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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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Help, I think I might be pregnant!
Q. I need your help whether i might be pregnant. Well i thought i might be so i took two pregnacy test and they both came up negative.Then i waited till 5 days after my missed period and that one also came up saying not pregnant. Now im not sure when ...
A. 19 August 2007: Thats great news.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She is more experienced then me but she doesn't know that as I lied and said I've done things in the past too,
Q. Hey guys I have a problem! Just wondering if you could help me, I keep wanting to ask my girlfriend about her past. I don't want to know what she's been up to before but I keep wanting to ask her, I duno why! She is more experienced then me but ...
A. 14 August 2007: I think the past is best left in the past, what would it achieve by you finding out what she had got up to anyway.
So she tells you everything and then you start beating yourself up about it through jealously, this is just a path to rela... (read in full...)
My husband of 5 years has suddenly asked me to stick my finger up his butt while going down on him. Does this mean he is gay?
Q. My husband of 5 years has suddenly asked me to stick my finger up his butt while going down on him. Does this mean he is gay? Why does he want me to do this? I asked him won't this hurt you and he said your fingers aren't that big it will feel ...
A. 14 August 2007: You would need to ask him why he never goes down on you, and as for the finger up the bum thing i think it one of those things that some men just don't like freely admitting to liking because of the stigma that could be attached to it.
It was year... (read in full...)
When will I most likely get pregnant, just before my period or right after?
Q. If I have sex right when my period stops will there be a bigger chance of me getting pregnant even if he wears a condom? When will I most likely get pregnant, just before my period or right after?...
A. 14 August 2007: A women is most fertile one or two days before or after ovulation happens.
Good luck.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always talks about his ex partners or people he's slept with and it really upsets me.
Q. My boyfriend always talks about his ex partners or people he's slept with, he makes it a subject and it really upsets me. We've been together a year and I don't want to leave him because I love him. I've told him to stop talking about it but he ...
A. 14 August 2007: It's not you're problem at all, you have told him how you feel and he is now disrespecting you by carrying on doing this.
You say you love him but why do you want to stay with someone that is treating you in this way, if you can't finish with him ... (read in full...)
I recently dumped my boyfriend of 2 and a half years I'm finding it very difficult as I love him so much!
Q. Hi, I'm new to the site! I recently dumped my boyfriend of 2 and a half years I'm finding it very difficult as I love him so much! We both agreed that we could do with some time apart and we are meeting in another month to see where things lie...
A. 13 August 2007: He feels hurt and rejected, and probably does not want to open up to you about how he is feeling because he is scared of rejection.
You really need to decide what you want, maybe you will lose him but you should have little contact with him unti... (read in full...)
I've been seeing a guy for about a year now. He has no sex drive whatsoever.
Q. I've been seeing a guy for about a year now. He has no sex drive whatsoever. We've had sex a few times that's it. He likes to kiss me and that's where it stops. Is there anything I can do?...
A. 13 August 2007: You need to talk to him and get him to try and open up to you, see if there is a reason for this.
There may be something worrying him, but if you are not happy with it you need to get to the bottom of it.
You need to try and find out what the prob... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but I'm not sure whether or not she loves me, she says she does but I'm not sure, or maybe I just have trust issues?
Q. I love my girlfriend but I'm not sure whether or not she loves me, she says she does but I'm not sure, or maybe I just have trust issues? I don't know what to do, I've blown too many relationships off before because of this feeling and I've ...
A. 13 August 2007: Do you want this relationship to fail aswell?
If she say's that she loves you and she has given you no reason to doubt her then just trust what she say's.
It sounds as though you are lacking self confidence if you are having this problem alot, ta... (read in full...)
I get violent and moody just before my period! Help!?
Q. heya im just wondering for help from either a proffesional or another girl that has something to help her. Before im due for my period i get really violent and moody and shout at everyone for no reason or for the slightest thing. I want to c...
A. 13 August 2007: I had a friend that had the same problem, it was like she had the devil in her when she was due on and this went on for years she has finally got it sorted through repeated visits to her doctors and going through many different contraceptive ... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity to my ex and it's made getting over her that much harder!
Q. Hello everyone, I have been broken up with my ex girlfriend for nearly 2 months now, after she ended our relationship. Prior to being with her, I had dated seriously twice, and fooled around with both girls and occasionally other girls whi...
A. 13 August 2007: Sometimes you don't get over your first until you meet someone else.
The first person you sleep with you always remember and you will never forget their name or how it was, you just have to get on with your life i mean honestly how many people do y... (read in full...)
How can women want to touch someone with a small penis?
Q. Is it wierd to go from wee-man to Andre the Giant I have a serious problem, Im not a virgin but See i fear sleeping with women alot cause i have a terrible fear of being seen....well... soft. I have a very tiny thingthang when im soft ...
