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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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We differ on how to bring up children, now I'm sleeping with her daughter. What should I do?
Q. This is the picture. I am 56 my partner 53 My 4 year relationship with my partner has suffered a major set back after over 1 year of continued arguments and disputes regarding the attitude between my partner and my 12year old daughter so much so ...
A. 10 September 2008: Emily, you're right, here's the link:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/triangle-of-love-ive-become-involved-with-my.html
Honestly, this sounds like a recipe for disaster. You all need to grow up and recognize your patterns of behavior are leading ... (read in full...)
Is this a normal procedure for massage sessions?
Q. My partner and had a couples massage in a posh hotel in Egypt. He chose the hot stone massage and I the Thai, one. He was on a massage table and I spent the hour being contorted on a mat on the floor. I was given eyeshades to wear but appa...
A. 10 September 2008: The last massage I had, with a female masseuse, I was given a sheet to drape over myself. She moved the sheet around, being sure to keep my private parts covered all the time. Other than that sheet, I had nothing else on. I was not given an ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my husband's reaction to my past?
Q. I met my husband when I was 17. I told him I was a virgin but I wasn't. Below is the story. Its a bit long but you need to understand the circumstances. Please bear with it I really need some good advice. At just 16, I met a 23 year old guy ...
A. 10 September 2008: The anger overtaking the love has me very worried for you. The vile names he calls you and demanding all the details and doing this for three months sounds like he's almost enjoying his anger, he's got something he can hold over your head and beat ... (read in full...)
Should my sister take him back?
Q. my sister was in love with a boy for 2 years. then, they breaked up. he now lives in other city. for some time he comes here. he has a girlfriend there. he still says to my sister that we will patch up. but my sister doesn't understand what to do. ...
A. 10 September 2008: Hi, I think that this guy has a girlfriend and is really not available for your sister right now. If he really wanted to be with her, he would break up with the other girl and then try to patch things up with your sister.
So just let her talk abou... (read in full...)
I love him, he loves another. Now another boy likes me, what do I do?
Q. i am in school. i love a boy from the first day of school. after 6 or 7 months i came to know that he loves my best friend. i don't know that if she loves him or not. but i still love him. recently a boy proposed me. i too like that boy, but as a ...
A. 10 September 2008: Hi, I think claireleatherdale has given you some good advice. Just wait to see how things turn out, and continue to get to know all of your friends, it may be that in a month or two, boy number one may like you back.
Whatever you do, don't lead boy ... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by telling on him?
Q. I have a guy friend who trust me with everything also he gets in trouble a lot! One day when I got to school, I found out that some of windows had broken with a baseball bat. Well, he told me he hates the school and he did it. I couldn't handle the ...
A. 10 September 2008: Hold your head up high and don't let him get to you. Hang up when he calls if he starts being rude. You don't have to shout at him, just put the phone down. I think ignoring him for the time being might be the best thing, as he's probably still ... (read in full...)
How can I accept my appearance?
Q. hi their, this isnt a love or sexual question, its more about appearance.. im about 5'4 large built and a little overweight.. alot of people tell me how pretty i am, but all i see is ugly and fat, i got tormented at school when i was younger when...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi, I can relate to your situation. I let myself go a couple of years ago and have been working to get back my body and self-confidence too. And you know what? It's working!
So, first of all, you do need to stop the self-bashing because that isn'... (read in full...)
I have inverted nipples, do you think this product will help me?
Q. hey everyone i was just wanting some advise. i hate my inverted nipples, like they get be really down and upset, and really want to do something about them. so ive been searching and have found a product called advnt niplette which looks quite good...
A. 8 September 2008: Definitely check with your doctor, but from what I just read about them, it doesn't seem that they could hurt you. Just be sensible about using the devices and follow instructions, AFTER you've checked with the doctor.
And remember that inve... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me information about all contraceptive methods?
Q. Hi I used to be on the pill, because I had heavy periods and stomach cramps. A year after I began taking the pill I found out there was many associated risks, eg. Cancers. So I stopped the pill. Now I have a great boyfriend and am considering beco...
