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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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My ex contacted me saying she had made a terrible mistake, thing is I still love her but can't hurt the new girl I'm with.
Q. I wrote in a while ago because my ex fiancee and myself split up, we was together for 3 years and I still very much loved her and I was advised to give her space because the split was her choice. In the time apart we still spoke to each other but I ...
A. 28 July 2007: Oh this happens all the time, your ex has seen that you are now moving on with your life and she has realised that she has lost you and you are not prepared to wait around for her forever. What i will say is though, i don't think you should stay wit... (read in full...)
I'm 20, in university and I want to start a family so badly! What can I do?
Q. Hi, I wonder if anyone could help me. My partner and I (both 20 years of age) have been together for over 5 years, we have been engaged for about 1 1/2 years. We have both just completed our first year in Uni and plan to marry afterwards. Howe...
A. 28 July 2007: His reason for wanting to wait is i have to say a very good one, having two children myself you really do not realise just how much strain it put's on you financially until you have one.
I did not have any qualifications when i had my first, so all ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be a virgin the rest of your life and not be with any body ?
Q. Is it ok to be a virgin the rest of your life until i die and not be with any body ? i am only in my 20's and since the time i was in my teens i decided not to be with anybody . this guy i know at my job says that i am crazy and then he said what ...
A. 28 July 2007: It's entirely up to you what you want to do with you're life babe, and you just have to ignore stupid comments like that from other people.
You are very young at the moment and you may well change you're mind in a few years, but if you don't then... (read in full...)
Fallen for boy on msn but what about my boyfriend?
Q. This might seem silly, but at the start me and my boyfriend split up, but promised to get back together when we was sorted. But during the break i started talkin to a guy on msn and we hit it off. We got on amazingly and i fell for him. But i never ...
A. 28 July 2007: Uh, now thats a tough one, which one are you more attracted too?
Which one can you talk more openly too?
Which one do you miss more, when you don't have any contact?
These are just a few things you need to think about and see who comes out on... (read in full...)
Fallen for boy on msn but what about my boyfriend?
Q. This might seem silly, but at the start me and my boyfriend split up, but promised to get back together when we was sorted. But during the break i started talkin to a guy on msn and we hit it off. We got on amazingly and i fell for him. But i never ...
A. 28 July 2007: Babe you can not string them both along so you are just going to have to work out which one you like best.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I like my sister's roommate but I'm afraid of spoiling their relationship if something goes wrong bewteen her and I
Q. What should I do: Date my sisters roommate/best friend or forget about it and find someone else. I really like this girl but I am afraid of ruining my sisters friendship with her if something were to go wrong. ...
A. 28 July 2007: I don't see why you can't date her, it just means you will have to be on you're best behaviour.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I''m dating a guy as a result of a drunken fumble but I still like my ex
Q. ok im confused! ive been with my current boyfriend for nearly 3months now. the reason i eneded up going out with him was through a drunken fumble one night and cheated on my old boyfriend. but i think i still like my old boyfriend, i cant stop what ...
A. 28 July 2007: No, you must definately should not stay with this guy if you really don't want to be with him and you want to be with someone else.
Have some time on your own for a bit, and just have some fun.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He has a lot on his plate and says he can't date at the moment but I really like him
Q. Hi How can I tell if a guy is still interested in me ? I went on a couple of dates with a really nice guy, on the 1st date he bought me a present, which was lovely. The next day he said he could'nt see me anymore and left it at that. The next day ...
A. 28 July 2007: He has told you he likes you and has explained his situation at the moment, so if you are prepared to wait i think you should just give him a bit of time.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's upset that I slept with someone while we were on a break! How can we both deal with this?
Q. My boyfriend and I started dating about four years ago. Over a year ago, we decided to end things, or take a break, because of pressure and disapproval from family and friends. We've since worked through those obstacles and are now closer than ever. ...
A. 28 July 2007: Ok you do not need to do anything to regain his trust as you did nothing wrong, you were not together and you did not need to tell him, you just chose to.
You have not been unfaithful, so as much as he does not like it he just needs to get over it, ... (read in full...)
She says she's not "in love" with her boyfriend, and yet she won't leave him for me!
Q. Help! Im in a lil dilemma at the mo. I have gotten into a messy relationship wiv a girl who is in a relationship already. Prob is she was just going about her life and maybe thought that was it for her and she would settle for her less than perfect ...
A. 28 July 2007: With the contact that you have at the moment she knows she still has you, so yes i do think you should stop the contact and let her come to you if thats what she wants.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Was I in the wrong, or is he being unreasonable?
