and i get him out ...
A. 17 July 2007: Definately go with your heart or you could regret this for a long time you don't get too many chances to be happy in life.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Does he really like me or is this just a friendship?
Q. I know a guy at work. Although I'm not sure if he likes me. He is white and I am Indian. We get along quite well, although he always teases me, about me liking some weird looking guys. How will I know if he likes me? Is it just a friendship?...
A. 17 July 2007: If you like him ask him out for a coffee or lunch or something and then see how you get on on a one on one basis and you will probably be able to get a better idea of how he sees you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I love him but the sex has waned on my part! What can I do?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year, and we live together. Everything is fantastic with our relationship, apart from the sex part. When I first started seeing him, I wanted sex with him all the time, it was all I could think about, and ...
A. 17 July 2007: Maybe this is in some way physchological, which may sound strange but you say all of your relationships end up like this, so with out even knowing it now you expect this to happen and so it does.
If you want to be with him still and want to work... (read in full...)
I'm worried she might think I'm an idiot, is that stupid?
Q. m and my girlfriend have been together for about 6 months. she's nice, attractive and smart, very smart, in fact she goes to durham and studies maths. i'm doing engineering at manchester, but i know she is smarter than me (it's not a problem i ...
A. 17 July 2007: Alot of people that are intelligent have not got an ounce of common sence in them, i would by far chose to talk to people with common sence.
You are obviously clever enough yourself to get into uni in the first place, so don't worry about what some... (read in full...)
Is it over or will she come back?
Q. me and my fiance have been together for 3 and 1/2 years she asked for space called me 2 days later crying saying she felt better couple days later back to the same i never stopped calling, her best friend, and parents say im the best thing to happen ...
A. 17 July 2007: Obviously a very mixed up and confused young lady, .
It's very hard for us to say if she will come back to you or not, she may get to the point when she realises just how much she misses you and regrets ending it, but untill that time you can not ... (read in full...)
When's the best time to have children? During college or after?
Q. so i've been with my boyfriend for 2yrs and we plan on getting married in the future. we also plan on having kids. but the problem is. i dont know when is the right time to have kids?? during college? or after?...
A. 17 July 2007: Wait till after when you have got your qualifications and you have the time and energy you so need for a little baby.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
After the lease is up, my bf wants us to continue living with his chauvinistic friend!
Q. What to do? My boyfriend has all really wonderful friends but one. One of his closest friends has little respect for women and thinks that his %$#! doesn't stink. People just seem to be drawn to this guy, but I don't think that he is a good ...
A. 17 July 2007: If your man did not want to be taken away from you then he would not let it happen, he's not forced into going out.
You have said your man is happy for him to stay, so if you really feel that strongly about it the only thing i can suggest is that... (read in full...)
My guy is almost perfect...except he still hasn't divorced his wife! Am I wasting my time?
Q. Me and my guy have lived together for 8 years and he is almost the perfect guy he supports me and my children, we have never spent the night apart if he is not working we are spending time together.My problem is that he has not divorced his wife am ...
A. 17 July 2007: Have you asked him why he has not divorced his wife yet, maybe it's because it can be expensive and stressful, maybe they just want to wait until one of them has decided they want to marry someone else.
Like you say you have never spent a night apar... (read in full...)
My crush says he likes me like a sister! Is he saying that because I've already got a bf?
Q. I have this crush. I have my own dancing group and I'm the leader. He is from the other dancing group and he's the leader. We're the choreographers of our own group. And we always see each other in the battle dances. I really like him. When our ...
A. 17 July 2007: If you and your boyfriend are always fighting and you don't think you will work, so get out of the relationship with him which would be fairer on both of you.
Then if the other lad really likes you and you are available maybe he will make a move... (read in full...)
I slapped my bf and he kicked me out! Any advice on how to make him reconsider?
Q. My boyfriend of just over three years and I had a fight. I slapped him and he threw me out and told me it was over. Any advice on how to make him reconsider? ...
A. 17 July 2007: When you think about it if he had slapped you i bet you would have kicked him out and ended it with him.
Like eyeswideoped said you should get help for this even if it was only the once, and maybe it will give you a better chance if he can see that... (read in full...)
My 11 year old son disrespects me - now my partner said he will not sleep over when my son spends the night because of it!
Q. Im wondering what to do, ive been in a relationship for 16 months with a man i love very much, ive got a son who's 11 from a previous relationship, my partner has his own house but stays at mine most of the time, he's recently told me that he was ...
A. 16 July 2007: What sort of relationship do your son and your partner have?
Could he not consider helping you with your son rather than bailing out on you because of him.
When you get into a relationship you should accept warts and all, so maybe you could tr... (read in full...)
I told him we could only be friends. Now he's saying he can't do it anymore and that I've hurt him! Why is he being this way? What can I do?
Q. Hoping someone can help me here. I dated a guy earlier in the year who...I thought wanted more than I could give. He wanted more and let me know it but I let him know that all I could offer was friendship. I thought he was ok with it but he phoned ...
