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writes:Just want to find some answers, my boyfriend went to a massage parlor and want to find out why men go to these places? he says he doesnt know. I am wondering if he is a sex addict? Does he really love me? how can he when he went there? If there is anyone out there who works in a massage parlor could you get in touch so maybe i can understand a little bit more!
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reader, lkit  +, writes (13 October 2008):
I go to massage parlors because my life has no room for relationships with women otherwise. I care for an autistic son and have a daughter who is in recovery from a rape that occured nine years ago. I was the caretaker of a dying father and safely escort children to school in a school bus. I give educational classes for free to the public in science so there is little room for marriage.
Sex within marriage always struck me as immoral. When I first married, I could sense that she felt obligated to having sex and I witnessed my bride in tears on our wedding night. It felt terrible to touch her at all. When our marriage ended I refused to have sex for 7 years until a woman chased after me. She had slept with over 100 men. Out of wedlock, sex with her felt great. She encouraged me to look at porn and wanted to watch me with many women. Too bad Viagra wasn't invented yet! She moved away in 1981 but left me with warmer memories than marriage did.
So I am not looking for love. I already have it. I have a body with a lot of potential and enjoy it and like to reward myself every few months with someone who knows upfront what I am after. When I leave that massage parlor I know that it is my kids who will still get their hands on all my money when I die and not some blood sucking, money grabbing wife. Prostitutes are much cheaper.
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reader, Ginalolabridga +, writes (18 August 2008):
 HiMen go to these places to have sex plain as my hubby was a frequent client and told me exactly what goes on they wear next to nothing and will do most of the things guys will ask and yes some do it without a condom for extra!!So they are WHORES DENS as i call them massage parlours is a front the police and everyone else who frequents them all know what goes on is illegal in some places but it is no ties sex the girls can be lined up ready for the guy to pick who he fancies and it is off to the grubby room for the act to take place at a price.I have spoken to a few whores who worked in these places some love their job some hate it reason why they have no choice here the men are paying for them to service them in anyway they want and it is usually half hourly appts unless you want more it can spread to an hour but in general no more than half an hour mines told me some of them were dire but you see the men who frequent these places are not interested on what bedcover they have they are only interested in the slut ready and willing to please him. Sad i know anyone having to pay for sex is up for questioning really!If your boyfriend is using these places i would urge you to get health checks including hiv! he does know exactly why he is going to them don't accept that tell him quit the sleaze parlours or he is being dumped he has no place using you while using whores!Ginalolabridga
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reader, Flank steak  +, writes (10 June 2008):
A friend of mine (yes, really) recently told me that he frequents parlours once a week....I asked him WHY, and reminded him that I would still consider this an AFFAIR. He said he disagreed and said that because his wife will only give it up 1-3 times a month, he is left with no alternative. I asked him why they don't go to couples counselling. He said his wife was not interested in going because it's not her problem and it's just "too bad". She told him to just masturbate when necessary. My friend says "too bad" for her. I can see his point. My wife does not like to mess around during "that time of month" and let me tell you, I became a horn-dog thatcan hardly wait till its over. I can't imagine having sex only 1-3 a month so I would say that I would have to side with the person if they were given no other alternative than to get some elsewhere...safely. my 2 cents
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): ImplicationsAccording to WHO, "In order to achieve ... risk-reducing practices, it is essential to avoid discrimination against people engaged in prostitution, and to ensure their active participation in prevention and care efforts." Most countries, however, deal with sex work by legislating against it. This forces sex workers to hide, which has the effect of cutting them off from society and keeping them from prevention and/or care services. There is little evidence that prohibitive legislation affects the amount of commercial sex available. But it does affect the health, welfare, and self-esteem of sex workers, which are in inverse proportion to the legal sanctions against them.Prostitution law reform is good for health -- and its beneficial effects could be considerably accelerated by giving sex workers the information, the international connections, the support, and the resources they need. Perhaps one day the word "prostitute" can become synonymous with "safer-sex educator."The results of international studies are fairly consistent and indicate that, outside of East Africa, the prevalence of HIV in sex workers is generally low, and not significantly different from the HIV incidence in the population as a whole. While prostitution per se is not a significant risk factor for acquiring HIV infection, IV drug use is, and a significant proportion of sex workers are also IV drug users. Men who use sex workers do have a higher risk of acquiring HIV, but only if they have other STDs or engage in other high-risk behaviors (e.g., anal sex without a condom).The bottom line: if you use a condom correctly, your risk of contracting HIV from a sex worker is probably no greater than the risk from your girlfriend or boyfriend. But if you don't use a condom, your risk increases greatly, especially if you also have an STI. As with all risk behavior, it's what you do, not who you do it with, that matters.