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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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After 4 great weeks, he said he needed space, that we were moving too fast! Should I still contact him?
Q. My 'boyfriend' and i were together for 4 amazing months, we got on so well and even though it all happened so fast he's works away so we only saw each other on weekends, but at the start he was more in to me than i was in to him, but 2 weeks ago he ...
A. 6 August 2007: He has obviously got alot going on at the moment so i think you should just leave him, he said he needed space so let him have it.
Give yourself a time period which you think is acceptable and if you have not heard anything after that time peri... (read in full...)
Did we break up because, there is another girl or Is it because of another girl or he just felt it was time to move on?
Q. Me and my bf broke up a week ago, we were together for a year, we loved each other alot, i loved him more than he loved me, and we were two very different people, but we worked very well for a long time. Our relationship ended well, and he wanted us ...
A. 6 August 2007: You said you were two very different people and that you had talked about splitting up before, you had been together for a year, which is quite along time to be with someone.
Maybe he has met someone else and now he just feels that it is time to e... (read in full...)
I would like to try something different for a change.
Q. My boyfriend loves hiking and camping, we go for weekends together but he likes to go on these week long walking holidays with his friends. When I suggest going on holiday abroad or trying anything new he doesn't seem interested. Where am I going ...
A. 6 August 2007: You could try just booking something different as a surprise and don't give him the choice, there needs to be some give and take and you can't just go where he wants to all the time wether you enjoy it or not.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I can't get it right on top.
Q. Ive been seeing my boyfriend for about two months now.. however when it comes to sex, he seems to be doing all the work. For some strange reason i just cant do it right on top. how and what do i do? I want him to enjoy it, he says he does but he ...
A. 6 August 2007: If he says it's good just accept that babe, i never thought i was getting it right but if they keep on asking you you are obviously doing something right.
Take care and enjoy.xx.... (read in full...)
Advisory: Getting suspicious messages in my dearcupid mailbox!
Q. Hi all, I just lately i have been retrieving some messages in my mail box which have been quite lenthy to say the least. In a nut shell the person is talking about vast sums of money being transfered to different accounts, and having to part w...
A. 6 August 2007: Yep know what you mean had three myself lately, got to hand it to them for trying. lol
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
SITE NEWS: We had over quarter of a million people visit the site over the past month!
Q. Just checking the site stats. We had another milestone... for the first time, in the past 30 days, we had over quarter of a million people visit the site... not 250,000 "hits" or "visits" but actual unique visitors! As counted by Google Anal...
A. 6 August 2007: That's good to hear.xx.... (read in full...)
Can anybody help me get over this?
Q. Hi everybody. *If you don't know my situation yet, consult my profile; I've written everything in the "about me" section* Today, I'm just wondering if there is anyway/anything that can help me start accepting that things are over? Because I really...
A. 5 August 2007: Hi Andy,
Now danielepew commented that i'm abit soft and maybe i am but i have got to tell you, you are on this site enough to know that it's pretty much the same people everyday, and we have all given our views on your situation, and we do all feel... (read in full...)
Can somebody please tell me what she might be thinking?
Q. Hi, it's just me. I'm still feeling fairly possitive today, despite the fact that I dreamt that me and my ex were getting back together last night. I woke up thinking: Right, a step forward.. What can I do to sort this o.... Oh, it was just a ...
A. 4 August 2007: Do you know what, no matter what we say we are all speculating when we answer, who knows what's going through this womens head.
I think if you carry on trying to work it out your going to send yourself round the bend, these things happen some... (read in full...)
Can somebody please tell me what she might be thinking?
Q. Hi, it's just me. I'm still feeling fairly possitive today, despite the fact that I dreamt that me and my ex were getting back together last night. I woke up thinking: Right, a step forward.. What can I do to sort this o.... Oh, it was just a ...
A. 3 August 2007: I think personally she is trying to not give you too much hope for the future, it would be very unfair of her to tell you that she thinks about you loads because you will then be thinking straight away hey we will be getting back together, you are ... (read in full...)
How long will it take my eyebrows to grow back?
