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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.
Q. Okay, this is really hard for me to ask, and I really need some outside advice and opinions. My boyfriend and I are pretty much the ideal couple. I'm not just saying that, we really are. We would never lie to each other, we are best friends, we...
A. 4 December 2008: Here's the number to call, you can just call and ask your question of a trained counselor there and see what she or he thinks. 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.
Q. Okay, this is really hard for me to ask, and I really need some outside advice and opinions. My boyfriend and I are pretty much the ideal couple. I'm not just saying that, we really are. We would never lie to each other, we are best friends, we...
A. 4 December 2008: Here's one for starters:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/relationships/safe-your-relationship-19917.htm
For the benefit of our readers, I'll put the pertinent paragraphs below:
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PHYSICAL SAFETY
In healt... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.
Q. Okay, this is really hard for me to ask, and I really need some outside advice and opinions. My boyfriend and I are pretty much the ideal couple. I'm not just saying that, we really are. We would never lie to each other, we are best friends, we...
A. 4 December 2008: Whoops! I accidently pressed the add button. Sorry for that. Cut off mid-sentence.
His upbringing. The fact of the matter is that he can't control himself. He knows it's wrong, he knows you don't like it, so why does he continue to do it? It's not... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have the perfect relationship.. except I'm wondering if he might be abusive.
Q. Okay, this is really hard for me to ask, and I really need some outside advice and opinions. My boyfriend and I are pretty much the ideal couple. I'm not just saying that, we really are. We would never lie to each other, we are best friends, we...
A. 4 December 2008: Tricky one. You do love him but his behavior sometimes makes you uncomfortable and in fact he does seem to be threatening you.
I'm not sure what to advise you, but I think your gut is telling you that something is wrong here, despite the perf... (read in full...)
Even though I'm extra careful having unprotected sex, I still worry something might go wrong.
Q. My girlfriend and I have completely, unprotected sex. We're being really stupid about this (especially me) since I'm already and adult and she's still underage. Condoms are usually a little tight on my penis but, I forgot what the name was, that ...
A. 4 December 2008: I'm happy to see that you can take your lumps with some grace and dignity. And I soooooo wanted to REALLY SHOUT at you!!! Okay, things are moving in the right direction here, I think, good for you.
The fertility thing. Did you happen to watch that... (read in full...)
Is it worth ringing him??
Q. Is it worth ringing him? Any advice would be appreciated! - I'm in love with a guy who definitely is in control of our relationship! - He only rings when he can or it's convenient for him, he only sees me when he is available to do so and he onl...
A. 4 December 2008: Frustrating, isn't it, when he's not cooperating with your wish to make it work. That's the thing here that I think will be difficult for you to get past, you can't make it work without his participation, and there's not much sign of that right now, ... (read in full...)
I have some major issues with our sex life, how to bring these up sensitively to her?
Q. please bear with the length, i think this is a topic that will trigger discussion and one that many experience. I hate to "complain" as I am in a loving, faithful relationship with a stunning, great girl. she wants to marry me, we live together an...
A. 4 December 2008: I found a link for you, I forgot to post it: http://www.mentalhelp.net/
Take care.... (read in full...)
I have some major issues with our sex life, how to bring these up sensitively to her?
Q. please bear with the length, i think this is a topic that will trigger discussion and one that many experience. I hate to "complain" as I am in a loving, faithful relationship with a stunning, great girl. she wants to marry me, we live together an...
A. 4 December 2008: Thanks again for the update. I see you had some more really valuable input from other aunts and I think it's pretty clear that while you thought this question was about not getting oral sex, it's really about helping her recover from some very ... (read in full...)
Taking it slow is nice, but this snails pace is TOO slow!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little while now and i really love him and i know he loves me. He's had sex with two girls before and so is determind to take thing really slowly with me but i dont want him to be taking it this slowly.Ive tried ...
A. 4 December 2008: DOH!
"To those guys, we usually tell them to cool off, and not pressure the girl. So now that the shoe is on the other gender's foot, you need to cool off and NOT pressure the guy."... (read in full...)
Taking it slow is nice, but this snails pace is TOO slow!
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend for a little while now and i really love him and i know he loves me. He's had sex with two girls before and so is determind to take thing really slowly with me but i dont want him to be taking it this slowly.Ive tried ...
