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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm Confused and Unhappy
Q. I met John online 5yrs ago, we kept up a long distance relationship and travelled together every year and had wonderful times together. Three years ago our daughter was born and we were just overjoyed. I have now relocated to his country at his ...
A. 7 August 2008: You've had a major upheaval in both your lives. You've moved to be with him after a long distance relationship and he's suddenly found himself with a ready-made family. A family of his own making, of course, but there it is. He might be missing his ... (read in full...)
PLEASE how do I get this MM out of my life, my head and my body.?
Q. Iam married and have been having an affair for 3 years with someone who is in a relationship. We had very very good sex,his sex life with his partner was almost non-existant (she told me that too). He always said that I was important etc,although ...
A. 7 August 2008: Hi, I think you need to take a huge step back and look at this relationship as if you were an outsider. He's married, you're married, his wife is trying to make it work. That relationship with his wife is the primary one, if he didn't love her and ... (read in full...)
He is really arrogant and shy at the same time, so how do I tell how he really feels?
Q. okay i got this love problem. I have a thing going on with one of my male friends. All summer we flirted a lot, but he wasn't asking me out or anything. So one day we finally talked about us and he confessed me that he was really into me, that he...
A. 7 August 2008: You've handed him the 'power' in this relationship at the moment. I would take it back a bit, not in a bad way, but just take back your own time and schedule and stop waiting for him to come to you. You go out with other guys, you stop waiting for ... (read in full...)
My LDR is coming to an end... it's killing me inside. Any advice?
Q. Here's the deal, I am a college student, my girlfriend and I were together for about 4 months or so and then the school year came to an end. We both decided that we wanted to do the Long Distance Relationship for the summer and we both thought ...
A. 7 August 2008: This is still a new relationship, and you have a lot to learn about each other still. Give it time and relax a bit, if you can manage. I don't like the sound of drinking too much on either of your parts, you passing out and her getting so drunk that ... (read in full...)
I don't want to ruin our friendship, but I really love this girl. We've been best friends for months and she refuses to take it one step further.
Q. I’ve been best friends with a girl for about 8 or 9 months now, and she’s the most wonderful thing that has ever happened to me. She still says we’re just friends but I feel as if our relationship has recently progressed into something more. We seem ...
A. 7 August 2008: You are her buddy who makes her feel good about herself and provides some closeness without real couple-type intimacy. I agree with Frank that you should back off from her so that you can change the tenor of the relationship. She needs to see you as ... (read in full...)
He still wants us to go on holiday at the end of the month but only after I grovelled!?? I don't know if he wants me or not.
Q. been with my boyfriend for only 4 months but fell in love very quickly with him he dithered and on day out of the blue told me he loved me which made me very happy indeed i have a trust issue due to being abandoned 2 years ago by my husband and i ...
A. 7 August 2008: Have you never been to his place? Do you have his home phone number or just his mobile? It seems odd that he hadn't mentioned his mother being ill earlier too. I would be very cautious with him, don't move to fast or sink too deeply too quickly. ... (read in full...)
We really lash out at each other when we argue...but the table always gets turned on me!! How do I deal with this??
Q. Hey all, I'm hoping to get a lil advice cuz I've run out of ideas. I've been dating this wonderful woman for 6 months now. We get along great, talk everyday, understand each other, see a future together. I truly do love her and I know she loves...
A. 7 August 2008: Oh yay! I love happy endings! I also love updates, especially when things sound so positive. I'm happy the odd rules helped, and thank you for updating; I was actually looking for this answer the other day when I was answering a similar question. I ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend stole money from my parents' house. I'm not sure what to do.
Q. I have found out my b/f has stole a lot of money from my parents house and lied to me about it. My parents know and wont let him in the house ever and are debating to call the police! I love him but I cant trust him....not sure what to do. Can ...
A. 7 August 2008: As the other aunts said, he should be your ex-boyfriend by now. The thing he's forgotten is that actions have consequences; and his choices were mad when he became a thief. I think it would be a valuable lesson to him if he were to go through the ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her how I feel? Please help.
Q. I'm in love with this girl. But problem is she does not know that I exist. Me and her used to be friends, but she's got a boy friend and he told me not to talk to her anymore, because he knew that i loved her, and if i did not stop talking to her he ...