A. 16 July 2007: His pride has taken a bit of a bashing because he wanted more from you than you could offer, it's not your fault you were up front and honest and he will get over it just give him time.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My ex keeps giving me mixed signals - I've not done anything to deserve this, and it's just torture!
Q. Since mine and my Girlfriends long distance realtionship of 2 years broke up 3 weeks ago today, I can't help but hate how little contact I can make with her. For the first 2 weeks or so, I couldn't contact her due to her being on holiday. But since ...
A. 16 July 2007: If you are feeling like this about the way she is treating you, then the only advice i can offer as hard as it may be for you is to not contact her again.
If she try's to contact you then tell her that she is giving you mixed signals and it's mess... (read in full...)
My husband of six months cheated on me w/ his ex! What should I do??
Q. I just found out that my husband of only 6 months basically cheated on me the other night. He took his ex out to dinner then they went to our new apartment to talk and they ended up kissing! i just got a new job not even a month ago but ever since I ...
A. 16 July 2007: Hey i totally understand how you are feeling at the moment as i have bee through an affair myself, and this is the only reason i am going to say this.
You are now married and i do believe that everyone is entitled to a mistake and to be forg... (read in full...)
He says he loves me and doesn't love his girlfriend (who he has three kids with) anymore - but he hasn't left her yet!
Q. im 25 with 3 children and have been seein a man for 4 years he has kids and a girlfriend,he has been telling me since just before xmas that he loves me and doesnt love her anymore wants to be with me but finds it hard to leave cause of his kids, i ...
A. 16 July 2007: If you want to find out if he really wants to be with you, then you need to tell him you are no longer prepared to be the other women and you want out of the relationship.
You have no contact with him at all and if he loves you then he will leav... (read in full...)
My ex wants to get back together, but I am leary
Q. I was with me ex for a year and half, we were really close from day 1...then he turned into someone i didnt recognise and thought the grass was greener on the other side and dumped me in march. I knew he was stupid and couldnt understand why he done ...
A. 16 July 2007: People do and can change, and sometimes you don't realise what you have got until it is gone.
If you think he deserves a second chance then give it to him but you should also let him know just how much he hurt you and that you will not stand for ... (read in full...)
Is it possible she is jealous I got a housemate?
Q. Female vs Female relationship. I am in love with my best friend. We are seperated by about 1300 miles. She knows how I feel as I have told her. She is unhappily married (no lectures please) anyway I am convinced she feels the same way about me even ...
A. 16 July 2007: Hi Kelsi,
So she is still playing games with you, now she is trying to make you feel guilty about getting a house mate, i really hop that before too long you will see exactly what she is doing to you.
Ignore the emails that she sends you and only... (read in full...)
I am not sure we love each other any more
Q. This is kinda lengthy, as its a rather complicated situation. Ok, so my gf and I have been together for 2 years now, and lately things have just been falling apart. She is anorexic and is extremely abusive (mostly verbally, but she also hits me, ...
A. 16 July 2007: Is she receieving any help for the phychological issues she will be having conected to her eating disorder?.
Obviously due to the eating disorder there will be a distruption to chemical imbalances in the brain which will cause depression and this... (read in full...)
Just coming off the pill, but could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi, would love if anyone has any advice for me! I stopped taking the contraceptive pill in december last year and since then i have had regular periods every month. my period this month was due over a week ago and the day before it was due i had ...
A. 16 July 2007: Very big possibility that you could be pregnant, get yourself off to the doctors for a test and find out for sure.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Update: I cheated twice on him but I want to work it out if he does
Q. hi its sweetie here again. after reading all about my love life{ CHEATED TWICE ON MY BOYFRIEND BUT LOVE HIM EVER SO MUCH} what would you people out there do? would you try to work things out or would you leave it and say to him if you cant see your ...
A. 16 July 2007: Babe if he can't trust you anymore after what has happened then your relationship does not stand much of a chance in my eyes.
It could come up in future arguements and it will mean you have to live with this for alot longer.
If you really like som... (read in full...)
I kind of feel like my ex-husband just used me for sex
Q. Help! I slept with my ex-husband. My ex-husband and I divorced two years ago when he left me for a girl 10 yrs younger who worked for him. After what sounds like a very volitile relationship for the last two years, they broke up and he forced her to ...
A. 16 July 2007: I don't think he used you for sex, it sounds more a case of he knew you would be there for him when he was going through the breakup with his girlfriend, and emotions just got carried away.
When he then stopped and thought about it afterwards he r... (read in full...)
This guy won't leave us alone! Should I hurt him?
Q. I need some advice please me and my gf have been dating for a year and a half and theres always been this guy that wont leave and get out of our relationship he was my gfs bestfriend over a year ago and since then has never left us alone he will try ...
A. 16 July 2007: Hiya,
Do you know what will make him stop more than anything, if you ignore him.
How childish is he if he persists in trying to distroy your relationship, he is clearly just very jealous so don't rise to it.