Q. KO! I'm a male and shaved my eyebrows, just wondering how long it would take to grow them back....
A. 3 August 2007: Should not take long at all i'm always having to pluck mine because they grow so fast.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to have a f*** buddy while my girlfriend is out of state?
Q. Is casual sex OK when you love someone else who is not around? My girlfriend took a job that forces her to travel out of state for weeks at a time 90 percent of the time. I love her but dont want to sleep alone. Is it wrong to find a casual sexual ...
A. 3 August 2007: If you really need to ask you do not deserve a girlfriend, get some morals and do everyone a favour.... (read in full...)
Where's my girlfriends clitoris, how do I find it?
Q. how do i know where my girlfriends clitoris is or when i find it ?...
A. 3 August 2007: You must be having a laugh, did you not do sex education at school?... (read in full...)
We fight all the time. Do I need to just leave this mean man, or continue to try to make it work?
Q. I am so confused right now. My live-in boyfriend of about 1 1/2 year and I have been fighting quite a bit. When it's good, it's truly the best I've ever had, and he says the same thing. He's a bit younger, 33 to my 37, and never been in a ...
A. 3 August 2007: Well how long are you prepared to continue to try and make it work, and why should it be you that just try's.
Damn sure i would not stay with anyone that called me a bitch thats just disrespectful, i have been with my husband twelve years and we h... (read in full...)
Older Girls! What do girls think of lumpy cum?
Q. Older girls please! What do girls think about lumpy cum? I think it’s gross and it’s my own “stuff!” There’s always little lumps in my cum and I get so embarrassed about it. Apparently it’s perfectly normal from what I’ve read so I guess there’...
A. 2 August 2007: Can't say it bothers me too much as it does not stay in my mouth long enough to notice.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Do girls enjoy giving oral sex?
Q. Do girls actually like giving oral sex to guys or what? So many girls seem to have a real issue with it, like feeling subservient or degraded or something. But they don’t have any problem getting it!? What is all this double standards? I...
A. 2 August 2007: Got to say i love giving it, but i have many friends that don't so it's definately down to each individual.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What positions are good for anal sex?
Q. what positions are good for anal sex...
A. 2 August 2007: On all fours is the most comfortable, great now everyone knows my secrets.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have had sex 10 times, but have not had an orgasm
Q. My boyfriend and i have been dating for 1 1/8 and have an great relationship except sex. We have had sex over 10 times and neither have i had an orgrasm but he has them...the last time we had sex my boyfriend just kept trying to make me have an ...
A. 2 August 2007: I was having sex for years before i had my first orgasm, and it's not anything anyone is doing wrong, it's just sometimes it takes awhile before you find out just how to please each other and where the right spot is.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have a bump down there, do you think it's a std?
Q. I have been sleeping with this guy for about a month now and this morning I found a bump "down there" it hurts just to the touch. Do you think I got a STD from him? My next womens visit isn't for a month and they dont have any earllier appointments. ...
A. 1 August 2007: It could be an ingrowing hair or an infection of some kind, but the only way you will know for sure is by visiting your gp and getting them to check it out.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Can sex in the shower harm my baby?
Q. Hi guys. I am now 10 weeks pregnant. :) I am very happy with my married life, but my partner wants to have sex with me every day. I am okay with that. BUt yesterday he asked me to have every type of sex there is in the shower. I am okay but is it ...
A. 1 August 2007: Most certainly can't hurt your baby, just enjoy yourself.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I live with my fairy tale boyfriend, but he has a wife!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together and living together for a year and a half now. He is truely the most amazing person I've ever met! Our relationship is almost perfect. We spend every day together and every second is REALLY like a fairy tale. I ...
A. 31 July 2007: Maybe she knows exactly where he is and who he is living with, when my husband left i knew his every move.
Sometimes if you want someone that bad and you think there is a chance they might come back then you will put it to the back of your mind and ... (read in full...)
I'm suffering today, i need help again please.
Q. Hi guys. I'm doing rubbish today. (For those who don't know: It's just over a month since my 2 year, long distance relationship broke up. She says she was finding it too hard and doesn't want things to drag out, so she split with me 5 weeks before I ...
A. 30 July 2007: Hi Andy,
Having a bad one then, i have got to be honest with you and i think you know yourself you are causing half of your problems babe.
