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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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How do I tell my father that I'm pregnant? He has absolutely zero empathy and worries more about money than anything else!
Q. Hello All, I would like some tips or advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. Here is a little info: I am 26 years old and in a stable relationship. I have told my mother, sister, brother, and all my friends. Everyone seems to be ex...
A. 19 November 2008: You know what? That's not the cowards way out. That's actually a sensible solution. You don't need the stress and he will have time to process. You'll still have to see him after the revelation, but you won't have to have that difficult ... (read in full...)
I'm trying to fight my inferiority complex. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hi all, This will be a long question, as I need to rant. I have been fighting against inferiority complex for years now, as I grew up in an abusive family. My dad did nothing much else (other than earning money) but abuse me and my mum. So I ha...
A. 9 October 2008: Okay, a little blip, but I'm back to yell at you. I bet you're sorry you asked for help now, aren't you?
Okay, I have a couple of friends who are only children. They have very active social lives. How do they manage that? They volunteer for some... (read in full...)
I'm trying to fight my inferiority complex. How can I deal with this?
Q. Hi all, This will be a long question, as I need to rant. I have been fighting against inferiority complex for years now, as I grew up in an abusive family. My dad did nothing much else (other than earning money) but abuse me and my mum. So I ha...
A. 9 October 2008: Okay, I'm going to tell you what you might not like to hear. First of all, the best students from the best high schools (forgive me for not having the correct term for you) show up at university (college for some US readers) and suddenly find ... (read in full...)
Is it ever right to leave your husband for a new love? Or do I have to work on fixing my marriage to be 'right'?
Q. I think I'm falling out of love with my husband of 12 years and in love with this man at work... Checked out advice everyone gives in such cases and the overwhelming majority says 'work on your marriage, forget the other man, it's just a crus...
A. 9 October 2008: Having had only the one husband, I can't speak to your questions about having found happiness with a new love.
What I do know about marriage is that it is hard work. Not everyday, not all the time, but it does require a certain dedication and devo... (read in full...)
My husband includes his mother too much in our lives!
Q. My husband lacks inertia to things happened around our home but very eager to help out when his parents need assistance. He shares thoughts with his mother but not me. I feel emotionally very distance from him. He gives his money every end of mon...
A. 8 October 2008: Hi, you seem to be competing with his mother for his attention and losing. What an awful position to be in.
How long have you two been married? And have you discussed your feelings with him?
So, what to do. You cannot change his feelings or his b... (read in full...)
Why am I cumming so quickly???
Q. Ok I need an honest answer from the ladies and guys if you have been in my situation.. Basically I'm cumming pretty fast lately, like 2-3 minutes, and it's becoming a habit. Which is weird because I used to be able to last longer. But now I cant. ...
A. 8 October 2008: One more thing, following that old adage 'ladies first' might not be a bad idea in your situation. ... (read in full...)
Why am I cumming so quickly???
Q. Ok I need an honest answer from the ladies and guys if you have been in my situation.. Basically I'm cumming pretty fast lately, like 2-3 minutes, and it's becoming a habit. Which is weird because I used to be able to last longer. But now I cant. ...
A. 8 October 2008: To answer your question, I think that yes, the girl would be very happy if you 'made up for it' using your hands and mouth. If she doesn't, she's an idiot. And just for you to file away, two-thirds of women do NOT, repeat, do NOT reach orgasm ... (read in full...)
Is this a definitive break-up or not?
Q. My partner is 27 years older and we have been together almost 2 years. Until a few months ago everything seemed to be as perfect as life can be. We were so much in love we wanted to live and spend the rest of our lives together. But since 3 months ...
A. 8 October 2008: What leapt into my mind reading your question was that even though your man is 27 years older than you are, he still has a lot of growing up to do. Life throws all kinds of nasty things at us, and generally, we muddle through somehow, usually with ... (read in full...)
I maturbate frequently and am worried because recently no sperm comes out when I orgasm. Has anyone else had this problem?
Q. Hey. I masturbate around 2 times a day. I used to be able to ejaculate, but recently my orgasms have been with no sperm. I think I have retrograde ejaculation since after I usualy have to pee when I didn't before and it's cloudy after masturbati...
A. 8 October 2008: Hi, looks like you've already done some research on this. Here's another website if you haven't already been to this one.
http://www.webmd.com/infertility-and-reproduction/guide/retrograde-ejaculation
I think it would be sensible to have a chat wit... (read in full...)