Q. Hi everyone, I need some boyfriend advise. Well Today is my boyfriend's Nieces B-day, a few days ago we talked about carpooling to her party together. Well Last night he said that he was leaving to go to her house right from work. Well I didnt ...
A. 28 July 2007: He has so blown this out of all proportion, so whats he going to be like if it's something serious?.
It's up to you what you do but i certainly would not want to stay with someone that reacts in this way.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
His family forced him to divorce me and now he regrets it
Q. I recently got divorced after being with my husband for 12 years and we have 2 daughters. The oldest is mine as it is not his child, we only had 1 child married. My problem and question is this.We were having problems in our marriage and just fell ...
A. 27 July 2007: Why have you not told him that you miss your marriage and your family?, is it because you are hurting that he sided with his family over you?.
Do you still love him, if you do you need to tell him how you are feeling and see if there is any chan... (read in full...)
My husband and I divorced 7 years ago, and I dont want him back. Why am I sad he is dating then?
Q. I have known my husband for 20 years and we have 2 kids. We split up 7 years ago but have remained very close - even sleeping together from time to time. Since we split up neither of us has been out with anyone else - until last week when he told ...
A. 27 July 2007: You have known each other for a very long time and obviously gone through alot together, just because you no longer want to be with him does not mean you should not be hurting now that he has met someone else.
Your hurting i think because like you ... (read in full...)
He wants to stop using protection. Does that mean he wants a baby?
Q. The other night me and my guy for about 2 yrs had unprotected sex and he always use to want to use protection because he said he didnt want to have another kid right now. Now he is saying if it happens it happens we will deal with it. What should I ...
A. 27 July 2007: Maybe that is his way of saying that he wants to have a baby, but i think you need to talk to him and find out for sure.
At the end of the day this is your body and you are going to have to carry the baby, and him just turning around and saying 'we ... (read in full...)
I am attracted to a colleague!
Q. I am in a relationship with someone I love very much, but in the course of the last year I have become tremendously attracted to a colleague at work. It is like a kind of recurrent malaria of the heart, in that it flares up for periods then dies ...
A. 27 July 2007: If this will not go away and you love your partner very much, is there any chance you could confide in someone at your place of work and see if there is a possibility of you being moved to a different office?
Take care.x.x... (read in full...)
Urgh! I think I messed up! I asked to see her and she said no. Now I have lost any control I had!
Q. Hi everyone. (I posted this on my latest question, but have decided to *bump it up* so to speak by putting it in the form of a new question) Just wanted to update you all to say, I think I've let you all, and myself down. Last night, my ex ca...
A. 27 July 2007: Hey babe, you don't owe us anything.
We all want advice at some time in our life and whether we act on it or not is totally our own decision.
Ok so you made a mistake you pushed her a little too quickly, but thats what happens when you love som... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't flirt in person but does online and it makes me uncomfortable
Q. me and my girlfriend have been going out for nearly 6months and i love her but she seems to flirt with other guys online but not in person... i do trust her but she does it excessively and she constantly jokes about cheating on me with them, this ...
A. 27 July 2007: You're young and you don't need to be in a relationship like this, talk to her again and tell her how it makes you feel and tell her that if she can't or won't stop doing it then you will end it with her.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Some questions about the contraceptive pill
Q. I was wondering if I am on the pill is it safe to have sex unprotected and I mean with the same person all the time? Would there be any chance of getting pregnant? How long after I am off the pill would it take to get pregnant? Just wondering with ...
A. 27 July 2007: If you are sure this person has no std's you can have unprotected sex, but there is a risk as no pill is 100% safe, the risk is very minimal but there is still a risk and as for coming off the pill it is different with each pill and every individual ... (read in full...)
Are there any products that are edible for a woman to enhance oral sex with a guy ?
Q. does anyone know of an oil or lotion thats edible to use to enhance giving a guy oral sex, want to supprise him and do something diferent but all that type of thing seem made for women, cant seem to find anything for a man...
A. 27 July 2007: Hot drinks or a curry before hand.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What if I was ready to have sex with him and didnt know it ?
Q. Hello everyone. Recently I met this guy who I liked immediately and who seemed to like me too. So when I went to his place, we started making out and he wanted to go further but I said no. Mainly because I thought that I wasn't ready yet and I di...
A. 27 July 2007: You know when you are ready, when it does not even cross your mind to seek advice about it.
You're still young and you are right not to do it based on physical attraction alone, you will know when the time is right for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How can I find out if my sisters friend likes me, without letting on I like him ?
Q. hi their i have a small problem that im not sure on how to tackle..my sister has this guy friend who is 5 years older than me and i like him hes cute funny and lovely personality and very shy..weve spoken a few times played paintball and stuff see ...
