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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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He cheated on me, but should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I recently found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has cheated on me with his ex partner. He says it was only once, but I'm not sure. He could be telling the truth as we had a row and then he spent a few nights elsewhere with ex. He says hes...
A. 19 August 2007: Dont blame you babe, you make him work and good luck i hope everything works out for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Why am i so bothered about his ex coming back, when we are just friends with benefits?
Q. I'll try to make this brief. I cheated on my first love 2 years ago, he left me (as he should!) and swiftly got together with one of his very pretty friends. Over the past two years he had forgiven me, he has contacted me on and off, I NEVER contact ...
A. 19 August 2007: Personally i think you are kidding yourself, i think you do really like him still but just have serious doubts.
That's why you are bothered about his ex returning and you are worried that even though you are just friends with benefits as soon as s... (read in full...)
Do you think i might be pregnant?
Q. hi Im 17 years old and i think im pregnant I have sore breasts, my period is a month late, my stomache hurts all the time,, i cant eat certain things, it sounds good then it hurts my stomache, im always tired... please help me if its possib...
A. 19 August 2007: It does sound like the signs of pregnancy but at the same time it is also the signs of a period coming, that fact that you are worrying can delay a period as well.
I would suggest getting a home test or going to see your GP, as that is the only way ... (read in full...)
I don't have to worry if he just pulls out, do i?
Q. ok me and my boyfriend are attempting a quickie but we dont have time for a condom but if he pulls out we shouldnt worry right i understand preejaculation but has that ever really gotten someone pregnant?...
A. 19 August 2007: You most certainly do have to worry about getting pregnant, you are playing Russian roulette if you attempt having sex in this way, i don't know statistics but yes people have got pregnant in this way.
You need to be very careful as what you are ... (read in full...)
Should I still question him about the affair? How can he act like it never happened?
Q. On June 1 2006 I read an email that my husband had sent to one of my closest friends, she lived across the street from us. The email said that he had this hug guilt complex hit him, "It's not that I don't want to see you or talk to you, believe ...
A. 19 August 2007: Babe you need to stop playing that part then, if he is not willing to give you the answers that you need then you will never get over this.
As for her there is no point in ever thinking that you will get any answers out of her, she done it beca... (read in full...)
Help, I think I might be pregnant!
Q. I need your help whether i might be pregnant. Well i thought i might be so i took two pregnacy test and they both came up negative.Then i waited till 5 days after my missed period and that one also came up saying not pregnant. Now im not sure when ...
A. 19 August 2007: Thats great news.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He says if I dont go out with him he will find other girls to 'chill with'
Q. Since i have been with m boyfriend he has made going out with my friends a chore. He will call me all the time, give me a curfew..(usually no later than 2am) otherwise he s implies i am a girl of ill repute. it got to the point that i am now always ...
A. 18 August 2007: You have not had to put up with this, you have chosen to put up with it, you can get out of this relationship whenever you feel like it and if he is making you feel this bad and acting like such a complete twat i have to say i don't know what you ... (read in full...)
I had sex with him, but now he says I am too young
Q. I got Invited over a guys house that im seeing hes 19 and im 15...i met his mum and dad and their great they loved me and didnt seem to mind the age gap...we went upstairs 2 his room and 1 thing led 2 another...we ended up having sex and in the ...
A. 18 August 2007: The difference is that it is illegal what you done and maybe he realised that and is now panicking.
There is no problem with the age gap if the two people concerned have not got a problem with it and it is legal.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
In love with my classmate but he has a gf!!!
Q. hi! I am in a very big dilemma and hope that you will be able to help me out. Feel free to give your opinions. Actually, i has been 3 months since i started to love a classmate. At first i proposed him but he said that he is already going ou...
A. 18 August 2007: It's OK to love someone else's boyfriend as long as you realise that you can't have them until they are separated.
Just have to carry on the way you are at the moment just being his friend and hopefully for you they will split and you can be toge... (read in full...)
Should I still question him about the affair? How can he act like it never happened?
Q. On June 1 2006 I read an email that my husband had sent to one of my closest friends, she lived across the street from us. The email said that he had this hug guilt complex hit him, "It's not that I don't want to see you or talk to you, believe ...
A. 18 August 2007: You need to address the affair and you need to tell your husband that there is absolutely no chance of a future for you if this does not happen, because i firmly believe that is the only way you will be able to get through this.
My husband had an a... (read in full...)
Is my abusive ex partner stalking me?!
Q. has anyone got any views on this? my ex partner, who can be abusive, said a few things to me when i was with him which makes me wonder does he stalk me. one time i was going to put a curtain up at my back door as you can see right into my house, and ...
A. 18 August 2007: Stalking come in different ways and the phoning and pestering are things that are easy to prove if you ever needed to go to the police about it.
Him looking through your back window is an invasion of privacy and trespassing if he is in your gard... (read in full...)
