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I enjoy travel and learning new things. Different cultures interest me and what makes them tick. I think there is always a reason for the way certain cultures do things and many times we are too quick to judge things that we find odd.
The more places I go and the more people I meet, the more I see that we are so similar. Everybody is trying to enjoy life but we are all influenced along the way by the stuff that "happens". The trick is to learn from the lessons and carry on. I have a short fuse for infedility and take marriage very seriously. It's not from personal experiences either. I just don't understand why people don't seem to fix the problems in their marriages before they create more. I see lots of questions on this site pertaining to this topic, that's why I added this part. |
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26 September 2007: Why is it that people get involved in love triangles and feel rejected when they don't work out? Why do so many agony aunts treat the third member of the triangle as a victim? I'm tired of hearing people reccommend.... "distance yourself from hi...
Fidelity and marriage
This question has 12 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
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8 May 2007: Many times, we see questions asking for advice about marriage, monotony and fidelity. I tend to be cut and dry on this topic and often without compassion for the person struggling in this area. What bothers me most, is the ability of people to ...
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I'm sick and tired of rejection in every aspect of my life.
Q. I'm sick and tired of rejection in every aspect of my life. I went last week to a federal government career fair in my country wich is not USA and one recruiter got very interested in hiring me. I was very happy because I've been unemployed for a ...
A. 18 October 2007: Cojelo suave nena, estas triste y debaria hablar con algien......
You sound very sad, angry, bitter etc. That could make people try to avoid you and that's not what you want. Try to grab a hold of things before you break down. I've just fin... (read in full...)
How can I convince him of my loyality and faithfulness?
Q. i am an american citizen. i met an australian man over the internet last year and things progressed with our relationship rapidly. like we were soul mates. i have been in australia with him for 4 months now and i love him more than anything. we want ...
A. 16 October 2007: Don't be a martyr. I can't really believe what you've written. It is out of this world. I would say your man, and you, need some professional help. The more you console and play the game, the more you confirm his need to rule the roost. This is ... (read in full...)
Should I cheat to get some satisfaction?
Q. Hi there! Can you please give me some advice... I have been with my boyfriend for over 4 years and love him so much, but he doesn't do it for me in the bedroom, as he justs wants a quick 5 minutes and then he is done. Apart from that, everything...
A. 16 October 2007: Why would you even consider cheating? He may have a problem in the bedroom but you have an integrity issue. IT will only make matters worse and complicate this scenario. Deal with the problem, don't make it bigger.... (read in full...)
I shared an illicit kiss, now I'm bothered about it. What do I do now?
Q. How do I move on after kissing my old boss who's married? I worked closely with a man, who was my boss on a project, at my last job who’s married. Through old co-workers I’d heard he talks about me non-stop and is “in love” with me. I moved fo...
A. 16 October 2007: Yes, you made a big mistake. Sit back like a fly on the wall and watch how it unfolded. From the moment you decided to stay with him after the others left, it really began to unravel. The fact you even debated with him about kissing told him you ... (read in full...)
How can I convince him of my loyality and faithfulness?
Q. i am an american citizen. i met an australian man over the internet last year and things progressed with our relationship rapidly. like we were soul mates. i have been in australia with him for 4 months now and i love him more than anything. we want ...
A. 16 October 2007: You can't blame him for thinking you're cheating because you're alone at home while he's at work???????? One has absolutely nothing to do with the other !! Sure, you could be cheating, sleeping,,building an atom bomb, planning to overthrow the ... (read in full...)
My husband never knew how to show affection so we became just friends. I'm having an affair with the love of my life, do I let him go and do "the right thing" ?
Q. I have been married for 12 years. My husband never knew how to communicate or show affection. We became just friends and not lovers or husband/wife. I have been having an affair for over a year now with "the love of my life" from years ago. I ...
A. 15 October 2007: Did you post this question before? You can not have everything. You've already done the dirty work and now you're trying to turn the situation into something it's not. IF you are so "in love" with your soul mate, give your husband a chance and ... (read in full...)