I'm becoming really depressed since my mother passed away, I feel lonely and I want to stop what I am doing wrong but there is no one to help!
Q. OK this isnt a relationship question or anything but... well my mum died 6 months ago.. and im becoming really depressed. Ive been to the doctors about it but they cant do anything because of my age (16) and ive started smoking drinking and ...
A. 8 October 2008: Hi, this sounds all very very depressing and I don't blame you for feeling so low and blue. I'm sorry about your mother, that is a true loss and a major blow to you, especially at such a young age. At least you recognize that you're smoking, ... (read in full...)
Am I making a fuss over nothing or is any of this something to worry about?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for six months. I love him very much. The thing is I feel like I'm always proving my love but he isn't. I talk about him on my facebook profile, but he mentions nothing about me, not even that he's in a ...
A. 8 October 2008: I kind of think this is a guy thing. Women tend to get really into the whole relationship thing, and put the man first and into the spotlight in their life. Men, on the other hand, seem to include a relationship as just one part of life, important ... (read in full...)
John now thinks we should start a relationship, but I'm feeling incredibly guilty!
Q. A year ago a guy who used to date my friend (let's call him Joe) suddenly announced that he liked me while we were both drunk at a party. We ended up kissing, but the next day I regretted it and thought that it must have just been a strategy to get ...
A. 8 October 2008: I think you can write Joe off as an charming but irresponsible and erratic fellow. Don't worry about trying to date him, and just keep yourself at arm's length from now on.
As far as John goes, what's the rush? Why do you have to leap into a full... (read in full...)
How can she be so cold? Could I win her back?
Q. About three months ago, I was madly in love with this girl I worked with. Turns out it was unrequitted. Beut, nether-the-less I still tried to get her. I sent her a valentine card and everything. Well, eventually she left, and I gave her a necklace ...
A. 8 October 2008: Guillaume is so right on this. She isn't interested in you, sorry, but those are the breaks. Stinks, doesn't it?
We get a lot of questions on Dear Cupid about how to get someone out of one's mind and heart. There's no simple way to do this, you'... (read in full...)
Help me break up with him AGAIN... please?
Q. Kay , well ive been dating this guy for a year now and he wants to get married ... and im only 18 ! I cant get married !!!! Dont get me wrong ! I love him and everything but like Crap .... i need to focus on my life . AND ive already broken up...
A. 8 October 2008: You're going to have to hurt his feelings, and there isn't any way to make that easy. He's going to have to learn to take a break up, it is part of maturing and life. If he's too clingy, this might help him understand that he has to change that ... (read in full...)
I need some advice, I'm 15 and might be pregnant!
Q. Ok im 15 years old and i think i might be pregnant... i havent gottin my period for this month and lately me and my bf have been having unprotected sex =/ i know i cant tell my family or friend because they'll all be very upset...and im not ready to...
A. 8 October 2008: I agree with the other aunts who are suggesting that you get a pregnancy test first. You can buy them from the local pharmacy, or call Planned Parenthood to see if they can assist you in getting one. The number is 1-800-230-PLAN. Their website is ... (read in full...)
Should I Marry Someone That I Am Not 100% attracted to and may become fat in the future?
Q. Should I marry a woman that I am not entirely attracted to and might get fat in the future? She is one of my best friends and has everything I want in a woman... but I can tell she does not work-out enough to maintain a healthy body and always finds ...
A. 26 September 2008: Honestly, I have to agree with Eyes on this one. If you're not 100% sure, don't marry her. It's not buying a car or a house, this is a commitment for life.
But do her the favor of letting her go find the right man for her; don't keep her dang... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father that I'm pregnant? He has absolutely zero empathy and worries more about money than anything else!
Q. Hello All, I would like some tips or advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. Here is a little info: I am 26 years old and in a stable relationship. I have told my mother, sister, brother, and all my friends. Everyone seems to be ex...
A. 26 September 2008: You could also be upfront with him if he does attack you. Stay calm and tell him that you dreaded telling him that you were expecting a baby because you knew he would have nothing positive to say and would only attack you. Tell him that you are ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father that I'm pregnant? He has absolutely zero empathy and worries more about money than anything else!
Q. Hello All, I would like some tips or advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. Here is a little info: I am 26 years old and in a stable relationship. I have told my mother, sister, brother, and all my friends. Everyone seems to be ex...
