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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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Looking for info about oral
Q. Im 16, and I know this boy thats 18. He and I are kinda friends, i really like him and he really likes me. But my family doesnt like him because of rumors they've heard, and he's my friends ex, so we cant be a couple. I want to give him oral, and i ...
A. 22 July 2007: You are sixteen so i can not see the problem with it, however i find it very difficult to try and explain, the best person you can speak to about this is your partner when you have one, and they can guide you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Am I Pregnant Even Though I Wasn't At My Most Fertile?
Q. hello, i was wondering if anyone could help me with this question? i had unprotected sex on 7/20/07 and i get my period on the 29th day of each month. and my hubby came inside me is there a chance im gonna be pregnant? because i am trying to be ...
A. 22 July 2007: Babe you can get pregnant any day of the month, so maybe if you don't come on you should buy a kit.
Good luck.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I like a workmate but don't know if he feels the same
Q. Ive liked this guy for a long long time and i dont know if he feels the same but i work with him and my friend is acting like a middle man what should i do??...
A. 22 July 2007: It's a modern world babe so if you like him then why not ask him out for a drink.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
If you don't swallow during oral, can you still get and STI?
Q. you can get an STI from giving head i know, how ever if you dont swollow, does this mean you cant get one? ...
A. 22 July 2007: If you have open sores in your mouth it is possble.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
'I think my son is too young for engagement'.
Q. My 17-year-old son has told me he got engaged to his girlfriend, who's also 17. He said she proposed to him, and he accepted. I'm worried about this. I feel he's too young to do this but he really wants to do it. He said after he leaves college,...
A. 22 July 2007: I was seventeen when i got engaged and now i am 29 and married to the same person with two children.
I think if thats what he wants you just need to let him get on with it, if you try to put up a fight about it you could end up pushing him away... (read in full...)
What could I do to make it better and to repair our relationship?
Q. At this moment my relationship with my parents is not good. First, my dad asked me to do something and I did it for a little bit, then I left to go somewhere. When I came out of it his attitude changed and he was angry plus moody because I did not ...
A. 22 July 2007: You parents are there for life and you will always need them, so yes maybe you should apologise for whatever it is you have done i can't see it doing any harm.
I would make you come accross more grown up to your father as well if you own up to some... (read in full...)
I decided that the best thing to do would be to avoid him for a bit to give us both space...
Q. I am a guy who met another guy (we are both gay and out) about 6 months ago, by chance have been 'bumping' into him more of late and each time there are butterflies and fireworks between us to a point we can not really speak properly beyond basic ...
A. 22 July 2007: I think you are doing the right thing by giving him some space and time, sometimes thats what people need to make them realise that they really like someone and if this does not happen at least you know where you stand and you can move on.
Take care... (read in full...)
I can't tell where I stand with him... can you?
Q. Hi, I would appreciate some help here. I've been going out with a friend of mine Kelvin for dinners/movies for the past month. Sometimes he'll come pick me up and sometimes he'll pick the tab as well. It all seems like a normal date but he didn...
A. 22 July 2007: I think maybe should should just give him some time, he obviously like you if he keeps taking you out and he has told your friend that he has issues which are holding him back.
Maybe he is just trying to work through these issues himself and that... (read in full...)
Could she have forgotten about me so easily and quickly?
Q. Hi, me again! As you know my 2 year, long distance relationship ended almost 4 weeks ago when she decided she couldn't cope anymore... I don't know if it really feels like 4 weeks ago... It feels like such a long time ago in some ways, and in other...
A. 22 July 2007: Do you know what, i went through exactly the same thing very resently except i had been with my partner for twelve years ever since i left school, so i knew nothing else.
He was going out all of the time and enjoying myself or so i thought but that... (read in full...)
Is it possible for us to go back to the happy way we were?
Q. please help!does he still love me???? I have been with my boyfriend for nearly two years. We have had an amazing relationship, he use to do everything for me. Although sometimes i did take things for granted and we started to argue a lot after th...
A. 22 July 2007: Listen babe you are both very young and rightly so he does not want to commit to you yet.
Don't put so much pressure on your relationship and just enjoy it, you should just have fun and if you are still together in a few years time then re-e... (read in full...)
19 and 14 is that ok?
Q. Is it ok for me to date a guy that is 19 and I am 14?. I really like him and don't want to let him go....
A. 22 July 2007: There's nothing wrong with an age gap if you are both consenting adults, which in this case you are not.
You really need to think about what a man of 19 wants from a relationship with a 14 year old child.
Your teenage years do not last long eno... (read in full...)
