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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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Do I wait to tell my mum that I'm moving in w/ my guy after he has the flat?
Q. any idea how i can break it to my mum i wanna move in with my boyfriend. In a few months i can legally move out. Im almost 16 and my boyfriend is 17. we can aford it and everything. Do i tell her now or wait till he's got the flat? and what am i ...
A. 16 August 2007: I think she would have more respect for you as a growing adult if you talked to her about it before he gets the flat, but be prepared for her to say she is not happy about it.
You have to apprieciate that she is going to be concerned as you are stil... (read in full...)
Are we too young to be engaged?
Q. Im 16 my boyfriend is 17 we have been together a while now and are very much in love. We are considering moving in together at the start of next year. We were talking last night and he said next time we go shopping he wants me to point out some ...
A. 16 August 2007: Hey, you go with what you think is right babe.
I was sixteen when i got engaged to my husband and he was twenty at the time and we got married when i was twenty one.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Why are guys more likely to commit to an average looking girl and just choose to sleep around with the good looking ones?
Q. Can someone please explain the theory that guys are more likely to commit to a proper relationship with a less good-looking girl than a very good looking girl and just sleep with the really good looking ones but never have a proper relationship with ...
A. 16 August 2007: Security i would say is one of the biggest reasons.
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When is the "right time" to have a baby?
Q. This isn't really a problem but more of a question to people who are married and have children. My husband and I have been married for exactly 3 years this past Sunday. We are both only 23 so I know that we don't need to rush anything but we both ...
A. 16 August 2007: You can't listen to what anyone else says when it comes to starting a family, if you are in a stable relationship, your finances are in good order and you both want a baby, then you have to go with it.
There is never a right time to have a chil... (read in full...)
I'm at my wits end over this... WHO DO I CHOOSE???
Q. My marriage of 12 years broke down and as soon as I was financially stable enough I moved out to give our relationship complete space. I had never lived on my own before and found it quite a struggle emotionally. I met up with my husband once a ...
A. 16 August 2007: You should not have to learn to be content in a relationship, you should be happy and yourself at all times, you say you spent many unhappy years with your husband and when you do meet up it is very tense, does your husband know about the other ... (read in full...)
My periods are literally ruining my life!
Q. My periods are literally ruining my life! I have about 5 days (if i'm lucky) each month where I feel 'okay'. My periods are so painful I have to miss work, I get all hot and sweaty I feel so sick, and even wretch sometimes, the pain is just so bad. ...
A. 16 August 2007: I had a friend that had been suffering with the same problems for years, and it takes trying different pills, she has finally found one that works a treat for her and she no longer has any problems.
So go back to your doctor and tell them you are ... (read in full...)
Did i cross the line?
Q. I feel like I'm going crazy! I was looking at the myspace page of one of my fiance's friends, and he wrote something about having fun dancing with her at a bar and put baby at the end. She is way younger than him, and I know they are just friends, ...
A. 16 August 2007: Have you had any reason to think bad of him other than this babe?
You did not cross the line as it is not as though you were looking at his myspace, unless of course you suspected something and you looked trying to find something out.
Do you trus... (read in full...)
He stops when he is about to cum.
Q. I love my boyfriend, and the thing is that I get wet a lot. He stops when he is about to cum, and I want him to cum. But I also don't want to get pregnant, we don't use proctection, but we do everything else. I also enjoy it from the back, but I ...
A. 16 August 2007: Well what a very big game of russian roulette you are playing...
You are not using protection and he pulls out have you not heard of pre cum and the fact you can still get pregnant through the withdrawl method.
Keep going when you think you ar... (read in full...)
Is it actually starting to sink in with him what he might have lost?
Q. My ex and I have been split up nearley 4 months now, he has moved on, we still have to contact each other because we have a baby of 8 months, it has been very hard. Anyway to cut a long story short, I have stopped contact with him for a few months...
A. 15 August 2007: You have talked alot about his feelings or trying to work out how he feels, what about your feelings in all of this? how do you feel about him now? would you want to get back with him now?.
I totally get where you are coming from and i realise you ... (read in full...)
It feels like i'm doing all the work.
Q. my boyfreind allways used to ring me up all the time and now he never does, i do most of the ringing, i dont really feel like i get to see him much. Am i being silly or is this quite serious i dont no what to do?...
A. 15 August 2007: Talk to him and see if he can tell you where he thinks your relationship is at at the moment, personally i have always tried the not calling them so much usually gets the message across though and if that does not work then i think you know where ... (read in full...)
I gave the dog to my sis in the end, but i can't stop crying now.
Q. I know this is madness but i guess i just wanted a moan. I posted a question a couple weeks ago about a 7 month old dog i had that trashed my home. She was only a puppy. Anyway my sis came to visit at the weekend and fell in love with her, my ...