A. 13 August 2007: Most women don't actually care about the size hard or soft, it's actually alot more important that you know the right way to use it.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to have a long term relationship? i'm beginning to wonder.
Q. Is there anyone who has been in a successful long-term relationship and is still very much in love? I've been visiting this website long enough to see that it seems like it's almost hopeless for men and women to stay together over the long haul. ...
A. 13 August 2007: What you need to apprieciate, is that this is primarily a relationship problem site, so most of the things on here are going to be about these problems.
Me and my husband, ok we split for a while due to depression and other reasons, but we have be t... (read in full...)
I need help getting my ex out of my system
Q. Hi, Everyone I hope you guys can help me. I'm one of the Agony Aunts who has recently joined this column like you helps people with there problems. But right now I am feeling like crap, It shows that I am only human like everyone else. Right her...
A. 13 August 2007: Hi babe sorry to hear that about David and your mum at the moment, and what a really shitty thing for him to do to you.
If you want to talk about anything, i know a stranger might be the last person you want to talk to but i am here if you want to c... (read in full...)
I lost 7 pounds on my diet thi week. My mate says that I'll now only lose 2 pounds at a time??
Q. Ive been on a diet for the last week and ive lost 7 pounds. Ive been eating correctly just healthier foods because i used to eat loads a day. Someone told me that next week if i continue to eat the same i will only loose 2 pounds. Why is this? ...
A. 13 August 2007: The first week of a diet you tend to lose alot of fluid and thats why you lose so much, generally it averages out to about 1-2 pounds after that but thats when it's actual fat you are starting to lose.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How do I handle an unwanted crush from a younger girl?
Q. I am a babysitter of three kids. Ages 6, 8, and 10. The 6 and 10 year olds are boys and the 8 year old is a girl. Now I'm a male and it seems this girl has a bit of a crush. How do I handle it? She undresses knowing i'm around and even goes skinny ...
A. 13 August 2007: I would approach her parents about this, it's obviously very normal for a girl of that age to have a crush but something needs to be done about her behaviour around you.
With the world the way it is now the last thing you need is for someone to walk... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my hymen is broken?
Q. how do I know if my haymen is broken or not? I do lots of horse back ridibg and sports but how do I really know?...
A. 13 August 2007: I'm not sure that there is a way of finding out, but if you have been doing horse riding for a long time then it more than likely has been broken a long time ago.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I've been married to my husband for 30 years and I want out so bad that it makes me sick...
Q. i have been married to my husband for 30 years and i want out so bad that it makes me sick. i tell him and it is as if he doesn't hear me. he just keeps tellig me what all he has done for me and how hard he has worked. forgettong that i have work ...
A. 13 August 2007: It you feel this way then no you should not feel guilty about and if you want to get your own place and he will not give you the money which is rightfully yours, then you will have to go and see a solicitor.
You can not go on wasting your life in a... (read in full...)
Why would a guy lie and say he wasn't a virgin when he was?
Q. Hey all, This isn't an urgent question or anything, I am just curious. When I first got with my boyfriend, we obviously talk about our past relationships, I told him how many guys I had been with, he told me how many girls he had been with. He sa...
A. 13 August 2007: I have to agree with Dr Pete it was probably due to embarrasement or something i would not worry about it it's all in the past.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Can steroids make you infertile?
Q. My boyfriend has been taking steroids on and off for about a year - he's stopping taking them now. I was wondering what are the chances of him being infertille. Ever since he's been on them I've been constantly worried about his health and our f...
A. 11 August 2007: Infertility is a possible side effect from using steroids, also there is a risk ofimpotence, liver damage, acne and oedema which is an accumulation of fluid in the bodies tissue.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Feel like my boyfriend am I are living like a boring old married couple... already!
Q. I am so mixed up at the moment, I'm at university in England, where I live with my boyfriend, who moved over here with me from N.Ireland. He's wonderful; very loyal, kind and generous and I love him dearly. Ideally I would love us to marry and live ...
A. 11 August 2007: It's very easy to fall into this kind of pattern with someone and the only thing you can do isalk bout it, you really need to tell him how you feel and you never know he may actually be feeling the same.
Communication is the key to a successful rela... (read in full...)
He's cheated on me and now they are official. So why is he still living with me?
Q. At the start of this year i found out my partner of 6 years had been cheating on me! It's now August and now he's "officially" in a relationship with this other woman. The thing is he's still with me too! She thinks he moved out months ago but he's ...
A. 11 August 2007: Having his cake and eating it springs to mind here.
Talk to him and tell him it's either you or her but he has to make a choice as he can not carry on decieving both of you and wait for her to end the relationship.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Slept with my co-worker when he was drunk! How do act when I see him at work?
