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writes:i am 24 and in a happy relationship with my partner to with im engaged to i work at asda and i have friend called mike we are good mate and have been there for each other at our time of need but resantly i have resived text messages frome him sayin he fancys me and that he has to leave i feel awful as i no i havent done anything to make him feel this way i love my partner more than anything and would't be able to tell him about this as he will makeme leave my job i dont want this to happen but my mate said in his last text he cant be mates with me anymore as it will only make him want me more my head is in bits and i dont no what to do please help me my job friendship is on the line and i dont want to lose eaither thanks for reading this dreen x
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reader, Skatanic +, writes (30 September 2007):
Let him leave if that's what he wants. You haven't done anything wrong, and if you explain like you have on here, you'll boyfriend will understand - telling him will show you don't keep secrets from him and he'll feel like you can tell him anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): This is a case of unrequieted love. The guy has feelings for you and knows that they can go nowhere due to the fact that you are in a relationship already. He may fear that he might test or jeopordize your situation and is chosing to leave'the scene of the crime' and start anew rather than put both himself and you through this. No one has done anything wrong here...this is just life. Let him go...the discomfort about this will pass
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (29 September 2007):
 I think you should let him go and do what he wants. Leaving his job maybe absolutely nothing to do with you really but he maybe just bored in the job and needing some excuse to justify his decision to quit (it can be scary to just quit sometimes). If he wanted to do the dignified thing then he would have just left. Instead he has been quite manipulative and dragged you into this situation. He didn't have to tell you how he feels and presumably he knows you have a relationship. You are getting married and settling down. You will come up against people who fancy you even after you are married and perhaps see your marriage as no obstacle. It will be a test of the strength of your relationship in how you handle these situations. So, don't feel bad about his feelings for you as you haven't done anything wrong. Just let him go.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (29 September 2007):
 The most important thing to think about now is PUNCTUATION, it's hard to read a letter with no periods or commas. Anyway, tell your boyfriend. If he finds out he wonder what else went on. When the other guy told you his feelings, knowing you're taken, he crossed the line. Knowing his feelings, you have to treat him differently now. He doesn't want to be your friend, he wants to be you're lover.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2007): if he cant accept you as a good friend then he wasnt a good friend after all.he is trying to make you feel guilty for something which you havent done,it is a situation which he created therefore he should deal with it.you dont need to feel out of place,tell him you are happy with your partner and also tell him that you dont want to lose him as a friend but if leaving the job is the way he feels then tell him you'll be sad to see him go but if thats what it takes for you to be happy then good luck to you.i also feel you should tell your partner about your situation after all he has a right to know if something is bothering you.who knows he might be able to give you a solution!if he trusts you then he wont doubt you.good luck.
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