A. 27 July 2007: What sort of relationship do you have with your sister?, could you not maybe get her to sound him out and seeif he has ever asked about you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Its 7 years on and Im still thinking about her, do I tell her and risk the friendship ?
Q. I'm 24 years old and have been friends with this girl since high school. We both kind of mentioned to each other back in high school how we liked each other, but she had a boyfriend at the time so nothing ever came of it. Flash forward 7 years and ...
A. 27 July 2007: If you think that there is no chance of a relationship between you because of the distance, then i would say what is the point because it might distroy the friendship you have.
Take care.x.x... (read in full...)
How long does it take for the womens egg to travel down the fallopian tube
Q. Pregnancy Question: How long does it take for the womens egg to travel down the fallopian tube?...
A. 27 July 2007: This process takes about five days.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My 15 year son, says I am way too over-protective! Any advice from other parents of teenagers?
Q. I have 3 kids. They 28, 26 and 15. The older two have their own lives, jobs and homes. My concrn is with my 15 year old who still lives at home and in high school. He's a great kid, honor roll student, polite, very respectful to others. Generally a ...
A. 26 July 2007: Ok my son is ten and i know you said parents of teenagers, but with the world as it is today i would not let my son do that either if he's on his own.
Strange though we probably would have acted the same way when we were his age.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Why does this break up hurt so much so long after!? How can I make it stop?
Q. I was in a relationship for almost two years. Over the course of those two years we went through a lot of very difficult time (he was diagnosed with cancer and went through chemo). A few months after his treatment was over, we were cruising along ...
A. 26 July 2007: You need to get some help to try and deal with the depression, because until thats under control nothing will get better, when my husband left me i tried all of the things you have tried and they did not work for me either.
I went to my doctors got ... (read in full...)
My mum does not approve.
Q. I have a boyfriend but my mother doesn't approve with our relationship she told me to leave my boyfriend sooner or later and she even swear that we couldnt work out knowing that he has two kids and an ex-wife. ...
A. 26 July 2007: Us parents always worry about our childre, whatever they are doing.
You are just going to have to talk to her and let her know that you have faith and that you are a grown women now and it would make you very happy if she could go with whatever you ... (read in full...)
We're only second cousins.
Q. Wen my cousin came back from a year away i started having feelings for him but didn't know how he felt back. We had always been really close and always messed around like kids do. One day i went round to see my family and when we were close to each...
A. 26 July 2007: It sounds like it's just a crush to me and due to the fact he is going away for a year i would suggest you try and forget about him and move on, ok i know he's a relative and i won't be as easy as said,but if you can't see him it will be easier.
T... (read in full...)
His excuse was, he was drunk.
Q. I'm having a realtionship for 10 months(committed), and recently my boyfriend admitted that he cheated on me twice, and both the times he was very drunk, he said he was really sorry and asking me for a second chance?? i do love him alot.. but i dont ...
A. 26 July 2007: If you think he is genuine and you can get past this, then take him back.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My ex is being mistreated and I dont know how to help
Q. My ex boyfriend from 3 years ago has been dating a bi sexual girl for a year and a half. Hes 27, shes 36. He is completely smitten with her and admits he always wants to be like her. Anyway numerous times she has cheated on him with other guys, ...
A. 26 July 2007: Babe as caring as you are i think you are just going to have to leave him to get on with it, love is blind and probably a whole lot worse when drugs are involved.
You just concentrate on yourself and let him worry about himself.
Take care.x.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend broke up with me, but I think he still loves me
Q. my boyfriend has ended it with me we split 5 weeks ago. he said he needed space and he couldnt give me what i wanted. he said i put to much pressure on him and to be honest i did at times. i asked him to marry me, but i later said i was sorry. ive ...
A. 26 July 2007: Is he being treated for the depression?, if not until that is sorted it is best to just give him his space.
I am suffering with depression myself and being treated for it, but believe me until it's treated not a lot makes sense and you don't real... (read in full...)
Its been 4 months since I had my period.
Q. I'm 16, about to turn 17 in a month, and I've had my period since I was 13. The last time I had it was about 4 months ago. I'm a virgin, but I've done oral on only one guy and gotten oral from 2, and both of their penises almost went in me. Not ...
A. 26 July 2007: There are many different reasons as to why your period have stopped, like for example, if you have been under stress lately, you are under weight or if you have started a rigorous exercise programme.
The best and only advice anyone can give you thou... (read in full...)
