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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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I discreetly got DNA and the result shows I am not her biological father. I am stunned and do not know what to do.
Q. Just found out my 12 year old daughter is not mine, I was divorced recently and an old friend of my ex wife told me when she had a few drinks . I confronted my ex she said it was rubbish but it has been playing on my mind for months. I discreetly ...
A. 10 July 2007: You have been her father now for the past twelve years, and i can't even begin to imagine how you are feeling right now you must be devestated.
Ok so you are not her biological father but you are still the one that has been there for her.
Do yo... (read in full...)
Hi, recently i had sores in my mouth. i have alot of coldsores but usually on my lip and never thought you could get them in the mouth.
Q. Hi, recently i had sores in my mouth. i have alot of coldsores but usually on my lip and never thought you could get them in the mouth. I gave my partner oral sex and am quite confused about what happens. oral herpes is called HSv1 right? and ...
A. 10 July 2007: Rarely, genital infections can be due to HSV1 that has been transmitted by oral contact with the genitals.
The incubation period is usually about a week, so if you have done this and he is concerned then he should visit his doctor for tests.
Take ... (read in full...)
I have meltdowns about once a month and I'm pregnant! My husband gets mad at me and I'm also scared for the health of my baby! What can I do?
Q. And no I am not talking about meltdowns from a 2-year-old, I'm unfortunatley talking about meltdowns from myself. I'm 24-years-old and recovering from depression. I hold down a full-time job and got a bachelor's degree so I have not let it ...
A. 10 July 2007: Being on the medication for that long, as i have recently found out can have a big impact on you when stopped just like that, i know obviously you are pregnant but it may be worth telling your doctor how you are feeling at the moment and see if they ... (read in full...)
If I meet one of her ex lovers, I get sick. She won't consider my feelings, so how do I deal with this?
Q. I`ve been goin out wit my girl for the last 6 months and she is 19, but before me she slept aith atleast 20 men, and now some of them contact her but everytime i meet someone she been with i get sick, as i imagine them together but she wont ...
A. 10 July 2007: There has got to be give and take and it can't be one rule for her and another for you.
She is not worth the hassle.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I date a guy with less formal education than me?
Q. I was wondering, does it matter whether I date a guy who has had less formal education than me? He recently asked me out. He's not been to college and I have.I wonder if that will have any effect on our relationship...help!...
A. 10 July 2007: I came out of school with no qualifications and my husband who i have been with for twelve years finished with loads and then went onto college, so i personally think that it does not matter really, if you like each other and you have things in ... (read in full...)
Whtt happens if you say "I love you" but they dont say it back?
Q. Hi. This question might apply to several situation, but theres one in particular i want to think about. what happens if at somepoint in the future i really feel i love my gf (ive only been with her for 2 and a bit weeks so far) and i tell her...
A. 10 July 2007: We all fall in love at different stages of our relationships and just because you turn around and say you are in love with someone and they don't respond it does not mean to say they will not feel the same way in a while.
If you are an insecure pers... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and I think I've got the first sings of pregnant. Do you think I am?
Q. Im 15, Ive had alot of the first signs of pregnancy like morning sickness, thrown up twice, sick stomach feeling, tiredness, backaches and headaches, Could I be Pregnant?? Please reply soon, I need all the advice I can get!! ...
A. 10 July 2007: Babe you have got off lightly, think yourself lucky and i would suggest you seriously consider getting yourself some form of contraception sorted out as next time you may not be so lucky.
As good as it may sound to have a baby you are far to youn... (read in full...)
My married boyfriend wont leave his wife for me and so I hate HER!
Q. I need your help once again! Not too long ago, I had doubts concerning a married guy that I was with. I wasn't sure about whether he'd leave his wife or not. Now, I am sure that he won't leave her because everything that wasn't "working" between ...
A. 10 July 2007: So don't be the other women any more, he has the best of both worlds he has the loving wife and children and the bit on the side and he has already proved to you thats all you will be.
There is absolutely no point in trying to distroy his marr... (read in full...)
We had an argument but now it's over I still don't feel the same about her... will it pass?