A. 26 September 2008: Yikes, he sounds awful! Sorry, I should remember he's your dad. Well, it sounds like you know what his concerns will be, so head them off at the pass. When you have this conversation, which you will have to, obviously, set up all the ... (read in full...)
Can steroids be the cause of me not getting a hard-on?
Q. Hi, I need litle bit advice. i cant get a hard on now. i use to be perfectly fine but then i was on steroids for a while for body building. since i have come off them i dont seem to get a hard on, i think its because of the steroids but i d...
A. 26 September 2008: Hi, please read the weblinks I provide here below. I think that you do in fact need to go to your doctor, as the use of steroids does have side effects and this may be part of your impotence. Your doctor should know about this, as he or she can then ... (read in full...)
I want to end the cycle - but I fear that means ending the marriage...what should I do??
Q. My wife and I met when I was 18; she was 21. We've been together for 15 years and married for 13. After we moved in together the challenges of married life started to surface, I started to notice she'd distance herself emotionally and intimately. ...
A. 26 September 2008: Hi, you are in an impossible situation and are trying so hard to try to fix it. And the fact that she seems to be sitting on the sidelines, content to let you do all the work must be tremendously frustrating.
Look, I'm not an expert in psyc... (read in full...)
How can I ride out this difficult period?
Q. Hi. Me and this lady at work were flirting with each other for a good few months and then I decided to ask her out. Big mistake! She hasn't spoken to me since and won't even look at me. This has gone on for a couple of months now. She must know that ...
A. 26 September 2008: I think it would be wise to treat her exactly as you would treat any other co-worker, male or female. Hard as it may be, you're going to have to put the personal feelings aside and concentrate on your work. If she can manage to work there with you ... (read in full...)
Should I let him follow his dream??
Q. I met my partner nearly 16 years ago he is married and has two grown up children. We have been together as a couple for nearly 14 years. i have never asked him to leave his wife and never would. He himself came from a broken home and has always said ...
A. 26 September 2008: I'm afraid I agree with Lexilou. If he wanted to be with you all the time, he could have worked out a way to end the marriage and still see his children. Despite not wanting to cause a broken home, he still has managed to put himself in that ... (read in full...)
I've been doing Kegel exercises to help with the pain during sex caused by my prolapsed uterus. Is this all I can do?
Q. i just had my second child which has left my uterus prolapsed. It hurts when I have sex with my husband. I have brought it up to the doctor, tell them that I am doing the kegel exercise, but then it seems like they drop it. Like the only thing to ...
A. 26 September 2008: I found this for you.
http://www.contentmart.com/articles/16391/1/Ben-Wa-Balls---How-To-Use-Ben-Wa-Balls-And-Their-Benefits/Page1.html
I guess the idea is you have to keep the PC muscles flexed to keep them inside. Sort of a Kegel exercise... (read in full...)
I've been doing Kegel exercises to help with the pain during sex caused by my prolapsed uterus. Is this all I can do?
Q. i just had my second child which has left my uterus prolapsed. It hurts when I have sex with my husband. I have brought it up to the doctor, tell them that I am doing the kegel exercise, but then it seems like they drop it. Like the only thing to ...
A. 26 September 2008: Sorry, no, I don't know how they work. I'd have to go to wikipedia.org or google them. Did you try that?... (read in full...)
Should I abide by my wife's last wish?
Q. I came home from work this morning and found my wife unconscious then I had to take her to the hospital where she died. She committed suicide. In her note she specified that she did NOT want anyone to know that she took her life. It is the only main ...
A. 26 September 2008: I give you my condolences as well. I don't think you should try to come up with a fake cause of death. That will only backfire at some later point. Especially with her family. How is it that she moved as a teenager to your country and her family ... (read in full...)
What are signs I could be pregnant? And I'm so worried that he's cheating!
Q. alright i havent been on here in months so i have a question 4 evry1 tht can answer it me and my boyfriend have been trying 2 get pregnant since september of 07 and ive been pregnant but it seems as thought i cant carry it and now we've tried ...
A. 26 September 2008: To answer the first part of your question, watch this video.
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
You'll learn that it can actually take nearly 3 weeks before any signs of pregnanc... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my fear of sex?
Q. I have a problem to which I need some advice. I have been in a gay relationship with my soulmate for almost 3 years now. When we met we were polar opposites: I was 21 years old, very sexually experienced, loved one night stands, was sexually ...
