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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How do I tell my wife that she needs to lose weight? I love her but am having problems with her neglecting these aspects.
Q. How do I tell my wife she needs to lose weight? We have been married for 8 yrs, 2nd for both of us. When we met she was much thinner ans said she worked out and stayed in shape,but over the years she has slowly gained weight and seems to have lost...
A. 13 November 2008: WAIT!! I forgot clothes. She needs to have a day with a personal shopper. Take her to one of those fancy department stores, with an appointment for the personal shopper. Watch some 'What Not To Wear' on TLC or is it Bravo? That show has some great ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife that she needs to lose weight? I love her but am having problems with her neglecting these aspects.
Q. How do I tell my wife she needs to lose weight? We have been married for 8 yrs, 2nd for both of us. When we met she was much thinner ans said she worked out and stayed in shape,but over the years she has slowly gained weight and seems to have lost...
A. 13 November 2008: Oooh, tricky spot. I know, because I was that wife. Yep. It's a vicious circle, you don't feel good about your looks, you stop trying to look good, and voila! You don't look good. The worst is that it just creeps up on you, a few pounds a year, and ... (read in full...)
My husband says he needs the chance to be free so he can explore the life he don't know...
Q. My husband thinks I treat him like a child and our relationship is sour at times because he is always angry with me if I ask him any questions. He wants to go and do as he pleases without any restrictions. He has also told me on numerous occasions ...
A. 13 November 2008: Fear of the unknown can overshadow the awful situation you are in. At least you know why you're unhappy; you can start to chip away at the those things. It's all about taking steps to create your new normal. It's scary because you are the one taking ... (read in full...)
Is it cheating if he's using her for money but not for sex?
Q. Is a guy cheating on his girlfriend if he just uses another girl for her money and not for sex??...
A. 13 November 2008: Well, maybe technically he's not a cheater, but he is a user. Yuk.... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get pregnant just from his cumming shallowly inside me a few times?
Q. Okay this might sound wierd, but my bf and I have never had sex and I think I might be pregnant. It's not that I'm a virgin, 'cause I'm not, we are just staying away from sex until I turn 18, because he's 25 and it's illegal in ND to have sex with a ...
A. 13 November 2008: Hi, yes, you could be pregnant. Please watch this video for some education. When I first watched it, I learned things I never knew, and I thought I was pretty well educated with regard to contraception and how pregnancy occurs.
http:... (read in full...)
His libido is nonexistent and he says he doesn't know why.
Q. What is usually the right thing to think, when your husband loses his sex drive? Do men usually know, why they don't have sex drive ,or they are not? Is it possible not to know? My husband lost his sex drive years ago, and he says, he has no i...
A. 12 November 2008: Does he know how this has affected you and the way you look at him and the marriage? Does he realize that he risks losing you? I mean REALLY understand that?
You've ruled out the first thing I was going to suggest, but you know what? Maybe it's time... (read in full...)
My husband says he needs the chance to be free so he can explore the life he don't know...
Q. My husband thinks I treat him like a child and our relationship is sour at times because he is always angry with me if I ask him any questions. He wants to go and do as he pleases without any restrictions. He has also told me on numerous occasions ...
A. 12 November 2008: You want more? Okay, he should be on his knees thanking the powers that be for giving him a wife like you. He wants to be treated like an adult? Fine, you stop doing all the cooking and cleaning and childcare. An adult would take on the ... (read in full...)
He's started saying I might be a lesbian because I hardly ever come during penetrative sex!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for nerly 3 years now and i hardly ever come during penatrive sex but do all the time on my clit hes now started saying ooohhh you mite be a lesbian i now am reading into it but dont no what to think i am open minded ...
A. 12 November 2008: And you might add that if this is really the case, then two-thirds of women are lesbian. Wonder why so many marry men. Tell him he's a silly boy. Nicely, of course.... (read in full...)
He's started saying I might be a lesbian because I hardly ever come during penetrative sex!
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for nerly 3 years now and i hardly ever come during penatrive sex but do all the time on my clit hes now started saying ooohhh you mite be a lesbian i now am reading into it but dont no what to think i am open minded ...