All the time he knows what he is doing ... (read in full...)
Is my new beau just a player?
Q. Im recently splittin up with my husband of two years and I met a man, we have been hangin out for almost 2 months and we have had sex three times, he keeps telling me he really likes me but he doesent want a relationship right now because i have ...
A. 15 July 2007: Maybe he just does not want to get involved with someone that is just out of a relationship, for fear of just being a rebound or being hurt if you and your ex should decide to get back together.
I think you could probably do with some time to your... (read in full...)
I didn't bleed during my first time, am I still a virgin?
Q. i had sex with my ex fiance for many times but i didnt bleed! does this mean im still virgin? because we separated and im afraid of the future, i dont want to tell any body that i had sex.how can i hide this thing from my future fiance? other than ...
A. 15 July 2007: As soon as you have had sex you are no longer a virgin anymore, and we don't all bleed when we have sex for the first time so don't worry about that.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I would be interested in hearing peoples views on the inconsistancy that seems to be EVERYWHERE through the bible!
Q. This question is not so much about relationships but I am studying religious studies in college and I'm finding it fascinating! My friend is part of a pentacostal church and it's ridiculous. If anyone has seen that church scene in Borat it is just ...
A. 15 July 2007: Believe what you want to believe in, i personally think that the bible is just stories like any other book and i can't believe that it all came from god( if there actually is a god).
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have double vision on each eye?
Q. Is it normal to have double vision on each eye, and when I look at colors its just not as bright as it used to be. Is this normal?...
A. 15 July 2007: I would suggest you get booked into see your doctor as soon as possible as this does not sound right.
Your doctor will be able to refer you on to a specialist to get it looked at.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
If I get lasik eye surgery, do I still have to wear glasses/contact lenses?
Q. If I get lasik eye surgery, do I still have to wear glasses/contact lenses?...
A. 15 July 2007: Laser eye surgery is performed to correct the problem, so no you would not have to where glasses or contacts after having it done.
Obviously i am not a doctor so don't take what i say as gospel, you can always try researching it on the inte... (read in full...)
Why do men during sex sometimes cum fast and sometimes hold off longer?
Q. Why do men during sex sometimes cum fast and sometimes hold off longer?...
A. 15 July 2007: Can all depend on just how turned on they are.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How an i make my exgirlfriend want to get back with me?
Q. How an i make my exgirlfriend want to get back with me? i have been with this girl for almost two years and we have both changed during that time. I have grown to love her soo much but i have pushed her so far away from me because i have primarily...
A. 15 July 2007: You should not have to change yourself for anyone, you have been like this from the beginning and it's just the way you are.
If she can not accept you the way you are now then she is not the right girl for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My husband has told me I should have sex with other men!!!
Q. My husband has told me I should have sex with other men. I've told him no way, that would be cheating and it would damage our relationship. I'm 24 and he's 26. I asked him why he wants me to do this, and he said he's lost his sex drive and ...
A. 14 July 2007: Lots of people lose experience loss of sexual desire at some point in their lives and there are many different reasons for this, how has your husband been in his self lately has he been going through a stressful stage lately?, could he be ... (read in full...)
I want to take things to the next stage with him and have sex.. but, I'm a virgin...
Q. Hey. I've been dating this guy for about 3 months now. He's soo gentlemanly and that's one of the many things I like about him. He can be quite shy and he always waits for me to make the first move and kiss him first. I want to take things to the ...
A. 14 July 2007: Definately you should tell him as most guys that i have spoken to absolutely love the idea of their girlfriend being a virgin.
If he is that gentlemanly he will really look after you and respect you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Why is he with someone else?
Q. My ex and I broke up 3 months ago. We were together a long time and were very close. We have known each other as friends for even longer. His reason was that we had just grown apart (although I still don't think we had). I recently found out that he ...
A. 14 July 2007: Exactly how hard is it to get out of a relationship, when there are no children, no marriage and no mortgage involved.
If you want out it is the only time it is that easy you just walk away.
Sounds to me as though he is trying his luck with you... (read in full...)
I love him so much! But we're doomed!
Q. He is so sweet to me, and I love him with my whole heart. But I just fear that we're not meant to be together. While we enjoy each others' company very much, our life goals are so far apart! I'm from the west coast, and he moved here from New York. ...
A. 14 July 2007: I wonder sometimes if a relationship where two people want completely different things can actually work.
Which ever way you chose to go i think in the future there will be resentment from one side, for either feeling pressured into doing some... (read in full...)
He is my guy now, but his ex still calls him Babe and talks all nice to him!
Q. I am in this same situation! My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 5 months now, and I realized that he still contacts his ex girlfriend. They dated for about 7 months or so. My boyfriend and I started off as friends, and I've helped him ...
A. 13 July 2007: Firstly i would just like to say i have been with my husband for twelve years and i never have and never would check his emails or his phone as it is a serious invasion of privacy, so i would not say that it is normal to do that.
When it comes to t... (read in full...)
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