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Oh my god over a year on since i first joined this site (where has the time gone) and i'm still loving it.
I got alot of help from all of the fantastic aunts and uncles when i needed it most, it was great getting everyone else's views on my situation at the time and it's great to see that those same people are still here doing the same fantastic job.
Due to what i have been through and the advise i have recieved off of here i am a much stronger person now and have so much more confidence in myself.
I am turning thirty this year i have a wonderful husband, yeah we have had our problems but thats life, and two fantastic children and i really believe my life is starting now and i cant wait for the rest of it.
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My husband doesn't respect that I'm a teacher! Tonight he said he's leaving!
Q. My husband of two years is great, except that he does not and never has respected my profession as a teacher. He wants me to quit my job and go back to school to "do more" with my education. He says that life is too routine and he is not ...
A. 21 July 2007: I am so pleased for you and i really hope you are happy again.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My mother in law even had the nerve to open our mail...
Q. I have tried to get close to my mother in law, but it feels like she only puts up me because I'm married to her son. She always has something nasty to say, but it is usually when it's just her and I! For example it was just her and I in the car ...
A. 19 July 2007: You really need to talk to your husband about this because i think no matter how close he is to his mother if he knew how she was bullying you then he would have something to say about it.
If it only happens when it is just the two of you then get ... (read in full...)
We have been together for 10 months but we happen to fight like every couple does but the thing is he always blames it on me...
Q. I need some advice on whether or not I should stay with my boyfriend. We have been together for 10 months but we happen to fight like every couple does. But the thing is he always blames it on me, I tell him not to be mean to me and he tells me to ...
A. 19 July 2007: He is treating you like this because you let him, you argue he blames it on you, he has tried to split up with you and you cry and stay together.
Have you ever considered the possibility that he is being this way with you so that you will at some... (read in full...)
I offered her the use of my car temporarily. That was 2 years ago! How do I put a stop to this?
Q. My girlfriend of 3 years and I are having problems. She came into the relationship with a beat up old station wagon in really rough shape. Brakes didn't work, tires were shot, heater didn't work, etc. The thing was a death trap and it always m...
A. 19 July 2007: Why is she going to go and look for a car for herself when you have been totally happy for her to use yours all this time and obviously not said anything about it.
Talk to her and tell her that you are happy to go and look at cars for her beca... (read in full...)
We both cheated and cant trust each other
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 7 years. i cheated on him about 4years ago but i never told him. we lived together for 1 year last year.while we were in Europe and it was there that i got pregnant. so we decided that we should return home, ...
A. 19 July 2007: The only way this relationship is ever going to work is if you can both forgive and forget and never bring it up again.
If you don't think this is possible then it's time to disolve the relationship.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with both men to double my chances of conceiving?
Q. Hi, I am a single female, 39 years old, and I am dating a new guy. I am anxious to have a child right away, and have shared this with my partner,. he is ok "if it happens", but it not interested in working as a team to test my ovulation and ha...
A. 19 July 2007: Ok so your boyfriend is in no major rush but would be happy if it happened, which is totally understandable seen as you have said this is a new relationship.
Are you in a posistion to be a single mother if this happens financially?
Does your boy... (read in full...)
We broke up but are still close. Am I just prolonging the heartbreak?
Q. Hey... i broke up with my boyfriend of 9 months 3 weeks ago, because felt he didnt want to be in a relationship anymore ( we are both 17!) We got along great, and we are best friends. And i thought that after we broke up, we would lose this ...
A. 19 July 2007: You broke up with him because you thought he did not want to be in a relationship,
Ok have you ever discussed this with him and actually asked him if he wants to be in a relationship with you.
Maybe he is holding on to the though that you will wan... (read in full...)
I am sad when thinking about not being friends with her, but I can't watch her ruin her life.
Q. A friend of mine for the last 10 years is a really bad alcoholic, she's got a 2 1/2 year old daughter, she's a single mom, the dad is nowhere to be found. The state gave up the dad's rights because they couldn't find him. She's neglecting her kid ...