A. 12 November 2008: He's either being silly, teasing you too much or he's bothered by this and is trying to find something to blame it on. Just tell him that two-thirds of women rarely or never experience an orgasm from penetrative sex alone. The clitoris is almost ... (read in full...)
Just had sex for first time and it hurt! Will it be better second time?
Q. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE READ AND ANSWER I just had sex a few hours ago for the first time and it hurt a lot which I was expecting I didn't bleed... I dont regret having it but I did not feel any pleasure at all and now that I think sex is all talke...
A. 12 November 2008: I guess you did everything you could to make it okay. Remember that you don't need to rush it and have sex again if you're scared of it or it is upsetting. Just play without intercourse, there are lots of ways to have pleasure without penetration. ... (read in full...)
My husband says he needs the chance to be free so he can explore the life he don't know...
Q. My husband thinks I treat him like a child and our relationship is sour at times because he is always angry with me if I ask him any questions. He wants to go and do as he pleases without any restrictions. He has also told me on numerous occasions ...
A. 12 November 2008: My question to you is why you are letting him decide whether he's going to stay or go. Frankly, if this were my situation, where I'd done all the work and had not had the courtesy of reciprocation in the form of affection or romance, as requested, ... (read in full...)
Need Validation Please
Q. I've been more alone than this - but never so lonely. I have absolutely nobody to talk to about this problem. When I was 15 I was infatuated with my best friend's older brother. If you were to read my diary it still has entries of only him. I was cr...
A. 12 November 2008: Oops! Sorry, I just realized you didn't want advice, just validation. You are perfectly within your rights to feel the way you do, that IS terrible and you DO deserve better. From one stranger on the 'net to another... YOU MATTER and YOUR FEELINGS ... (read in full...)
Need Validation Please
Q. I've been more alone than this - but never so lonely. I have absolutely nobody to talk to about this problem. When I was 15 I was infatuated with my best friend's older brother. If you were to read my diary it still has entries of only him. I was cr...
A. 12 November 2008: Let me go further. He's the fungus that lives on the backside of the bottom-dwelling, manure-eating, slimy toad monster in a polluted lake. Okay, I'm exaggerating, but for a reason. The fact that he's related to your best friend in no way makes him ... (read in full...)
Does a low sperm count mean he can't have kids?
Q. if a guy is told he has low sperm count does that mean he can't have kids full stop or does it mean that there are ways that he can but not naturally?...
A. 12 November 2008: You sound perfectly sensible and I applaud you for being sure. I'm sure you'll do the right thing! Good for you.... (read in full...)
Just had sex for first time and it hurt! Will it be better second time?
Q. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE READ AND ANSWER I just had sex a few hours ago for the first time and it hurt a lot which I was expecting I didn't bleed... I dont regret having it but I did not feel any pleasure at all and now that I think sex is all talke...
A. 12 November 2008: I think how you're feeling is perfectly normal. The first time is loaded with expectations and rarely are those met. So you get a sense of 'what is all the fuss about? That was NOT enjoyable and frankly uncomfortable.'
Right, first thing is to read... (read in full...)
Does a low sperm count mean he can't have kids?
Q. if a guy is told he has low sperm count does that mean he can't have kids full stop or does it mean that there are ways that he can but not naturally?...
A. 12 November 2008: Low sperm count doesn't mean NO sperm count. He still has 'em, they can still swim, they can still get you pregnant. So yes, you should still use protection. And pregnancy aside, there are lots of things that can be transmitted through sexual ... (read in full...)
How can I be more organised and learn how NOT to stress out?
Q. Hello all I am looking for some advice on learning to be organized and learning how not to stress but to relax and appreciate what I have. Which is a healthy family and a good husband that I love. Any idea's/experiences or books anyone has read that ...
A. 12 November 2008: I'm not the best person to answer this question--you should see the state of my closet!!! Organization unfortunately is one of those ongoing maintenance things, and I'm definitely a slow learner in this arena. I think you just need to recognize ... (read in full...)
What are these stomach pains every morning and how can I stop being so paranoid about them?
Q. I have a major problem. Every single morning I get up my stomach always has some kind of pain and every day I feel like I'm gonna get my period but instead it's just like a clear goo like discharge. But every day something is coming out of me ...