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): Sex Workers as a Prevention ResourceMany who do HIV prevention work with sex workers find them to know a great deal about the human side of sex, including the behaviors and attitudes that go with it, making them an ideal source of knowledge about safer sex practices. Often, they have developed some expertise about the prevention of HIV and other STIs. Sex workers are aware of the implications of the spread of the disease, not only for their own lives and livelihoods, but also for their many sex partners, and in turn for the general population. As a result, many sex workers make it a practice to instruct their clients in safer sex practices before engaging in sexual contact with them.There is now near-universal use of condoms by sex workers in industrialized countries. It is possible that this is having a far larger impact on the overall sexual culture than conversations that should be (but often aren't) happening in doctors' visits. It's difficult to prove, but probable, that sex workers have been more successful in safer sex education than all the television advertisements put together. After all, the best way for someone to learn something is to do it. Put in terms of positive reinforcement theories, the best way for a man to start to feel good about using condoms is to have someone put one on him and then proceed to give him a pleasurable experience. Yet sex workers are widely perceived to be a major reservoir of infection, the vectors for the transmission of HIV/AIDS into the general population. Some sex workers, of course, do have unsafe sex. Sometimes they are coerced into it by a threatening client, or they may simply be offered more money to dispense with the condom. Sometimes the workers themselves are affected by alcohol or drugs.But often, even under these circumstances, many sex workers don't do anything unsafe. Why not? Because they have learned to take care of themselves; because they have self-esteem, because it has become a habit to carry condoms and use safer sex practices. Sometimes it's just that they want to keep on living so that they can continue using drugs. The key to stopping sexually transmitted diseases is control. The more control sex workers have over their lives, the more likely they are to develop self-esteem and the responsibility that comes with it. If they do not, they are more likely to be careless and risk being infected or infecting their partners with HIV. This doesn't mean that sex workers are not exposing themselves to HIV, but we need to stay aware that the issue is the risk behavior, whether through unprotected sex or IV drug use. Therefore it is important to provide public health policies that will allow sex workers to have just access to health care and prevention services.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2008): Firstly Massage Parlours are the pits where sad men go to get it off nothing else they pay and choose because in real life it would be too much bother to woo and dine!
For the married guys who are doing this they are rats for the ones who say "What harm is it doing" Well what if you catch a nasty disease whilst being pleasured and go home to your wife/partner and infect her what if she ends up seriously ill and god forbid if their are kids because if one or the other takes really ill authorities are notified and is that risk worth losing everything you have for a quick shag?Losing your wife/partner/kids/home/job?
No it is'nt take it from me i was married to a sex addict and he frequented Brothels i don't call them Massage Parlours they are Brothels plain as, in Scotland it is not illegal to buy sex in these places and to me that is dispicable they should be shut every last one of them they fuel men's addictions to the core and the girls that work in them please they are having sex with maybe 10/12 clients a day every day for weeks/years who gets pleasure from knowing that?Worse still are you prepared to pay for pleasure that could infect you with a nasty disease??
Most men go to these places cause they can and they know they will never be found out and it is no ties sex!
The men who use these places have problems themselves they tell themselves "Oh it is a guy thing loads of men do it"
In reality they are disturbed and mentally unstable men with severe addiction to sex i discovered my husband started using these places after being hooked on porn one thing leads to another believe me Porn is evil it breaks up couples, destroys marriages/relationships, it lowers our self esteem, i could go on at the damage it causes and when the men know they can live out their sick fantasies with the happy hooker who is just eager to please for the right price the addiction starts.