'He can't sleep', is there anything i can do to help?
Q. Ok this is more for my boyfriend. Wev'e been sleeping together for about 4 months now and he has a problem. When were not together at night he can't sleep, he tosses and turns all night and is now looking tired and stressed, i love him so much but...
A. 22 July 2007: If he can not sleep and he looks tired and stressed all the time, then my suggestion to you would be to get him to visit his gp about it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm married, but i'm attracted to one of my college instructors.
Q. Hi, I am a 34 year old college student, I am married with 2 children. I have become seriously attracted to one of my instructors (who is a female). I have never had any feelings for another woman before in my life, but I find myself daydreami...
A. 22 July 2007: Are you having problems in your marriage at the moment as that could be a reason for why you are suddenly attracted to anyone else.
You are married though and should try and ignore what sounds like a crush and concentrate on your mmarriage.
Take ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend.
Q. Okay, so I really like this guy. We definitely had "a thing" . But then I couldn't hang out with him for a long time(during summer), and then when I finally could hang out with him..I come back and he has a girlfriend. It sucks because I didn't real...
A. 22 July 2007: We can't answer that for you babe, he knows you like him though so if you are prepared to wait the relationship is bound to go pear shaped before too long if she is unfaithful to him.
Hang in there.
Take care.xx.
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SITE NEWS: Moderators needed!
Q. Hi, with the site getting busier all the time I'm looking for new volunteer moderators... PLEASE READ THIS CAREFULLY BEFORE RESPONDING -- many moderators drop out after just a couple of weeks so if you're not committed please don't apply! ...
A. 21 July 2007: Hi Andrew, I responded to this last time without success so i will try again, i love your site and log on daily and answer as many questions as i possibly can.
I would love the opportunity to be a moderator.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Can you have sex while on your period?
Q. Hi,I'm wat u would call a curious teenager,and i woz just wandering whether it is possible 2 have sex whilst ur on ur period.i no that it probably isn't possible,but i woz just wandering,so n e answers would b much appreciated Thanksx...
A. 21 July 2007: Yep do it alot myself.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is it ok to spend the night at my girlfriends house?
Q. My special lady owns a house, so i sometime on weekends spend in her house, i live with my cousin, now my cousin is all over me saying am doing it wrong, me i dont find it wrong, my girl too does not find it wrong too. Am asking for advise about th...
A. 21 July 2007: You are both adults so do what you like it has nothing to do with anyone else and it most certainly does not sound as though you are doing anything wrong at all.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He as nice to me on the bus, but then sent nasty instant messages on the computer
Q. This boy who I sort of like is always flirting with me on the bus and on Thursday afternoon on the bus back from school he tried to get one of my best friends to move so that he could sit next to me. He is really nice to me on the bus and he also ...
A. 21 July 2007: I would forget this one girl he sounds like a bit of a messer, move on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
To confess or not confess my undying love ... that is the question
Q. Hello, this is quite a long story, but i will try and condense it as best i can. So what it is about is, five years ago, my female best friend, married her husband. 2 years ago they divorced, but she never told anyone in our circle of friend...
A. 21 July 2007: The friend that knows is she good friends with this women? could she not sound her out about you or even see if she would confide in her as to who she is in love with.
Maybe she is in love with you but won't say as she is scared of what reac... (read in full...)
I love my best friend but don't want to lose our friendship
Q. I have a friend that i have feelings for and i dont know what to do. i am 22 years old and i fell in love with my best friend he is everything to me. i now that he has feelngs for me but i dont now what to do because i dont what to lose him as a ...
A. 21 July 2007: Tell him how you feel about him, if he is that much of a good friend and he does not feel the same which you clearly think he does then it should not effect your friendship.
Someone has to make the first move because if you both carry on like this... (read in full...)
Should I send flowers to my ex?
Q. Should I send flowers to my ex? We have been broken up for one month, after she broke up with me. I have maintained NC, save the two times that she initiated contact with me. I am still interested in getting back together with her. She is ...
A. 21 July 2007: Did she give you a reason as to why she was ending it with you?
Has anything changed that would make her want you back.
You could try sending the flowers with a little note to say that you have missed her and you would like to get together for a ch... (read in full...)
My friend keeps marrying men I think are losers, what can I do?
Q. By best friend keeps on marrying loosers what can I do to help??????...
A. 21 July 2007: Just because you see them as losers does not mean to say that she does, she obviously see's something ggod in them to marry them in the first place.
She is a grown women so you just have to sit back and let her make her own mistakes and just be ther... (read in full...)
