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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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It's not the size but how you use it that counts. Or is it?
Q. Ok then, so how are we supposed to use it? We men always keep hearing this whenever we ask for a straightforward question when asked about size. It seems women are afraid to burst bubbles/feelings - this immense beating around the bush more than a...
A. 13 September 2008: I like vanilla, chocolate, rum raisin, chocolate chip cookie dough, peach, caramel swirl, and most of the Ben & Jerrys line. Which do I prefer over all others? Depends on the day. Sorry, I'm not trying to be irritating, that's the truth.... (read in full...)
It hurts when I'm poked!
Q. Hey ive been wid ma bf 4 nearly a month and it really hurts when he pokes me. what does this mean? wht can i do so it dosent. im not a virgin or nothing but i need some advice...
A. 13 September 2008: If it really hurts, you may want to see a doctor. There may be something going on that needs medical attention. I think that maybe you should stop having penetrative sex for a while and see if that helps. Saltwater has a point here, you are still ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend of 3 years has responded to multiple ads on Craigslist looking for no strings sex! This is so out of character, what do I do?
Q. I have clam down quite a bit, and now I am trying to put every thing in to perspective. What should be my next step ? I have just came home, and wanted to cheek my email. When I open hotmail it seem like my boyfriend was still singed in . He come ...
A. 13 September 2008: Yikes. If it was me, he'd be gone. Sorry, those aren't just flirty emails, he's hunting.
I know it must be unbelievable after 3 years to find he's a two-faced man. Maybe he does love you, but he can't do without sex outside the relationship? I'm ... (read in full...)
Carried away in the moment... am I at risk for pregnancy?
Q. Is it possible to get pregnant if you have sex straight after you finish your period. Me and the other half got carried away in the moment. I wiped the cum away from my vagina but still think he came in me...
A. 13 September 2008: Yes, I hate to tell you, it's possible. Watch this video for the full explanation.
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
You have up to 72 hours to take the emergency pill; contact ... (read in full...)
It's not the size but how you use it that counts. Or is it?
Q. Ok then, so how are we supposed to use it? We men always keep hearing this whenever we ask for a straightforward question when asked about size. It seems women are afraid to burst bubbles/feelings - this immense beating around the bush more than a...
A. 13 September 2008: It's not beating around the bush (that's a bad pun, by the way) that women are doing. You guys are so focused on your penises that you're missing the bigger picture. And we women, being superior beings, don't compartmentalize like men do. (Just ... (read in full...)
He ejaculated on my hand, I touched myself when it dried. Am I pregnant or am I stressed?
Q. I have been with my bf for 2 months and i gave him a hand job. he cumed on my hand it dried then i touch the top of my vagina but not near my hole. im missing my period and im really worried im not even a teen yet...
A. 12 September 2008: Here's a website that gives you the risk assessment for all kinds of sex, I've given you the link for manual sex, as that is what a handjob is also called.
http://www.scarleteen.com/pregnancy_risk_assessment_manual_sex... (read in full...)
He ejaculated on my hand, I touched myself when it dried. Am I pregnant or am I stressed?
Q. I have been with my bf for 2 months and i gave him a hand job. he cumed on my hand it dried then i touch the top of my vagina but not near my hole. im missing my period and im really worried im not even a teen yet...
A. 12 September 2008: Hi, I just want you to have the best information available so that you can take care of yourself and prevent pregnancy and STDs. Please watch this video, it is very educational.
h... (read in full...)
Two counselors told him he was abusive, he moved out today and I feel so sad and guilty. Should I take him back?
Q. My husband moved out today. He didn't want to go. We have been married for ten years and it started out so brilliantly. He began complaining that I was in charge of the money so he took control of it. Then it was another thing and then another...
A. 12 September 2008: One more thing. Read this article, and pay close attention to #8.
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/warning-signs-youre-dating-a-loser.html
... (read in full...)
Two counselors told him he was abusive, he moved out today and I feel so sad and guilty. Should I take him back?
Q. My husband moved out today. He didn't want to go. We have been married for ten years and it started out so brilliantly. He began complaining that I was in charge of the money so he took control of it. Then it was another thing and then another...
