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How can I talk some sense into my friend? She is having sex but not using protection!

Q.   Right well this question concerns my friend, not myself (And I'm not just saying that.) My friend is the same age of me (15) and has recently started having sex with her boyfriend (Whose the same age) but she says she's too embarresed to buy cond...

A.   7 June 2010: Get someone who has had a kid to explain what they do when you are pregnant. What it feels like to have some strange bearded doctor with his face in your vagina doing smears and all the other check ups. You poo yourself during childbirth. In front ... (read in full...)

She was too immature to be in a relationship after 9 months but had the biggest crush on me for 2 years!

Q.   Hey there everyone, I have been going out with a girl for 9 months and we just recently broke up. She was saying that she is too immature to be in a relationship. She just wasnt ready for any commitment. I wasnt asking much of her. She wanted to ...

A.   7 June 2010: You've decided that it's all her fault and you are obviously very angry about it. I'm not going to get you to think any other way so there is no point me trying. When you have calmed down and figured out what you actually want advice on then com... (read in full...)

Is it ok to fool around with a guy when you are not using any contraception?

Q.   Is i ok to fool around with a guy when you are currently not an form of contraception. I know sex is a definite no no....

A.   31 May 2010: It's risky. The number 1 rule is that if you are both naked, you put a condom on him. Have a read from all the panicking girls on here that got sperm somewhere near them after messing about but not having sex. Since you are in the UK you ca... (read in full...)

Would getting a guy a teddy bear for his birthday be stupid?

Q.   He always tells me he's lonely and so I always tell him teddy bears help. So finally his 16 bday is coming up (we're just friends) and I was just wondering if getting him a teddy bear would be too embarrassing for him? He's a nice guy, I think he ...

A.   31 May 2010: He's hoping that you will say "Well if you are lonely, why don't I be your girlfriend????" A teddy bear will just give him hope that he has a chance. Next time he starts moaning about being lonely tell him to man up and ask out a girl he likes,... (read in full...)

Why did I cheat on my boyfriend when everything is so perfect? What is wrong with me?

Q.   First of all let me start by saying that I already am aware of what I have done, I am not looking for comfort or criticism - what I have come here for is help or insight into my behaviour. I cheated on my boyfriend, I met someone through work las...

A.   31 May 2010: I think you know why this happened. Your "diet" from your boyfriend has been reduced to boring pasta dishes day after day. This guy offered you chocolate gateaux and you slipped up and took a great big mouthful. Your mistake was letting him take... (read in full...)

Success stories after hearing the "I'm not thinking about marriage yet"line?

Q.   "OPs Own title" Hello, Has anyone had their boyfriend say that he's not ready to marry yet and that he's not thinking about it yet, and successfully got married to the same boyfriend 2-3 years down the line? Me and my boyfriend have know each ...

A.   31 May 2010: If it helps, I have been in relationships where they've been after some one to marry and I wasn't looking for that level of commitment? I was young and not looking for marriage. He was a bit older and not wanting to mess about. We had a great fe... (read in full...)

She was too immature to be in a relationship after 9 months but had the biggest crush on me for 2 years!

Q.   Hey there everyone, I have been going out with a girl for 9 months and we just recently broke up. She was saying that she is too immature to be in a relationship. She just wasnt ready for any commitment. I wasnt asking much of her. She wanted to ...

A.   31 May 2010: Wow you are really controlling. Just because she had a crush on you for a while before she met you, she is supposed to fall at your feet and worship you all the time? You got in a massive mood with her for no reason, and then everything has t... (read in full...)

Am I too obsessive? I need something else in my life!

Q.   Okay so my boyfriend and I feel really strong about each other, but the thing is I feel more strong then him.. He says he always loves me more, and I feel that's a lie. I know I love him more but I feel a little obsessive. If he doesn't call me back ...

A.   31 May 2010: You are going to lose him if you carry on like this. So go out with your friends and find something to do with your life so you aren't sat staring at your phone until he replies. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)

He says he never loved me and just wanted to have sex!

Q.   Help! I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago and I feel like im missing something. Its really strange because it always happens whenever i break-up with a boyfriend. also he keeps on texting me sayin that he never loved me and he just wa...

A.   31 May 2010: You dumped him. That hurt him. So he's trying to hurt you back. He'll get over it and then probably say sorry at some point. Tell him to stop texting you or you will show your parents who will tell his parents. Yes that will make you look a bit ch... (read in full...)

Help! Am I just too sensitive?

Q.   Hi I don't stay with my lover at the moment, we chat but she is always busy on google and other sites when i want to chat she's always too busy doing other things, does that mean she does not love me? It feels that I am not important to her but ...