My husband wants to take me to a sex club and have sex with other people... but I don't want to!
Q. hello my husband at first sugested on having a 3sum for a while in the end i did mmf but now he wants to go to club to have sex with others i didnt feel comfortable about this but said yes to it we arrange to go. we got outside and i saw what typ...
A. 18 August 2007: Husband or not you do what you want to do babe and if you are not comfortable with that then do not let him pressure you into doing it.
If he wants to do that sort of thing you tell him that he needs to go pack his bags and find someone that is will... (read in full...)
He's got no money and can't work because of his bad leg... so his solution is for me to sell my body (sex-wise) for money!
Q. i gt bk with my bf in april after breaking up in dec.we gt engagd recently and he took me to his country to meet hiz parents.he says he loves me and does nearly everything i say we plan a lovly future but the onlything is he does nt want to work ...
A. 18 August 2007: Tell him where to get off, what a bloody lame excuse 'he does not want to work because of a problem with his leg'.
Don't you dare sell your body to make money to make him happy and rich and what makes him think they will make you rich anyway.
You w... (read in full...)
I feel like we are supposed to be together and she does too... But she has a boyfriend now!
Q. So my ex-girlfriend and I dated for 2 years and 11 months, and due to a huge miscommunication we broke up, and we are now starting to realize what we had and could still have. The only problem is she has a boyfriend now who she likes but she is in ...
A. 18 August 2007: Unfortunately people do get hurt in life that's just something we all have to go through, but if she is in love with you then she really does need to end it with her current boyfriend.
You need to tell her that you love her and that you want to be w... (read in full...)
What do you think I can do to excite my boyfriend.. and not just sexually?
Q. what can i do to excite my boyfriend, i really like him and dont want him to get bored and go off with someone else, we went out last year for 6 months and he dumped me cos i wasnt interested in our relationship at all but this year i really am and ...
A. 18 August 2007: Do you have anything in common for a start, like going out shopping, bowling, cinema, watching football/rugby that sort of thing?
Maybe you just don't like the same things and if that is the case you will probably not work out.
Commu... (read in full...)
How can i restore my past relationship?
Q. Here is some grave problem with me.i have been in love with a girl for 4 years but she does not love as i do with her.now she broke up.she complained i phoned her many times in a day. she changes her mobile number now.but i have doubt on her that ...
A. 18 August 2007: Babe i am afraid to say this but if your ex is not willing to sort this out and she no longer wants to even talk to you, then there is nothing you can do.
What happened for you to break up in the first place, because you phoning her too many time... (read in full...)
I'm worried about him, he keeps getting sick since his accident.
Q. Recently my boyfriend went to the hospital over an injury with his head from a canoeing trip. He went for scans to look for blood clots etc. It came out that he had none so they don't actually know what is wrong with him. But when he was in there ...
A. 18 August 2007: He really needs to go back to the hospital and see someone else, he should not be feeling this way and they should be able to run some more tests on him.
The doctors will not mind seeing him again if you are concerned and so i think that is the thin... (read in full...)
How can I up my libido?
Q. I have been in a relationship for 4 years, when my boyfriend and I have sex, he is in the mood so much more then I am. He does not like to forplay and but likes to go right to it. I cant get hot going right to it. so most of the time im just laying ...
A. 18 August 2007: You should not have to make yourself in the mood, love making is a joint thing and i think this may be the problem.
You boyfriend is being very selfish in the way that he wants to have sex with out the foreplay and because you know he does not want... (read in full...)
I am really shy and self conscious about my looks
Q. so i am really shy and self concious even though alot of people say i shouldnt be. i am very self concious of my appearence, but people tell they dont understand why because alot of them think i am cute or hondsome. but i really have issues with my ...
A. 18 August 2007: A lack of self confidence stands out in people like a sore thumb and people will see it a mile off.
Maybe you should try visiting your doctor to see if you can get some therapy to try and deal with this as there is usually a reason some where for ... (read in full...)
We had our first kiss, but I think I messed up
Q. I am 14 years old and my girlfriend is 13..Well my girlfriend and I been going out for about 2 and 9 days. She very smart and basicly living life. But like I dont really see her as much because she goes to a private school and I only just in a ...
A. 18 August 2007: I think you just took her by surprise and she was shocked, she obviously has not got a problem with it or I'm sure she would have let you know.
Take things slow and just see what happens.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
On again, off again? How do we move forward?
Q. How do I win him back? Onagain, off again... he doesn't know what he wants... can't fully commit, butcan't seem to leave me alone either. Right now on a break as both are tired of the yo-yo of me wanting more and his not knowing what he wants. ...
A. 18 August 2007: If you feel this strongly about him, then surely it is worth a shot.
There is no harm in trying one last thing, as I'm sure you do not want to spend the rest of your life wondering what if.