A. 7 August 2008: What are you waiting for? I'll bet she hasn't forgotten you; she probably thinks you didn't like her since you deleted her from your electronic world. You'll have to explain that to her, so she understands it wasn't anything to do with her not being ... (read in full...)
She's with someone else, but my ex still calls me. Is it possible to remain friends?
Q. I just got off the phone with my Ex who is sleeping with someone else now. I told her I couldn't speak to her anymore and for a month she obliged me. Then started calling again so we're now "Speaking" I guess. Sometimes I look at her pictures and...
A. 6 August 2008: Ah, the opposite of love is indifference. You sound perfectly sensible about this, to be honest. It doesn't really seem to me that you even need an agony aunt! Just do what is best for your own psyche at this point. Drama queens can be so ... (read in full...)
I don't know how to prove my innocence to my husband! He thinks I had an affair, and I was only trying to help friends.
Q. My husbands friend and my best friends husband asked me for advice and help with his marriage to his wife, my best friend. I felt if I helped him I would be helping her. He and I talked by phone about their marriage. I was very close to her and ...
A. 6 August 2008: I fully agree with Samurai Rick on this one. Just stick to the truth, acknowledge that you should have told him what you were doing at the time you were doing it, and give it time. If he is so stubborn and mistrustful about this, then he had more ... (read in full...)
His threesomes and foursome in the past bother me, now I feel like I am not what he wants, especially if he brought home a girl for me to be with. !
Q. I really hope someone can help me. I have been married for 2 years. Been together 5. My first marrage. He has been married two times before me and I being his 3rd - all I got was the court house. I am 33 and he is 47. When we started seriousl...
A. 6 August 2008: You know, this question is really beyond an anonymous agony aunt's scope. There are some serious issues here, such as the multiple marriages, the distrust, the bringing a girl home, you contemplating divorce.
There's only one thing we can advi... (read in full...)
She's with someone else, but my ex still calls me. Is it possible to remain friends?
Q. I just got off the phone with my Ex who is sleeping with someone else now. I told her I couldn't speak to her anymore and for a month she obliged me. Then started calling again so we're now "Speaking" I guess. Sometimes I look at her pictures and...
A. 6 August 2008: I think that it might be possible for some people to shift from a love/sexual relationship to just friends, but it takes someone with a strong ego and also supposes that perhaps the feelings weren't really that strong.
The fact that she was your... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if he is playing mind games with me. How can I leave him when he has no one else to watch his kids while he works?
Q. I have been sleeping with this guy for almost a year now, and it seems as though at times we can be close, but then he pulls himself away from me, and when I try to pull myself away from him, he pulls me back. I've turned my phone off since ...
A. 6 August 2008: I hate to be harsh here, but you shouldn't be the one to worry if he is in a bind. They are his kids and you are not responsible for them. Even more so if you are not in a real relationship with him, sounds like you're just FWB.
He's clearly push... (read in full...)
I do not want to lose his friendship. I realise my mistakes!
Q. How can I get this man back as a friend? met him fairly recently and became friends on holiday-nothing more-unfortunately I started developing feelings for him and told him and of course he has run a mile. I KNOW its all my fault but all my life ...
A. 6 August 2008: I don't know, he ran a mile when you told him you had feelings for him? I don't think he's going to change his mind in a couple of months, so dropping an email later probably won't work. I guess it couldn't hurt, but don't count on anything.
T... (read in full...)
Would backing off make him less scared of me? Frightened I might find out things?
Q. I cannot understand this man I met quite recently. Ok were only friends although he wanted sex but i normally hold back so did. However although it sounds daft I told him how much I liked him and now he has told me there will be no more future ...
A. 6 August 2008: I would cut contact with this man. He's not going to be good for your own self-confidence and I think that he's demonstrated he's really not interested in you.
If you spend a lot of time trying to analyze him or figure out how to get him to resp... (read in full...)
I want to turn my "booty call" relationship into a friendship.
Q. Any tips/advice, i have a booty call relationship with a guy which has been going on for a year come to think of it and im bored of this and looking for a proper relationship but not nessecerily with this guy. been ignoring him for a bit but he...
A. 6 August 2008: "Hi, hey, thanks for the message. You know, I've enjoyed this relationship for what it is and I like you a lot. The thing is that I am now ready to move on and want to end the physical side of this. So thanks for the good times, I really hope we can ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is giving advice to women on a dating site. I'm worried.