A. 8 September 2008: Here are some good links for you to read about all the various contraceptive methods that may be available to you.
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control-4211.htm
http:... (read in full...)
After we met, he stopped communicating! What's happened, could he be into another girl?
Q. basically i started talking to a guy on the internet just over a month ago. we really clicked straight away and would speak for twelve hours at a time. after a couple of weeks we also started with phone conversations and he seemed really into me, ...
A. 8 September 2008: Yes, I guess there is a possibility that he's with another girl. Frankly, if he hasn't been in touch with you, then he's showing that he's not interested in you. Sorry, but the only thing you can do right now is wait to see if you hear from him.
T... (read in full...)
Is he telling the truth? Should I trust him? He refused to let me see the cell phone bill!
Q. My husband of 5 years had an affair while I was out of the country for 2 weeks. He said it was over(after 3months). I asked to see the cell phone bill. He refused and I needed to trust him. He gets so angry when I ask. Is he telling me the truth. ...
A. 8 September 2008: It seems to me that you know that he's not telling you the truth if you are asking to see the phone bill. His getting angry and telling you that you need to trust him suggests that he's hiding something, and I would think that he should be bending ... (read in full...)
Should I send him packing after what's happened? Is this fair?
Q. Hi, I'm in my junior year of college right now in a three bedroom apartment. The problem is that I have a third roomate, my ex-boyfriend that I'd been seeing almost four years. Previously I had been living with him for the past two years rent-free ...
A. 8 September 2008: What, is he planning to live with you for two years until you're somehow 'even'? That's nuts! He chose to end the relationship and wants to be with someone else. Fine, he can do that on his own time and in his own place. The arrangement you had ... (read in full...)
We keep fighting and now he doesn't want to see me any more. How do I get him back?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had been arguing a lot until about 2 weeks ago and since then we had been getting on great until yesterday. Yesterday we started arguing again, and he would not let me out his room as he had locked the door and took the key. He...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi, I have reread your post again after your follow up and I wanted to add something. It sounds like you have built your entire life around him, if you've dropped your friends and only have his mates as your friends. This is not healthy nor a ... (read in full...)
We keep fighting and now he doesn't want to see me any more. How do I get him back?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had been arguing a lot until about 2 weeks ago and since then we had been getting on great until yesterday. Yesterday we started arguing again, and he would not let me out his room as he had locked the door and took the key. He...
A. 8 September 2008: Did your friends not approve of him or did he encourage you to dump them as friends?... (read in full...)
I won't let my boyfriend go down on me because I think it's disgusting down there!
Q. my boyfriend wants to go down on me but im uncomfortable with it cuz i mean isnt it disgusting down there like the pee comes out from there and its slimy and smelly and hairy so why would anyone want to do that?...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi, it sounds like you don't like your own genitalia very much, if you think it's slimy and smelly 'down there.' Why is that? If you practice good personal hygiene and keep your pubic hair trimmed, there's no reason to feel disgusted by your vulva, ... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband and now I don't know what to do.
Q. I am concerned that since we got married that things have changed. Things aren’t the same as they were before. I don’t feel like a wife, I don’t feel special, I feel like a roommate. I can’t really pinpoint any specific thing that may have changed,...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi, you've learned the hard way that getting married doesn't automatically mean that you'll live happily ever after. Marriage is hard work, really and truly work, but I think it's possible for it to be joyful and fun work.
Moving in together take... (read in full...)
I feel like I am running our relationship - should I sit back and see if he takes the reigns?
Q. I feel like I shouldnt have to be running my relationship. He never initiates anything, even going out or sex. our 5 year anniversary is coming up and i want him to put in some effort and so something special. yeah i could contribute seeing as this ...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi, have you discussed your relationship with him recently? It sounds like you two have reached an equilibrium that he's content with, but you're obviously not. I think you need to let him know that you're hoping for a special celebration on your 5 ... (read in full...)