Believe me babe i know how hard it is when you are in love with someone and they do not want to know anymore,... (read in full...)
What are the best posistions, when pregnant.
Q. When having sex during pregnancy, what are the best and comfortable positions...
A. 30 July 2007: On all fours used to be the most comfortable for me.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
If i don't have sex with him, then i have really lost him.
Q. I recently wrote about my husband cheating and going back and forth undecided who he wants to be with me (his wife) or his lover. And i know its obvious that i should leave him and I'm being strong and I'm trying to move on with my life, BUT when he ...
A. 30 July 2007: I feel into that trap when my husband left, i thought if i carried on sleeping with him i would still have him, boy was i wrong he just had the best of both worlds.
When he used to come round and see the kids i ended up saying i am going to have... (read in full...)
Is it true, 'what comes around goes around'?
Q. My partner left after seventeen years togther. She found a new boyfriend within a few days. She handled the breakup poorly telling me over the phone. I turned up at her workplace to she if we could sort things out but was only to find her new part...
A. 30 July 2007: I think if thats what you want to believe, then thats all that matters, but i do generally find that people that usually cheat end up getting their comuppence at some point in their lives.
Take care.x.x... (read in full...)
Does it hurt her or is it pleasurable?
Q. i am a 35 year old healthy male. married. having great sex (weekly 5-6 times). my wife screams and shout loudly while she climaxes. after couple of minutes, she become normal and she does not remember that she had screamed. she says, she had ...
A. 30 July 2007: Some people are very verbal when it comes to the bedroom, i'm sure she is just really happy, if she starts hitting you and telling you to get off, then start worrying.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
At 12 weeks pregnant, is it okay for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me?
Q. we are expecting our first baby, i am 12 weeks pregnant is it safe for my boyfriend to ejaculate inside me, can it harm our baby....
A. 30 July 2007: Absolutely fine babe, and you don't have to worry about getting pregnant now either lol.
Take care.xx.
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How can I tell my fiancee's parents that he hits me?
Q. How can I approach my fiancee's parents (with discretion) by letting them know that he hits me at times when I disagree and or just have my opinion towards some topic. I'm afraid of talking to them because they would think Im just lying since...
A. 30 July 2007: I totally agree with everything Dr pete has said to you, he has given you some sound advice here.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should we let our age difference get in the way?
Q. She is 21 and in college and I am 18 and finishing up high school, we are both interested in each other but we are both concerned about how the age differance will play into our relationship, should we let that matter so much?...
A. 30 July 2007: At your ages, the difference should not matter you are both adults.
Age is only a problem when you make it a problem.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
How do i remove myself?
Q. LOL, This is silly but somehow I added myself to my "friends list" and don't know how to get it off there. ...
A. 29 July 2007: There should be an option to remove next to your name just click on that when you go into friends.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is it too young?
Q. is 15 too young for sex?...
A. 29 July 2007: Yes because of legal reasons, and to be honest you speak to most adults that had sex at that age and they will tell you they wish they had waited till they were older, it might seem like a good thing to do but it is far better to wait untill you are ... (read in full...)
Should i move up and down?
Q. I was just wondering...when a girl goes on top during sex what exactly does she do. This sounds stupid but does she move up and down or what? Thanks...
A. 29 July 2007: Up down, backwards and fowards or round in circles, whatever feels good for you babe.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Never had sex but my period is late, why?
Q. Hello, Im 15 Iv Never Had Sex Of Any Kind, But My Period Is Late.. Im Always Regular And Come On Ever Month Which Is Why Im Abit Worried.. The Thing Is I Cant Remember When I Was Due On But I Know I Am Late.. What Can This Be?? Im Abit Worrie...
A. 29 July 2007: Babe you are still young and it can take a while for you're periods to settle in a regular patern, and for some people they never do, at twenty nine mine are still all over the place and i never know when mine is coming.
Try not to worry about it t... (read in full...)
I can't stand the dog.
Q. I have started seeing a man and all is good apart from one thing. He has a dog, and has had him for 10 years now. I have a great fear of dogs stemming from when I was a child, especially staffs, and this man happens to have a staff. Even though ...