Q. Hello everyone, In the last month, my boyfriend has started participatin as an advice giver on a dating site. The difference is that one that site everyone has their picture up, they all post several times a day and develop cyber friendships. He ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi, I'd be worried about this too! At least he has been honest about telling you about it. I think I would draw the line at him meeting up with one of these women without you. If they think he's single, then he is fair game. If he's been honest with ... (read in full...)
I might be pregnant. I'm looking for herbal ways to induce a miscarriage.
Q. My boyfriend and I recently had unprotected sex and i am 3 days late for my period. I do not know if I am actually pregnant yet, but we can not afford a child or a pregnancy right now. I have been looking on line for herbal ways to induce a ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi, I think that if there were a tried and true herbal method for inducing a miscarriage, every woman would know about it. I think this is a very risky way of handling this situation, as things may backfire on you, and you might suffer some health ... (read in full...)
She says she is not sure whether I'm "the one".
Q. I have a brain twister here - I have a gf for two years now - she comes from a strick Armenian Family - my dad is muslism but i am not , my mom is Christian - she says she has serious issues with that - over the past 2 years we broke up three...
A. 6 August 2008: You didn't choose your parents, so I think she is grasping at things to keep you at arm's length. She sounds like she really doesn't know what she wants and winds up getting talked into things by you.
This one is difficult to advise on, as you soun... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex and now I am very confused, don't want him to think I only want sex, I think I still love him, how should I go about fixing this?
Q. I slept with my ex and now im confused again about us. I dont know if I want something more than that or whether it was a mistake. We are always in contact since we broke up but now im afraid he'll think im a sex mad girl who is just after one ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi, sorry for not answering sooner, it's been very busy here on DearCupid and some questions seem to be slipping through the cracks. So I apologize for that.
I think you should just be honest with him about the fact that you think this was a mist... (read in full...)
Could she be pregnant?? I didn't orgasm inside her...I'm really scared for her...
Q. hey im in such an emotional nd very scary time my gf nd i were havin oral sex we den kinda had sex however i was only in her three time i did not örgasm inside her so i dnt know whats goin on shes very late in her period can she be pregnant ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi, you do sound worried. Watch this video for some informative and entertaining education on how pregnancy happens.
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
You might also buy a pregnanc... (read in full...)
My long distance girlfriend left me hanging for two months, came back around, but I think I want to end the relationship, although I love her, why shouldn't I end it?
Q. I've been dating this girl miki, For about a year now It's a rather long distance relationship. I'm 16, and shes 22. We only sadly saw each other once a month maybe twice. We always kept in touch, On phone, Text, Msn or just email. We talked ev...
A. 6 August 2008: Sounds to me that miki isn't really that interested in you, even though she's keeping you dangling. I would definitely get on with my life if I were in your shoes and simply stop talking with her for a while. If you are keeping your life on hold for ... (read in full...)
Going on date with a guy this weekend, but he knows my ex bf who has anger issues with me..
Q. I am supposed to be going on this date with a guy this weekend, but the thing is he knows my ex bf. They were kind of friends I guess you could say. So I am wondering if you think that he would mind that my ex is one of his "friends". Im not sure if ...
A. 6 August 2008: I think you should casually mention who you've dated in the past, so that your date knows about your ex. I think that would be only fair to him, if you're aware that they know each other. It may be that your ex is just trying to keep you from being ... (read in full...)
Can a girl get pregnant with the withdrawal method?
Q. Hi! I recently had sex with an older guy. I know pulling out is not good so we used a condom. Can a girl get pregnant if he takes it off at the end and lets his sperm out on her stomach? This is what he did with me. I'm pretty sure none of it got in ...
A. 6 August 2008: Here's a very entertaining and informative video which discusses pregnancy and how it happens. I learned a lot, and I thought I was well educated on the topic!
h... (read in full...)
I'm falling for my mates ex-girlfriend!
Q. I'm falling for my mates ex-girlfriend, they aren't together as such anymore but they still hook up. Me and the girl have history that goes back before my mate came along yet nothing ever happened although we both wanted it. Three years down the ...
A. 6 August 2008: This one is tricky. You risk losing your mate if you go for the girl, and you'll never know if you and the girl work as a couple if you don't get the chance to try.
I think it's difficult to watch a mate date your ex; even though you're broken up, ... (read in full...)
