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If he loves me, shouldn't he want to be intimate more often?

Q.   My husband and I are celebrating our second wedding anniversary in October. We have been together for 6 years and have two beautiful but trying daughters. This weekend we had a huge fight and when I confronted him about the fact that he doesn't ...

A.   2 September 2013: You got to get something very clear, life moves in ebb and flow. And the problem with a relationships is the harder you try to control them the more messed up it becomes. A good relationship is like holding a handful of sand, the more harder you try ... (read in full...)

We aren't dating but she always asks about my love life. Why?

Q.   Hello, I was seeing someone for a couple of months but they had to end it. She was having problems in her life and trying to start a relationship on top of it all put too much pressure on her. So we just kept in touch. Now she is seeing someone ...

A.   24 August 2013: You see you must not consider what the lady is doing, okay at this point what is essential for you is to know what you want, if you do feel for her make it a point to convey it to her as it is useless to keep your feelings to yourself and rather ... (read in full...)

So how can I find motivation when deep down I think I'm gonna get no where in life?

Q.   If any could give advice it would be appreciated.. right I have come to a stage in my life where I realised I'm going no where fast.. and I'm unhappy and want to do something about. I've been smoking cannabis for 10 years and want to stop, I also ...

A.   24 August 2013: Hi, you know all the answers that you are trying to seek,its time you put your head down and do what you are wishing to do, and as for the motivational part no amount of inspirational talks could help you unless you are determined enough to help ... (read in full...)

How can I break up if I still have some love left for him?

Q.   3 weeks ago my jealous boyfriend and I had a fight, I was in college and I just finished classes so I decided to go home, but I ran into a female friend of mine and her male friend and we started talking, I texted my boyfriend this because I had ...

A.   24 August 2013: You guys have been in the relationship for 2 years and off late its running into rough weather, you see its natural for a relationship to have fights and embarrassing moments and the fact that you tend to call it off and still come back to square1 ... (read in full...)

Should I worry about others hearing my girlfriend's moans during sex?

Q.   During intercourse last night in bed my girlfriend started moaning for the very first time since we started having full sex regularly from being virgins a couple of months ago. I was pleased to hear her because I'd been thinking the condom was ...

A.   24 August 2013: The fact that your girlfriend is moaning during intercourse signifies she is now really comfortable and that she is relaxed enough to be herself during sex,there is nothing tobe worried and with the noise that you guys might end up making relax,you ... (read in full...)

Why can't I ever get attractive men?

Q.   I have always seen myself a big loser in the world of Love. Never had a Bf , and when being a good guy friend, they end up not to have feelings for me. I don't understand what to do . On the contrary I see other girls . who keep getting Bf one a...

A.   16 June 2012: Physical attraction forms an essential part of a romantic relationship but that's not all there goes in a lot more to make a relationship work...just go with the flow 'coz there's nothing that requires pressing the panic button..relax and enjoy ... (read in full...)

Why are straights more curious about whose gay than the gays?

Q.   All "straight" and "gay" answers are appreciated. Why is it that my coworkers (females) are constantly asking me about my personal life? They're always curious to know whether the person I'm dating is male or female. In my head I'm like who the fuk ...

A.   16 June 2012: We humans are always curious about forbidden acts..and unfortunately straights believe gays/lesbians are aliens and naturally their actions are forbidden and hence this curiousity...just ignore ,such's not worth paying attention ... (read in full...)

My ex and I slept together, but now he's ignoring me!

Q.   We have been really good friends since college. Then he proposed me after breaking up with his girlfriend. I accepted his proposal and remained his gf for 6 months. Then I broke up with him becoz I had just friendly feeling for him. Recently we met ...

A.   16 June 2012: "Should I forget him."if you can,you should but,it's easier said than done,for you i suppose...i don't see him getting in touch with you any sooner unless he breaks up with this present girl friend of his. There are reasons for him to do this... (read in full...)

I want my new boyfriend to be more adventurous in bed. Should I say something?

Q.   I love it when guys are really animalistic in bed, but my new boyfriend is really tame and romantic, which is lovely but doesn't get me fired up at all. Should i say/do something? Thanks x...

A.   16 June 2012: You should talk to him about it...but everyone has his/her natural way of behaving in the do try to sugar coat your words because if you end up saying him,for example, his style keeps you unsatisfied and he should be animalistic it might ... (read in full...)

I got drunk and acted out of line with our friend. How do I talk to my husband about this?

Q.   I (age 26) and my husband are married for last five years. We had a calm peaceful and joyous life. Though there were some disagreements. But recently there are some disturbances popping-up in our way. Our sex life is good. A close friend of my husba...