A.   30 May 2010: You can't expect her to sit staring at your chat screen and nothing else night after night.... If you want some proper time then call her or visit her. Internet chatting is really not good for anything except basic chatting. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)

Does a married man flrting mean he wants a fling?

Q.   I know I'm going to get in trouble for writing this, but do married men that flirt want to have a fling with you? A married man has been flirting with me for a few months, and I wondered if he ever thought about taking it to the next level. I'm not ...

A.   30 May 2010: Flirting keeps a marriage alive. He flirts with you, feels good about himself and then goes home and flirts with his wife and forgets all about you because he's with the woman he loves. Flirting is great for a marriage. I'm married and I kn... (read in full...)

He cheated with her! Should I expect him to completely cut her out?

Q.   I was cheated on last summer (so, about a year ago). Surprise surprise, right? Basically this girl is a complete slut, she had a boyfriend at the time she did this AND she knew about me too! They got close over a summer class, flirted w/ each ...

A.   30 May 2010: You say this: Can we sit down and talk about something? It's really been upsetting me that you are in contact with the girl you cheated on me with. I have forgiven you but it brings up all the hurt that you said you would cut contact and now ... (read in full...)

Will I be able to find a woman if I follow my dream career?

Q.   Do people still meet potential partners after university? I'm 22 and the annoying thing is that I am confident now to talk to female strangers, particularly ones that I find attractive and used to find intimidating as most are the same in that the...

A.   29 May 2010: No. The rule is, that if you are not engaged by the time you graduate then you must never ever speak to the opposite sex again. Did you not get the email? Haven't you noticed all the other guys down on one knee all over the place around exa... (read in full...)

Boyfriend doesn't trust me because of facebook.

Q.   Hello, my bf and I are having problems mostly because I don't give into everything he wants. I'm tired of the accusations, and the distrust he has for me. I can't keep defending myself to him. I'm loyal, I love him, but I'm worn out literally. I've ...

A.   29 May 2010: You've given him chances and he has thrown them back in your face. No one can live like this. You can't stay with him because he sometimes is nice to you... if you are with some one that should be the minimum standard ALL THE TIME. Move on... (read in full...)

He cheated with her! Should I expect him to completely cut her out?

Q.   I was cheated on last summer (so, about a year ago). Surprise surprise, right? Basically this girl is a complete slut, she had a boyfriend at the time she did this AND she knew about me too! They got close over a summer class, flirted w/ each ...

A.   28 May 2010: Damn right he should cut contact. Tell her you forgave him for cheating because he said he wanted you and not her. So tell him if he doesn't cut her out, then it's over. Once someone physically cheats on you, they are on borrowed time. Yo... (read in full...)

Dating for 3 months, are we taking things too fast?

Q.   hi all. so my bf and i have been dating for 3months and we both 17. we extremely close and hes said he would marry tomorrow if he could and that i am THE one. i feel the same way about him. ok, so heres the story.. he loves my tummy.. we have made ...

A.   27 May 2010: As long as you are confortable then that's fine. You need to respect each other and decide what you are going to do APART from sex before marriage. Marriage is years away and you are going to want to get hot and steamy with him long before then. ... (read in full...)

My girlfriend only calls when she wants something! What should I do?

Q.   dear sirs, my girlfriend only calls me when she wants something ! wht shall i do?...

A.   27 May 2010: Point it out to her in a calm way, explain it's bothering you, allow her the chance to apologise and make it up to you. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)


Q.   "OPs own title" since I was a kid I could see dead ghost or spirits and I could see the future at random as long as I can remember I m now 15 and I have seen thousands of docters and they all say nothing is wrong with me but why do I still see these ...

A.   25 May 2010: You're on a romance forum. I think you need to be on a psychic forum. Have you really seen THOUSANDS of doctors? Were all of them real? Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)

Come on people, am I in denial? Is this an obvious one or what?

Q.   I’m dating a guy who’s most cherished memories are when he was in a band as a singer and both men and women adored him. 1.He’s extremely meticulous about everything he does from dressing to cooking to barbering. He unconscienably spends hours in ...

A.   23 May 2010: To be honest, what's going on in his head is not any of your business. Your relationship isn't good so leave him and let him find his way in life. Not everything is as simple as it seems. But the FACTS are: He's not good in bed, he's no... (read in full...)

I am at secondary school and I fancy 6-7 people!

Q.   I am at secondary school and I fancy 6-7 people!!! What should I do?...

A.   23 May 2010: Go home, have a cold shower. You are a teenage boy and it's sunny so all the girls will be wearing shorts and skirts and glowing. You are basically overdosing on hormones to calm down, have a bit of a drink, and just sit back and enjoy the fa... (read in full...)

How do I express my feelings for him?