I am pregnant with his baby, there are rumors that he is going to marry someone else, he says, it is not true, I am so confused, I really love him, but this is making me crazy, what should I do?
Q. Me and my ex dated for almost three years. He broke up with me because he thought I cheated on him. When he broke up with me I was 4 months pregnant. The day he dumped me he started going out with another girl. There were rumors that he was cheating ...
A. 6 August 2008: RCN has given you really good advice here. I would only ask if you have actually been over to his place recently, or does he come over to your place?
I think that he sounds like he has some serious commitment issues if he's not prepared to get back... (read in full...)
His friends are sending me mail, saying this guy that I like, loves me, as if it is from him, should I confront them or just ignore them?
Q. hi through past couple of months i've had serious issues wit boys and its not my fault...but any way this kid that i really really LIKED he sent me an im saying iloveyou and then he signed off you know normally you would think this is a good but its ...
A. 6 August 2008: I like tryin2helpu's strategy! That's brilliant. You turn whatever they say to you into a joke. I think that is a good way to handle people like that, turn it back on them.
Also, if you can manage it, ignoring them as if they were the fungus livi... (read in full...)
We need to focus on school, but should we stay in our relationship?
Q. Hey yeah so me and my boyfriend keep having these talks about our relationship because, im starting my junior year, which both of us know is very important, and hes going into his first year of college. and we keep talking about whether or not its a ...
A. 6 August 2008: Hi, I know this is tough for you. Your boyfriend is going off to college and things aren't going to be the same again. I'm going to offer my own thinking on this, and I'm not trying to be the voice of gloom and doom or anything like that, but this ... (read in full...)
Why do I have these feelings for my father-in-law?
Q. For the past few weeks I've noticed myself having sexual feelings towards my father-in-law, I don't know why, but I do have these feelings. I hate myself sometimes for having these feelings. I'm not sexually attracted to any other men apart ...
A. 6 August 2008: I haven't a clue why you've got this attraction to your father-in-law. Perhaps he reminds you on some subconscious level of your wife? She is after all his daughter. Maybe his persona is somehow appealing to you? Is he showing any reciprocity in ... (read in full...)
I've always been more attractive than my little sister and now she's acting resentful and wild. What do I do?
Q. well my sister is 3 years younger then me and i think she always kind of looked up to me. i had a lot of boyfriends, she didnt have many and i was generally the one that got noticed. Anyway a couple of months ago her first ever boyfriend tried it on ...
A. 6 August 2008: Oh, this is hard, isn't it? I think you just keep doing what you've been doing. Be supportive of her, encourage her to talk, try to keep an eye on her as best you can. You should talk to your parents if you see her doing something really dangerous. ... (read in full...)
This girl keeps undermineing everything I say even when I know I'm 100% right...what do I do??
Q. There is this girl on my course who always seems to undermine me, no matter what I do. At first I thought maybe she was just irreverent with everybody but now I feel convinced that everytime we have a friendly conversation she picks at what I say, ...
A. 5 August 2008: Good point, anonymous! It may indeed be a bad idea to touch her. I'd just do the cut out body move and ignore her as best I could. Good luck.... (read in full...)
Monthly bill obligations...he's not fullfilling his end of the deal. What should I do?
Q. I think perhaps i already know the answer to my question but need to hear it from others too, this month my live in partner has decided he can only pay one quarter of our shared bills instead of the usual half, he says he cant afford to give me more ...
A. 5 August 2008: I'm sorry I don't know of any magical way to make him pay his fair share. It seems to me that you've been awfully patient with him. I expect you must be very sick and tired of not being his top priority. Have you ever reevaluated living with him? I ... (read in full...)
I always thought I'd get married, have kids etc. Now I'm not so sure.
Q. Hello, I'm having a bit of confusion here. I always thought I'd get married. Have kids, raise a family, be happy. My boyfriend always tells me how much he loves and how he wants to marry me and spend the rest of his life with me, after we graduat...
A. 5 August 2008: Hi, I think marriage is kind of fun! You have this great roommate who is also your best friend and bedmate and you can plan and do things together, and have lots of laughs and loving while doing them. The back scratching alone is almost worth it. ... (read in full...)
Is she hinting she wants to get back with me?
Q. I ring my ex girlfirend (we have been broken up for just over a month we were together for a year and a half we broke up because I got drunk at her prom and embrassed her and we had a huge arguement). Well after txting her loads asking her to get bk ...