A.   16 June 2012: Your husband is a real sport going by the standard of indian know what i mean...anything done under the influence of alcohol is not an offence but it's vulgar(if i can be harsh in terming the act)..but since your husband is cool with it its ... (read in full...)

My BF says he doesn't need to wear a condom because he smokes.... is this true?

Q.   My boyfriend smokes so should he wear a condom when we start to have sex because I've heard it's more difficult for a girl to get pregnant from a boy who smokes cigarettes?...

A.   16 June 2012: It would be difficult for a smoker to have children..provided he is your boyfriend should go for an impotency test first...and if the test result is negative you would be at a risk of don't risk your future for a jerk's ... (read in full...)

My bf cheated on me, please help, I feel sick, nauseous and ill!

Q.   Dear all, I guess I just want to share this with you and get your views. I checked my BF's of over a year and a halfs emails a couple of nights ago and he had emailed a girl saying hi babes, and then went on to say that she must remember him as he ...

A.   15 June 2012: Dear, you need not feel need to feel blessed...let your boyfriend's memories rest in hell...keeping them with you would do your soul no good... What do you think,he apologises to forgive him and you two live happily ever afte... (read in full...)

How do I become more approachable?

Q.   Hey everyone, I am 23 years old,this may sound wierd to many of u but I still have never had a real boyfriend.. I have kissed two men but it was nothing,my first kiss was when I was 17 he was a celebrity and I used to watch his shows so we got ...

A.   15 June 2012: How often do you smile...if it's rare then try to fix a smile on your costs nothing...remove the frown from your face..if you have got one...and if people still find hard to approach you...don't worry you'll get the person who would have ... (read in full...)

I think of him and want to talk to him, but don't want to ruin our friendship

Q.   I've been best friends with this boy for 8 years and last year he told me he liked me, we spoke about it and i said i wouldnt go out with him because i see him as a friend only now i've started to think about him a lot more than i should, and like ...

A.   15 June 2012: If you really consider him a friend let it be so..afterall all good relationship begins with a friendship...don't boggle yourself with so many things..go with the flow and everything will fall in love is to happen between you two it will ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend snaps at me for stuff other people do?

Q.   well ive been dating my boyfriend for about 4months now and he snaps at me alot. like one time i was messing with him and he snapped at me than apologized. he said sorry but his friend was getting on his nerves. i forgave him but he did it again. it ...

A.   14 June 2012: Keep your eyes & ears open and act in a pro-active manner with your bfriend...there are chances you might be ditched..confront him if he carries on with his behaviour and don't leave an oppurtunity to give him a piece of your mind..all the best... (read in full...)

What makes girls like bastards?

Q.   im a smart and honest guy about to be a sophmore:) But it seems like girls go after the asshole dumbass guys? im an average looking guy i wear collared shirts everyday because i like to have class. what makes girls like bastards?...

A.   14 June 2012: Why on earth do you need to worry why girls are with guys with whom they are...better focus on yourself..everyone has the right to choose their partner..if one is happy with a bastard that's does not call for a will definitely ... (read in full...)

Is there any way I can change the way she feels about me?

Q.   Me and this girl started dating about September and we had real good compatibility. I loved her and she loved me but recently she broke up with me said to me that she doesn't feel the same way about me that she used to. One reasons she said why she ...

A.   14 June 2012: Can't help to say,"Men Will be Men".. and my friend you are not the first one who have faced this situation. It's never too late to apologize to your partner for your mistake and when you do apologize make sure you mean it and try not to repeat the ... (read in full...)

I'm over my ex but he now wants to "catch up". Should I?

Q.   dear cupid and readers , my ex boyfriend messaged me that he missed me and how we should catch up. Should i.?? Our Realationship didnt work out he had jeleousy issues. So ive managed to push him away for a whole year, and being single at first ...

A.   13 June 2012: IT's something that only you can answer because you are the one who'll be living with or without him..i would suggest if you still care for him give it a try afterall you can forgive one mistake in a relationship...all the best hope everything works ... (read in full...)

Is he ashamed to be seen with or he doesn't love me?

Q.   Iv been dating a guy for about three months now, everything is going on well but the problem is he does things with me secretly, it baffles but iv notice he does things with other girls publicly. Is he ashamed to be seen with or he doesn't love me? ...

A.   13 June 2012: You should better talk straight to him..don't worry if it makes you a nagging's better to confront him and and ask him why needs to do things with other girls when he is in a relationship with would end up in a sorry state if ... (read in full...)

I am told I am pretty,charming,got a goreous smile yet can't seem to find love or friendship,what's wrong with me ?

Q.   I am told I am pretty,charming,got a goreous smile yet can't seem to find love or friendship,what's wrong with me ? Why am I so unwanted ? It hurts.Can any one help me ? Thanks !...