Q. I really don't know where to start. I've been working with this guy for over a year. First he started as a bartender and a couple of months later,he was my new manager. I've always been attracted to him and we've been out for coffee a couple of ...
A. 11 August 2007: Just play it cool and ask him if he has recovered from last night yet and see what his responce to that is.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What is this discharge I have..it's scaring me!
Q. well Since i was 7 or 8 i have had this clear stuff come out my vagina and now its turned brownish and i havnt started my peroid yet and im getting really scared about it what is it please help and quick ...
A. 11 August 2007: Babe it's absolutely nothing to get scared about, it could be that you have a slight infection which is nothing to worry about just tell your mum and get her to take you to the doctors and they will sort it out for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Any suggestions for removal of acne.
Q. How do i get rid of my acne. I have blackheads, pimples, a lot of red markings and scars on my face. How do i get rid of it naturally? Are there any creams i could buy that won't break my budget, and won't make me breakout b/c i have very sensitive ...
A. 10 August 2007: Just wanted to let you know that i also used Zineryt, for me it made it all worse and i had to stop using it, i would suggest you stick with what you have been prescribed for now and just give it a bit longer unfortunately you will not find anything ... (read in full...)
He called her a b#@#h.
Q. When I broke up with my first girlfriend, my mate helped me through it; I cried to her and she listened. She has got a bf of 22, she is 18. He swore at her (the f word) and last night she told me he called her a b***h. What advice, if any, should ...
A. 10 August 2007: If this person is going to act like this and your friend always comes up with excuses, then all you can do is be there for her if and when it all goes pear shaped, which i'm sure if she is switched on eventually it will.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is it too early to be asking a question like this....
Q. Hi everyone. You've probably noticed that I've posted up a few questions regarding verious things in the LD relationship I'm currently in. I do love her (Lets call her Claire) very much and I feel like she could be the one. I've been looking for her ...
A. 10 August 2007: If you feel you are ready for her to come with you then no it's not to early.
I would suggest talking it over with your mum first and see how she feels about it, if she is ok then ask her what have you got to lose.
If she is not ready i'm sure she... (read in full...)
Do you think he will help with our child?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for about 8 months now. However , he already has a live in girlfriend and daughter. I just found out I am pregnant. I have to tell him today. I know he's not going to leave her , That's fine . Do you think he will help ...
A. 10 August 2007: Just tell him you are pregnant and all you want from him is to provide for his child, thats all you can do.
Then let him decide what he is going to do and go from there, until you know his responce there is not alot you can do.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What do i do if he tries it on?
Q. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tonight im going to my boyfriends and were going to sleep outside. Were going to get physical...but my period started. Im nervous on what i should do. Would it be better to wear a tampon or pad? what do i tell him if he tries to ...
A. 10 August 2007: I think you will just have to tell him straight up, to save any potential embarrasment on either side.
Maybe it will just have to be cuddling tonight babe.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I don't want him to know i'm pregnant.
Q. i think im pregnant but i dont want my boyfriend to know, how can i stop him from finding out, i told my mom and she considered moving. Please dont think bad about me, im doing this for him, because my parents were teens and it destroyed my dad, i ...
A. 10 August 2007: Can you just tell me in what way exactly are you doing this for him?
If he is the father of your child babe he has a right to know, just because your parents were teens and things for them were not good it does not mean the same will be the case... (read in full...)
I was raped when I was 7, I'm now 12 and it's ruining my life.
Q. Okay this is how it is: I was raped when I was 7, I'm now 12 and you see it's ruining my life because the thing is I have nightmares about that time all the time so I stay up all night... then I'm late for school and don't concentrate properly...
A. 10 August 2007: Have you ever told an adult about what happened to you, as there is help out there for people that have been through this sort of thing.
This is not something you should be dealing with on your own especially when it's putting thoughts of endi... (read in full...)
My baby girl came into bed with me after being terrified of noisy fireworks; now she won't go back to her cot
Q. Hi i'm happily married with 2 kids. One is 17 and the other is 18months both girls. Well recently shes been sleeping with us. i know this may not sound like a big issue but to say shes that young shes growing up fast and is one of these babies that ...
A. 9 August 2007: My little girl is three and she has just gone through a stage of doing this she gets up in the middle of the night and comes and gets into bed with me.
Gate back on bedroom door and leave her to cry, first couple of nights she got up and cried for ... (read in full...)
Lack of sex and she is in contact with her ex's.
Q. Ok, this is a bit of detailed problem, but bear with me, I feel if i set the scene a little it will give the scope for better advice (well I hope because I'm really at my wit's end). I've been seeing a girl since last september when we started ...
A. 8 August 2007: If you do not share with you're girlfriend exactly how you are feeling, then how is she going to know?.
Maybe she thinks you are cool with it, i really think you need to have a heart to heart with her and get all of this out in the open, if you love... (read in full...)