A. 4 December 2008: I think that you might be the one who is pushing too hard here. You don't have to show HIM that you're fine with it, it seems to me, because HE'S the one who doesn't seem fine with it. Does that make sense? You're actually going too fast and too far ... (read in full...)
Is it worth ringing him??
Q. Is it worth ringing him? Any advice would be appreciated! - I'm in love with a guy who definitely is in control of our relationship! - He only rings when he can or it's convenient for him, he only sees me when he is available to do so and he onl...
A. 4 December 2008: Definitely lie low for a while! And consider this, he makes himself unavailable and seems not to care about your feelings very much; is it possible that what you're really feeling is the desire for the unattainable? I mean, that what you think is ... (read in full...)
I want to have sex with her just once!
Q. Myself a physiotherapist, married with achild. I got in contact with an unmarried girl 10 years younger to me.She is very innocent and a beautifull girl. I was attracted towards her breasts. She also liked me but not sexually.She said that she wants ...
A. 4 December 2008: What should you do? You should take an ice cold shower first, then take a looooong look at yourself in the mirror. Is this the face of an honorable man? Is he a man to be admired? Is he a man whose wife and family can be proud of?
Now look down betw... (read in full...)
Girls, what if you don't have the perfect body?
Q. "I look nothing like the girls from Sex and the City" "My body isn't even close to the bodies in the magazines" "My boobs are too small" "My boobs are too big" "I have a ghetto booty" "I have no butt" "I have stretch marks" "I have...
A. 4 December 2008: Five stars to you, Ben! Ladies, pay attention here. He's onto something.... (read in full...)
I like him but he says he is "off women", what more can I do?
Q. There is a guy at school that I really like and have for a while now and I feel like its becoming more, but probably just for me. I have gone out with him and few times and we have kissed and stuff but it hasn't gone too far. He always talked about ...
A. 4 December 2008: I think you're right to leave him alone for a while. Let him come to miss you and maybe he'll contact you soon. I think you're quite right to be cautious and that's a sensible way of keeping your heart from being bruised for no good reason. As ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend doesn't prefer clit stimulation and has trouble achieving an orgasm, any ideas?
Q. Hi all, My girlfriend has trouble achieving an orgasm. She is 24 and has never had one so far although she has had quite a few partners.. I've also had a number of partners and after learning what they like have been able to make them orga...
A. 4 December 2008: You sound like a very considerate lover, so I expect you've already tried this. Don't touch her clit quite so directly, use more of a flat hand with how do I say this, spread out pressure. I guess it's like PSI? Pounds per square inch? A stilleto ... (read in full...)
My best friend has been making sexual comments to my girlfriend!
Q. My best freind has been hiting on my girlfreind an making sexual comments towrds her. she complained to me bout it and i don like it when he does (he does it right in front of me) i told him to knock it off and he got totaly pissed at me, what ...
A. 4 December 2008: Stand your ground. He's being inappropriate and inconsiderate and quite frankly rude. Let him be pissed off at you. He sounds like a jerk to me and who needs friends who see no problem with making moves on their friend's girlfriends? Yuck yuck yuck, ... (read in full...)
I don't want him back, I just want to let it go! Words of wisdom, please!
Q. Ok, its been 4 years but I am still having trouble getting over my marriage breaking up. I had no idea the affair was happening, thought we were good together. I think what bothers me most is that when I found out about the affair (unfortunately ...
A. 4 December 2008: Hi, what an awful story you have. That he up and leaves, saying that he's not been happy for 10 years, and also that he's not going to try to work on the marriage? What a jerk. Sorry, I know you said you're not blameless in this either, but damn, ... (read in full...)
He wants to come home but I'm scared to give it a try! Help!
Q. I need advice please. I have been married 4 years november have been seperated since july 25 secondary to finding out my husband has been cheating.We have a daughter who is 3 and i have a son who is 13.Are relationship has pretty much sucked the ...
A. 4 December 2008: Why did he say he wants to come home? Does he want to work things out or does he need another place to stay? I think his motivation for wanting to come back is very important to understand. I don't blame you for being careful with this and cautious. ... (read in full...)
Question about cheating...