A. 15 August 2007: Hi babe
Of course you are going to be upset, you did not hate her after all.
I gave my cat up a little while ago, because it was possible i was going to be going into rented accommadation, the kids asked once about her and i was upset, after ab... (read in full...)
Do I tell my ex I still love her dearly?
Q. I split up with my ex about 3 months ago and I still love her dearly, we still live together because we have a little boy together and we are still best friends. I have started seeing someone else but nothing serious and my ex asked me yesterday if ...
A. 15 August 2007: Go for it, if you still love her then why not, you don't know what you have got until it's gone.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Am I right to be worried about him moving in with her?
Q. Hello, My boyfriend moved from another country to be with me 3 months ago. While he has been looking for a job etc he has been living with me and we get along so well. I'd like him to continue living with me but he feels it would be unfair to my ...
A. 15 August 2007: How does your flat mate feel about him living with you?, if she has not got a problem with it could she not talk to him and reassure him about living there.
If you trust your boyfriend there should be no problem, but i do see where you are comi... (read in full...)
My brother pins me down and I hate it!!
Q. Hey, i have asked many questions here and i no i haven't replied to as many as i could of but i have a question. "Is my brother sexually abusing me even if he is younger then me ? " My brother is 11 and i am 13 and he keeps pinning me to the floor ...
A. 15 August 2007: Tell your parents about this behaviour darling, it's not right for him to be doing this and it needs to be stopped.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have been having sex with my boyfriend for 5 months now and have not once experienced an orgasm...
Q. dear cupid... I have been having sex with my boyfriend for 5 months now and have not once experienced an orgasm. I'm 16 years of age so I'm not sure if this is normal or not. Please help...
A. 15 August 2007: Babe that is perfectly normal, some women can go a whole life time and never experience an orgasm through sex alone, also it can take alot of practice and experimenting.
I did not have my first one through sex until i was about twenty five so dont... (read in full...)
My left side of the stomach seems to go a bit deeper than my right, is this normal?
Q. dear cupid, I don't want to make my own account so my friend let me use his one. I have a problem, my left side of the stomach seems to go a bit deeper than my right, this bit is under the ribcage bone under the chest. I would like to know do ...
A. 15 August 2007: Thats what our doctors are there for, you will not be wasting their time, if you are concerned about anything medical then always go and get it checked out.
You have to remember as much as we all try and help people we can not see you and we are ... (read in full...)
I'm on birth control but there was about two days in a row that I didn't take it. Could I get pregnant on those days I didn't take it?
Q. I'm on birth control but there was about two days in a row that I didn't take it. Could I get pregnant on those days I didn't take it and what is the likelihood that I can get pregnant on the pill. I'm always hearing stories about how women got ...
A. 15 August 2007: If you missed your pill two days in a row, then it's pretty much like starting the pill from the beginning again, you would then have to use added contraceptive for the next seven days to get the most protaction from your pill.
Yes people do get ... (read in full...)
What are the causes of a low sex drive in a male, and what are some solutions? I'm willing to try anything.
Q. Hi, I have had a little bit of a problem with my boyfriend lately... We've been together for 2 years now, and he's never had a very strong sex drive. I, on the other hand, want sex more often. He is in his early 30s, so I can't imagine his sex driv...
A. 14 August 2007: Stress...
Physical illness...
Past sexual difficulties...
Boredom and discontent in current relationship...
If his low sex drive is causing problems you could always suggest going to see your gp and get a referal to a sex therapist.
Take... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to look older...
Q. Hey, I need tips on how to look older, I'm going to be 15 in the next few weeks and I look about ten. It's really annoying. I've got chin length dark brown hair. but I'm rather short in height. Is there any way to look older without slapping...
A. 14 August 2007: Try a different hair cut, that can sometimes do the trick, not that people knowing your age comes down to how you look, it's more the way you carry yourself and your attitude.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls!
Q. I looked through his phone and found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has been text messaging and calling with at least four different girls. He says they are just friends and that I don't have anything to worry about. What should I do??...
A. 14 August 2007: You read the text messages babe so you will just have to go with your gut feeling on this one.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm getting mixed signals from my boyfriend.
Q. I'm getting mixed signals from my boyfriend. He is 19 and I am 18 and we've been together for around 18 months now. My problem is that about a month ago he started acting funny with me, blowing hot and cold all the time, never seeing me on my own ...
A. 14 August 2007: You need to tell him this babe, tell him that you do not know where you stand with him at the moment and you would really like to know, because if he does not think the relationship will work then it would be better for both of you to go your own ... (read in full...)
I know now he really loves me and married the wrong woman.