Once you fall in love with a good friend, can you ever look at them in a different way?
Q. Once you fall in love with a good friend, can you ever look at him in a different way? We are good friends but he is unavailable. If we remain friends, will I ever be able to see him just as a friend eventually or will I always have strong feelings...
A. 15 October 2007: I don't think you should really be calling him a friend. What might have began as a friendship has become something else. At this point he is a love interest and that is how you see him.
Everything depends on your nature. You've allowed ... (read in full...)
Is this true that only celebrities have good sex life and others have a mediocre one?
Q. Is this true that only celebrities have good sex life and others just have a mediocre one? Is it the same about life in general?...
A. 14 October 2007: They are only as important as you make them. They probably get more attention and opportunities to have sex, that is true. One of the problems with the scenario is that it is not normal. Nobody is supposed to get as much attention and money as ... (read in full...)
Why are men inclined to cheat on their wives?
Q. Hi, can you please send me a scientific analyses why men are incline to cheat on their wives? I'm am a man of 41yrs of age and have been married for 10yrs.I neither drink nor smoke but i like the company of nice woman.even if i'm joking the girls ar...
A. 11 October 2007: Men are not inclined to cheat. They are inclined to want more sex then most women want to give. There must be many cheating women too, one for each guy I assume.... (read in full...)
I always wanted to get married but since thsi engagement I've had an unusual urge to cheat. Why?
Q. I recently got engaged and since then I've had the unusual urge to cheat. I've always wanted to get married and nothing could be more exciting to me. But a growing desire for trying some let's just say wild things before I have a ring affixed to ...
A. 11 October 2007: Don't cheat. You name saysa a lot...drama diva. If it's such a strong thought, dot'nt get married.... (read in full...)
The pleasure is in the giving - right?
Q. My wife and I are going on three years of marriage. We have a healthy sex life, and are happily married. I really want her to give me a blowjob more often, but I don't know how to bring it up to her. I enjoy going down on her and do it fairly ...
A. 11 October 2007: The truth is some women will never like to give BJ's. I sympathize with you because it's not like it is an act the is painful...I assume. Perhaps you shouldn't cum in her mouth. Maybe that would help.
You see, I don't think "most" women en... (read in full...)
Can a man be "raped" by a woman?
Q. I would like to know if it is possible for a man to have sex with a woman against his will?...
A. 11 October 2007: I agree that it is not usually the case that a man gets raped against his will...by a female. By I still say this....many women will have sex, to a certain degree, and then decide not to go any further. If the man decides to go further, against ... (read in full...)
Can a man be "raped" by a woman?
Q. I would like to know if it is possible for a man to have sex with a woman against his will?...
A. 9 October 2007: Sure it is possible. A womans vagina could become lubricated because she's attracted to someone. She has no control over that and would physically be prepared for sex. Mentally, it could be the opposite. So, if a man's got an erection, does that ... (read in full...)
I have been married for 9 years... But I've fallen for someone else...
Q. I have been married for 9 years and have been together for 12. I love my husband but I have fallen in love with someone else, a good friend of us that we both know since 12 years ago. I never thought that once you get married you could love that ...
A. 8 October 2007: First of all, let me make a suggestion. Watch the movie I think I love my wife. It's a new movie with Chris Rock. I think it will enlighten you. I watched it last night. You didn't give a lot of information about the situation. Does he know ... (read in full...)
13 years of marriage, she tells me now about a one night stand before we got together.
Q. I'm totally freaked out. My wife of 13 years just admitted that a few days prior to our getting together she had a one night stand(drunk) with a high school friend of ours who she barely knew. She has NEVER told me this even though we dated for 4 ...
A. 7 October 2007: I think some counseling would help you two. She may not have told you what she did but she really wasn't your partner yet. I can understand that you made your desire to know her personal details clear to her, that was your mistake. Her mistake ... (read in full...)