A. 19 July 2007: I know you think it's not your place to do that but how would you feel if something happened to the child, no body has to know that it was you that done it, it could have been anyone.
If you want to know how to deal with her then you just need to t... (read in full...)
I've been seeing this girl for four months now and the relationship is beginning to do my head in.
Q. I've been seeing this girl for four months now and the relationship is beginning to do my head in. She refuses to give me any space at all! The lack of space has especially become a problem in the last month or so -- she's been pretty much want...
A. 18 July 2007: God i can see how this could do your head in, i think even though she has done your head in and she is extremly selfish, i don't think you should just not call her, maybe call her in a few days and just tell her you are not in the right frame of ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has told that she is in her menstrual period, and does not have enough blood.
Q. My girlfriend has told that she is in her menstrual period, and does not have enough blood. Being her boyfriend/partner, I would like to know if this has happened to other women and is it usual? ...
A. 18 July 2007: Would you be able to explain a bit more as i don't understand 'she does not have enough blood' in what way?
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
What is his hold up in giving me the ring and starting arrangements?
Q. I have been with my partner for just over 2 years now, he has just returned from a 7 month tour of Iraq and whilst he was away he asked me to marry him, I did of course accept as we are very much in love and have a fantastic relationship. He came ...
A. 18 July 2007: Maybe you should try and extend that conversation and ask him why he has not given you the ring yet as you would love to wear it and to let people know you have made a commitment to each other.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I have recently met somebody double my age on the internet and I really like him and would like to have a relationship with him.
Q. I am 18 and have been with my boyfriend for four years. However I have recently met somebody double my age on the internet and I really like him and would like to have a relationship with him. Please help I don't know what to do....
A. 18 July 2007: You need to remember how much people can be a bit economical with the truth on the internet, so what you think you know about this person may not be all what it seems.
You have been with your boyfriend for four years, are you not getting on at the ... (read in full...)
I don't know whether I still want to be with him... we're just so different, he stresses out and shouts at me quite a lot, then makes it out like he's hard done by, which makes me feel guilty.
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 8 months, but I don't know whether I still want to be with him... we're just so different, he stresses out and shouts at me quite a lot, then makes it out like he's hard done by, which makes me feel guilty. H...
A. 18 July 2007: Babe believe me you are most definately not in too deep yet, you can say that when you have a child are married and have a mortgage.
He sounds very childish to me and no body deserves to be messed about like are.
So my advice to you would be get r... (read in full...)
I am sad when thinking about not being friends with her, but I can't watch her ruin her life.
Q. A friend of mine for the last 10 years is a really bad alcoholic, she's got a 2 1/2 year old daughter, she's a single mom, the dad is nowhere to be found. The state gave up the dad's rights because they couldn't find him. She's neglecting her kid ...
A. 18 July 2007: This child of hers is in danger, it sounds like you have tried to help her but she does not want it.
If i were in your shoes friend or not i would be looking into getting her child into care, she does not deserve to have the child as she can't look... (read in full...)
My High School Life being bullied
Q. As thousands of kids have to go through it I was 1 of the unfortanate 1's to be bullied in high scool. It was worse in year 7. I had no friends, the older lads kicked the ball at me constantly and i'd walk round the school on my own trying to find a ...
A. 18 July 2007: You should not apologise for what you have written or the length of it, you should in fact be very proud of yourself for talking about it.
Kids can be really nasty and they don't realise or care what pain it causes the person they are bull... (read in full...)
Was he really nervous or is it the condom that turned him off??
Q. I just started seeing a new guy. We really hit it off. When we ended up in bed together everything was going really well untill we came close to having sex when I asked him to put a condom on he had no problem except he couldnt get it up. I didnt ma...
A. 18 July 2007: It was probably just nerves to be honest with you, alot of men have this problem when just starting into a new relationship, just try starting off with the foreplay next time and tell him to let you know if he feels he is ready to cum, and then you ... (read in full...)