Q. My best friend (a male), just got married a few months ago. We have been friends for a long time and I have always been in love with him, but never told him since he has had a steady girlfriend for the past 2.5 years who he recently married. I ...
A. 14 August 2007: 'He is a really nice guy' yeah right if he was that nice he would not be doing what he is with you behind his wifes back now would he?
You can't both carry on being unfaithful to your other halfs, it would in the long run be must more cons... (read in full...)
Will I give him another chance and how do I learn to trust him again.
Q. I have been going out with my man for 10 months we get on very well, but I have just found out that he is still in contact with an old girlfriend and one night when she called at his house they had sex. He swears he will have nothing else to do ...
A. 14 August 2007: Thats a decision only you can make, i would be quite concerned by the fact he is telling his ex things about you that are personal though and the fact she was able to get your phone number.
Maybe it was only a one off and she is just saying thes... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and my bf asked me to move in with him. Is this a good idea?
Q. Im almost 16 my boyfriend is 17. We've been together quite a while now and both our familys seem to approve. However my boyfriend is having abit of problems at home and is soon getting his own flat. I have also been having a bit of trouble with my ...
A. 14 August 2007: If thats what you want to do, then you can only try, i happen to think that you are in a better position because you are not married and i think living with someone before you make any definate commitments is a very good idea as you never really ... (read in full...)
Am I right with my assumption that she doesn't love me anymore and I'm bound to be broken up with?
Q. Am I going to be broken up with? My girlfriend and I are both 19 years old we've been dating for a almost 2 years and we're each others first love. Only problem - I've had to be in Europe for nearly 6 weeks. Since I've been gone she seems to have ...
A. 14 August 2007: I think you need to have a talk about how you are both feeling, you are away from her and maybe she is feeling the same way as you are, so she is distancing herself abit so she does not get hurt.
It must be very difficult having a long distance rela... (read in full...)
He said that I was rich and was using me for that money and not my looks and my personality, and that really bugged me.
Q. I have never been on a date before, and I have never had a real boyfriend before. The last one I did have only lasted 2 weeks, and he said that I was rich and was using me for that money and not my looks and my personality, and that really bugged ...
A. 14 August 2007: Be who you want to be and do what you want and to hell with the rest of them, live for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I had a fiance for 6 years and he cheated a year after our baby was born...
Q. I had a fiance for 6 years and he cheated a year after our baby was born, it's been almost a year apart from each other and he says he really loves me and sorry and it was a huge mistake. I still love him but I have a boyfriend that I care about but ...
A. 14 August 2007: He has said he is sorry..
You have a child together...
You are in love with him still...
You are not in love with your boyfriend...
Sometimes people make huge mistakes, which they regret, it does not mean to say they will do it again just becau... (read in full...)
Is it okay that my 32 year old boyfriend said some thirteen year olds "look good?"
Q. Is it okay that my 32 year old boyfriend said some thirteen year olds "look good?" We were talking about teenagers for some reason and he said that but didn't go into their body parts or saying anything sexual about them. He babysits his 8 year ...
A. 14 August 2007: My husband is in his early thirties, and i have got to say i would be very disturbed and very uncomfortable around him if he ever said anything like that to me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
When he doesn't get to have sex with me he goes to porn websites and pleasures himself, Should I worry about that
Q. My boyfriend of 11 months has a very high sex drive. He likes to just grab and touch me when we are at home, which I don't mind because at least he is attracted to me right? So as you can see he likes to have sex. Well of course there are certain ...
A. 14 August 2007: Have you and your boyfriend got a problem with having sex while it is the time of the month?
It's not all that messy and then at least you will have his attention instead of the computer.
It is very normal for men to watch porn, but if upsets y... (read in full...)
Whilst deep down I know she's right, it's really hard and part of me wanted to try a long distance relationship.
Q. I'm relocating at 400 miles for a job, and I have recently being saying goodbye to all my friends that are staying put. Since May I've had a crush on a friend who I suspected (occaisonally) may have returned the feeling, and after walking he...
A. 14 August 2007: Concentrate on your new job and meeting new people, like you said it will be a while before you see her again and by that time you will have moved on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I want to contact a old friend who is now in the army. I'm scared..what should I do?
Q. Hi everyone, i really like this guy who i went to school with. he used to like me at school but i never thought of him like that. trouble is i have been out of school now 9 years and now i like him. i have just recently found out he is in the army...
A. 14 August 2007: Go for it, do you know any of his friends or family that can give you contact details for him?
You could just write him a letter to say hello and see how he is, let him know how things are for you and see where it goes from there.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Does the 72 hour pill go on my record?