It was good, but we need more intinacy
Q. Hey, me and my wife have been married 7 years and still have a pretty good sex life mainly do it about 3-4 times a week sometimes more sometimes less. its just last night we had some very good but very unexpected mad sex. There wasn't really ny ...
A. 7 October 2007: Unless she's told you it bothered her, you're making too much out of it. You realize how you feel and now it's time to work on it. Don't plan for a big night of love making, plan for a night of romance....no sex. Do something really nice for her ... (read in full...)
What does husband mean?
Q. I wanted to know what does it mean when my husband told me that another woman respected and knows that he was married? Plese help me i've been thinking about it but unsure....
A. 7 October 2007: You didn't really give much information. It depends on the context or scenario. What it might mean is when she found out he was unavailable, she didn't force the issue she liked him and stopped trying to come on to him.
It could also be a defens... (read in full...)
Am I being petty?
Q. do you think its ok for your fiance to conceal the fact that his ex was going to be at a family gathering,and i felt humiliated and was mortified as i should of been informed even asked if i though it was ok,but i wasn`t even considered,i was so ...
A. 5 October 2007: Concealing something is a deliberate act of hiding a fact for your benefit. He might not have concealed the fact she was going to be there but in reality didn't think it mattered. Why are you so threatened by her? Is she usually at these ... (read in full...)
Am I wasting my time with a suspicious man?
Q. my man whom i love very clearly is always looking for some kind of evidence that i have or i am cheating,its now becoming a problem.i can honestly say ive never physicaly or mentaly had an affair with no one since we got together,but he seems to ...
A. 5 October 2007: I agree with rcn. Nobody here can say for sure what is happening. Why would he want to have 2 cell phones. Who ants to pay for that? Is one for business purposes? It's like a guy carrying a spare pair of shoes on his belt, or an extra wallet in ... (read in full...)
I think he cheated, but it was a year ago, how do I get to the truth?
Q. I suspect that my spouse cheated before we got married. We've only been married a little over a year but shortly after we got married there was some references made towards him cheating, he was very secretive about his cell phone and calls. I went ...
A. 5 October 2007: At the moment, your mind is running in circles and this will consume you. If you can't let it go, demand to know why he lied. You have to give him an ultimatum when you do it. you also have to catch him by surprise. If you give him an ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who is 14 years older than I am (and he's married)
Q. I'm in love with someone who is 14 years older than i am and he's married. I can't tear myself away from this guy and it's killing me inside that i feel this way about someone who has a wife and a family and is way passed my age. Yeah I know I ...
A. 5 October 2007: One thing to understand is that although he may want out of his marriage, you were making it easier for him to choose that path. You were probably a catalyst in the equation. If he didn't have someone else on the side, he may have concentrated ... (read in full...)
My fiance doesn't want this baby!
Q. Im 24 and I just got engaged to my fiance 25 of 3 1/2 yrs. and I just found out that im pregnant. this is my first child but not my fiance's he already has a 5 yr old daughter that we both love to death. and im overwhelmed with being pregnant. Im so ...
A. 4 October 2007: "Since you didn't get pregnant the first month he didn't think you'd get pregnant" What kind of logic is that?
Obviously he wasn't really hoping you'd get pregnant. You could be ruining the relationship but it might not be worth saving. ... (read in full...)
I'm curious about the "party" my BF went to.
Q. Hallo everyone! My BF went for this B-party in a Hotel Room in New York city with 15 other guys this saturday. Didn't directly tell me what happened over there, except, that he didn't do anything wrong that would hurt me ... and that he didn't c...
A. 4 October 2007: Nobody but your boyfriend can tell you what went on at that particular party and that's the one that bothers you. Why did they need a hotel room? ... (read in full...)
I have never felt this needy before!!!
Q. About 15 months ago I met a women on eHarmony and in short fell in love and moved from California to Colorado Springs, in the process I was very happy I had left where I came from to start my new wonderful life. I know we jumped into the relation...