A. 12 September 2008: Hi, if two counselors told him he was abusive, then I'm pretty sure he's abusive. I personally wouldn't take him back into the house until I was 100% sure that he had been completely rehabilitated and that you and your daughter were safe. You have a ... (read in full...)
I didn't mean to make him cum!
Q. I stayed at my mom's friends house, while my parents left town. Her son, whom is 24, has always picked on me, and He was tackling me and tickling me on the bed, so I rolled over ontop of him, and started tickling him, he moaned my name after a few ...
A. 12 September 2008: I like Emily's answer. I'm sure he's very embarrassed, so don't try to pursue it or talk about it. Follow Emily's advice and things will settle back to normal.
Take care.... (read in full...)
He is threatening to take away my child once it is born!
Q. What do i do my boyfriend physically and mentally abuses me. Im pregnant now with his kid and he is threatening to take my kid and leave me and get me for child support... weve been dating since i turned 16. i got pregnant about 8 weeks ago. i just ...
A. 12 September 2008: Hi, if you keep your head and don't do anything rash right now, you'll be fine, I'm pretty sure. Do tell your family and your friends what he has been threatening. Start to write down in a journal everything he says and make sure you date each ... (read in full...)
She's been hurt before - so how do I get her to trust me?
Q. Alrighty then. So, I got my gf. We've been together for 6 months... And off the bat I'm probably gonna get a lot of "High School Relationship" stuff. Well, it's been good until a few days ago. I was talking to her and I always KNEW she didn't trust ...
A. 12 September 2008: Sorry to hear that she broke up with you for no reason. I think that it's probably for the best. I fear she was messing with your mind and your emotions anyway, so it wasn't terribly healthy of a relationship. You'll find another girl who is willing ... (read in full...)
How much longer can I act cold towards him after his asking me out? Am I strong? We're coworkers, I don't know if I fancy him? Will I be misinterpreted if I ask to be friends?
Q. Hi. Any other women had this issue? I've been friendly with a guy at work for about 3 years. As far as I am concerned I've treated him just like any other guy at work i.e. professionally. So, we are not friends as such, but certainly friendly ...
A. 12 September 2008: Hi, interesting question. I think that maybe you're a bit shaken up by the whole thing and that you feel you lost control of the situation. You'd been perfectly fine with the banter and the flirting but then he actually tried to make it real, and ... (read in full...)
I do enjoy sex! But I can't explain the tears during it?
Q. Hi. Well, here it is. I've been together for with my bf for almost a year, the sex is good and i'm now pretty comfortable with everything we do together and we love each other dearly. Now i wanna know, is it normal to have tears dripping out when ...
A. 12 September 2008: Hi, this has happened to me too, and it's not because I'm sad in any way, it's just the overwhelming feeling of love and connectedness that seems to prompt it. If you explain that they are tears of happiness, he'll get used to them eventually. So ... (read in full...)
Where can I learn more about the age laws on sex?
Q. Can somebody please clear up the age laws on sex, concerning minors, adults, just like age things and what not. Or at least give me a site to read about it??...
A. 12 September 2008: Hi, Bailee, if you live in Kansas, the legal age of consent is 16 for both sexes. Here's a website I found.
http://www.livestrong.com/article/12483-age-consensual-sex/
Also wikipedia.org is a good starting out point for finding out more about ma... (read in full...)
I'm only 13, pregnant with twins, afflicted with herpes, and I don't know who the father is. How do I tell my parents?
Q. I just turned thirteen and I found out I am pregnant with triplets I don't know who the father is I have been sexually active with over ten men the last year. I have lied about my age because I am very developed and I don't know what to do. I also ...
A. 12 September 2008: My suggestion is that you need to ask the doctor or counselor at the clinic that you went to. You must have seen a doctor to be diagnosed with herpes and to find out that you are carrying triplets. I'm actually a little surprised that the doctor ... (read in full...)
My future sister-in-law is causing problems between me and my boyfriend.
Q. Im 18 years old. I have a boyfriend (20) that i have been with almost 4 years. We have had ALOT of problems, but we almost always get through them. Well, my boyfriend has a brother younger than him by a year. His brother has been dating a girl ...
A. 12 September 2008: Hi, you do sound very upset and angry about the whole situation, and I think that you need to take a deep breath, take one step back and stop to think about this. I'm not trying to be mean here, I'm just trying to suggest some things that you need ... (read in full...)