Q.   ive fallen for this boy, and ive fancied him for about 6 months, i havent told anybody about this and definatly isnt prepared to tell him, what do i do? please help me, sometimes i get really upset about it and i dunno what to do!...

A.   23 May 2010: Have you tried smiling at him, saying hello, getting to know him, flirting a bit? Most boys your age are idiots and if you hide your feelings completely then he'll never notice you. Try smiling and saying hello next time you pass him and he'... (read in full...)

Sometimes I feel if we just yelled at each other it would clear things up quicker!

Q.   I have been reading a million articles about communication. Not just romantic communication. I feel like this has affected my new realationship negatively. I have been practicing the non-blaming, understanding the other person's point of view, ...

A.   23 May 2010: I think you need to tell him that he needs to work on his communication. He's being what is known in popular psychology as "a complete dick." So tell him that you won't be talked to like that or he will lose you all together. I'm all for ... (read in full...)

He won't talk to me because his new g/f tells him not to

Q.   if you have lost some one you loved and they have now got a girlfriend and they dont wont nothing to do with you because there girlfriend has told him he carnt have nothing to do with you how do you win him back and tell him how much he really meens ...

A.   23 May 2010: Well it depends on how and why you broke up. Figure out what went wrong in your relationship, then sort yourself out and then when he's next single, you can talk to him and remind him why he liked you in the first place. Dashing up, o... (read in full...)

College student in need of a lot of help.

Q.   Hello. I am glad that I have found this website again. Two years ago, I had stumbled upon it and asked a question, but I lost the address. I am in serious need of some help. I am 20 years old, just finished my second year of college, and I h...

A.   23 May 2010: So basically you want a girlfriend.... and rather than chatting to a girl and asking her out, you've been going to therapy and taking god knows what kind of brain killing drugs?????? All you need to do is take a deep breath and smile at a girl ... (read in full...)

How do I keep my mom from finding out I'm having a house party while she's gone?

Q.   hey :) well my mum is going away this weekend and i have sort of organised a house party :D but i think i will get cought my neighbors are really strict and horrible and might end up telling my mum :S So i was wondering if you have any suggesti...

A.   23 May 2010: So your mum is finally starting to trust you and be less strict, so you want to know how to show her in spectacular style that you are NOT to be trusted and she still has to treat you like a 12 year old? This weekend away for her is a TEST to ... (read in full...)

Does this shy girl like me?

Q.   These are some of the signs that she gives me (although she hasn't been giving me them as much lately): 1. Sometimes she looks at me when she thinks I'm not looking at her. Once in a while she giggles while doing this. 2. When we do look at eac...

A.   23 May 2010: Ask her out and find out? Why are you so scared? Man up. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)

My boyfriend's practically dating this girl

Q.   I'm naturally a brunette but I keep dying my hair and eyebrows red for my boyfriend of over two years. He's pretty much obsessed with red heads and it never bothered me until now. The last five months, he's been hanging out with a natural red-head...

A.   23 May 2010: I think because this is your first love you are letting him get away with murder. If any other boyfriend told you he wanted to sleep with someone else and was treating you with such INCREDIBLE disrespect then you would have kicked him out of the d... (read in full...)

What is my ex boyfriend trying to accomplish through his actions?

Q.   To make a long and terrible story short, my ex broke up with me 7 months ago via text message and it was horrible. I was absolutely heartbroken but as a result, I have been avoiding him like the plague. I just recently returned to my hometown where ...

A.   23 May 2010: I think you may be over anylising here a little bit. He talked to some people you both knew once you moved away from them. What you rather he did? Wander over while you were there? Or not speak to them all night. Also, the fact your friends are... (read in full...)

My husband's family are putting me in a cage!

Q.   My husband is in afganistan doing a dangerous job ! and ever since he has gone he and his family have put me on lock down, I cant go out for a drink with my neighbor, im not alowed to go and see my old best mate because shes a bad influenc...

A.   20 May 2010: Next time you speak to your hubbie, just tell him that you love him so much but can't deal with his family so will be cutting contact with them for a while. My hubbie went to Iraq 3 times and then only reason I have my sanity is because I went and... (read in full...)

Why do a lot of older people think that teenagers don't know what true love is?

Q.   Hey i was wondering why do not all, but alot of older people think that teenagers dont know what true love is? and that it wont work out in the end? Because my boyfriend asked me to marry him, I said yes. I am 17 and my boyfriend is about 7 months ...

A.   20 May 2010: I had all that planned out with my very serious boyfriend at 17 too. At 26, I am married... but not to him. No one is saying that it won't work out with you 2. But 99.999999999 of us felt exactly the same way you do now about someone at 17...... (read in full...)

How do I turn him on without being too up front?