A. 3 October 2007: Maybe it's more about the relocation than it is the person you're with. Leaving what you know can be difficult.... (read in full...)
How do I tell him I have my period?
Q. I just started my period again and my bf wants to have sex with me. How do I tell him I have my period?...
A. 3 October 2007: "Sorry honey...it's the wrong time of the month."
You could still give him some sexual pleasure though, if you feel like it.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone who is 14 years older than I am (and he's married)
Q. I'm in love with someone who is 14 years older than i am and he's married. I can't tear myself away from this guy and it's killing me inside that i feel this way about someone who has a wife and a family and is way passed my age. Yeah I know I ...
A. 2 October 2007: You've already made a poor choice by falling into this trap. Even if neither of you began this by intending to be cheaters, that's what you've become. Do not do to others what you would not want done to yourself. Since you know what you're doing ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, but I can't live without her...
Q. ok well i have a gf she cheated on me but i love her and when i say she cheated she kissed another guy who i fought and got kicked out of my college i know she loves me but she just wnt stop flirting and giving guys hope by putting shit like i love ...
A. 2 October 2007: Don't get yourself into trouble by fighting with guys who your girlfriend is flirting with. She is acting like a child and needs grow up. Unless she's willing to make some changes, you're in for a long ride.
eddie...ps, use some punctuat... (read in full...)
I have fallen for a married woman at work and she feels the same. How do we proceed?
Q. Im Male 28! I've been friendly with a girl I work with for a few years. She is in her early 40's married and has children. She has recently declared her marriage is over and has been for a year unoffically. I really like her alot. I stopped...
A. 2 October 2007: I hear you r points but I'd bet there was something going on before the marriage broke up. Even if it was friendly flirting, it was "something". Enough of those somethings eventually turn in to the straw that broke the camels back. Just hope you ... (read in full...)
I have fallen for a married woman at work and she feels the same. How do we proceed?
Q. Im Male 28! I've been friendly with a girl I work with for a few years. She is in her early 40's married and has children. She has recently declared her marriage is over and has been for a year unoffically. I really like her alot. I stopped...
A. 1 October 2007: I can understand your feelings but the final paragraph is the part where you let yourself off the hook for bad behaviour....."I guess you can't help who you fall i love with or where you find something special". Perhaps that true but you can decide ... (read in full...)
He presumes I'm cheating but has allowed himself to be hugged in public by his ex.
Q. my boyfriend pressumes im cheating, there is no truth whatsoever in these allegations,yet he allowed himself to receive a hug in public from his ex girlfriend and feels it was ok ...
A. 30 September 2007: He's wrong to accuse you, but a hug is no bid deal either.... (read in full...)
She told me he didn't do oral but after our break up she did it with another guy. Now we're in a serious relationship and bittered by this thought.
Q. dear cupid, i've been dealing with this female on and off for about ten or eleven years now. when we first started having sex i asked her could we have oral sex, she told me she didn't do that but after she stopped dealing with me she started ...
A. 30 September 2007: You shouldn't be bitter. You don't have to like it and you cold wish it had been you but it's none of your business. The timing was wrong. She doesn't owe you any apology either. Is it a jealousy thing? Does it make you angry that she sis the ... (read in full...)
She tells me she has an std, and then blames me.
Q. Dear cupid, I have been married for a month now my wife came to me and said she had caught an std and the way she said it was like she was blaming me i have not been with any other women and she claims she hasn't been with any other men i think she'...
A. 30 September 2007: Is this for real?... (read in full...)
Will my partner love our future baby as much as his child from a previous relationship?
Q. Will my partner love our future baby as much as his child from a previous relationship? Hi, me and my wonderful partner are trying for a baby getting married and moving to a bigger place and i couldn't be happier but he has a lovely 5 year old son ...
A. 29 September 2007: Instead of thinking about the joy of the child you'll share, you've focused on "creating" a scenario that has not even happened.
If you move to a bigger place will he spend more time working to pay the bills, thereforre neglecting you?