We have been to Relate, Couple Counselling and every one of them has told him he has problems either stemming from childhood, relationships, marriage , confrontation problems, i.e. unable to confront his real life problems the normal way he seeks other outlets to escape his anxiety's.i.e SEX
Seemingly this is a big thing with men who use these places face it they can't be happy with their life if they feel the need to frequent a slut for pleasure?
To pay for sex is disgusting and lowers your self esteem,your worth, respect, my husband was once a proud man respected, loved, etc;
No longer his daughter knows his mother knows and i know all the ins and outs he went to, to hide this shameful addiction he has lost huge respect, love, possibly his life too as no one can look at him in the same way now we just see a sad dirty old man and that is what most people think when told of this they think how sad he had to pay!
It is an illness and for all the men who posted on here saying what's the harm?
Well plenty if you are married with kids the implications health wise was unforgivable in my book you don't play around with other people's health even if you could'nt give a toss about your own which most of they men doing this don't or otherwise would not go near a manky slut!
He is lucky you have discovered this early you have a chance to rectify things and find out why? mines was doing it 6 years before i found out i had to endure the embarassment of having 2 Hiv/Aids tests as he did we had to have other tests done too which thankfully all came back clear his reaction was i always used protection!!
I told him fine use it forever as you won't need any with me cause we are over!!Your addiction will either see you in Prison or worse still kill you!!
It is a long road to go down why they turn to this then get addicted and go weekly/monthly and see no harm in it is beyond anything i can comprehend i think men Lust more than Love mines told me Love is not about SIZE OR LOOKS LUST IS!
So i would advice you to have your health checks done to seriously sit down and talk as to the reasons why he did this and if he can show you he is remorseful and you do want to stay together then it is up to the both of you only you will know in your heart if he is right for you yes we all make mistakes but if he is not willing to learn from that and show you more respect dump him plain as.
Wish you well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 May 2008): For myself my wife is a certified massage therapist meaning she went to school to be trained to massage and has to go to training to stay certified . The problem with Massage parlors is and I mean the ones to jack you off at no other pretty way to say it and also if it is called a Parlor its going to most likley have the sex part because a legit massage therapist would not work for or list her buisness as a parlor . The difficult part for me is having parlors can cause problems for my wife as the guys come in thinking there maybe a happy ending / Jackoff which will never happen and is you can be arrested for in my state . Guys think about it if your wife was a massage therapist besides a very attractive one would you like any guy period getting jacked off by her ? or if not your wife how about if you had a daughter as a massage therapist . Or would you like a guy comming in just thinking hes getting more than just a massage ? You know what if your wife or girlfiend is not giving you enough and communication wont work or maybe think about it maybe your not romancing her enough and you know BIG surprise guys who would go to a massage parlor probably are going to be lacking in being romantic . If after trying the communicatin / romance and she still doesnt do it with you either you you probably have let yourself go got a belly and look like a slob so just jack yourself off by looking at porn no problem with that that how most normal guys deal with lack of sex or a high sex drive at least you wont be comming in to see my wife and acting like a pervert .
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2008): we go because its harmless fund and adds a bit of excitement to our boring married lives. Beleive me when I say that we (men) do not love you any less by going and getting a hand job or some touching with the nice Asian or Russian lady. Its something most married guys will try at some stage. I dont go drinking with the boys, I am home every night with my family and I provide financially for there every need. Its a special treat for myself to go for a "massage" I dont go there every week or even every month but once in a while . As far as I am concerned it has nothing to do with my wife and its just a hand job and nothing emotional..I wouldnt dream of engaing in full on intercourse or having a mistress on the side as this is a different thing all together.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): ...because men and women are a completely different species. period. Men are dogs. Most men are sex addicts. For the most part, massage parlours are harmless fun. It has nothing to do with the wife/girlfriend. A man could meet you for 3 seconds, not know your name, have sex, and forgot about it in 2 seconds. That's the cold hard facts. Another reason your husband visits these places is that you probably have a low libido and don't have sex with him as often as he would like. Give it to him more and maybe he won't need to go elsewhere for it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2008): I once worked in a massage parlor, i ended up getting a STD and probably gave it to at least 40+ people (not to mention their spouses). It's not a clean profession, but it paid the bills...