My daughter was seduced by her female college professor
Q. My 18 year old daughter has been seduced by a 33 year od female member of staff at her college. My daughter denied that anything had gone on between them until she was 18. I do not believe this is true. The college sacked the member of staff but the ...
A. 26 July 2007: If thats what she wants to do as much as it hurts you and you don't want her to, i think you are just going to have to let her go.
She is like you say 18, so she is old enough to make her own decisions and mistakes, all you can do is be there for ... (read in full...)
I feel this amazing attraction to this guy, like a lightning bolt
Q. Hi, I'm 33 and attached. I recently met a man who is also attached. It was clear we were very strongy attracted to each other immediately, but being "attached" we kept a certain amount of distance between each other. Then one night we happened to ...
A. 26 July 2007: Yeah you can tell him how you feel when you have left your partner, that would be the proper way to do it.
I do think it's possible to feel like that as well as i had the same feelings when i met my husband and it has still not gone away twelve year... (read in full...)
I slept with my boyfriends best friend.
Q. Hi There About 6 months ago i went to a party with my bf and my boyfriends best friend, after my boyfriend fell to sleep i started talking to his best friend and he told me that he had always liked me and we ended up kissing. Then about a week...
A. 26 July 2007: Could there be anything worse the poor man, his girlfriend and best friend, did either of you give the poor man a thought at all.
Babe you need to work out and quickly which one of these lads you really want to be with because if things like this... (read in full...)
His excuse was, he was drunk.
Q. I'm having a realtionship for 10 months(committed), and recently my boyfriend admitted that he cheated on me twice, and both the times he was very drunk, he said he was really sorry and asking me for a second chance?? i do love him alot.. but i dont ...
A. 26 July 2007: I love the excuse drunk, if you can stand up, walk and have another drink then you know what you are doing.
I do believe in second chances but i'm not sure about third especially for the same thing.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I love my husband but not the sex.
Q. Hi i am a 32 year old woman married for 12 year to the only man i have ever been with we have 2 children. All my friends fancy him and probably think we have a excellent sex life but the truth is i think its not. I went out with some friends a couple...
A. 26 July 2007: Babe the grass really is not greener and you obviously deeply care and love your husband, so maybe if you have not done so already try telling him the problems in the bedroom.
He may think you like it like that, or he may not even realise that it h... (read in full...)
Should i ask her about her past sexual experiences?
Q. I started dating this girl about 5 weeks ago. We just met this summer and we started dating about a month after we met. The relationship has been great so far and she's the first girl I have ever loved and she says I am the first guy she has love...
A. 26 July 2007: Ok she has done nothing wrong all of this happened before you and her started seeing each other, so why you should consider it as breaking your trust i don't know.
Has she done anything to make you doubt her since you have been together?
Well ... (read in full...)
My fiancee keeps threatening to break up with me
Q. My fiancee keeps threatening to end the relationship if he doesnt have things his way. We have been together for 4 yrs. Recently, he found out about that his job has an opening in a diff country, and Im not in favor for this because just 6mt...
A. 26 July 2007: No i don't think this is normal in a relationship, there absolutely has to be give and take and he can't have evrything his own way all the time.
If he is like this now and he gets away with it it will more than likely carry on for the rest of your... (read in full...)
He dumped me and says he needs to be on his own for a bit
Q. i have been dumped by my boyfriend of 18months. he said he couldnt give me what i wanted. i have been to see him and he cries. i want him back as i love him, but he says he needs to be on his own for a bit. i realised my mistakes. is it to late? ...
A. 26 July 2007: As much as you love him and you are probably hurting, if he can't give you what you want it is probably for the best.
I know you have probably heard it a million times but time really is a great healer and you will get over this.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I am having trouble trusting my boyfriend not to cheat
Q. My boyfriend has history of being a serious player. He has cheated on every one of his previous girlfriends but he says everything is different with me, its been a while and he's been faithful but I still can't completely trust him. I've told him of ...
A. 26 July 2007: I can understand your concern if he has always cheated, but like you say he has been faithful to you so far and he say's he loves you, so i think you should give him the benefit of the doubt.
People can change and if we base all of our previous rela... (read in full...)
I guess I'm looking for a little reassurance does this guy like me... I'm confused?
Q. ok I've been seeing this guy alomst 5 months. its been a bit of a strange one. we have talked almost everyday,since we met, we've seen each other as much as we can (he lives some miles from me) and its him doing the travelling. he has said he needs ...
A. 26 July 2007: Well it sounds like he does as you say he seems to be stepping the relationship up a bit now, i think you are just going to have to wait and see how things go.
If you start questioning him about how he feels he might run a mile, it's still earl... (read in full...)
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