A. 12 November 2008: If you are worried about getting your period, you can wear a pad so that you don't have to worry about staining or leaking. If you are having bad stomach pains every day, that is something that your doctor needs to know about, so tell your mom or ... (read in full...)
Anal Sex without lube
Q. Hi. My boyfriend really wants to have anal sex without lube. I'm fine with this (I'm aware that it will hurt badly, and I'm ok with that), but we need to know if it is possible without seriously damaging me. I've never had anal sex before, let alone ...
A. 7 November 2008: You might have a look at sexinfo101.com for advice on the mechanics or google 'anal sex' in the search box in the upper right hand corner.
You might point out to your boyfriend that his skin could also become severely chafed and irritated with... (read in full...)
Stuck between the devil and the deep blue sea!
Q. Stuck between the devil and the deep blue sea. I have been with my partner for almost 2 years. My partner has a young son from a previous relationship who is 2 and has problems with his health one of which is we are waiting for a diagnosis becaus...
A. 7 November 2008: Her father sounds perfectly awful. Let me just get this one detail correct. You two have a child together, right? So you are going to be in her life no matter what for as long as this child is alive.
What I don't understand is why you two bega... (read in full...)
Anal Sex without lube
Q. Hi. My boyfriend really wants to have anal sex without lube. I'm fine with this (I'm aware that it will hurt badly, and I'm ok with that), but we need to know if it is possible without seriously damaging me. I've never had anal sex before, let alone ...
A. 7 November 2008: I have to agree with Diovan here, this doesn't sound like a good idea unless you have some experience with this type of sexual play. I had a quick peek at the webmd.com website and found this rather dire paragraph:
"Anorectal trauma: Trauma to your... (read in full...)
I just don't know the right thing to do to make her feel secure.
Q. I am new here and I really need some advice. My gf and I had a break up a while back where I acted very mean and hurt her so badly. I kind of went crazy. She was in terrible pain and I refused to talk to her and just blew her off for over a week. ...
A. 7 November 2008: This tough place to be in, you have to prove yourself to her and she's not helping you figure it out. I'm sure you realize that you hurt her deeply but I'm not sure that you really know why. I think that you had been taking her for granted for ... (read in full...)
OH GOD! been worrying about things turning physical with my new girlfriend and tonight they did!
Q. OH GOD! been worrying about things turning physical with my new girlfriend and tonight they did... but I couldn't get 'aroused'. I got aroused a little then went down and she assumed that I had finished but I just couldn't keep it up! help! ...
A. 6 November 2008: I know this is going to be hard to do but you need to stop thinking so much, and just start feeling. Don't think about what the next move is going to be or what you have to do or anything like that. Just be in the moment, just relax. There are ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend downloads Spyware and constantly accuses of cheating
Q. My boyfriend has always insisted I'm cheating. We will make love and he rolls over and asks who I'm sleeping with. He has spyware on the computer, and daily interviews me about who I spent time with. He confronts me constantly with items of ...
A. 6 November 2008: I'm with the other two answers; why are you tolerating this? He sounds like he has a real problem, this irrational jealousy isn't going to fix itself, and it doesn't sound like he's trying to fix it at all. You must live in a state of high tension ... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with me and won't stop asking me out!
Q. This boy in my school has had a crush on me for ages. He keeps asking me to be his girlfriend, I keep saying no but he wont give up! At the start it was kind of cute, but its become like an obsession of his. He asks me at least 5 times a day. I ...
A. 6 November 2008: I'm afraid you're going to have to get a little tough with him. He seems to be a slow learner, and being nice hasn't been working, has it? I know it's hard to be mean to someone, but you're going to have to learn how to do it. At some point in ... (read in full...)
Is Osteomilitis hereditary?
Q. heya people, I was wondering, my dad has/had Ostiomilitis and i was wondering is it hereditory (sorry cant spell) cos im having pains in my leg and i was wondering if ostimilitis is a possiblity :o Okays, Thanks, Tasha x...
A. 6 November 2008: Here's the link: http://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/osteomyelitis-10585
It seems to be a bone infection, but there are other synonyms, so it's best to be safe and ask for it to be checked out.