I'm 2 months pregnant but I don't know if the baby I am carrying is my fiancee's or secret lover's!
Q. I have been cheating on my fiance of 1 year with a man who is currently married to a friend of the family. They have been married for 10 years and have 2 kids. I had a baby on Jan. 10th and I don't really know who fathered my child. Is it my fiance ...
A. 8 August 2007: What a mess to be in at such a young age,you say you love you're fiancee and he gives you what no one else does, so tell me why you are treating him this way.
You can't love him that much if you are having an affair.
Affairs hurt children in big w... (read in full...)
He knows that I hate porn... so when he came home with two videos on his mobile phone I hit the roof!
Q. Hi..... I have a little prblem.. It may seem silly to most but to me its a big deal.. I hate porn or any form relating to porn weather its a girl stripping or full sex I just hate it. My views on this is if a guy or a lassie has pron in thei...
A. 8 August 2007: Ok i don't think you are overreacting because you have made it very clear to him that you do not like porn, thats you opinion and you are entitled to it, everyone has different views on porn.
Now your boyfriend on the other hand obviously does like... (read in full...)
Does cheating once mean he'll do it again?
Q. Does cheating once mean he'll do it again? My husband cheated on me before we got married. We had been dating for 3 months when he cheated on me. The sings were there but I didn't notice until later because I was going through school and worki...
A. 8 August 2007: Everyone makes mistakes babe and they are quite often in the early stages of a relationship when you don't know how things are going to turn out.
Just because he done it once it does not mean he will do it again, and i know alot of people will say ... (read in full...)
Help, I think I might be pregnant!
Q. I need your help whether i might be pregnant. Well i thought i might be so i took two pregnacy test and they both came up negative.Then i waited till 5 days after my missed period and that one also came up saying not pregnant. Now im not sure when ...
A. 8 August 2007: It's obvious that you are worried about being pregnant and that stress can cause missed periods, if i were you i would go to your doctors and get them to do a blood test so you know for sure.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I need help getting my ex out of my system
Q. Hi, Everyone I hope you guys can help me. I'm one of the Agony Aunts who has recently joined this column like you helps people with there problems. But right now I am feeling like crap, It shows that I am only human like everyone else. Right her...
A. 8 August 2007: Let me just start by saying you are not silly at all, we all get taken in by people we care about and it is them that are wrong for messing with our emotions like that.
Maybe you do still have feelings for Robbie, but if you do i think a frie... (read in full...)
I'm too young to have sex, but my boyfriend wants to
Q. Hello I'm 15 Years Old 16 Soon And Am Scared Too Have Sex I Really Like This Boy But We Are Not Goiny Out We Have Done Everything Apart From Sex But I Think He Is Using Me Is There Any Advice You Could Give Me x...
A. 8 August 2007: I 100% agree with everything AuntyEm has said to you as always sound advice.
Stay away from him you are worth more than that, you stick to your guns and wait until the time is right for you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My wife caught me talking to other women on dating sites.
Q. ok well here goes. i used to be on all these dating sites. then i got married. but i continued to go on them well. the other day my wife caught me, and seen that i had been talking to these women. so she then accused me of lieing, cheating, and meet ...
A. 6 August 2007: I'm not surprised she's pi#@ed i would be too, put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel?
You are just going to have to give her some time and keep reasurring her, i just hope you have learnt your lesson what's wrong with talking to your wife... (read in full...)
I done loads of sit ups and now i hurt.
Q. i did 100 situps all in 1 go 2 days ago id never done sit ups before but i want to loose weight so i started the sit ups and did 100 in about 25 mins and now my abdomen is killing me it hurts so much! what have i done??...
A. 6 August 2007: You have just pulled the muscles that are not used to having that much strain put on them, give it a few days and it should calm down abit if not go and see your gp.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Not a relationship problem, but... my dog has chewed up my home!
Q. Hi Not a relationship problem but an animal problem! Had a cross breed dog for 4 months since she was 9 weeks, she has destroyed my home and garden. Shoes, cushions inards ripped out, you name it, its been eaten. The last straw came yesterda...
A. 6 August 2007: Try www.doggysnaps.com there is a forum on there and people talk about their problems with dogs i have used it in the past as my staffy went through a stage of eating her own poo, got some great tips off there.
You might find that your dog was give... (read in full...)
After 4 great weeks, he said he needed space, that we were moving too fast! Should I still contact him?
Q. My 'boyfriend' and i were together for 4 amazing months, we got on so well and even though it all happened so fast he's works away so we only saw each other on weekends, but at the start he was more in to me than i was in to him, but 2 weeks ago he ...
A. 6 August 2007: He has obviously got alot going on at the moment so i think you should just leave him, he said he needed space so let him have it.
Give yourself a time period which you think is acceptable and if you have not heard anything after that time peri... (read in full...)
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