Q. This question may sound really silly to some but something I would like everyone's opinion on. Do you think that if a man cheated on his girlfriend for the entire length of their relationship of nearly three years, broke up and then strung her along ...
A. 4 December 2008: I think that in his warped way, he must have cared for you, or he wouldn't have stuck around for so long. But keep in mind it's a WARPED way, not the normal decent guy kind of love. He's not worthy of you. And you certainly should not be spending ... (read in full...)
Even though I'm extra careful having unprotected sex, I still worry something might go wrong.
Q. My girlfriend and I have completely, unprotected sex. We're being really stupid about this (especially me) since I'm already and adult and she's still underage. Condoms are usually a little tight on my penis but, I forgot what the name was, that ...
A. 3 December 2008: There's a female condom that she can insert and that will help.
You're really asking for it, aren't you? Underage with no birth control? Yikes, are you sure you're really 22-25?
Okay, go to plannedparenthood.org for extremely detailed and reliable... (read in full...)
I have some major issues with our sex life, how to bring these up sensitively to her?
Q. please bear with the length, i think this is a topic that will trigger discussion and one that many experience. I hate to "complain" as I am in a loving, faithful relationship with a stunning, great girl. she wants to marry me, we live together an...
A. 3 December 2008: When you have this talk, ask her why she said she wants to wait until marriage to have sex. What is it that would change for her?
And my dear, she has some serious unresolved issues, based on what you've told us about her. Did she ever get ther... (read in full...)
How can I fix this drunken mistake?
Q. this weekend i was at a friends party and got super drunk... and woke up next to my best friend. we were both naked and not sure how far we have gone we found a condom but it was used but had no cum inside does this mean we havent done it..? shes ...
A. 3 December 2008: Whether or not anything happened, and I tend to agree with Uncle Phil in that if you were too drunk to remember anything then you were too drunk to get an erection, the thing to keep in mind is that she no longer feels she can trust you.
I know you'... (read in full...)
Am I getting my hopes up for no reason?
Q. Broke up just over 3 weeks ago now. absoloutely miss my ex so much after we spent 3 years together. a friend of mine who she is also friends with rang her a few days ago and told her about how he'd dumped someone and regretted it forever. now she ...
A. 3 December 2008: Who broke up with whom and why?
I think you can be cautiously optimistic. But with no expectations that anything will happen. Why don't you just talk with her, or has it ended badly?... (read in full...)
I think have thrush - what do I do?
Q. Hi, this is quite embarrassing but I don't know what to do. I think I have thrush, and I think I have had it for almost a year withoout realising! I want to tell my mum, but I'm really scared. I have told two of my friends, but they don't know what ...
A. 3 December 2008: I think you're really not unusual in being embarassed to talk to your mum about your worry with thrush. I think too that it is important that you do tell her that you're having a problem and think that you should see the doctor really soon.
"... (read in full...)
I have some major issues with our sex life, how to bring these up sensitively to her?
Q. please bear with the length, i think this is a topic that will trigger discussion and one that many experience. I hate to "complain" as I am in a loving, faithful relationship with a stunning, great girl. she wants to marry me, we live together an...
A. 3 December 2008: Hi back, that was a great follow up, thanks. Okay. Let's run through this...
Most intense orgasm. Was it by chance in doggy style? That can really push some buttons. As for the crying, yes, that can happen and it's nothing to worry about, in fact... (read in full...)
Is two months a short time to fall in love?
Q. does he love me? l have been dating this guy for 2 months,he doesn't call sometimes-its been two days now we recently got back together after l had ended things because he had come 3 hours late for an appointment.l said some horrible things ...
A. 3 December 2008: Hi, I think you need to give it some time. I wouldn't push him right now to declare his feelings, you might push him away. If you've really hurt him, you need to give him time to get over it. It's only two months, and my answer is that yes, it's too ... (read in full...)
Husband vs the other guy...
Q. Hey everyone, I need some help! I have been with my husband for 9 1/2 years, married 4 1/2. We have a 3 year old son together. Things had been fine up until about the summer when I decided that I was bored, and told my husband that I wanted to...