Take good care of yourself.... (read in full...)
Is Osteomilitis hereditary?
Q. heya people, I was wondering, my dad has/had Ostiomilitis and i was wondering is it hereditory (sorry cant spell) cos im having pains in my leg and i was wondering if ostimilitis is a possiblity :o Okays, Thanks, Tasha x...
A. 6 November 2008: Hi Tasha, I don't know anything about osteomyelitis. I think the best thing you can do is to talk to your family doctor. The other thing I can suggest is that you do some research at reputable medical web sites. One suggestion I have for you is ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me, but doesn't seem to quite want to let me go
Q. Ive been split with my guy for about nearly 3 months now, but are relationship seems weired compared to my other relationships, and also a few of my friends ex relationships. On the day we split it was his choice to end it, anyway we split in the m...
A. 6 November 2008: I don't really think it's strange that he likes spending time with you. Breaking up sometimes makes the whole world feel unsettled and unfamiliar somehow, so it's really easy to fall back into old habits. And one of the old habits of is you. A ... (read in full...)
Is she testing me after 8 months of nonsense?
Q. Hi Everyone, I have been dating this girl (# 1) (28 years old) for 8 months. Months ago she basically said only friend status. Days later from that she went on vacation and I met another women. I dated her (lets call her # 2) for a couple mon...
A. 6 November 2008: Frankly, she sounds simply rude. A basic lack of courtesy is not something that you're going to be able to fix. And it sounds like she doesn't care to fix it herself. So I have to agree with the other posters and recommend that you stop treating ... (read in full...)
My long distance beau is depressed and dealing with all sorts of stuff. I don't know if he wants me anymore!
Q. Hi I have read a couple of your threads on this site seeking help for my own situation. I see that many responses are unbiased and offer some solid perspective. So if you wouldn’t mind, please read about my situation and if there is anythin...
A. 6 November 2008: It doesn't sound to me like you're being a doormat, I think you're asking a perfectly reasonable question of him. He clearly is going through a very difficult time, and I'm sure you want to be supportive of him. At the same time, you also are ... (read in full...)
I want to make my wife listen to me, without her knowing that it is me...
Q. my wife wants to leave me because i have been looking at sites with women who have big butts. I would like to send her messages without her knowing it is me. I want to save my marriage and i know i can do it, if i can send her messages without her ...
A. 17 October 2008: I found the post we were thinking about. She posted in the forum, rather than in the main site. Here's the link.
http://www.dearcupid.org/forum/lounge/1319
I guess she didn't submit it as a question after all. ... (read in full...)
I want to make my wife listen to me, without her knowing that it is me...
Q. my wife wants to leave me because i have been looking at sites with women who have big butts. I would like to send her messages without her knowing it is me. I want to save my marriage and i know i can do it, if i can send her messages without her ...
A. 17 October 2008: Oh dear. If you logged in with your wife's account, she will know about it because she will be able to read her questions, and yours will be right there. Not a good idea to try to be fake about this. Just talk with her, and listen. Good luck, you're ... (read in full...)
Some tips for a happy marriage!
Q. MARRIAGE - WHAT IS EXPECTED IN A MARRIAGE? Once you marry, don’t expect everything just to fall into place. Marriage is a serious commitment but it needs to be continually worked at. Too many people today go into marriage for the wrong reasons, t...
A. 17 October 2008: Hear, hear, AskEve! A very nice and concise article on secrets of a happy marriage. If I may be so presumptous, I'd like to add an important aid to your list. And that is a sense of humor.
If you can find the humor in the situations that you face... (read in full...)
How do I increase my libido? It's ruining my life. I feel molested when we have sex because I do it just to please him...
Q. Does anyone know of any natural remedie to increase female libido? My Husband is a scorpio and he wants sex 24/7. I don't have any desire at all or I am just not sexually attracted to him, it's a problem I am only 30 years old. Please help, I...
A. 17 October 2008: I have a website that might help you find a counselor who specializes in the type of therapy Smiles has suggested. Here is the link:
http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/
It has a search page which will help you find a specialist in your state.
... (read in full...)
How do I increase my libido? It's ruining my life. I feel molested when we have sex because I do it just to please him...