Lately I have been thinking a lot about someone that I should not be thinking of at all as I'm married.
Q. Lately I have been thinking a lot about someone that I should not be thinking of at all. There are two probelms. First off, I am married and he has a significant other and a child. And second, I am not even sure how he feels about me. He w...
A. 18 July 2007: You say you would not act on it if you found out he did like you more than just friends, so whats the point in trying to find out.
Just leave it alone you both have families and they are far more important than stiring up emotions that you have no i... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and considering having sex for the first time... I'm scared! My Mum says I should wait it out, what should I do?
Q. hi im 14 and considering having sex for the 1st time the thing is im really scared ive talked to my mum she told me that il enjoy it more if i wait and if i really like the guy i do it with. i think shes only saying this to prevent me from having ...
A. 18 July 2007: What your friends have said is absolute rubbish, the best advice you have received yet is from your mum.
I was about your age when i lost my virginity and believe me it's one of my biggest regrets, i was drunk and i stupid.
Do not be pressure... (read in full...)
My ex is constantly phoning me and trying it on. He wants to get back together or is he after sex?
Q. My ex boyfriend has reappeared in my life, wanting to get back together. When we were together we got on great but he didn't treat me well ie. when I miscarried or take me out. Not spoken to him in four months now he constantly phoning me and we ...
A. 18 July 2007: After he has behaved that way in the past why are you even bothered about if he wants you back or is just after sex?:
Just ignore his calls completely if you don't even speak to him he will get the message eventually.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Now, they both wanna be with me, but I dunno who to choose. Should I go with my past, or should I try something new?
Q. I was in a relationship with A for 5 years and we have a 2 year old girl together. We've been broken up for about 2 months, but we still mess around. We argue a lot and he's very protective. He wants to be with me, but I don't know what I want. I...
A. 18 July 2007: Think about why you split up with the father of your girl in the first place, is it something that could be changed?
I agree with sexi if want his does for a living is not cosha, then you really should not be exposing your daughter to this.
Take ... (read in full...)
How can I get this relationship to progress further?
Q. There is a wonderful lady with whom I worked for many years. We have been very good friends for a long time. And I've always been kind of interested in her, but never did anything because we worked together. Anyway, I recently was laid off due to ...
A. 18 July 2007: I agree with eyeswideopen i think you have to just bite the bullett and ask her out, she has stayed in contact with you for a reason and if it was just to be friends i don't think she would email and text everyday.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My heart beats faster for my nephew, but not my boyfriend
Q. Hey. I have a bf that i love so much. Cant imagen a life without him. But my nephew. I like him. When my bf and i are chatting and my nephew comes onto mxit my heart starts beating faster. Doesnt happen with my bf anymore. My bf hates my nephew ,coz ...
A. 18 July 2007: Your heart probably beats faster for your nephew because you know it's wrong to be feeling the way you do about him, it's just the excitement of it.
I think maybe for a while it would be better if you had a little less contact with you nephew, see ... (read in full...)
Since I moved in with him, he is jealous and controlling
Q. Hi, i have just recently moved in with my boyfriend of 6 months, we got along great and i needed direction. But now that we are living together everything is different, he is different, he is very jealous, i am not allowed to go anywhere alone, not ...
A. 18 July 2007: Maybe you should consider getting out of this relationship very soon, as he sounds very controlling and i don't think that is likely to change to be honest.
You can't be with someone that has issues over you talking to your mum, thats just ridi... (read in full...)
We used to get together all the time, now she says she is too tired or busy!
Q. I have started a new relationship with a woman of 28 and I am 36. We got together just under 3 months ago, she works for a customer of mine and asked me out after and we got on very well. Everything started out fine. I visited her after work, we ...
A. 18 July 2007: You have not been together long and like you say she lives on her own, maybe things are moving a little too quickly for her and that is why she has asked you to give her some space in the week.
Who knows where the relationship will go but if you ... (read in full...)
I want to end it, but he wont accept it!