A. 26 September 2008: I'm totally with you on the 'fun' part of sex; it IS fun. But it's also a bonding thing in a couple. And that's the part he's not getting. So why is it that it's such a burden? And maybe I do understand that he can't masturbate in front of you, but ... (read in full...)
How do I overcome my fear of sex?
Q. I have a problem to which I need some advice. I have been in a gay relationship with my soulmate for almost 3 years now. When we met we were polar opposites: I was 21 years old, very sexually experienced, loved one night stands, was sexually ...
A. 26 September 2008: Goodness, you're not asking much, are you? :^) Just kidding. A bit. (Right, heterosexual female tries to help out. THIS oughta be good!)
So, to take #1 first, he's basically ceded ALL control of sex to you, by being overwhelmed and not knowing what... (read in full...)
I've been doing Kegel exercises to help with the pain during sex caused by my prolapsed uterus. Is this all I can do?
Q. i just had my second child which has left my uterus prolapsed. It hurts when I have sex with my husband. I have brought it up to the doctor, tell them that I am doing the kegel exercise, but then it seems like they drop it. Like the only thing to ...
A. 25 September 2008: That sounds very frustrating for you. I know nothing about this, so I went to a website I often use for answering medical questions. I like it because the information is reviewed by medical authorities before being posted. (Except for the blogs.)
H... (read in full...)
I can't remember if he wore a condom or not, my period was very light and short, now I seem to be having pregnancy symptoms, but I can't go to the doctors on my own nor can afford a pregnancy test, help!
Q. Hi, I'm a very confused person at the moment! I would be very happy if you would reply nicely with advice and not actually insulting, because I am only 16. A very confused one at that. So, I had sex roughly on the 28th August.. I can't remembe...
A. 25 September 2008: I'm glad that my speculation on drink or drugs was incorrect. But I really have to ask, I'm not trying to be mean, how can you not know if he wore a condom? ... (read in full...)
I can't remember if he wore a condom or not, my period was very light and short, now I seem to be having pregnancy symptoms, but I can't go to the doctors on my own nor can afford a pregnancy test, help!
Q. Hi, I'm a very confused person at the moment! I would be very happy if you would reply nicely with advice and not actually insulting, because I am only 16. A very confused one at that. So, I had sex roughly on the 28th August.. I can't remembe...
A. 25 September 2008: Hi, I really can't tell you if you're pregnant or not, you need to have a pregnancy test done and probably it's not a bad idea to see a doctor. Here's some information which should get you the help you need.
"The NHS in the UK run a 24/7 tele... (read in full...)
Discharge, abdominal pains, pain during and after sex ! What is wrong with me?
Q. I am really freaked out! For the past few months my sex life has been really bad;I get horny and that but the sex isn't good anymore..I have also been getting strange,smelly discharge, abdominal pains, pain during and after sex and I don't seem to ...
A. 25 September 2008: You need to get back to your gynecologist very very soon. Have you seen him or her in the last 2 months? The pains and stinky discharge are not good signs, I think.
I put "abdominal pain during sex" into this website, and what the suggested poss... (read in full...)
I'm wondering what walks of life the aunts and uncles come from?
Q. Dear posters, I think its wonderful to have people from different walks of life, to be able to come here and look at others situations with a different set of eyes. its great! On to my question, I was left wondering what each and every one of you...
A. 25 September 2008: Nag, nag, nag, Oldersister, okay, okay, I'm here. ;) The bare bones are on my profile.
I'm currently the household manager (aka housewife) and a community volunteer with a science institution and a local arts council. In the past, I spent about 15 y... (read in full...)
How does he feel? My friends think that he blows hot and cold because he doesn't know what I want, as I tell him I don't want a relationship..but I DO!!
Q. im really confused. ive been seeing this man from work for a while now. no-one at work knows about it as we decided ages ago we wanted to have a casual relatiohsip. But now im beginning to have feelings for me but im not sure how he feels. Some...
A. 25 September 2008: Okay, first, stop lying to him. If you want a relationship, then be honest. How can he read your mind? Most guys will take what you say at face value. If you say you don't want a relationship, then you don't. They're not mind-readers, most of them, ... (read in full...)
Internet date already has a girlfriend, what shall I do? I would rather just delete his number, but how to tell him?
Q. I joined a dating website and started to talking to a guy, he messaged me first. I checked his profile and didnt really fancy him but didnt want to be nasty so chatted for a while. Anyway he turned out to be very funny, a really good laugh. And I ...