Q. Does anyone know of any natural remedie to increase female libido? My Husband is a scorpio and he wants sex 24/7. I don't have any desire at all or I am just not sexually attracted to him, it's a problem I am only 30 years old. Please help, I...
A. 17 October 2008: Hi, Smiles has given you such excellent advice and suggestions that I can only say that she is on the right track for you.
I understand that not having medical insurance is a huge impediment for you to see the doctor. Is it possible for you to cont... (read in full...)
Is my FWB situation turning into love? What are your thoughts?
Q. I have had a friend with benefits for about 7 months now. He made it very clear that he would never ever be anything more than friends with me, ever. He told me over and over not to fall in love with him because he would never ever let himself ...
A. 17 October 2008: I'm very happy to hear that I was wrong. Good luck and best wishes!... (read in full...)
Do women have morals?
Q. I had a Japanese friend who once joked that 'women have no morals!' I can't remember what we were talking about but, having read a lot of forums, here and elsewhere, this is what seems apparent:- Men, when considering cheating on their partne...
A. 10 October 2008: Oh fine, stay anonymous, let the rest of us hang ourselves! Chicken! *bawk bawk bawk* Just kidding, I understand your logic behind remaining anon, it's just confusing to have more than one male anon posting. Say, I wouldn't know you if I saw you in ... (read in full...)
Do women have morals?
Q. I had a Japanese friend who once joked that 'women have no morals!' I can't remember what we were talking about but, having read a lot of forums, here and elsewhere, this is what seems apparent:- Men, when considering cheating on their partne...
A. 9 October 2008: Sorry, your follow up hadn't posted when I wrote my answer. Which still stands, incidentally.
You wrote "Type into the search box here 'drunk' and 'cheated'. You'll find that women very often appeal to their drunkenness to say 'well, I know abst... (read in full...)
Do women have morals?
Q. I had a Japanese friend who once joked that 'women have no morals!' I can't remember what we were talking about but, having read a lot of forums, here and elsewhere, this is what seems apparent:- Men, when considering cheating on their partne...
A. 9 October 2008: Sweeping generalizations like this are usually provocative because they assume so much. Which set of moral rules are chosen to apply to judging men or women in their behaviors? Who does the choosing? Men or women?
I think I can make a sweeping gene... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex. I still love him, but I don't know why he is denying his feelings.
Q. I did something very wrong on tuesday night. Slept with my ex! He asked me to come around as friends and see him. then he asked for a cuddle. feelings between us were strong and one thing let to another. It was fantastic though. Felt just the sa...
A. 9 October 2008: Hi, hlskitten is sooo right. Sorry, you are being played with, he is toying with your emotions. It may be unintentional, he may not realize that what he is doing is extremely unfair on you, but I rather think that he has some inkling that he's a ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to fight my inferiority complex. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hi all, This will be a long question, as I need to rant. I have been fighting against inferiority complex for years now, as I grew up in an abusive family. My dad did nothing much else (other than earning money) but abuse me and my mum. So I ha...
A. 9 October 2008: Okay, a little blip, but I'm back to yell at you. I bet you're sorry you asked for help now, aren't you?
Okay, I have a couple of friends who are only children. They have very active social lives. How do they manage that? They volunteer for some... (read in full...)
I'm trying to fight my inferiority complex. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hi all, This will be a long question, as I need to rant. I have been fighting against inferiority complex for years now, as I grew up in an abusive family. My dad did nothing much else (other than earning money) but abuse me and my mum. So I ha...
A. 9 October 2008: Okay, I'm going to tell you what you might not like to hear. First of all, the best students from the best high schools (forgive me for not having the correct term for you) show up at university (college for some US readers) and suddenly find ... (read in full...)
Is my FWB situation turning into love? What are your thoughts?
Q. I have had a friend with benefits for about 7 months now. He made it very clear that he would never ever be anything more than friends with me, ever. He told me over and over not to fall in love with him because he would never ever let himself ...
A. 9 July 2008: I think one of the biggest mistakes women make in their relationships with men is not listening to them when they tell you something. If a man tells you that you will never be more than a friend to him, he actually means it. He's not being mean, I ... (read in full...)
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