A.   13 June 2012: Which book taught you that in order to fall in love you got to be pretty and charming or have a gorgeous dear these are all relative term,superficial if i can call so..these things don't gurantee true love..just hold on time will gift you ... (read in full...)

A guy told me the other day . If I really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??

Q.   A guy told me the other day . If i really love him, I must reduce my weight ? Why would someone say like that ??...

A.   13 June 2012:  If you want to love somebody than love yourself are you comfortable with the way you are?? if it's yes ignore what the world says and if its no then do something about if you feel you are comfortable with your weight and that your ... (read in full...)

How do I get him to touch me without being rude about it?

Q.   I've started seeing this guy and so far he's really nice and things are great. But there is one problem...he is very shy when it comes to physical contact. When we're making out I like it when guys touch my body all over and he doesnt really do ...

A.   12 June 2012: Talk to him about it...share your part of the story with him and mutually try to draw a solution to it.... (read in full...)

What does it mean if a guy places his hand on your waist?

Q.   What does it mean if a guy places his hand on your waist? I was talking and joking with a friend and this guy(i kinda like him) from my class who was standing next to me laughed too and placed his hand on my waist(or lower back). Also, what doe...

A.   12 June 2012: He intends to show you his presence and hopes you acknowledge it...if he is already your friend then rest assured that he intends to take the friendship to the next level..all the best... (read in full...)

Why is sex such a problem for me?

Q.   I tried having sex for the first time two years ago, however the guy couldn't seem to fit it in and gave up. A year later I tried again with someone else and the same thing happened, we had done a lot of foreplay first and when then when it came to ...

A.   11 June 2012: it's nothing wrong..just that you are trying too hard..enjoying your life is like holding a fistful of sand..the tighter your grip the harder it is to keep the sand in your don't need to worry if your partner really loves you..there is ... (read in full...)

How do I know if he cares and wants to be more than friends with benefit?

Q.   How do i know if he wants to be more than friends with benifits ? how can i Find out if he cares? How do i realize if im just another girl to him?...

A.   11 June 2012: Go for a long vacation...and see how how things are when you'l get your answer... (read in full...)

I'm pregnant and don't even know the guy's last name!

Q.   im gonna make it short. im 16 and about 2 months ago i went to a rave and got with this way older guy that poped my cherry and said hes got "it" under control and obvi. didnt it was the worst thing in my life he wasnt gental at all and i just found ...

A.   11 June 2012: Find out if any friend could help you 'coz i get i feel life would get very cruel on you if you are all by yourself...if abortion could be done by keeping it a secret affair go ahead..but i feel it's better you talk to your dad...he would be ... (read in full...)

I've never had an orgasm with my boyfriend and I cant keep faking it forever!

Q.   Hey there ladies and gents. I am completely in love with my boyfriend. I'm 18, he's now 20. We've been dating for almost 2 years now. Physically he is very handsome, tall, and somewhat fit. Emotionally he is super sweet, a little sarcastic, loving, ...

A.   11 June 2012: You have diagonised the problem at an early stage so sit down with your partner and talk to him about the's mutual understanding that would help you create a s frank and honest when you talk with your partner ..tell him your ... (read in full...)

21 and want pay a prostitute to take my virginity. Is this illegal?

Q.   I'm 21 and I want to lose my virginity soon, I don't want to drift into my mid-late 20's early 30's and still be a virgin. I am aware of the protection needed and please don't try and sell me any of the disneyland wait for the right girl and l...

A.   11 June 2012: Wow ..go ahead and enjoy...but my friend fruits of patience is always sweet..but when you preserve certain things giving it away to son=me one special makes might sound disneyland story to you at the moment...but with time you'll ... (read in full...)

Crush on next door neighbor

Q.   Hi guys. Heres my story. I moved here around 2 years ago. Met my neighbor she is thesame age as me. Shes really cute. We talk when we see each other. During this summer, when we see each other outside we talk for an hour or sometimes more. Were not ...

A.   11 June 2012: i feel you don't mind holding your to her as regularly as possible..pick up a common topic or anything she is good at(any sports or subject of study) and pretend as if you want to learn from her..strengthen your bonding with her and ... (read in full...)

She said that she can never love me but kissed me!

Q.   She is not in contact with her bf anymore now.. We have kissed when she considers me as her friend..! She said that she can never love me..! And thats because of her x-bf, should wait..? Is there any chance that she will love me as her life ...

A.   11 June 2012: Well,love happens in a moment and you must have the patience to wait for the moment to say she broke up a week ago...give her some time and may be your shoulders for her to cry...she is not a toy...give her time to absorb the shock..and ... (read in full...)

I'm truly smitten but he wants to keep it a casual relationship. What do I do?