A. 25 September 2008: What's wrong with being a bit honest with him? Tell him that you enjoyed the date but don't want the drama of dating a guy with a girlfriend. Simple, not hysterical, just fact. Then you can ignore any further contact with him and delete him at ... (read in full...)
Why would he want to know how my week went? Is he just a nice guy or am I reading too much into it?
Q. Sooo this guy I've hooked up with 2 times basically let me know this past weekend that all he is really looking for is a good time and nothing more than that. This is cool with me, because I'm not really looking for anything more than that either. ...
A. 25 September 2008: You might be spending too much time thinking about his motivation at this point. If you're just 'FWB' I think that means that you don't each other explanations of what you do and how you spend your time outside the relationship. I would doubt that ... (read in full...)
Please help. I'm too scared to leave him, beacuse we have two beautiful daughters together, and I don't know what he'd do.
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for 3years and we have two kids. he always yells at me, he calls me names like bitch, whore , dumb ass, etc . he hits me and pushes me, but i love him and he says he loves me, but im not to sure. he always calls to see wher...
A. 25 September 2008: Hi, this sounds like an awful relationship. I know that you said you love him, but he is very bad for you. He hits you, calls you names and is very controlling. I'm sorry, but I don't have any magic way to make a man like that change his ways. ... (read in full...)
It's not fair on us. We want to spend some time alone, but his family keep getting in the way!
Q. hi, i love my boyfriend he is 27 years old and moved back in with his mum and dad when he broke up with his ex. We are putting in for a house together and he is fighting for his kids, but since i have been with him we dont get left alone. pe...
A. 25 September 2008: You said you want a break; I think you should take one. It's up to him and his family to deal with his children; they are not yours. You wrote "I wont a break, but he needs me with what he is going through with his kids." Has he told you he needs ... (read in full...)
My ex refuses to let me move on, he threatens me on a daily basis, police won't do anything and I'm constantly terrified when I leave the house!
Q. I need some serious help! I have been with the father of my child for 4 yrs... he was very verbally and physically abusive so I left and moved in with my mother and my son from a previous. we still tried to maintain a relationship and he promised ...
A. 25 September 2008: Sorry for your awful situation. I really don't know how to help you other than to suggest that you start making notes of the conversations he has with you. If you can, record them, letting him know that he is on a recorded line. Keep a record of ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is violent and refuses to compromise. What do I do?
Q. My girlfriend regularly and violently freaks out over ordinary problems. This morning she was angry because I stayed up late on the internet in our room after she went to sleep (having put in earplugs, as we live above a main road, and simply said ...
A. 24 September 2008: Hello? Your girlfriend PULLED A KNIFE ON ANOTHER HUMAN BEING and thinks there's nothing wrong with her? Reality check.
You have described a woman who is not in touch with reality. She has created her own fantasy of how life is or how life shou... (read in full...)
Did my hymen break? Because the day after, my period also started.
Q. i'm 19years old. i dont know about sex and hymen breaking. my bf wants to see my pussy and want to do fingerring in my hole of pussy but i dont want to do this. and when we meet l only he try to put finger in my pussy but not enter in it, and he ...
A. 23 September 2008: Hi, first of all, don't do anything you do not want to do, and do not let him force you. Okay? If he does push you to do these things and you are saying 'no' then he is not a good boyfriend, I think.
Second, it's a little difficult to unde... (read in full...)
It's not the size but how you use it that counts. Or is it?
Q. Ok then, so how are we supposed to use it? We men always keep hearing this whenever we ask for a straightforward question when asked about size. It seems women are afraid to burst bubbles/feelings - this immense beating around the bush more than a...
A. 13 September 2008: I like vanilla, chocolate, rum raisin, chocolate chip cookie dough, peach, caramel swirl, and most of the Ben & Jerrys line. Which do I prefer over all others? Depends on the day. Sorry, I'm not trying to be irritating, that's the truth.... (read in full...)
It's not the size but how you use it that counts. Or is it?
Q. Ok then, so how are we supposed to use it? We men always keep hearing this whenever we ask for a straightforward question when asked about size. It seems women are afraid to burst bubbles/feelings - this immense beating around the bush more than a...
A. 13 September 2008: It's not beating around the bush (that's a bad pun, by the way) that women are doing. You guys are so focused on your penises that you're missing the bigger picture. And we women, being superior beings, don't compartmentalize like men do. (Just ... (read in full...)
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