How do I convince my boyfriend he's not too old? One child, that's all I'm asking.
Q. i have sacrificed a lot for this guy and he still don't want to have kids with me. he said he is too old. after all i have done for him and he still saids he is not having any kid with me, and after i know him a long time and sacrifice a lot for ...
A. 12 September 2008: Hi, Mander, I just wanted to repeat something that birdynumnums wrote on a similar question you wrote yesterday: "Instead of going forward with a relationship that has been sucking the life out of you for so long, get into therapy and find out why ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of deformity??
Q. well i am in love with my moms cousins youngest son.. is that wrong and can we be and what are the chances of deformity?? STORY i know what you guys think your too young to know what love is but one of my fa...
A. 11 September 2008: Hi, it sounds like a good question to go research in genetics books. Do you have a local library? You could make it a project to find out!
I'm not a genetics expert, so I had a look at Wikipedia. Wikipedia is an online community of people who cont... (read in full...)
She has only climaxed 3 times through actual intercourse...she is able to have multiple orgasms through manual and oral stimulation.
Q. right, this sounds ridiculous...I measured my penis- yes I'm an insecure arse...and I measured 6 inches (15.2 centimeters) and 1.6 inches wide, around-(4.1 centimeters in width )is this a pleasurable sized penis for a woman. I've been with my ...
A. 11 September 2008: Hi, it sounds like you've got a very satisfied lover in your hands, and I think you're worrying unneccessarily. I think the number of women who orgasm through vaginal penetration alone is something like one-third. Two-thirds need clitoral ... (read in full...)
She's been hurt before - so how do I get her to trust me?
Q. Alrighty then. So, I got my gf. We've been together for 6 months... And off the bat I'm probably gonna get a lot of "High School Relationship" stuff. Well, it's been good until a few days ago. I was talking to her and I always KNEW she didn't trust ...
A. 11 September 2008: Well, she may not be an obvious drama queen, but to me, the laid-back attitude doesn't sound like someone who is so guarded about her personal space.
Just be careful and don't let her hurt you. Some people remain elusive for their entire lives, and ... (read in full...)
Could he have mistaken thrush for chlamydia?
Q. a guy i had slept with accused me of giving him chlamydia when we had sex last week. he told me he had been checked up and had it..so i went to get checked out, but am still awaiting the results. he told another guy i had slept with that he should ...
A. 11 September 2008: I'm so happy to hear that you are clear. I hope that the links I gave you were helpful, and that you'll continue to protect your health.
And give the guy who is obviously lying and spreading rumors about you a wide berth. He's got something wron... (read in full...)
When I woke up my sister in law was in her underwear. Does she want to have sex with me?
Q. I'm trying to figure out if my SIL wants to have sex with me. I work at night so I've get off in the early morning hours. Sometimes before I go home(1hour 30min Away) I sleep at my SiL's house for about an hour or two. So one night she says I forgot ...
A. 11 September 2008: Thanks for the follow up. Sometimes answers take a while to get through the moderation process.
It IS kind of odd that she's doing that, to me, anyway. There may be people out there who don't mind revealing a bit more of their bodies in undies and ... (read in full...)
I am thirteen, and have had my period for a while now, I want to use tampons, my mother is strongly opposed to my use of them, what is wrong with tampons at my age?
Q. Well I use tampons secretly behind my moms back. I find pads uncomfortable. I asked when I can use tampons and she tod me when you're WWWWWAAAAAAYYY older! She's afraid I'll hurt myself (im 13!) and that I'm too small to use something "big". AND ...
A. 11 September 2008: I just wouldn't discuss it with your mother, it's really not that big a deal how the menstrual fluids are collected in absorbent tissue. I don't understand her either, maybe she has some idea that it affects your virginity or something? Just point ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, the relationship lost colour, now she asks me out for a drink when it seems she has a living-in boyfriend! What's on her mind?
Q. There's a girl I met on the internet 2 years ago. We hit it off right away, we met up and fell for eachother. 2 years on and we've had some serious ups and downs (which I understand is perfectly normal). It started off when we fell for eac...