A. 3 December 2008: I'm sorry, but you have to be very honest with yourself. You moved out because you were bored? But you love your husband? Why did you move out, really? Boredom is not really the answer here, is it? There's something else going on here. You were ... (read in full...)
My married boss suggested no strings sex, should I take his offer?
Q. Hi,for the last one year i have been attracted towards my Boss. I am unmarried 28 Y female and he is 35 Y married male. He is also attracted towards me. He has asked me for sexual relations with him without any emotional involvement.He never forces ...
A. 3 December 2008: This guy has chutzpah. What's chutzpah? My favorite definition is that this is the quality of a man, who, having murdered his parents, asks for the mercy of the court on the grounds that he is an orphan.
He doesn't have a good personality. He migh... (read in full...)
I have some major issues with our sex life, how to bring these up sensitively to her?
Q. please bear with the length, i think this is a topic that will trigger discussion and one that many experience. I hate to "complain" as I am in a loving, faithful relationship with a stunning, great girl. she wants to marry me, we live together an...
A. 3 December 2008: Hey, you're welcome. Look, I had a few more thoughts for you, and please do not take them as a criticism of your lovemaking techniques; I'm not suggesting you're a bad lover, I just want you to really THINK like she might be thinking. Okay?
So, hard... (read in full...)
He's becoming increasingly mean, rude and he intimidates me...
Q. I liked this boy for about 3 years, I didn't tell him because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. This summer we slept together (drunk) it didn't go very well and I wasn't really prepared as in not shaven. So it was never going to be perfect ...
A. 2 December 2008: I'm sorry it's taken me so long to respond to your followup.
Yes, I know you want things to go back, but unfortunately, you can't erase what's happened. So you should think about what keeps you safe and secure and if that means not speaking to him,... (read in full...)
I have some major issues with our sex life, how to bring these up sensitively to her?
Q. please bear with the length, i think this is a topic that will trigger discussion and one that many experience. I hate to "complain" as I am in a loving, faithful relationship with a stunning, great girl. she wants to marry me, we live together an...
A. 2 December 2008: I'm going to suggest that you try to be happy with the frequency of sex you're getting. The thing is that you're trying to improve its quality, for yourself. She may be perfectly happy with what you're giving her and simply cannot see that it should ... (read in full...)
How can I get back on track?
Q. Would be grateful for any advice. Each day I start with all good intention to make an effort with my appearance, wear nice clothes, do exercise, make progress with some of my projects and just feel like I've achieved something. Intead I default to ...
A. 2 December 2008: I understand where you are because I've been there too. Not a nice place to be at all. It's so hard to just 'snap out of it' like you think you should be able too.
My suggestion is that you make an appointment with your doctor and go in for a full... (read in full...)
I eat and then throw up trying to lose weight, please help me!
Q. I hate my body i am 15 stones just 5 10" i eat and eat and eat then throw up i do this at lease 5 times a day i try to loss weight but it never happens i so fat and ugly i don't understand how others think im beautiful. ...
A. 2 December 2008: Gather every single bit of your courage together and tell your parents that you need to see a doctor right away. This is very important; you are doing damage to your body and it needs to stop right now. You only get one body, and imperfect as it may ... (read in full...)
Sick of past pictures with my boyfriend!
Q. I have been in a relationship with "Damian" for 2 years...we are like any other couple who has it's ups and downs....we are engaged to get married next year in the fall. We live in South Florida in the same city he lived for the past 10 years. I ...
A. 26 November 2008: I'm happy to hear it went well and that the pictures are gone; that must be a huge relief to you. I expect he's got some new respect for you with the way you handled it (not that he didn't before, of course). It's taken me many years to figure out ... (read in full...)
We have unprotected sex regularly, how come I don't get pregnant?
Q. Hiya i seriously need help :( well basicaly im a 15 year old girl i lost my virginity at the age of 13,and now im 15 ive bing having sex with my partner on a regulr basis(every weekend) on a saturday but the thing is we hardly use a condom but what ...
A. 26 November 2008: The only person who can answer this question is your doctor. You have a list of possibilities, none of which are particularly good. What is it you want to hear? Good for you for having unprotected sex? Don't worry, you'll get pregnant someday? STIs ... (read in full...)