My dad says I'm lazy and he refuses to buy me anything
Q. Help my dad won't speak to me. He is very mad at me for not helping him with his office work. Now he won't buy me anything. He says that I am very lazy. Not even new clothes to wear to school. What should I do?...
A. 21 July 2007: You're an adult now so maybe he is just trying to give you you're independance in a roundabout way, if you have a problem with it then like others have suggested go out and get a part time job and buy your own things.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He hasn't updated his internet profile status from 'single' to 'in a relationship'
Q. hiya what do you think it means if a guy you are seeing calls himself "single" on a internet profile thing eg facebook/myspace. He has been on it recently but has not updated his relationship status though lots of people know he is seeing someone/...
A. 21 July 2007: Maybe it has not even crossed his mind to change it yet, if you have only been together a short time he might have decided not to count his chickens yet, like you have said lots of people know that you are seeing each other so he is not trying to ... (read in full...)
I'm almost 18 and she is almost 14; is it Ok to date her?
Q. is it alright if i am 17 going on 18 in november and im going out with a 13 going to be 14 in dec. because i think she is worth it but i dont know what to do please i need help. and my parents are telling lies to break up with her and they say that ...
A. 21 July 2007: Ok you are an adult and she most definately is still a child so i can see why your parents have an issue with it, but that is pobably only because they are worried about you and what could happen if you were to take things to a sexual level with ... (read in full...)
I found condoms in his travel bag and although he assures me he wouldn't cheat, I can't stop thinking about it
Q. my boyfriend of 4 months has gone on a business trip for 5 days and i bought him a going away present and card to read on the plane, but when i opened the front zip on his suitcase to put them in i found a handful of condoms scattered in the bottom ...
A. 21 July 2007: Wait and see what he has to say when he phones you again before you make any decisions as you could well regret it, ok i'm not in your situation and i know nothing about either of you but it does sound perfectly plausible everything he has had to ... (read in full...)
I'm going to meet a boyfriend's parents for the first time in my life; I'm very shy and so nervous about it
Q. Help! I have to visit my boyfriend's parents for the first time tomorrow. This is the first time I've ever met a b.f.'s family. I know, surprising for a 35 year old. I'm very introverted and self-conscious and socially anxious (and don't exactly ...
A. 21 July 2007: I agree with Kenny you just need to be yourself, has your boyfriend met any of your family yet if so ask him how he felt and dealt with the situation.
Tell your boyfriend that you are excited but at the same time nervous about the meet and he migh... (read in full...)
My husband and I do love each other but we feel resentment towards each other over unresolved baggage from the past
Q. I have been married for more than 10 years. It has been wonderful and exciting and I love my partner with all of my heart. The problem is that over time we have built up a lot of relationship baggage, that has made us both resentful towards each ...
A. 21 July 2007: You need to be able to agree to put whatever has happened in the past behind you or the relationship will not last much longer, i have to agree with Mandy7 about trying relationship counselling, if you love each other and want your marriage to work ... (read in full...)
My online romance doesn't love her husband but I feel like I don't compare
Q. I am 21, living with my parents, working full-time, and a college student. I only have a few friends to start off because I enjoy being alone most of the time. I love spending time online. Because of that, I met this girl from another state, she's ...
A. 21 July 2007: No body has to stay in a relationship that they are unhappy in anymore, there are various different services out there especiallt when you have children to help you get out and start a new life.
Maybe you should consider the possibilty that she actu... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't respect that I'm a teacher! Tonight he said he's leaving!
Q. My husband of two years is great, except that he does not and never has respected my profession as a teacher. He wants me to quit my job and go back to school to "do more" with my education. He says that life is too routine and he is not ...
A. 21 July 2007: I am so pleased for you and i really hope you are happy again.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm an Illegal Imigrant! I am scared if I tell him, he'll think I am with him only because I want marriage fior american citizenship! Any advice?
Q. Hi I have a serious question.Sorry to all of you that might get offended from this message. I have been living in the states for few years now, but I over-stayed my visa and have been illegal Imigrant for 5 months now.Never planned on it, ...
A. 20 July 2007: He is going to find out and it is much better he finds out now rather than later, because if he was not happy with it you could both end up very hurt.
I would like to say it is very risky to post this sort of question on such a big site as you neve... (read in full...)
Pain during penetration and increased vaginal discharge! What is causing this?
Q. i have been experiencing these problems for some time now. here goes. when i have sex after my period i get deep pain inside when my boyfriend penetrates. the deeper he penetrates the more it hurts. also i get painful bowel movements (doing a...