You have to be definite in your decision to walk away tho... (read in full...)
Should i make a move on him?
Q. Dear Cupid, I really like this guy and I'm so scared to ask him out! I(embarrassingly)have fantasies! I'm obsessed with guy and I want to go out with him! I want to have my first real kiss with him, but I'm afraid to make a move! He also has this ...
A. 18 August 2007: Babe as much as you like him, like you say he has a girlfriend so all the time that is the case he is off limits.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He popped the question after five days.
Q. Hey Guys I have a question okay here it is. I have been with this guy named Sam for about 5 days he popped the question over the phone last night and we are 2 years difference in age he is 17 and i am 15 he lives in seatle i am in texas and we plan ...
A. 18 August 2007: I don't mean to be nasty babe but i really think you need to wake up, you live miles apart i am guessing with the short time you have been together you have never even met each other and he has asked you to marry him.
How exactly did you meet him?... (read in full...)
Do women find men masterbating a turn off?
Q. I was wonderin if women find a guy masterbating a turn-off and how much times a day is too much? any help is appreciated...
A. 18 August 2007: I happen to find it a major turn on and i could not care less how many times aday he does it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He makes me feel as though everything is my fault.
Q. My fiance keeps saying he wants me to be like how I was the other day which was I cooked for him and we got along really well. I tried to tell him that it takes two to make a relationship work and that it's not all up to me. I said that the reason I ...
A. 18 August 2007: Why would you still want to be with him then babe?
Sounds like he wants a mother figure not a girlfriend, you are right it does take two to make a relationship work and if he is not willing to put the effort in then he is not worth it.
Take ... (read in full...)
If a blood test is for appendicitis, will it also show if i'm pregnant?
Q. Does anyone know if wen you get a blood test that it will show if your pregnant? Becaus i got a blood test to see if i have appendisitis and want to know if the docter would tell ma mum i'm pregnant if the test showed. So does any one know if the ...
A. 18 August 2007: ehealthforum.com/health/topic17842
Check out this site babe as it will answer the question for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is it gross to have sex while you are on?
Q. I have a date with my boyfriend this Sunday, August 19. The thing is that we always do it, but I got my period today Saturday. Do you think is gross to do it, or does your period stop? Know should I tell him, im on it or what? Help??...
A. 18 August 2007: If you are cool with it and your boyfriend is aswell then it's fine, personally it does not stop me and my husband having sex.
I never have very heavy periods so it does not really make much difference to us.
You should definately tell him and ask ... (read in full...)
We are 13, and my girlfriend has asked if i would like oral, what do you think?
Q. my girlfriend and i have been together for 8 months already. she is now asking me if i want a blowjob. we are 13. what do we do?...
A. 18 August 2007: Personally i think if you have to ask about things like this then you are not ready or old enough to be doing it.
There is no rush for things like that at your age.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He talks about my sister when we are having sex.
Q. i have a boyfreind who is just a lil older than me. he is 24 and im 17 .we got along so well in the begining of our relationship and now its just falling apart it seems .he asked me if i wanted to have a threesome with my sister! i feel uncomfor...
A. 18 August 2007: If he is making you feel unattractive and as though you are not worth anything, and he talks about your sister while you are having sex, then i would strongly advise you to get rid of this man as he is a total creep.
I would never stand any man talk... (read in full...)
I gave my NOT gay best friend head and now he is being funny with me.
Q. ugh!!!....u may have read my other plee for help...well to break it down I love my not gay best friend and he sayd he's not gay...well the new story is that he asked me to give him head...and he sayd it wouldn't change anything at all so I was ...
A. 18 August 2007: Maybe he is gay but just afraid to admit it, or maybe he thought what he asked you to do was wrong because of who he is and is now worried that he messed with your head so he is acting differently as to not give you any more wrong impressions.
T... (read in full...)
Some people say the age gap is perverted.
Q. Well basically i turned 15 late may and i really like this girl who is 12 atm and she will turn 13 in earlier febuary. Is it wrong for me to go out with someone 2 years and 8 months younger than myself? Like loads of people say its ok but then loads ...
A. 18 August 2007: If you like her and realise there should not be anything sexual between the two of you yet then i would not say it was perverted as you are both still children having fun.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Only married a month and we are already talking divorce
Q. I married my bf of 2 yrs a mth ago, so far our marriage is horrible! we argue 24/7 we have already discussed divorce, i am so lonely in this marriage it is horrible. everyone is telling me it is normal to argue this much.. is it? If so why get ...
A. 18 August 2007: I would not say that it is normal to argue that much at all, after all you should still be in the honeymoon period.
Did you argue this much before you got married? if not what has changed.
Don't give up just yet see if you can get to the route of... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish, do you think he would actually be able to make money with this idea?