Q. After a weekend away with a large group of friends, me and my extremely close girlfriend of 4 years had an argument over jealousy. She said one of my female friends - whom she has just met for the first time - was flirting with me. She got really ...
A. 10 July 2007: We all get jealous at some point in our relationship wether we chose to admit it or not.
She was upfront about how she felt and it caused an arguement, but that is healthy that you can talk about these things.
I understand how you feel, you now ... (read in full...)
My sister decided to not be together with her now ex boyfriend because she went into the Army. The issue is that we've been seeing each other since.
Q. I really do need some help and advice. I am 23 and my sister is 19 who has just left to go into the Army. Before she left to go in the Army she had a boyfriend who she was with for three months. Since she has been in there they decided to not be ...
A. 10 July 2007: Your sister gave up the relationship, you have done nothing wrong in seeing him, but at the same time i can also understand how you would feel that you have been disloyal.
If the relationship has been kept under wraps why not try sounding your sist... (read in full...)
We broke up and she says she needs space and that I shouldn't contact her... It all happened so quickly!
Q. Hey, I know this is a typical question but her goes. I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago, it was the day before she was to fly home for the summer holidays - we have just graduated from uni. The night before she was due to fly she told me she need...
A. 10 July 2007: But she has made it clear to you not to contact her babe, and considering the way you feel about her do you really honestly think you could have a light hearted conversation with her?
I think you would be best to try and move on and if she cont... (read in full...)
I am a married man of 18 months but recently i have been having wild dreams and fantasies about a collegue at work
Q. Hiya please can you help and give me advice as to what to do. I am a married man of 18 months but recently i have been having wild dreams and fantasies about a collegue at work, she is nearly 50 and married but is really gorgeous and kind, i so wan...
A. 9 July 2007: No you should not just go round there and see what happens, you are a married man.
How would you feel if the tables were turned, would you be ok with your wife just going round and seeing what happens.
Is there anything wrong in your marriage... (read in full...)
My ex and I both have significant others but we still love each other and want to be together.
Q. My ex and I both have significant others but we still love each other and want to be together. You know the saying "Let him go and if he comes back then its meant to be but if he doesn't then he was never your's to begin with" Well that's true we ...
A. 9 July 2007: If you truley love each other and want to be together, then you both need to leave your partners as you really are being so unfair to them as they deserve happiness as well.
Your right if it's meant to be then it's meant to be but don't string anyo... (read in full...)
Caught my husband of 10 years having an affair with my best friend! Can we work this as an open marriage?
Q. I recently caught my husband of ten years in an affair with my best friend. I had suspected something several years ago and confronted him but he denied it and life went on. I now find out it has been going on for 7 years. He says he loves me and ...
A. 9 July 2007: Why should you let them have their cake and eat it, and personally i do think that it most definately wont work especially now you have confirmation of it.
You deserve better than this, i personally would have nothing to do with either of them and ... (read in full...)
We broke up and she says she needs space and that I shouldn't contact her... It all happened so quickly!
Q. Hey, I know this is a typical question but her goes. I broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago, it was the day before she was to fly home for the summer holidays - we have just graduated from uni. The night before she was due to fly she told me she need...
A. 9 July 2007: I think you should show her respect and do what she asks and not contact her, if she really wants you when she gets back from summer holidays if thats what you still want then try and pick up.
Hopefully after she has been this blunt with you thou... (read in full...)
He went away on business and promised to call to say he got there safely... but didn't!
Q. Recently my b/f went away on business. The night he left, he promised to call when he arrived at his first destination. He knows that I am always unable to sleep until I know he's there in one piece. He never called. I laid awake until 1:30 AM ...
A. 9 July 2007: So you gave him a taste of his own medicine and i don't blame you.
I would have expected a call as well just to know that he was safe, and you managed to get hold of him so there was no reason why he could not get hold of you.
With a bit of luck ... (read in full...)
Told my friends I'm a virgin and it seems all they want to talk about now is sex!
Q. Hey there, I feeling a bit let down by friends right now. A few days ago i told my friends i was a virgin (I'm 19). It's something i dont have a problem with and im quite proud of myself for not sleeping around and having one night stands. I feel ...