A. 20 July 2007: It is possible the that pain you are experiencing and the discharge is down to a vaginal infection, so i would strongly advise you to get an appointment with your gp straight away so they can examine you and give you the correct diagnosis and ... (read in full...)
He's in denial about his porn addiction! How do I help him?
Q. my boyfriend is addicted to downloading porn off the internet he is in denial how do i help him...
A. 20 July 2007: Like any other addiction untill the person addicted admits they have a problem there is nothing you can do, just keep talking to him about it and tell him how you feel about it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Started the pill 11 days ago. Am I protected from prenancy, yet?
Q. Hi,i just need some advice. I started a pogestron only pill 11 days ago. I had sex tonight, am i protected from pregnancy? as i was told by a nurse i have to use protection for 2 weeks?...
A. 20 July 2007: Due to the fact you have been told buy your nurse to use protection for fourteen days and that progesterone contraceptives have a higher failure rate than all other contraceptive tablets, i would advice getting a pregnancy test or at least going ... (read in full...)
How do I know she feels the same affection, I feel for her?
Q. I have a girl question. I am a 20 year old guy pursuing a 19 year old girl. We have been going on dates for about 4 months now but because of the distance apart she feels she doesn't want to make it official boyfriend girl friend until college ...
A. 20 July 2007: You just have to accept what she says and see how things go, unfortunately there is no way of knowing what goes on in her head unless she tells you, and when it comes to sleeping with her just remember that we have all been through our first time ... (read in full...)
What I want to know is how long does the Erythromycin take to get out your system and if anyone has any opinions on whether it would or wouldn't be ok to take this along with the other tablet?
Q. Hi, just found this site so am hoping someone can offer some advice, my girlfriend came home the other night with some viagra tablets! They're called kamagra and wanted me to try them, we have a healthy sex life but anyway I was recently on ...
A. 19 July 2007: I would suggest going to talk to your doctor about this, as i have looked into at the books i have on drugs and it says in there that you should not mix them as it can lower your blood levels and increase the toxicty of the viagra, unfortunately it ... (read in full...)
I have moved area to live and find I have got very strong feelings for someone and feel strange and excited!
Q. Hi, I am seperated for 4 years and now divorced for 2 years. I have moved area to live and find I have got very strong feelings for someone (which I never thought I would have after my husband) . I feel strange and excited .... not sure ...
A. 19 July 2007: Your a free women so why don't you go for it ask him out and just take it from there.
You deserve to be happy.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How can I help my friend here?
Q. I'm 21, and my friend's 19. She got married 6 months ago to a 40-year-old man who she's been with since she was 17 - and said that they married for love not money (he was a nice guy who was a builder, and said he wasn't wealthy, just lives a good l...
A. 19 July 2007: If she is that concerned about it and has tried to discuss it with him and tried counselling but nothing has improved then the only option she has left is to leave him, as it's not going to get any better if it has not already.
You sound like a grea... (read in full...)
I have just found out that my husband has been using chat rooms and talking really dirty...
Q. I have been married for 21 years, but I have just found out that my husband has been using chat rooms and talking really dirty, I think this is called cybersex, I feel like he is being unfaithful and I dont know what to do about it, he doesn't know ...
A. 19 July 2007: Well i think you are going to have to confront him about it and find out why he is doing it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I just not speak to him from now on, am I getting myself into a hopeless realtionship?
Q. Hi, I need some advice, I hope you will respond to it, ok here goes. I'm speaking to a guy on phone who I haven't really met in person. I started speaking to him on facebook, he added me as a friend because he knew my sister and her friends. He's ...
A. 19 July 2007: I think you should just try and forget about this guy and not speak to him again.
Maybe he does not want you to say anything to your sister because he knows damn well that they know he is seeing someone or something and it would get back.
I als... (read in full...)
My mother in law even had the nerve to open our mail...
Q. I have tried to get close to my mother in law, but it feels like she only puts up me because I'm married to her son. She always has something nasty to say, but it is usually when it's just her and I! For example it was just her and I in the car ...
A. 19 July 2007: You really need to talk to your husband about this because i think no matter how close he is to his mother if he knew how she was bullying you then he would have something to say about it.
If it only happens when it is just the two of you then get ... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't respect that I'm a teacher! Tonight he said he's leaving!
Q. My husband of two years is great, except that he does not and never has respected my profession as a teacher. He wants me to quit my job and go back to school to "do more" with my education. He says that life is too routine and he is not ...
A. 18 July 2007: Ok as much as you love him, do you really want to stay with someone that try's to dictate to you what job you can have?
Will he not compromise if you say you are happy to move out of the town you are living in but you would like to find a job the ... (read in full...)
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