A. 29 July 2007: I have a staffy, and she is the most loving softest dog you could ever come across and i have two children.
They drag her around and my daughter who is only three dresses her up covers her in blankets and everything.
Never once have i ever seen my ... (read in full...)
We want to share a bed, but just to hug, not to have sex and her Mom wont let us
Q. I have become friends with a girl. And I mean like best friends. There's no like feelings for each other in that way, we just generally love each other as best friends. I'm going to stay with her in a few days and we have been talking about like ...
A. 29 July 2007: Glad you had a good holiday and you're relationship has stepped up.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
He can't get an erection so I can't pleasure him like he pleasures me and I don't want him to resent that
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly 6 months and we haven't had sex yet. At the beginning of the relationship he had a problem with getting an erection so we decided to leave the sex issue for a while and concentrate on the emotional ...
A. 28 July 2007: This happens so often with men especially in fairly new relationships, and he has failed to become erect for whatever reason early on the fear of it happening again will probably contribute to the fact it has been happening since.
If you really love... (read in full...)
She needed space to work out her feelings for me and her ex; I've heard nothing back from her
Q. Hi, I met a girl about a month ago. She is almost everything I could want in a woman and we spend alot of time talking things over about how drawn we both are to each other. She had only been apart from her ex' of 4 years for a couple of months a...
A. 28 July 2007: If she said to you she had strong feelings for you but needed space to sort things out with her ex, i think she told you there and then that you would not be getting back together in a very subtle way.
Sorry if that is not what you wanted to hear... (read in full...)
I can't decide if I love my husband or if I'm just used to him
Q. hello everyone i have another question. i sent in a question early about marriage and 3 kids. in respnose to the answer someone gave me. It is not the problem of having time alone we have babysitters it him. i have been thinking about this for at ...
A. 28 July 2007: Have you tried telling him exactly how you feel?, is it worth suggesting marriage couselling.
Sometimes life just becomes so routine you start taking each other for granted and totally lose sight of each other all together which myself and my husb... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant? Please Help!
Q. okay .... I'm really scared .. I had unprotected sex a couple weeks back ... i didn't think anything of it cause i never had an orgasm... and well i haven't got my period this month could i be pregant .... plz help...
A. 28 July 2007: It's very possible, so the best advice anyone can give you is to get a home test or go to your gp and get tested, that will be the only way of knowing for sure.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I give him a second chance after he cheated on me?
Q. I love this guy i been dateing for awhile.He cheated on me and i told him i didn't want to see him anymore.Well we did see eachother again just to talk and it was then he told me that he Loved me very much.Do you think i should give him a second ...
A. 28 July 2007: Only you can make that decision, do you think he is worth it and you could trust him again?
Lots of us make mistakes, but sometimes i think if you take responsibilty for that mistake that in itself is worth a second chance.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Which is safer? Online dating sites or a match making agency?
Q. which is better and safer online dating or go to a match making agency ? i want whats best for my daughter a good man and her safety ....
A. 28 July 2007: Online dating is always very risky as people can bend the truth about themselves slighty, at least with a match making agency from what i know the people that use them have been vetted.
I personally would go for the match making agency.
Take ... (read in full...)
My ex contacted me saying she had made a terrible mistake, thing is I still love her but can't hurt the new girl I'm with.
Q. I wrote in a while ago because my ex fiancee and myself split up, we was together for 3 years and I still very much loved her and I was advised to give her space because the split was her choice. In the time apart we still spoke to each other but I ...
A. 28 July 2007: Oh this happens all the time, your ex has seen that you are now moving on with your life and she has realised that she has lost you and you are not prepared to wait around for her forever. What i will say is though, i don't think you should stay wit... (read in full...)
We want to share a bed, but just to hug, not to have sex and her Mom wont let us
Q. I have become friends with a girl. And I mean like best friends. There's no like feelings for each other in that way, we just generally love each other as best friends. I'm going to stay with her in a few days and we have been talking about like ...
A. 23 June 2007: Hey you are just friends with no other feelings apart from that, so although you are annoyed about her mums decision i don't think it's all that bad, don't let such a minor issue spoil the time you are going to have together.
If you really thin... (read in full...)
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