We keep fighting and now he doesn't want to see me any more. How do I get him back?
Q. Me and my boyfriend had been arguing a lot until about 2 weeks ago and since then we had been getting on great until yesterday. Yesterday we started arguing again, and he would not let me out his room as he had locked the door and took the key. He...
A. 8 September 2008: Hi, what you've reported is very troubling on many levels. I would suggest that you see your GP and get a referral for some therapy, as you sound as though you might need some support with your mental health. If you are unable to cope with a ... (read in full...)
Is it possible to change his mind?
Q. The man i'm dating although he is caring for me and he shows his feelings he constantly refuses that there will be a serious commitment for us in the future. When we discuss this subject always he refuses a future for us. Is there a possibility to ...
A. 8 September 2008: I agree with Eyes here. He is being honest about what kind of relationship he is interested in having. Don't expect to change his mind; in my experience, when a man tells you that he's not looking for commitment, he means it. I know it's tempting to ... (read in full...)
Why did it hurt when we had sex?
Q. When I have sex and he thrust in hard it hurts really bad. I know that this can happen when he my hit the uterus or the cervix. But I have had a hysterectomy so why is this happening?...
A. 2 September 2008: It's probably a good question to ask your doctor. Maybe he hit some scar tissue and that caused the pain, maybe there's a hidden infection of the pelvis or bladder? I don't know, it's all speculation here, the only one who could really tell you is ... (read in full...)
How can I find out if this guy likes me?
Q. so there's this guy in my science class that asked if i could help him with a worksheet after class the next day and i obviously said yes. well come to find out, he already had just about all of it done and didnt really need help. then as we were ...
A. 2 September 2008: Hi, his actions certainly are confusing. A couple of thoughts spring to mind; one is that he was trying to find out what you were up to for the weekend for a friend who likes you. As in, he's the middleman. Possible, I guess. Did anyone else ask you ... (read in full...)
My husband is ready to leave but I don't know how to handle this!
Q. I need help! I have a husband who is ready to leave because he is just not happy! He can't tell you why but will tell you that it's our relationship! His moods change with me and everyone else including his children! I believe he is depress and ...
A. 2 September 2008: Eek, if he's not willing to get help for himself and refuses to try to save the marriage, there's not a whole lot you can do. That's awful to hear. What on earth could he be thinking? Maybe the depression has got him in its grip and is messing with ... (read in full...)
How does she see me? Should I try to get her back? Are we done?
Q. Me and my ex have talked for months before we actually went out. She used to say things like, "no we'll never go out because i only see you as a friend." Except one day this girl made my ex jealous, and my ex ended up telling me that she really did ...
A. 2 September 2008: It sounds like she does like you, but just not quite enough. She certainly has you dancing to her tune; she wants to be your best friend, and sometimes more, but only when SHE wants it. Does 'hooking up' mean sexual activity? If it does, then it ... (read in full...)
I'm incredibly afraid of my abusive husband...
Q. I have a problem i'm 22 years old and have been married for over 2 year. I have recently become awary of my husband abusive nature. We fight alot and i dont know what to do i have told my family and they are trying to help but it seem to be getting ...
A. 2 September 2008: Hi, I'm sorry to hear that he seems to be starting a pattern of abuse; that cannot be easy with a young child in the picture. I don't have any good way to handle him, but I do have some resources for you to look at and consider calling to see if you ... (read in full...)
We've been trying to conceive with no results. Is there something wrong with us?
Q. I Recently got married and me and my Husband have been trying to concive for the past 3 months and we've had no luck. Im a little worried that maybe theres something wrong with me or him, I was checked out not to long ago and told everything was ...
A. 2 September 2008: Hi, I think you're getting yourself worried for no good reason. If you've only been trying to conceive for 3 months, you should know that only 40% of couples get pregnant within that time frame. Give it a year before you start panicking!