He says he 'has to think about things" before deciding if I am his girlfriend
Q. So, I've been kind of seeing this guy for about a month now. We hang out a lot, call each other and text. We haven't told anyone about our "seeing eachother" status, except a couple of my friends know. We haven't had "the talk" yet, where we confirm ...
A. 26 November 2008: Some guys want to keep their 'freedom' and just can't get comfortable with that change in status. The really insecure or easily influenced ones can't manage to get into a relationship because they get too much grief from their male friends. Others ... (read in full...)
What's the point of being freinds when I still love him?
Q. He dumps me but says he wants to maintain friends. I told him it would be too hard for me because I wouldn't know what to say to him because I have a lot of anger because of the break-up. As a friend, I tried to just let him know how work was and ...
A. 26 November 2008: I would say that you're not actually friends. He's trying to make himself feel better about the break up by insisting that you are friends. Right now, what you are is one half of a broken up couple. Maybe in time, your feelings will cool toward a ... (read in full...)
Why do SOME people assume things about people, that may not even be true?
Q. I have just learnt that apparently some guys think that all girls are slags, this got me so annoyed, I am so angry that people actually think like that, why do people think like that, it's just gross, disgusting and demoralising/degrading towards ...
A. 26 November 2008: Because some people have trouble getting more than two brains cells to work at the same time. Because some people are ignorant, pathetic and not worthy of spending one more minute wondering why they think the way they do. Once someone has closed his ... (read in full...)
He disappeared on me with no warning or explanation...
Q. Until 2 months ago I was dating a man for 1 1/2 years. Suddenly he disappeared on me without warning. He no longer called, wouldn't answer my calls etc, and I haven't spoken to him since then. I thought we were very close - we talked marriage - ...
A. 26 November 2008: I think I would roll my eyes if anyone asked me about him and say something like, "Dave? I have no earthly idea what happened to him, and frankly, the way he behaved toward me, I have nothing more to say about him. He has lost my respect." Then ... (read in full...)
Can you still have sex and get access to her clitoris if her legs do not part very wide?
Q. Can you still have sex and get access to her clitoris if her legs do not part very wide?...
A. 26 November 2008: Have you tried the spooning position, with you both on your side and your front against her back, and you can reach your hands around her and stimulate her clit that way? Or maybe you can make a kind of X position, so that your hands can reach her ... (read in full...)
How can I keep him interested in engaging in a phone conversation?
Q. I just met a guy that I really, really like, and he likes me a lot too, our chemistry is great when we are together but when we are on the phone we have nothing to say, but we would text each other with no problem. Can you please tell me what are ...
A. 25 November 2008: What do you two talk about when you're together? Or what do you text about? Some guys just don't like spending time on the phone, and he might be one of them.
My recommendation is that you don't push him to talk or try to keep him on the phone; you ... (read in full...)
He's becoming increasingly mean, rude and he intimidates me...
Q. I liked this boy for about 3 years, I didn't tell him because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. This summer we slept together (drunk) it didn't go very well and I wasn't really prepared as in not shaven. So it was never going to be perfect ...
A. 25 November 2008: He's abusive and disrespectful and completely out of line. Look, you sound like you're making excuses for why he's treating you this way, you were unshaven and you have now decided that you disgust him. Honey, that's coming at it from the wrong way. ... (read in full...)
Sick of past pictures with my boyfriend!
Q. I have been in a relationship with "Damian" for 2 years...we are like any other couple who has it's ups and downs....we are engaged to get married next year in the fall. We live in South Florida in the same city he lived for the past 10 years. I ...
A. 25 November 2008: I think it's perfectly reasonable to have a discussion with him about your worries. I would use that word you chose, 'ghost,' to talk about it. Let me see, what would I say?
Here's a suggestion, off the top of my head.
Damian, honey, there's ... (read in full...)
Sick of past pictures with my boyfriend!
Q. I have been in a relationship with "Damian" for 2 years...we are like any other couple who has it's ups and downs....we are engaged to get married next year in the fall. We live in South Florida in the same city he lived for the past 10 years. I ...
A. 25 November 2008: I don't think you're out of your mind. I think you just need to keep calm and focused on what it is that troubles you about these pictures and CDs of his sexual past.
It sounds like he is very openminded and rather more experimental than your aver... (read in full...)
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