A. 9 July 2007: It's very childish behaviour on their part and i would try to ignore it.
So you should be proud of yourself, and if your friends were honest with themselves they are probably jealous because i know i wish i had waited.
Just don't let them know it ... (read in full...)
I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay?
Q. I turn 20 soon and im still a virgin. Is that okay? I wanted to wait until i was in a serious relationship before i had sex but now i dont know if i should just go out and sleep with someone because of the whole age-pressure thing?...
A. 9 July 2007: Definately wait for the right person to come along, there is absolutly nothing wrong with being a virgin at your age.
I only wish now that i had waited until i met my husband before i gave myself away.
Good on you girl.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Been in touch with a guy on the internet and after week hes' told me he loves me!
Q. hi evry body i have just know a boy from internet and after a week he told me that he love me shod i bleave him or not ?...
A. 9 July 2007: After a week, he is having a laugh babe sorry to say that but it's vertually impossible to be in love with someone in such a short space of time, especially when you have not even met.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I'm so mad at my gf's ex for what he did to her!! How can I control my anger?
Q. hi there .. ive been with my gf for about 4 months now .. and i just realized that a former bf of hers who i know quite well and have never really liked him.. used her and im REALLY mad because she seemed really upset .. and im jus really mad at him ...
A. 9 July 2007: Forget about it, thats the best advice, like you said you have never liked him so it is even easier for you to be angry with him about the way he treated her.
The best thing you can do is make sure you treat her well and be there for her.
Take ... (read in full...)
I have a strange anxiety about staying clean and committed to the girl i am going to get engaged to soon.
Q. I have a strange anxiety about staying clean and committed to the girl i am going to get engaged soon. I am restricting myself to much to the extent that i feel i have nothing to look forward in my life. The feelings of guilt overwhelm me when even ...
A. 9 July 2007: In a relationship both parties need their own space and time, so not to start feeling clostrophobic.
It is perfectly harmless and natural for either of you to look at other people, as long as that is all it is.
You are going to have to try and chil... (read in full...)
I've got really bad period cramps? Help!
Q. Hey! its me again! i need advice, wats the best cure for stomach cramps? i'm on my period and my stomach really kills, i know this is silly but i'm too embarressed to ask my friends thnx H:)...
A. 9 July 2007: Hot water bottle,
Ibroprofen,
A soak in a warm bath, also one of the best things for cramps is exercise go for a brisk walk or run as this boosts the release of painkilling endorphins.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
We've been together for 2 years and I've never met his mother!
Q. I have been with this guy for 2 years, We have fallen in love with each other. I see him almost everyday and pretty much his coworkers and some friends know about us, my friends do too. but I noticed in the past when we were just friends how he ...
A. 9 July 2007: Maybe it is not his decision not to take you to meet her, maybe his mum has got so fed up of meeting all the different girlfriends so has said she does not want to meet any more until he is engaged or something.
Have you asked him why he has not ... (read in full...)
I've given the father of my baby so many chances I'm beginning to feel it's time to just give up
Q. I've given the father of my baby so many chances I'm beginning to feel it's time to just give up. I have never prevented him from seeing our son. Even when he has asked for more contact I have tried to be accommodating but then been accused of ...
A. 9 July 2007: All you can do is take your son to bed each evening and tell him that his dad loves him very much, and then you have done your bit.
Your ex is the one with the problem and believe me if he carries on this way then in time his son will realise that... (read in full...)
We split so he could get back together w/ his ex for the sake of their children. He doesn't even love her!
Q. Hi Here is an update on my probs My bf of a year split up with me three weeks ago Im finding this very hard as i loved him so much and he is the greatest man iv ever met Thing is he is in the army and based on the opposit end of the country f...
A. 9 July 2007: Babe we can not tell you anything different from the last time you posted, you don't want to give up the contact with him yet it would be the only thing that would truly help you to move on from him.
I understand that you love him but don't you ... (read in full...)
My gf is two months late so she took a pregnancy test. It came up negative! Are blood tests not that accurate?