Q. My boyfriend and I have a 4 month old baby and another on the way. I am a stay at home mom and he works. We are renting right now and have been talking about buying a home. He hasn't applied for a loan though. He wants to buy this cnc machine, and ...
A. 18 August 2007: He may make money he may not, but you will never know until he try's it.
Now you say your in rented accommodation so you have not got a house to lose if it does not work and he will still have his day job.
I see where you are coming from with you... (read in full...)
We've been broken up for six months, can it work again?
Q. Help! I think I want to get back with partner and I know he definitely wants to make another go of it with me. We were together for 4 years and split in February though have kept in touch a few times by text. He's a really nice, honourable guy ...
A. 18 August 2007: You have to take chances in life, otherwise you will have regrets when you are too old to do anything about them.
I got together with my husband after ten months of being apart and there are no guarantees you just have to take each day as it come... (read in full...)
He cheated on me, but should I give him another chance?
Q. Hi, I recently found out that my boyfriend of 3 months has cheated on me with his ex partner. He says it was only once, but I'm not sure. He could be telling the truth as we had a row and then he spent a few nights elsewhere with ex. He says hes...
A. 18 August 2007: Everyone deserves a second chance, but he needs to realise that he can't go running off to his ex if you two argue, the right thing to do would be talk about things and get them sorted.
The decision is yours at the end of the day, but only do it i... (read in full...)
My 11 year old daughter is looking at porn on the internet.
Q. I found out my 11 year old daughter looks at porn on the internet. She doesn't know I know yet. Should I say something to her? If so, what? And should I tell my wife first?...
A. 17 August 2007: I think you should tell your wife, as i think that this sort of thing should be dealt with by both of you.
Maybe you should consider getting some parental blocks on the internet usage as well to stop this sort of thing from happening.
Take care.x.... (read in full...)
She is moving in with three guys she does ot know.
Q. My girlfriend of 4 months is really good looking!! but im worried she is moving in with three guys she doesnt know!!! Should i be worried? Will she find them more attractive, or fall for one of them, they must fancy her that is why they gave ...
A. 17 August 2007: Who knows what will happen when she moves in with them, you know your girlfriend better than any of us do.
Talk to her about your concerns and see what she say's.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I've fell for him, and then he told me he was getting married.
Q. Hi Agony Aunt... Really hoping you can help me as i am in a bit of a confused state at the moment. About 5 weeks ago i started to chat to a guy online and we clicked instantly. We have chatted about anything and everything. And i could feel myself g...
A. 17 August 2007: No matter what he tells you, he has not yet gotten married so if he really does not want to do it he does not have to.
I'm not being funny but how do you know he is not stringing the same line to a load of other women, and he said he did not real... (read in full...)
How effective is the contraceptive injection??
Q. Me and my gf ave been having sex for about 3 months now and we have always used condoms, we both lost our virginity to each other so we know there are no std's or anything nasty.Its just as some of you may know its not always convinient to stop and ...
A. 17 August 2007: Hi, right here goes....
You have to have the injection every three months, and it is injected at the top of the bum yes, as for wether it hurts or not depends on the nurse like with all injections, when i had it done i generally could hardly feel... (read in full...)
We have no intimacy in our relationship...
Q. My relationship sucks!!!!!! We don't have sex in any form. Every day it's go to work, watch movies and then to bed. Thier is no intmacy at all. Time to bail or what?...
A. 17 August 2007: Do you want to bail or would you prefer to try and sort this out?
Sometimes relationships can become a bit routine, but you need to find out the reason why, which one of you has lost their sex drive?
There are many sex therapists that can help you... (read in full...)
Could she get pregnant from toilet paper?
Q. can a 17 year old girl get pregnant if a guy masturbates in the bathroom and he ripes off a layer of toilet paper and a lil sperm droped on the other layer of toilet paper that is on the wall?...
A. 17 August 2007: Most definately not, you penis needs to be inside her or you need to ejaculate somewhere in the region of her vagina.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do I wait to tell my mum that I'm moving in w/ my guy after he has the flat?
Q. any idea how i can break it to my mum i wanna move in with my boyfriend. In a few months i can legally move out. Im almost 16 and my boyfriend is 17. we can aford it and everything. Do i tell her now or wait till he's got the flat? and what am i ...
A. 16 August 2007: I think she would have more respect for you as a growing adult if you talked to her about it before he gets the flat, but be prepared for her to say she is not happy about it.
You have to apprieciate that she is going to be concerned as you are stil... (read in full...)
Help, I think I might be pregnant!
Q. I need your help whether i might be pregnant. Well i thought i might be so i took two pregnacy test and they both came up negative.Then i waited till 5 days after my missed period and that one also came up saying not pregnant. Now im not sure when ...
A. 8 August 2007: It's obvious that you are worried about being pregnant and that stress can cause missed periods, if i were you i would go to your doctors and get them to do a blood test so you know for sure.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
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