Here are ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't he say "I love you" in public, only privately? Why does he not invite me to visit his family?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for about one year two months, now; he has been using the "L" word for a while, now. I can't remember who started it. At first, it was, "you know I love you". Since he would always say such a thing, I stopped ...
A. 2 September 2008: Hi, it took my now-husband nearly 2 years to introduce me to his family. I didn't meet his sister until our engagement party. I think it was because by bringing me to meet his parents, that signaled that I was 'the one' and he wanted to be 100% sure ... (read in full...)
I have a wife and two kids but I miss the relationships with men that I had before marriage!
Q. Hello to all, I am so crazy right now. I am so in love with my wife and 2 kids but my insides still have desire for men. I told my wife before we got married that I had past relationships with men but never really felt like it was the right thing....
A. 2 September 2008: Good luck with this difficult discussion that lies ahead of you. You are doing the right thing by being honest, you know. Let us know how it goes if you can.
Best wishes.... (read in full...)
I have a wife and two kids but I miss the relationships with men that I had before marriage!
Q. Hello to all, I am so crazy right now. I am so in love with my wife and 2 kids but my insides still have desire for men. I told my wife before we got married that I had past relationships with men but never really felt like it was the right thing....
A. 2 September 2008: Hi, you do realize that you have to be honest with your wife. If you no longer can be sexually intimate with her in the way that you implicitly promised when you married her, you owe it to her to let her know why. You are not the first man who ... (read in full...)
I don't understand her motives for kissing me.
Q. im a girl and ive liked my friend whose also a girl for a while and she knows and the other night while we were both quite drunk she kissed me, and told me she liked me, we went back to hers and went to sleep together it was so sweet but the next...
A. 2 September 2008: Hi, I'm not sure what you're asking. Do you want to just keep her as a friend only? Or are you interested in starting a relationship with her?
If you just want to be friends, just let her know that you're not interested in going any further. Then... (read in full...)
I don't understand my boyfriend's behavior. Is he hiding something?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and I am finding it a real struggle. He said from the outset that he liked his own space and didn’t like talking much, but sometimes it gets too much for me. He had said some time ago that...
A. 30 August 2008: Thanks for the additional information, that makes things a little clearer. So he's been quiet and laid-back, reticent from the first day you met him. I guess you were hoping for something in between the over-the-top guys and the mostly-off (as ... (read in full...)
She took my dog away from me!
Q. I've had my dog, Benji she is a chow. Anyway i've had her for 9 years since before my mommy past away so benji kinda all i have left my mom. My dad remarried months after her death. Anyways a few nights ago my step-mother ask how i felt i she got ...
A. 30 August 2008: Hi, this sounds very upsetting and I think you should be very honest with your step-mother about this. If it were me, I would tell her that if she 'got rid' of my dog, I would feel that a part of me had been amputated, that it would be the most ... (read in full...)
I don't understand my boyfriend's behavior. Is he hiding something?
Q. My boyfriend and I are in a long distance relationship and I am finding it a real struggle. He said from the outset that he liked his own space and didn’t like talking much, but sometimes it gets too much for me. He had said some time ago that...
A. 30 August 2008: What was it about him that drew you to him? And how did you wind up in a long distance relationship? How long have you two been dating? Who 'pursued' whom?
I'm going to give you my thoughts and you can sift through them and see if any of them ring... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 29 August 2008: Please let us know how it goes. Remember, calm and loving, calm and loving.... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me being pregnant?
Q. Alright. So me and my boyfirend (long term) have been havign sex, everything is fine. But i think i may have gotten pregnant. We had sex the past 3 days a few times he finished off inside me. And a few times we used a condom and then after we used a ...
A. 29 August 2008: Hi, it may take a couple of days before the egg is fertilized and implanted into the uterus. Only when the egg is firmly attached to the uterus do the hormones that a test detects start being produced. You still have time fir emergency contraception ... (read in full...)
Dodgy Adverts
Q. Hey all Humans bright and cheerful. (And variations there of.) I was pondering round this sight when i was looking at these here adverts which will soon surround the comments and answers this artical gets, and asked myself, "Does anyone act...