Q.   My boyfriend works really hard and it makes him tired so his sex drive is lower than mine. We have sex once or twice a week, and normally it just happens. It's really easy to get me in the mood but not quite so much with him. Sometimes I'm horny ...

A.   16 May 2010: He probably made out with you because he enjoyed making out with you. Men love all that closeness and cuddling as much as we do. See how it goes and if not you can always take care of yourself when he's at work. Good Luck!! xx... (read in full...)

How do I turn him on without being too up front?

Q.   My boyfriend works really hard and it makes him tired so his sex drive is lower than mine. We have sex once or twice a week, and normally it just happens. It's really easy to get me in the mood but not quite so much with him. Sometimes I'm horny ...

A.   16 May 2010: Just kissing is a good start because it doesn't have to lead to sex, it can just end there if he wants it to. Start there, and also see if you can get him to cut down his hours or be more efficient at work. His tiredness is 90% the problem. ... (read in full...)

I want to be with her and the baby

Q.   My ex and I found out that we were pregnant a month ago, things have been pretty rough lately, maybe due to me, and last weekend she split up with me, now she had decided on abortion, but today she called me saying that she is now keeping the baby ...

A.   15 May 2010: You can't just beg her to be your girlfriend. That is not going to attract her is it? You know what she likes, and you know what you did to make her fall for you the first time. You also probably know what you did wrong to make her fall out of ... (read in full...)

Am I being unreasonable to expect these things?

Q.   I'm a newlywed only married about a year. My husband never learned how to drive and I really would like him to. He just won't do it and won't even try. I am getting really tired of hauling him around places. He takes public transport but compl...

A.   15 May 2010: What you need to do is start start standing up for yourself. You've lain down and written welcome across your head and now are unhappy he's using you as a door mat. There is a word called "NO." Use it. "I'm having a sleep in tomorrow." "Wh... (read in full...)

My boyfriend has a fat fetish... and I'm not fat!

Q.   My boyfriend has a fat fetish?! what do i do...?? i only found out by reading his emails and saw loads of BBW adult sites he had signed up to. i am totally normal sized (even slim) and he has never suggested that i gain weight or anything like ...

A.   15 May 2010: Him having a thing about fat women is not really a problem. Men often look at porn of a completely different nature to their real life girlfriend.... Having a wank is not nice, and to do it over a picture of a girl and then forget about her 2 mins ... (read in full...)

I feel all I was to him was an emotional crutch!

Q.   i have a male friend who i am very close to and like a lot but hes unaware of my feelings. he had a near breakdown last year and i did everything i could to help him-i was there for him day and night-got him loads of presents to cheer him up etc. ...

A.   12 May 2010: Oh hun, you've lain down and written WELCOME over yourself and now you are unhappy he's using you as a doormat. You need to take a step back and regain some self respect. Take some time and space for yourself and ask what this relationship rea... (read in full...)

I really want my homophobic father to meet my girlfriend!

Q.   Hello everybody. For about a year now I've been positive I'm bisexual. I live with my father who is highly religious and for this reason he condemns homosexuality. My problem is that up until now, I've had no reason to do the whole "coming out" ...

A.   12 May 2010: I would play on the safe side... You've lost your mum, do you want to risk losing your dad too? Your girlfriend may be a lot more understanding than you think. Try talking to your dad about why he is homophobic and seeing if you can check hi... (read in full...)

Does she want me to break up with her, but can't tell me? Should I stay?

Q.   i have been with my girlfreind 6.5 years, we were planning to live together, now out of the blue she says she is just not happy, talked about feelings but she is reluctant to be openand just says she dont know whether we should split, this has ...

A.   12 May 2010: You have a choice here and it's impossible for us to pick for you without knowing her. 1. Give her time and a bit of space. Buy her flowers and be wonderful without smothering her or pressuring her.... then cross your fingers. OR 2. Forc... (read in full...)

Do you think he should break up with me?

Q.   Ok, first of all, I don't want any silly comments like: "you're an idiot, he should dump you, dumb b*tch." I already know. Anyways, so I went to Mexico without my boyfriend (we have been dating for a year and a half) and one night I got really ...

A.   12 May 2010: You went on an adventure and met some new friends. There is NO reason at all he should dump you. On a personal safety note, getting drunk and going places with men is HIGHLY dangerous. ESPECIALLY in a foreign country. You were stupid, but ... (read in full...)

We have planned that we will start having sex this weekend, and I have some contraception questions!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend want to start having sex, and we have kind of planned that it will be this weekend. Im not sure which contraception to use and where i can get it from and how i use it and all that. I know that he already has condoms and i wasnt ...

A.   12 May 2010: Put "family planning clinic" and the name of your town into google. They have drop in sessions so you don't even need an appointment. The nurses down there will explain everything and give you condoms and show you how to put them on if you l... (read in full...)

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