A. 5 August 2008: I don't know, Tom, a month has gone by and she hasn't taken you back yet. She might not have been as into you as you thought, and the drunken scene was the excuse she'd been looking for to end it.
I mean, there's drunk, fall down the stairs, slur... (read in full...)
Monthly bill obligations...he's not fullfilling his end of the deal. What should I do?
Q. I think perhaps i already know the answer to my question but need to hear it from others too, this month my live in partner has decided he can only pay one quarter of our shared bills instead of the usual half, he says he cant afford to give me more ...
A. 5 August 2008: Tell him that his financial obligations should be fulfilled, and that means that bills come before leisure activity. Are you going on this holiday with him? I don't know why that matters, really, but in a way, you're subsidizing his entertainment ... (read in full...)
This girl keeps undermineing everything I say even when I know I'm 100% right...what do I do??
Q. There is this girl on my course who always seems to undermine me, no matter what I do. At first I thought maybe she was just irreverent with everybody but now I feel convinced that everytime we have a friendly conversation she picks at what I say, ...
A. 5 August 2008: O Connor has a good strategy if you feel you can speak with her about this. She may not be aware she's being so contrary with you.
You could try heading her off at the pass. Before you make a comment, say, "I know Diane will find fault with this... (read in full...)
Is she hinting she wants to get back with me?
Q. I ring my ex girlfirend (we have been broken up for just over a month we were together for a year and a half we broke up because I got drunk at her prom and embrassed her and we had a huge arguement). Well after txting her loads asking her to get bk ...
A. 5 August 2008: I think you're just going to have to be patient in this situation. There are two possibilities here. One, she does not want you back as a boyfriend ever, but is staying friends because she doesn't want to be mean or hurt you. The other possibility ... (read in full...)
When my wife pees she pees blood...what is causing this??
Q. Hi i would just like to as a question about my wife, and i know she should go to the doctor but she says she is too bizzy. 2 weeks ago when she pee-ed she pee-ed blood, she did it several time that day and for the next few days. she is late 4...
A. 4 August 2008: My father had blood in his urine and he turned out to have bladder cancer. Blood in the urine is not normal and it is imperative that she sees a doctor sooner. Busy is no excuse.... (read in full...)
He's obsessed with sex, I'm begining to think this is all he wants..
Q. I've been with my bf for about 5 months now. When were together he wants to have sex at least 4-5 times a day. Now that my bf has been away for about a month, every time i talk to him, he keeps talking about how he cant wait to do it with me like ...
A. 1 August 2008: Have you ever simply asked him your last question?
"Honey, why can't you just tell me that you miss me?"
"Sometimes I worry that you're only with me because of sex. I know you are really into it, and I enjoy it too, but I'm beginning to feel une... (read in full...)
How do I get my mom to quit telling me to get a girlfriend?!
Q. Hi, Slightly unusual question, but how can I get mum to stop telling me to get a girlfriend? I'm 21 and never had a "serious" girlfriend yet, but this really doesn't bother me. I just simply haven't met a girl that I really like and trust yet...
A. 1 August 2008: Hahaha! I love the dressing up a friend as a really unsuitable girlfriend idea. That's great.
My mother too, sometimes harps on things and really bugs me. I've taken to simply ignoring her when she is like that. I'll tell that the comments are gett... (read in full...)
We really lash out at each other when we argue...but the table always gets turned on me!! How do I deal with this??
Q. Hey all, I'm hoping to get a lil advice cuz I've run out of ideas. I've been dating this wonderful woman for 6 months now. We get along great, talk everyday, understand each other, see a future together. I truly do love her and I know she loves...
A. 27 June 2008: Forgot the most important rule.
Keep your sense of humor. Very very important.... (read in full...)
We really lash out at each other when we argue...but the table always gets turned on me!! How do I deal with this??
Q. Hey all, I'm hoping to get a lil advice cuz I've run out of ideas. I've been dating this wonderful woman for 6 months now. We get along great, talk everyday, understand each other, see a future together. I truly do love her and I know she loves...
A. 27 June 2008: You both need to learn the rules of fair fighting. Sounds idiotic, I know, but if you adopt some set guidelines when you're both calm, when things escalate into a fight, you have a framework that will keep things in bounds.
Some rules I suggest ... (read in full...)
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