Q. hi to all... im an 18 yr old male who's gf is 2 months late already. We took a blood test to see if she's pregnant, but it came out negative. Is there something wrong or could it be that blood tests are not that accurate? Thanks...
A. 9 July 2007: I would second what Danielepew says.
Tests of all kind aren't always 100%, so to be sure it would be worth her visiting her doctor and being tested again.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I need closure from my last relationship, but my ex still refuses to speak w/ me even after 15 years! What can I do?
Q. I'm in a happy long term relationship of over 15 years. My problem is that I had one previous serious relationship of 5 years when I was at college. It ended very badly and caused me much pain. I don't think I have ever fully got over it, partly ...
A. 9 July 2007: Think about the trouble it may cause in her marriage if you were to write her a letter, as you don't know what sort of person her husband is, maybe the reason she took her name off of friends reunited was because he saw your message and was not ... (read in full...)
I fell in love with my bf because of his personality. Even though I feel guilty afterwards, is it okay to notice and flirt w/ others?
Q. Is it okay to notice other guys when I'm out with my boyfriend or just by myself? I think he's beautiful in his own way but not attractive in the "standard" sense of what you see in the media so I feel guilty when I notice guys that don't look like ...
A. 9 July 2007: I would say that it is perfectly natural to look at other people when you are in a relationship, and especially due to the fact you have said you would never cheat on him.
You see a thing of beauty and you want to look at it wether it's a piece of a... (read in full...)
My gf checks out her ex's web profile pics and ebay account! She says she's just "letting go" - should I believe her?
Q. I have dated a woman, age 28 for the past 10 months. We moved in together in March. Before this, she had another boyfriend in another city whom she kept in touch with until we 'fell in-love" I was told that there was no communication after...
A. 9 July 2007: It's probably just curiosity and i should think there is nothing to worry about, at the end of the day she is with you and if she did not want to be she wouldn't.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He wants to take us to the next level by having me meet his parents! I'm scared! What do I do?
Q. hi thanks for your advice and it helped a lot, my boyfriend wants to take our relationship to the next level, he wants me to meet the parents, i'm scared what do i do? i've been putting him off for so long is this guy serious about us?...
A. 9 July 2007: I feel that if he wants you to meet his parents then he is quite serious about you, so i would say go for it what have you got to lose.
Rake care.xx.... (read in full...)
Recently my wife lost a close family member and I would just like some advice on how to be there for her and how to try and cheer her up...
Q. Recently my wife lost a close family member and I would just like some advice on how to be there for her and how to try and cheer her up and also what to say to her in situations like the one I was in yesterday, heres what happened. Her mum came...
A. 9 July 2007: Everyones grieving process is different and this is just hers.
She has just lost someone close to her and sometimes that is a very natural reaction to think she is going to lose you as well.
She is getting on with things to try and take her mind... (read in full...)
My dad told my mom that I didn't like her very much, because she doesn't treat me that nice. This was suppose to be secret between me and my dad.
Q. My dad told my mom that I didn't like her very much, because she doesn't treat me that nice. This was suppose to be secret between me and my dad. Now I feel embarassed. My mom is on vacation right now. However when she comes back home I don't know ...
A. 9 July 2007: Maybe your dad told your mum this so she will have a chance to try and repair your relationship and make things better between you.
He has done this because he loves you.
Just wait and see what your mum is like with you when she gets back from hol... (read in full...)
What can I do to let him know that he isn't getting her back and that I'm in charge!!!
Q. My girlfriend went out with this guy and now I think he wants her back. Me and her have been going out about 4 months and she doesn't want him back but what can I do to let him know that he isn't getting her back and that I'm in charge.. thanks ...
A. 9 July 2007: Just make sure you and your girlfriend stay strong and united and he will soon get the message.
Don't worry about trying to tell him as actions speak louder than words.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How can I make my mum and dad approve of my boyfriend and allow us to marry?
Q. Ok here goes I am 16 years old and my fiance is 20 years old we are now 9 weeks pregnant and we have been together for a while, I was 15 when we got together and I'm about to be 17 in September. I want to marry him but my parents hate him and don't ...