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2008): OMG! I cannot believe how many men do this! I just discovered that my husband went to an Asian massage parlor and I am devastated. I don't trust him. Now I am in a mess trying to decide whether to divorce him. There's so much shame in all of this. This was no "massage"--He was unfaithful!!! Disgusting. I cannot help but picture him there and I am so repulsed. I cannot believe all the other women who have the same problem with their husbands.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): I used to work in a massage parlor, for a little while. Men go to those places just to be treated nice, and fantasy-like. And with No strings attached. Some don't get it enough at home. Some just want to try out different women, since they get the chose from the selection. Its in a safer, more controlled environment. And really its not a relationship to get too jealous of because the girls only want his money, not HIM.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008): I had a bit of a break through, with this whole 'moral, normalicy' thing. I actually found some porn on the computer the other day. I called my boyfriend up and explanied that I had found it. He said 'ah, I'll call you back'. He then wrote me a long text message going on about how he was so sorry and he will never do it again. Rather than get angry I said, 'don't worry about it, I know that your normal. Lets save it for a rainy day. Most girls watch porn too so don't worry'. I think I have brought about a little more honesty in the sex arena, now I just need to try and form that honesty into something more. I would love him to one day be able to actually talk to me about all of these going on's and make me understand his reason. Rather than making him feel like a dickhead about the whole thing, maybe I could learn to understand it. Honestly, sometimes I wish there were places like this for women!
As much as I love him, sometimes the whole relationship stresses don't allow for proper sexual healing the way these places have obviously served males for years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008): OK... I will act as the adult sex industry expert today. I think I get that you women love your husbands and you care about them. You are looking for monogamy, sense of normalcy, honesty, etc etc.BUT I have friends who make $2 million on wall st. buddies who are in construction. lawyers, doctors, accountants, bartenders, gym managers, teachers, consultants, psycologists... never in my life has any single one of these guys said no to going to a massage parlor. never. and im going to freak you ladies out even more... my one buddy was absolutely in love (head over heals in love) with this girl who was a great catch for him... guess what he did every thursday after work. Look. I live in florida so mabye its different in other parts of the country... but i would say your biggest fear is the guy who pretends to hate it (the moralist). You wont get a straight answer from this type of guy, its all bullshit. its all bullshit till your relationship implodes. If i was a girl I would be looking for a guy that liked sex, was capable of cheating but had other priorities in his life. children, sports, (not drinking), investing, work - and family. He probably is going to go to these places still... but only once in a blue moon. There are allot of reasons for me to go to these places in this day and age. ussually its their spouses/gf's. mabye they even love them... but the men also might have other needs that he didnt address initially. now he is stuck with his initial bullshit story that snagged the girl in the first place...ahh i dont know how you married people do it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): what I meant when I said 'who are the patrons here' is, there is clearly alot of business occuring for all of these massage parlours to be popping up all over the place, hence who are these men? What I mean is, there must be many many married men who frequent these establishments.
It's just a bit scary to think how many men do this type of thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2008): Where I live, these establishments are legal, so being arrested for a sex offence doesn't occur.
I must agree though, it is not acceptable behaviour and only a stupid girl would put up with it.
I suppose it is just hard, it's a hard thing to have to terminate a relationship that is otherwise good. After so many years together the easiest thing to do would be to stay in the relationship. I think I need to be strong and get out of it though.
There are plenty of fish in the sea and I don't want to be dealing with this form of stress and worry for the rest of my life. It is ridiculous and almost laughable that I have gotten myself into this situation in the first place.
Thanks everyone for all your answers. To the original poster, I hope that this discussion helped you with your situation.
Cheers guys.
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reader, Ask oldersister +, writes (13 March 2008):
 Yeah, if you don't mind your boyfriend having sexual relations with questionable women, then don't terminate the relationship. If you want to know what type of guys go to these places, park your car outside one of these fine establishments; put on your baseball cap & sunglasses, maybe some binoculars...and have a look-see. I imagine most are repeat customers.