Q. will the 72 hour pill go on my doctors record? really worried, just had sex and was unprotected :S i no it was stupid of me..but i wanna get the 72 hour pill but my mum doesnt know ive lost my virginity? any ideas???? please help x...
A. 14 August 2007: It will go on your record, as everything we from the doctors does but don't worry because of patient confidentiality your doctor would never be aloud to tell your mum, so there is no way of her finding out.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I've got a lot of deadlines to meet before I get back to school and I'm considering dropping one of my subjects...
Q. I really need some good unbiased advice. I'm doing ten gcse's at the moment (just about to do my second year of them) and I'm currently suffering from depression which doesn't help. I've got a lot of deadlines to meet before I get back to school a...
A. 14 August 2007: Personally i felt it was getting too much for me when i was doing mine, so i dropped out of two lessons which i knew would really be of no major benefit to me in later life.
Doing that gave me the opportunity to put more effort into the subj... (read in full...)
Her rectum seems easier to get into and her vagina seems more loose. Could she be cheating on me?
Q. My girlfriend goes on business trips every week to two weeks. For overnights no big deal, until little things like bruises on her arms neck mouth and between her legs even. She tries to cover them up but I'm not doing them. Also her rectum seems ...
A. 14 August 2007: Go with your gut feeling on this, if she has bruises that you have not done and she is trying to cover them up then i would probably be feeling the same as you.
Don't leave it too long, as she might not be using protection if she is sleeping with... (read in full...)
He gave me an STD.
Q. I was with my ex boyfriend for 4 years and after high school we got an apartment together and went to college. Living with him was alright... we fought at times, loved at others, but there was a lot of stress in our life because of college and work ...
A. 14 August 2007: I can totally understand where your mum is coming from, personally i would have cut his di#k off, but there you go.
Now due to the fact you are an adult you should be left to make your own decisions and mistakes.
Have you two spoken about his infi... (read in full...)
How long after you take drugs can you give blood?
Q. heyy its my birthday in a week, and now since they lowered the age to give blood my mom wants me to give. I'm all for it, but the problem is around june i smoked some weed, i'm wondering how long i have to wait before i can give blood? and what ...
A. 14 August 2007: It depends on how much of it you smoke and how often, if you have only had it a few times it should be out of your system in ten days, if you smoke it regulary it can take up to 45 days to get out of your system.
It can also depend on your body weig... (read in full...)
I just dont know what i should do, should i marry him?
Q. I'm 18 and last weekend my boyfriend of 3 years asked me to marry him. At the time it seemed perfect - the way he asked, the place, everything he said, but now I had time to think about it and I am not sure I really want to be married so young. I am ...
A. 14 August 2007: I would say if you have to ask for opinions on this babe then you should definately not do it, i know when my husband proposed to me i did not have to think twice about it at any time.
I think with the fact that he has cheated on you so many time... (read in full...)
I just wanted to know will I feel like this forever or will I start getting over him?
Q. Me and my bf recently broke up. I really miss him and I am finding it hard to move on. I just wanted to know will I feel like this forever or will I start getting over him? ...
A. 14 August 2007: Oh babe thats crap and i know how it feels but trust me you will definately get over it and probably forget all about him in time too.
Get out with your friends and have some fun and you'll be fine in no time.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm just worried that she wont text me. I don't know why but knowing she did not text me will kill my insides
Q. My birthday is tomorrow. All my friends are texting me already, but there's this girl who i liked so much. We are good friends. I'm just worried that she wont text me. I don't know why but knowing she did not text me will kill my insides! Am i ...
A. 14 August 2007: Happy birthday!!!!!!!!!!
Honesty.. ok just enjoy your birthday and don't worry about it, she might just forget it's your birthday or something and you will then spend the day beating yourself up about it.
And if you like her that much why don't yo... (read in full...)
Should I give it one last try or cut my losses and move on?
Q. Well hello there all, I'm just here looking for some advice on my relationship (if you can call it that). Where to start, My partner works away about six months out of the year, he comes home for a long weekend at the end of every month. While he is ...
A. 14 August 2007: Oh how controlling he sounds, so it's ok for him to have a job and spend all weekend out and about enjoying himself, yet you are not aloud to do the same.
Do you really want to spend you life like this?
If i were in your position i would be out o... (read in full...)
She is more experienced then me but she doesn't know that as I lied and said I've done things in the past too,
Q. Hey guys I have a problem! Just wondering if you could help me, I keep wanting to ask my girlfriend about her past. I don't want to know what she's been up to before but I keep wanting to ask her, I duno why! She is more experienced then me but ...
A. 14 August 2007: I think the past is best left in the past, what would it achieve by you finding out what she had got up to anyway.
So she tells you everything and then you start beating yourself up about it through jealously, this is just a path to rela... (read in full...)
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