A. 9 July 2007: I think you are going to have to prove to your parents that you are grown up enough to do this.
Whats the rush you are having a baby with him thats by far enough commitment at your age.
If i was in your parents shoes i would not agree to signing ... (read in full...)
We want to give up condoms and try to guess when it is safe--how do we do that?
Q. Hey all. I have a question. Let me just tel. you a bit about my question. K me and my bf have been having sex 3 time and we now want to do it without a condom and we both got some information. That if you do it within a average of 14 days after your ...
A. 8 July 2007: Hi,
Firstly i will start off by saying you can get pregnant any time of the month, it's just that certain times of the months it is easier.
Secondly you need to see your doctor as there are many different forms of contraception available to you t... (read in full...)
What's the quickest way to lose weight?
Q. I have watched so many videos and seen so many pictures of skinny people that makes me want to lose weight I'm a size 12 and want to know the quickest way of losing weight; I saw a size 0 and want to go to a size 6. I'm only small so fat doesn't ...
A. 8 July 2007: You should be happy with the size that you are, size twelve is healthy.
I have also seen video's, infact it was an experiment by a celebrity who attempted to get down to size zero and it made her very ill, she lost her motivation and just felt gene... (read in full...)
He really liked me and now he's so cold. What can I do?
Q. i just dont understand any of this.7 months ago i met a man,he is 40 never been married i'm 43 been in along term relationship which ended some time ago.i wasnt interested in the beginning,but the guy kept phoning me so i gave in and we started ...
A. 8 July 2007: Sounds as though he likes the idea of your company and sex but does not want the commitment, so you need to decide wether you want to sit around and wait for him on the off chance he might decide he wants to be with you on a more perminant basis.
O... (read in full...)
I have strong feelings for one of my greatest friends
Q. Hi, my name is Charlotte, and I am 17. Basically the story is, I have strong feelings for one of my greatest friends Jason* (I have known him since we both started school), and a couple of years ago, I became friends with Lucy*, Lucy and I got along ...
A. 8 July 2007: I'm just going to tell you the way i see it and you might not agree but here goes.
He has been in this relationship now for a year, they have no childen and they are not engaged to be married.
He is not tied to her in anyway, so if he really w... (read in full...)
We have big differences in opinions in the war in the Middle East. Should we not talk about this?
Q. Hello, Whenever my boyfriend and I talk about the middle east, we argue and get really annoyed with each other. Seeing as we hold quite different views (he thinks I'm prejudiced on the subject, I think that he holds his views because he confu...
A. 8 July 2007: Just agree to disagree, whats the point in argueing over something you have absolutely no control over anyway.
If we all had the same opinions it would be a pretty dull world, talk about something you do agree on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She's has been having a relationship with her bf's father! How do I tell her daughter?
Q. Just found out that my daughter is having a relationship with her partners father. How the hell are we going to explain to her two year old daughter that mummies new boyfriend is her Grandad. Just can't get my head around this, has anyone else had ...
A. 8 July 2007: Unfortunately there is nothing illegal about it so if thats who she is happy with and thats what she wants, what can you do.
It should not be your place to have to explain this to her child anyway, so i would leave that to her to explain.
Take ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but I've had this crush on a female co-worker for a long time.
Q. I'm happily married but I've had this crush on a female co-worker for a long time. How do I make it go away? ...
A. 8 July 2007: I'm not sure that you can make it go away, unless of course you are willing to leave your job so you do not see her again.
It will probably fade away in time as long as you know not to over step that line with her then whats the problem, just try ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and I think I've got the first sings of pregnant. Do you think I am?
Q. Im 15, Ive had alot of the first signs of pregnancy like morning sickness, thrown up twice, sick stomach feeling, tiredness, backaches and headaches, Could I be Pregnant?? Please reply soon, I need all the advice I can get!! ...
A. 21 June 2007: Obviously you know yourself they are some of the signs but the only way you are going to be able to know for sure is by doing a pregnancy test or going to see your doctor in confidence.
How long ago was your last period? and if you did not use anyt... (read in full...)
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