A. 29 August 2008: Hi, Jelly. I liked the quirky way you asked this question. And to answer it, yes, I did click on an ad for fullapologies.com. Talk about an eye-opener! Holy smokes!
Looking forward to seeing more of you.
Xxx... (read in full...)
Have I had an ongoing infection? And what was that odour?
Q. when i was 16 i had a very strong fishy vaginal odour that lasted just one day. im now 23. my discharge has always smelt 'normal' but some days it would smell quite strong. ive been with my new partner for 7 months and have noticed it smells quite ...
A. 29 August 2008: Hi, this is a good question to ask your gynecologist. I'm not sure that any of us are qualified to speculate on whether you have an infection or not. If you're uncertain, wouldn't it be better to be safe than sorry?
You could do some research at w... (read in full...)
What are the chances of me being pregnant?
Q. Alright. So me and my boyfirend (long term) have been havign sex, everything is fine. But i think i may have gotten pregnant. We had sex the past 3 days a few times he finished off inside me. And a few times we used a condom and then after we used a ...
A. 29 August 2008: PsyCookie has given you very good advice indeed. Here's a quote from the plannedparenthood.org website, on the 'withdrawal' method statistics.
"How Effective Is Withdrawal?
"Effectiveness is an important and common concern when choosing a birth co... (read in full...)
Would I loose weight if I do this?
Q. heyx i was just wonderin would i lose weight if i burn evrythin i eat. for example, any meal i eat, like 400 cals, i walk for an hour and burn that 400 would i lose weight by doin that or not? I eat alot, but exersise alot too so if i eat li...
A. 29 August 2008: Hi, I think there have been similar questions from a girl in your age range who also has a UK flag and asks a lot of questions about losing weight. Have you read any of these?
h... (read in full...)
My best friend ever is moving to France and I'm having trouble coping with it!
Q. Hi there, all of you. I'm really down at the moment because i found out that my best ever friend (Pretty much my only close friend in my class) is moving away to France. They won't come back to our town, or my shcool. She's my first ever best ...
A. 29 August 2008: Hi, Jelly, I know what it's like to lose friends through moving. I went to 6 different schools when I was growing up. Either my friends would move away, or I would. It's really tough. I remember crying a lot.
I have to say this, though, at the risk... (read in full...)
How do we maintain the truth and reality here?
Q. The site is fantastic. It makes me know the problems of real people. Answer to real people promlems and ask real people my problem. How do we mentain the reality and truth here?...
A. 29 August 2008: Hi, I agree with you about the site being fantastic. I have to say that I agree with ChiRaven and Deejuliet about how the volunteer moderators work to keep the site helpful and generally honest. I do have to say though, that sometimes even though a ... (read in full...)
I want to spend more time with him but he apparently can't. Should I give up?
Q. i have been seing this guy on and off since late last year. The problem is he cant commit to me. we text every day and talk on the phones about once a week we live a lil way apart but its only a 20 min drive. ( we both have cars and drive) t...
A. 29 August 2008: Sorry, I hit the add your answer button before I was finished with my answer to you.
If I were you, I would switch him to the distant but good friend category. I would stop being his 'friend with benefits,' because it's keeping me from finding anot... (read in full...)
I want to spend more time with him but he apparently can't. Should I give up?
Q. i have been seing this guy on and off since late last year. The problem is he cant commit to me. we text every day and talk on the phones about once a week we live a lil way apart but its only a 20 min drive. ( we both have cars and drive) t...
A. 29 August 2008: He says you're his best friend but he only sees you every 6-8 weeks? You speak to him once a week on the telephone? And you live 20 minutes apart? What does he do for a living that keeps him so busy?
You know what? It doesn't really matter. You ... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 28 August 2008: You're in a tricky spot, I see. You can't confront her because she's already defensive about this friend.
One comment I have to make about the 'hon' and 'babe' thing; I find myself inadvertently using those exact endearments with people other than... (read in full...)
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