If you ... (read in full...)
She's 19, married, and wants to give her husband a 2nd chance.. But I want her to be mine
Q. Ever have this feeling, if so what'd you do? met a girl, she's everything i'd ever want... our chemistry is amazing, like we were meant for each other... we make each other happy... but she's 19, no kids, married and is gonna give him anot...
A. 29 September 2007: The reason you are not particularly worried about the success of her marriage is because it suits you better if it fails. Look at everything you wrote. That moral answer is obvious. Leave her alone for now and realize you should have never been ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to have the "all or nothing" mentality?
Q. Is it wrong to have the "all or nothing" mentality? Must we remain friends? Is it ok if you have no interest in being a friend to a woman who (place excuse here) and just wants to be friends. We have been close friends for 2 years and now th...
A. 29 September 2007: Sometimes it is all or nothing. Once the genie is out of the bottle it's hard to put him back inside. The other person always knows you look at them in a different light and desire them. This is the hard part. The person who is desired feels ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, and I was going to propose! How do I get through this?
Q. me and my girlfriend have just broke up because she has had sex last wendnesday with a random bloke in the toilets of a night club and i was going to propose to her how do i get over this with as little pain as possible?....
A. 29 September 2007: Any person who is love and goes and has sex in a bathroom with another person is not worthy of your love. It's not even as though she fell in love with the other guy, it was cheap random sex. Although it hurts, be thankful you found out.... (read in full...)
2 years together. I had to go to New Zealand for a while, and she cheated. Now she's really mean towards me. Do we have a chance at all??
Q. Hi My now ex and me had been dating for 2 years and known each other for 7 years (since she was 14). She was always really into me and talked about marriage and kids and how much she loved me and couldnt be with anyone else. She has had a few b/...
A. 29 September 2007: Right now she's living an adventure. She's in the selfish mode many people go through. She weighed her options and decided the fun was worth more than the relationship. That is the risk you take when you separate for so long. Distance can be ... (read in full...)
A colleague fancies me, but he knows I love my partner with all my heart, so as a result, he wants to quit his job! What should I do?
Q. i am 24 and in a happy relationship with my partner to with im engaged to i work at asda and i have friend called mike we are good mate and have been there for each other at our time of need but resantly i have resived text messages frome him sayin ...
A. 29 September 2007: The most important thing to think about now is PUNCTUATION, it's hard to read a letter with no periods or commas. Anyway, tell your boyfriend. If he finds out he wonder what else went on. When the other guy told you his feelings, knowing you're ... (read in full...)
I think my g/f might be cheating with her BOSS!
Q. Help I need some advice. I know its a long post but please take the time to read it you'll probably be suprised. I think my girlfriend might be cheating with her boss. Recently it's come to my attention that her new boss has been texting my lady ...
A. 28 September 2007: I think you're correct. The fact that you're writing this question while she's gone tells me you're concerned. This might be a difficult time for you while she's away. Remember that nobody really knows what, if anything is happening here. It ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to handle marriage anymore!
Q. Early in our marriage, getting way too challenging, don't know how to handle it anymore. We met in grad school, only dated for just over a year before getting married. We had (I thought) very similar goals in our careers, and we both liked the s...
A. 28 September 2007: I think at this point you have to wait it out until the baby is born. That is the only thing that is a definite at the moment, her being pregnant.
Since you've identified her issues, and we assume you're correct, your choices are few. You can ... (read in full...)
Why do men go to massage parlors? Is my husband a sex addict?
Q. Just want to find some answers, my boyfriend went to a massage parlor and want to find out why men go to these places? he says he doesnt know. I am wondering if he is a sex addict? Does he really love me? how can he when he went there? If there is ...
A. 27 September 2007: Many massage parlors are legitimate. Was it a sexual one or actually for a real massage? If he went to a sexual one then the answer is easy. He went so a woman would give him sexual pleasure. There is no other reason.... (read in full...)
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