Q.   Hi, I'm 41 and just came out of a 20+ year marriage. Met a guy online, met in real life, 'clicked' physically and (for me at least) emotionally. But he hasn't. THe sex is incredible - first person I have orgasmed with ever - and I am utterly smit...

A.   10 June 2012: sound very satisfied with your life then why are you letting petty confusions to creep in?? straight to him and before doing that know what you want for yourself..its your life and you live with the choices you make up your ... (read in full...)

My marriage is on the rocks. Why didn't my Bf say we are seeing each other or dating?

Q.   Dear cupid i am separated from my husband ( he is ^^^^ and i hate him). I am seeing one of my office colleague, we were friends and then got attached. Me getting separated from my husband have nothing to do with my bf. my husband is impote...

A.   10 June 2012: Every people deal with a certain situation in their own way..Your bf is right in his own way by not allowing the rumour mill to go on and at the same time you are right in doubting. I'll suggest don't worry ovr silly issues and break your ... (read in full...)

After being raped, are women ever able to enjoy sex?

Q.   Nearly three years ago I was raped, so I have never had sex other than that one time. I have started a relationship with someone and I like him and he respects me, but I don't want to have sex. Do other women actually want sex after rape or do ...

A.   23 February 2012: Well done that you have been able to stand up are an encouragement...i believe love and time can heal all wounds...don't worry you are strong enough to fight all adversities of life...things can only get better for you..god bless ... (read in full...)

We are so different but I have a huge crush on him! How do I get the courage to talk to him?

Q.   hey everyone I really need help,there is this guy in my school, he's soooo cute and adorable, i dont really know him that much i just see him around the hallway and in gym class but not in the same class. he's white and i'm black (weird right), ...

A.   23 February 2012: Wow..that's a wonderful love story...hope it ends on a happy note... Well coming to the dear don't just dream..think what you can do to grab his attention...then execute what you thought and then see how things work may pick up a... (read in full...)

I know he is chatting to other girls but he denies it, is he cheating on me?

Q.   i love my boyfriend so much and we are mostly in on off relationship for 6months now..but for the past 2 months now we are in serious relationship than other 4months which when off on... but main problem is that i doubt him most of the time that he ...

A.   23 February 2012: There are possibilities that he might be cheating on you and he creates this good boy image of himself whenever he is with to him about this with a straight face and if you find him unconvincing just let him go...accept the fact that he ... (read in full...)

My college lover: Should I continue with him or cut all ties?

Q.   i am in college; A guy and I has been on and off friends for about 2 years, during that time we have had intercourse and also tried become more than friend. During one of our periods of being apart he got into a relationship, but his girlfriend ...

A.   18 February 2012: There cannot be any answer to your question unless you disclose the amount of respect you have for yourself... Don't make yourself a punching bag..have some dignity for yourself and show some respect to yourself...The choice is all yours but take... (read in full...)

He thinks that I should ask his permission before I go out with my friends!

Q.   me and bf have been together for nearly six years both in twenties. we have been arguing really bad so i went up his house to try and sort it out but we couldn't resolve anything. i ended up going down my girlfriends house and going out ...

A.   18 February 2012: Throw him out of your life and enjoy your life dear you can either be with him or you can be happy.. the choice after all is all yours'...its your life and you decide whether you want to stay happy or stressed out because your bf is the ... (read in full...)

She hasn't been as friendly since our walk, is she playing mind games or am I making myself cheap?

Q.   I have this female friend whom i really like and plan on getting into a relationship with. i went on a walk with her on sunday which was really worth it. after then i called, texted and even saw her, i noticed she hasn't been so friendly, jovial ...

A.   18 February 2012: Well you have come up with the right set of questions and either of them is definitely applicable... She might be playing mind games...may be she wants to see your reaction when she doesn't show compassion towards you..if it is should k... (read in full...)

It's really disappointing that my boyfriend isn't coming to see me perform anymore!

Q.   i am a musician and i perform on weekends. my boyfriend used to always come watch me perform and it really was the sweetest thing. i felt really good knowing he was there supporting me but the last few weeks, he has chosen not to go to my ...

A.   18 February 2012: You should talk the matter out with him.It makes no point drawing conclusions all by is he who can only answer the reason why he is acting the way he is.Don't draw any conclusions it will only create a greater distance between both of ... (read in full...)

How can I encourage him? My boyfriend is not affectionate

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost two months. We have only held hands once. I just find it wierd that he does not want to hold my hand, hug, or kiss me. I try to hint to him that I want him to hold my hand, but I don't think he gets...

A.   11 February 2012: Love means different things to different people and your partner may not be your dream man but what is important is if you both are in love with each other from the core of your heart and if it is so you need not be much bothered,may be you can talk ... (read in full...)

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