I'm not sure how compulsive he is about his habits but usually this would indicate an addiction and there are quite a few massage parlors in your area to provide him that outlet. Most women are horrified at their boyfriend's porn addiction but this is a whole other arena with different risks and implications that carries the potential for STD's and getting arrested. This would mean if your boyfriend were arrested for "sex" at one of these places during a bust, he could have to register as a sex offender (I'm not sure what your prostitution laws are over there). I live in TX, and most in my area were banned for prostitution and underage employees- just the highlight- as there were many other seedy going-ons.
I know you are wanting this to go away fast and "in the past", but once you wrap your mind around all this, it's not one of those imperfections about your partner that you'll be able to laugh about later.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): So, say all of these things have happened, and say he has done this type of thing.. is it really that bad? Is going to a massage parlour worth throwing a potential life relationship in the bin for?
I know for a fact that he loves me with more than anything in the world, and he would do anything for me, and if these things were to happen I am still not sure whether it would be a ligitimate reason to terminate the relationship.
I know that many many men do this, hence so many massage parlours of this type established all over the place! In some most suburbs where I live there are atleast 4. Who are the patrons here?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): A massage parlor is not like a strip club where they go to just "watch", they go to get jerked off, sucked off, or for straight up intercourse. It's cheating. They don't always use condoms either. A lot of these guys see the girls on the side and some of the girls also prostitute. If it gets to the point where your boyfriend is going to these places, there is a problem. They also have private rooms where they can bathe with the girls or the girls give them a rub down. A massage parlor is not just a place to go hang out or get a good look. It's so much more.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2008): Hi,
This is Sarah again.
I still don't understand this. I am thinking I should break things off with my boyfriend for what he did but I am still not sure.
I love him more than anything, he is like family. But I am just not sure I can accept this type of behaviour. If what he says is true ie- he went twice, nothing sexual occured, then things may be fine, but the thing is I am not sure I can trust him with these specifics. I asked him 'why, if nothing sexual occured here, did you go to a massage parlour for a massage, why wouldn't you have just gone to a normal massage place?' he said he wanted to make sure that it wasn't another man massaging him, cos that would just be weird.
Just to let everyone get a bigger picture of why I am so confused aswell, I don't mean to sound too confident, but people say that I am gorgeous looking, I have a great bikini body, blonde hair, lots of guys run down the street after me! I have had numerous photographers offer to do a free portfolio for me for modelling, and many people have also said that I should be a bikini model.
I suppose I could understand why my boy would run to other means for sexual satisfaction if I was unattractive and/or didn't satisfy him in bed, but the point is those two things are perfectly fine. Additionally I am almost finished my business degree, so I am not stupid, fantastic cook, fun person to be around - yet he has apparently gone to other means for sexual satisfaction and also risked our relationship for the sake of that. I can't help but think that maybe there is something wrong with him.
I just don't understand it, I am so confused and have been for months and months! In the mean time I have tried to forget about it, and I don't think he would have been there again, but I just don't know what to do. Maybe I should move on with my life? Or would I be throwing away something amazing? Someone please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2008): Hi I once worked at massage parlour and would say that most men find a visit to a massage parlour erotic.. ok some might want extra's but it's a very discreet way for a guy to get off... what's the harm
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2008): I completely feel your pain. My husband of 8 months has gone...he mentioned he had been to a massage parlor long before we met with a bunch of friends and received a "happy ending". He's sworn up and down that he loves me to death and has never been again, especially since he met me over 3 years ago. Imagine my horror when I just recently found out that he went TWICE within 4 weeks of our wedding! I believe he is addicted to porn and have no idea how many more times he's gone since 7 month ago. He's sneaky, he shreds his credit card and banking statements. I've decided I must divorce him because I feel he is paying for sex and I don't believe in it. My advice is always trust your gut! Also, the place he goes to "disguises" itself as legit but is supposedly mafia owned/run and many cops/fireman in our area frequent it, from what he told me, so it will never be shut-down. I am a petite, pretty woman that would do anything in bed for my man - yet it is never enough and he will continue to lie about it. I am heartbroken. I don't care about men being men. There's something to be said for honesty, integrity, trust and truly loving someone and not wanting to hurt him. My biggest fear is that he's graduated to escorts. Any men out there with advice? I hate to end such a new marriage (we lived together for 2 years prior to marriage), but it's like peeling away layers of an onion. I keep finding things, such as this, and it breaks my heart but I have to put my own sanity and beliefs before any love I have for him. I can't believe he loves me when he does this. Worst of all, he's gone with coworkers so I look the fool to everyone. I'm so ashamed and embarassed, although I know it's HIM that is a pig. Someone please help me. Also, there ARE legit places out there...but not the ones that offer special "services".