A. 11 September 2008: I think you're going to have to wait to see her to see what she's thinking, but I'm sure she still feels something for you. If it's enough to ask to start dating you again, there's no way we can tell you.
How likely is it that you can develop a se... (read in full...)
I've been with him for three years, and want to break up to get to know myself. But I'm scared I might regret it!
Q. hi, i'm a 21 year old and i have been dating my boyfriend for three years. recently i have been thinking a lot about breaking up with him. he's my best friend. he's incredibly sweet, loving and fun person and he's perfect for me. recently, however, ...
A. 11 September 2008: The really irritating thing about life is that you don't really know what the future holds and if you'll regret doing one thing and not the other. You just have to make the best decision with the information and the feelings that you have at the ... (read in full...)
My ex boyfriend is telling me, six months after our break-up, that he is not over me, but I am over him, I feel guilty, what do I do now?
Q. My ex boyfriend is telling me 6 months after our breakup that he is not over me, but I was over him 6 months ago. I feel guilty though. What should I do?...
A. 11 September 2008: Stop feeling guilty. I know that's easier to say than to do, but he has to deal with his own feelings as best he can. They are not for you to fix, honestly. Sometimes in a relationship and more often in a break up, one person cares more than the ... (read in full...)
When I woke up my sister in law was in her underwear. Does she want to have sex with me?
Q. I'm trying to figure out if my SIL wants to have sex with me. I work at night so I've get off in the early morning hours. Sometimes before I go home(1hour 30min Away) I sleep at my SiL's house for about an hour or two. So one night she says I forgot ...
A. 11 September 2008: I have no earthly idea what she could be thinking, but if she's wearing her underwear in front of you, um, wouldn't your wife or your brother mind? I sure would.
I don't want to ruin your fantasy for you, but in real life, sleeping with your SIL ... (read in full...)
She's been hurt before - so how do I get her to trust me?
Q. Alrighty then. So, I got my gf. We've been together for 6 months... And off the bat I'm probably gonna get a lot of "High School Relationship" stuff. Well, it's been good until a few days ago. I was talking to her and I always KNEW she didn't trust ...
A. 11 September 2008: I just read your follow-up, sorry I didn't know what you were lying about.
Okay, watch her. She's a drama queen.
Honesty and trust is a two-way street. Remember that you deserve to be treated well too.... (read in full...)
She's been hurt before - so how do I get her to trust me?
Q. Alrighty then. So, I got my gf. We've been together for 6 months... And off the bat I'm probably gonna get a lot of "High School Relationship" stuff. Well, it's been good until a few days ago. I was talking to her and I always KNEW she didn't trust ...
A. 11 September 2008: Right, my conjecture on this. Your girlfriend probably figured out that you had lied about something; you probably gave off some non-verbal clues that she picked up on. She may not even be aware of it, but she somehow knew that you weren't being ... (read in full...)
Are there any Sagitarius women in long-term relationships?
Q. I'm with a Sagittarius woman, and was wondering if there are any Sag who've been in long-term relationships/ marriages/ or are currently married. Unfortunately my theory is that there are very few of you folk in commited relationships, but for ...
A. 10 September 2008: My husband's a sagitarius. We've been together for 18 years.... (read in full...)
Letter to my ex
Q. Dear M I hate the way you came back into my life like a whirlwind, then left again just as fast I hate the fact that both times it was for another woman I hate myself for being so stupid to have given you another chance in the first place...
A. 10 September 2008: Hi, I hope that writing this article has helped expunge the cheating rat from your system. And remember that the opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. I hope that you will reach that indifference sooner rather than later. And forgive ... (read in full...)
Analyse yourself!
Q. Why do we, and I say we referring to man and women always seem to grab on for the little things we have. And when I say little meaning things or people that are worth nothing. We stay with someone even thought we are not happy because we are scare ...
A. 10 September 2008: Hi tammye, I hope that writing this article helped you and that you are at the positive place. Don't be afraid to ask for support from people who love you when you're going through a rough time. No can know what's going on inside our heads, but ... (read in full...)
Unprotected Sex....never worth it!
Q. Almost every day it seems there is a post that pops up from someone who has had unprotected sex and is worried about the possibility of being pregnant or having caught a sexually tranmitted infection. Alot of the time, this is due to them being pr...
