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writes:my boyfriend pressumes im cheating, there is no truth whatsoever in these allegations,yet he allowed himself to receive a hug in public from his ex girlfriend and feels it was ok
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 November 2007): Are u cheating?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2007): Hang on.That's totally a male's perspective and that is where this hypocrisy, mistrust, and hurtful feelings are all about.I don't think it is fair of someone you love to overstep the boundaries of what is acceptable and not acceptable in your relationship.Why do people hug? Who are the "Safe" people to hug?In woman's world; the Ex wins everytime your guy hugs her. She needs to stay the Ex with EX boundaries.I am quite positive if you went around hugging males you knew and didn't know-your BF would become upset. I am quite sure if you were overly friendly and intimate with your EX-yes hugging is a form of intamacy-the bf would become livid.I agree that even though he may not love his EX or want her back-hugging her should not trump your happiness for a stinking hug.It is a big deal- you get to say so. If he can't understand and support you and put you first; he's an insensitive jerk.And come on, hugging his EX for all others to see makes you out to be a shmuck.I hear what you are saying and I would feel betrayed too.*hugs*
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reader, eddie  +, writes (30 September 2007):
 He's wrong to accuse you, but a hug is no bid deal either.
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reader, rcn  +, writes (30 September 2007):
 It's not OK for him to accuse you without proof. We do so, and really don't have the right to. Here's how I look at relationships.
I will give you myself and trust. I won't accuse you of being unfaithful because I have no right too. I won't control you or try to direct your behaviors, but if your behaviors violate the relationship we are in, I can simply choose to leave the relationship.
We have no rights over another, a relationship does not extend those rights to others, and we all have a choice if we remain in a relationship or move on from it. Accusations really do more harm than good.
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