Q. Dear Cupid, I am currently in a long term relationship, which feels as though it is going nowhere. My boyfriend and I are together because I feel too guilty to leave him. We both live miles away from home, but I have made some great friends, a...
A. 18 July 2007: Maybe the only way to end the relationship then is to leave, he will then have to accept it.
You can't carry on like this it's not fair on either of you especially when you are seeing someone else.
Maybe you should admit to seeing this other gu... (read in full...)
My 16-yr old son is in a cult!
Q. Apologies for the length of this, but the problem is really worrying, and I can't deal with it! I'm a father of two, with one 16-year-old son, and one 22-year-old son, at university in Manchester. My 16-year-old son has joined a dangerous cult....
A. 18 July 2007: I personally don't think that speaking to the headmaster is such a good thing to do, as i'm not sure that he will be able to do anything and it will make your son believe that everyone is against him and probably push him more into the cult.
H... (read in full...)
After 6 years we broke up on New Years. He's now married with a child on the way - how do I get over it!?
Q. On New Years Day of this year my boyfriend of 6 years broke up with me. He actually told me on Christmas Eve that he was interested in someone else. I've been through this before, so I just thought he was going threw another one of his crisis and ...
A. 18 July 2007: You should not feel like a loser in front of your friends you have done nothing wrong, you hold your head up high and move on, and think yourself lucky that you are out of this relationship.
If he can treat you with such little respect after the ... (read in full...)
I didn't show up for my class reunion because I don't feel like I have achieved anything!
Q. My high school just held their 30th class reunion. I was a no-show because it occurred to me that I have done nothing with my life that would impress anyone and you know, reunions are all about showing off your kids, your careers and your life-long ...
A. 18 July 2007: You have accomplished coming this far in your life, so ok your marriage did not work out it happens and you are not all that happy in your job, so like YummyMummy says you need to do something about it now.
I'm currently on meds for depression and ... (read in full...)
Can you love your boyfriend but still have feelings for your ex?
Q. Can you still have feelings for your ex and be in love with the boyfriend you have now? I'm in love with my boyfriend and we have a great relationship but occasionally memories of my ex come up and sometimes I've dreamt about him occasionally. I ...
A. 18 July 2007: I don't think it's unhealthy if you still think about your ex as long as it does not interfere with your current relationship.
I think it would probably be a good idea to get rid of the old photo's though and just move on.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't respect that I'm a teacher! Tonight he said he's leaving!
Q. My husband of two years is great, except that he does not and never has respected my profession as a teacher. He wants me to quit my job and go back to school to "do more" with my education. He says that life is too routine and he is not ...
A. 18 July 2007: Ok as much as you love him, do you really want to stay with someone that try's to dictate to you what job you can have?
Will he not compromise if you say you are happy to move out of the town you are living in but you would like to find a job the ... (read in full...)
Is our relationship illegal if we are not having sexual relations?
Q. i am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend soon to be fiance is 18 and i was just wandering if it was illegal to date or to get engaged if there is no sexual realations?...
A. 18 July 2007: I would say not as long as there is definately nothing sexual going on between you.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
I don't think I love my girlfriend any more... Meanwhile another girl has come on the scene!
Q. I (mid thirties) have been living with my girlfriend for the past 4 years, I don't think I love her anymore and I don't find her attractive. I was recently introduced to a girl at a party and can think of nothing but her at the moment. I have been ...
A. 18 July 2007: I think as hard as it will be for you to do and as much as it will hurt your current girlfriend you need to end the relationship.
It would be harder on both of you if this carried on the way it is, because you may start resenting her.
You can't he... (read in full...)
Should I totally move on or should I keep a little hope that the love of my life will come back to me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years and everything has been great but this last month. I was her first serious relationship and we had a great time, traveled the world together. With in the last year she moved about 4 hours away ...
A. 18 July 2007: I personally think she is being very selfish, the way that she is giving you hope telling you that she may be back.
She is expecting you to wait around for her while she goes out and has a great time dating other people and thats not fair on you.... (read in full...)