A. 10 September 2008: Hi, thanks for posting this article, it has some great responses for people who are being pressured to have sex without a condom. I'll be linking to it when appropriate.
Antipubesuk, you completely missed the point of STDs, which are really the numb... (read in full...)
I love this girl who is very abusive, and controlling, I have broken up with her, she makes her way back, she has hit me, how do I end this completely?
Q. Basically Iv been dating a girl on and off for about 4 months now, and she's spoken to me like dirt for pretty much the whole time, except for the first 2 weeks when I met her. I really want to end it, and I have 9 times now, but everytime I do she ...
A. 10 September 2008: Bubbloo and hlskitten are right; you need to end it, and you're going to have to reach down deep inside yourself and find the strength to do it and stick to it. This girl is poison. Read this article: http://www.dea... (read in full...)
Retroactive Jealousy: how do I overcome it?
Q. Right, so I am not even really sure how to start this. Basically, I suffer from what many other men (and few women) seem to suffer from as well. Retroactive Jealousy, or "her past"... Its horrible, its utterly disturbing and self destructive. I have ...
A. 10 September 2008: Hi, I've been following this thread and now I want to chime in with something that may be totally off-the-wall, amateur psychology, but I hear your desperation and I figure there's no harm in throwing it into the discussion. So here goes. In your f... (read in full...)
Wanting a Guy to Lust After Us
Q. Wanting Guys to Lust After Us It’s like an addictive fix, wanting a guy to lust after us. There is an adrenaline rush of pleasure when they lust after us; it makes us feel beautiful, like we are the only one on the planet. But there is a d...
A. 10 September 2008: I tend to agree that those reality shows like 'The Bachelor' which show women competing with each other for the love of the guy are rather ridiculous and sad, that's why I don't watch them. But they must sell to someone, otherwise they wouldn't be ... (read in full...)
A day in the mind of an attention addict
Q. A Day in the Mind of an Attention Addict It's morning, and time to put on my make up, fix my hair, and wear a new outfit. I'm thinking about the female friend I'll see today who'll comment on how nice it is and I feel an adrenaline rush, Now I'...
A. 10 September 2008: Interesting article, star, but I'm waiting for the answer! What DOES an attention addict do to deal with that empty feeling, that void that shoes and admiration just don't seem to fill?... (read in full...)
Is it true LDRs never last?
Q. Is what they say about long distance relationships true? That they never last? I ask this because I really like this guy. He's sweet and caring and very romantic. We are good together. The only problem is that he's in the military and stationed ...
A. 10 September 2008: Long distance relationships can work, but both parties have to be committed to making it work. He's being honest with you, which is a good sign, so if you two stay in contact and can be together in the future, things might work out for you.
E... (read in full...)
Why do I still love him despite of his abuses? How do I deal with the conflicting feelings? How do I stop being in denial?
Q. I know im probably going to sound crazy or something when I say how I feel about my ex abusive bf, but its how I feel and what bothers me most is how my feelins conflict each other. On one hand, I have so much anger and hurt and cant believe he ...
A. 10 September 2008: Hi, it sounds like you're really struggling to straighten out your conflicting feelings. I've never been in an abusive relationship, so I don't really have personal experience to draw from in answering this question. But from an outsider's ... (read in full...)
We differ on how to bring up children, now I'm sleeping with her daughter. What should I do?
Q. This is the picture. I am 56 my partner 53 My 4 year relationship with my partner has suffered a major set back after over 1 year of continued arguments and disputes regarding the attitude between my partner and my 12year old daughter so much so ...
A. 10 September 2008: Emily, you're right, here's the link:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/triangle-of-love-ive-become-involved-with-my.html
Honestly, this sounds like a recipe for disaster. You all need to grow up and recognize your patterns of behavior are leading ... (read in full...)
Could he have mistaken thrush for chlamydia?
Q. a guy i had slept with accused me of giving him chlamydia when we had sex last week. he told me he had been checked up and had it..so i went to get checked out, but am still awaiting the results. he told another guy i had slept with that he should ...
A. 23 August 2008: DoubleM is right about how long symptoms of Chlamydia take to appear. I believe it is as soon as 5-10 days. I'm not an expert, so I have a few weblinks for you to read and do your own research on. I hope they help!
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