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 December 2007): My advice is this...look for trouble and you'll find it anywhere. Trust.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2007): I need some serious advice...
I have been with my boyfriend now for 6 years (since I was 16).
I recently found out that he had been to a massage parlour. He admited he did, but he said it was just for a massage and nothing else. He said he went twice and he said there was nothing 'sexual' involved. Just a massage. It was a parlour offering full service in our area. He gave me the adress. He told me that he didn't really realise it was a massage parlour until the second time he went when they asked him if he wanted 'anything more'. He told me that he said no. I went there and asked them what services they offer and it was quite a nice place, but quite obviosly a bit dodgy seeing as there was a discrete entrance and was called 'suit one'. anyway, they said they did deep tissue massage. I just don't know what to think, what to do and what to believe anymore. We live together, and it is all such a shock. My gut tells me it was more than a massage allthough he has promised me over and over it wasn't. I know for a fact it is a sex massage parlour as I saw some forums on it.
what do you think and what do you think i should do? please email me at [email address blocked] with your thoughts should you have any, or just reply back here.
Thanks heaps to anyone who can help me.
Sarah
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2007): If it is a sexual massage parlour, he has a problem. Obviously it is illegal to pay for sexual services. He may have gone more than once. If he truly does not know why he went, that makes it a bigger problem. If you really love him and want to trust him in the future, try hiring a detective service and camp out at a friend's house for several days. That is usually when they go. If he goes again during that time period, I would say he is a sex addict. This is assuming he promised to never go again. Good luck.
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (28 September 2007):
 he's violating your relationship. it's the old phrase, you can look but you can't touch, or it's OK to browse the menu as long as you don't order.
Just because these girls are "professionals" (i wonder what training they put them through), doesn't mean it's not cheating. What's wrong with your oral and sex? What ticks me of quite a bit is people who go do these things when they have the same thing at home. Variety is not an answer. I've been, believe it or not, with more than one female in my time, I've noticed there is not too much difference between them. Not enough difference to convince me that even sleeping with the real cute one walking down the street would be really that much better, or that her body would be that much different.
There is something wrong with this relationship, especially if you write it off, don't confront him, and take his answer and leave it. If you do that, you're teaching him his behavior is OK, it's like giving him the GO to cheat more. If I was in your shoes, I'd be like "your sick, good bye."
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reader, curly99 +, writes (28 September 2007):
curly99 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYes it was a massage parlor that does all the extras once he had oral and twice full sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): yes he loves you. i look at pr0n but that doesn't mean i don't love my girl.
and "my husband is a sex addict" -- duh is this a rhetorical question? hes a male, and males love sex/women...
just try something kinky in bed and i bet he doesn't spend as much time at the asian massage house!!
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reader, rcn + ♥, writes (27 September 2007):
It depends on the type of massage parlor. I went to a town, say a sign that said massage, mentioned my shoulder hurt so maybe I should make an appointment. Others that were there laughed and said it was no ordinary massage parlor. I didn't know, I grew up in a small town where businesses sell what they actually advertise.
Check out the massage parlor before jumping to conclusions. I go to school where we have a branch that teaches massage. I've been to there clinic for 2 massages. Wonderful experience. I couldn't believe how I could live adjusting to stress and becoming as tense as I was, without noticing it happened. I felt like the massage too 10 years off.
Now if it's one of the other ones, where the massage therapist provides additional services (without getting into detail) I'd worry about why he went there. That would be completely disrespecting your relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007):
Is he a husband or a boyfriend?
And sex addiction is a specific mental condition- it doesnt mean that you dont approve of someone elses sexuality.
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reader, eddie + ♥, writes (27 September 2007):
 Many massage parlors are legitimate. Was it a sexual one or actually for a real massage? If he went to a sexual one then the answer is easy. He went so a woman would give him sexual pleasure. There is no other reason.
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