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writes:so there's this guy in my science class that asked if i could help him with a worksheet after class the next day and i obviously said yes. well come to find out, he already had just about all of it done and didnt really need help. then as we were leaving he asked if i had any plans that weekend and i said no. so then, as we were walking out the door to our cars he turned to me, gave me a hug and told me to have a good weekend. so i was a ssuming that he liked me. later that evening i send him a message saying thank you for letting me copy your work and i asked if he had any plans that weekend. and after 3 days he never responded. the next time we had class he acted completely nonchalant so now i dont know what i should do. should i ask him out or what? how can i find out if he likes me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (2 September 2008):
 Hi, his actions certainly are confusing. A couple of thoughts spring to mind; one is that he was trying to find out what you were up to for the weekend for a friend who likes you. As in, he's the middleman. Possible, I guess. Did anyone else ask you out for the weekend?
Second is that he is or was interested, but he wants to be the one doing the pursuing. When you sent him the message with the question about weekend plans, you took some of the fun out of it for him. Maybe, I'm just guessing here.
Third is that he was just being polite and did need help to finish the project. He was just making conversation by asking about your plans and the hug was just a thank you.
Any of these could be possible. I would just play it cool, back off, don't initiate for the time being, in case option #2 is correct. You have lots of time, after all, the whole school year is ahead of you. So be patient, be friendly but match his nonchalance. If you withdraw subtly from him, that may encourage him to make a move or give you some indication of what he's feeling.
Normally, I would say go ahead and ask him out, but you kind of did and he never responded to that. So rather than risk an outright rejection, I would back way off, and treat him as a nice but distant acquaintance. That may get him moving.
Good luck!
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reader, cthulhuhugs +, writes (2 September 2008):
 Just ask him out if you like him. What's the worst that could happen? He says no? That's just part of life. At least you won't look back and wonder "What if..." He acted like he was interested, maybe he's waiting for you to take the initative?
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