Two exes want me back. How do I choose?
Q. I'm confused. I have an ex who is trying to work things out even though we had a lot of drama in our realtionship of 2 years, but I still love him. The other problem is that I have two kids from my ex prior to this relationship and he wants to make ...
A. 17 July 2007: No problem we are here to try and help.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
She broke up with me because she isnt ready for a relationship. How can I get her back?
Q. hi my problem is that after going out with this girl for 4 weeks she has said to me that she is not ready to have a serious relationship and that it could be because of family or other reasons. she said that I would be the one if she was ready and ...
A. 17 July 2007: I agree with YummyMummy, she has told you how she feels and you just need to give her time and space.
If you are meant to be together you will be even if it takes time.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Two exes want me back. How do I choose?
Q. I'm confused. I have an ex who is trying to work things out even though we had a lot of drama in our realtionship of 2 years, but I still love him. The other problem is that I have two kids from my ex prior to this relationship and he wants to make ...
A. 17 July 2007: You did not say you were still in love with the father of your children and he has also told you he wants to make it work for the children, thats no reason to get back together.
You have to go with the person that you feel is right for you.
If yo... (read in full...)
Can you get pregnant without sex?
Q. okay. well about 2 weeks ago my boifriend and i had a small encounter we didnt actually have intercourse but i feel like im experiencing signs of being pregnant can you get pregnant this way or is a very very slim chance?...
A. 17 July 2007: You don't actually have to have intercourse to get pregnant if you were naked and some of his cum came into contact with you it is possible.
Signs of pregnancy can also be signs of periods as well and if you are worried it can also make you imag... (read in full...)
I am in love with a close friend and the godfather of my children
Q. okay i have an issue i could really use some help with. i have been very close friends with a man for several years. back before we were all divorced, he and his wife, and me and my husband all lived together. we are godparents to each others ...
A. 17 July 2007: If you love him that much could you really cope with just being friends with him and holding back how you really feel about him.
What if he was to meet someone else and you have never said anything you could miss out on something that could pote... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt show me any affection
Q. my boyfriend says he loves me but never shows any affection to me. Could there be anything that im doing wrong?...
A. 17 July 2007: I have to agree with Kenny here, unfortunately some men find it very difficult to show their feelings so if you are happy and he says he loves you then that should be ok.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
They call or text a few times and then just stop. What am I doing wrong?
Q. Ive had enough of meeting men who I really fall for and then they dont contact me. Theres been a couple of guys over the past 2 months who Ive met whilst out with friends. At the time they seem to be really interested in me, we swap numbers and text ...
A. 17 July 2007: Maybe you are being abit over powering with them and you should try playing a little hard to get.
Just a suggestion.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Is she just on the rebound with me?
Q. My good friend of 2 years and his girlfriend, who I've been friends with for 6 months, just broke up. And now she's going out with me and he's upset about it. She broke up with him because she has a lot of issues of her own and so did he, so sh...
A. 17 July 2007: Everyone has an image of the person who we think we want to be with and sometimes reality is just not the same.
Maybe she thought you were not her type and he was and when they started seeing each other it just was not what she expected.
She i... (read in full...)
I suspect my partner may be cheating - again!
Q. my partner had an affair a year and a half ago.He acts like it was nothing..i have had serious trouble 'getting-over it'. Thing is i am convinced he is at it again...no particlar reason other than 2 main signs that were there the last time and i ...
A. 17 July 2007: I would say you have to go with your gut instinct on this one.
If these are the signs you got last time then i suppose it could be a possibility.
Take care.xx.... (read in full...)
Should I totally move on or should I keep a little hope that the love of my life will come back to me?
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for over 3 years and everything has been great but this last month. I was her first serious relationship and we had a great time, traveled the world together. With in the last year she moved about 4 hours away ...
A. 7 July 2007: I personally think that maybe you should move on, if she feels that she needs space and to figure her life out then why should you wait around on the off chance that she may come back to you.
If she loves you and she comes back and you have move... (read in full...)
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