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I think he's gone off of me
Answered by Honeypie + on 25 September 2023.
 Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years, when wee meet he loved to party, joke and had a great sex life, he is in his late 40s never married or had kids but always worked hard and still does. So that was his life. I'm in my early 30s loved the young ...A. 25 September 2023: I agree with the nonny who said:" Um, it kind of sounds to me like he decided he wanted to become an adult?"
Yes, he sounds like he has stepped up to the plate with you and your daughter as a father figure.
Not wanting to party or have people t... (read in full...)
Wife moves all my stuff around. How can I make her understand how much it bothers me?
Answered by Honeypie + on 25 September 2023.
Q. My wife and I have a very small house and we are both packrats in our own ways. For example, she has a thing with coffee mugs and has about 40 of them while I don’t use them at all but I have a lot of electronics accessories like cables, batterie...A. 25 September 2023: How about the two of you sit down and have a talk about HOW to organize your OWN stuff?
As someone who likes to sew, embroider, and make jewelry, I have a lot of "things". It's organized and out of the way. My husband has his "stuff" organize... (read in full...)
Embarrassed him at the airport & things haven’t been the same since.
Answered by anonymous on 25 September 2023.
Q. I’ve made a complete fool of myself and not sure how to fix it…. Please don’t tell me it’s my fault as I know it is and I’m not looking for sympathy. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years- we don’t live together (we both rent our own pro...A. 25 September 2023: I don't think you did anything wrong. On the contrary what you did was a very nice gesture. I wish I had someone caring like you. Obviously he has something on his mind. You have to find out. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
I am missing my partner after our breakup
Answered by kenny + on 25 September 2023.
 Q. I have recently left my partner, who I didn’t want to leave but the relationship was toxic. He blamed me for everything that was wrong, said I didn’t communicate with him. I did, but he didn’t want to listen or compromise on anything. We were ...A. 25 September 2023: You should not regret your decision because you 100% did the right thing.
the relationship was toxic and coming with that a myriad of red flags, you were right to do what you did.
You just need to give yourself time, the feelings you are... (read in full...)
My girlfriends says sex hurts
Answered by anonymous on 25 September 2023.
Q. Hi; my gf often complains that it hurts her when inside. She's wet, we use lube but I can't cum until I go hard. Is there anything we can do to make it easier? Sometimes she's just looks me in the eye out of pure love and takes it hard but I don't ...A. 25 September 2023: Before they can enjoy intercourse comfortably, most women need considerable warm-up time, 30 to 45 minutes. If men push before women feel receptive, the women experience pain. Pain-free lovemaking is based on leisurely, playful, whole-body massage. ... (read in full...)
I am missing my partner after our breakup
Answered by anonymous on 25 September 2023.
Q. I have recently left my partner, who I didn’t want to leave but the relationship was toxic. He blamed me for everything that was wrong, said I didn’t communicate with him. I did, but he didn’t want to listen or compromise on anything. We were ...A. 25 September 2023: I could have written your post as going through the same thing I have days where I feel so lonely Its like I want to get out of my head. What I'm learning is cliche as it is time is going to make you feel better and when you meet the right man who ... (read in full...)
I think he's gone off of me
Answered by anonymous on 24 September 2023.
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years, when wee meet he loved to party, joke and had a great sex life, he is in his late 40s never married or had kids but always worked hard and still does. So that was his life. I'm in my early 30s loved the young ...A. 24 September 2023: Um, it kind of sounds to me like he decided he wanted to become an adult?
Everything you describe (apart from the lack of sex) sounds reasonable to me.
I have a relative in their 40s who still goes out partying and slamming drinks etc and hone... (read in full...)
I am missing my partner after our breakup
Answered by Honeypie + on 24 September 2023.
Q. I have recently left my partner, who I didn’t want to leave but the relationship was toxic. He blamed me for everything that was wrong, said I didn’t communicate with him. I did, but he didn’t want to listen or compromise on anything. We were ...A. 24 September 2023: Consider your ex a "bad habit". While I get that you were with him and cared for him, HE didn't return those feelings at all.
What you miss are the GOOD times you had (I'm guessing you also HAD some good times).
Next time you feel like you mi... (read in full...)
Wife moves all my stuff around. How can I make her understand how much it bothers me?
Answered by anonymous on 24 September 2023.
Q. My wife and I have a very small house and we are both packrats in our own ways. For example, she has a thing with coffee mugs and has about 40 of them while I don’t use them at all but I have a lot of electronics accessories like cables, batterie...A. 24 September 2023: Look, the problem is that your relationsip can be boile dto "pot calling a pan black". You need to seriously separate your space, which means that areas liek kitchen and bathroom should be no man's land where you need to go minimalist and declutter ... (read in full...)
I think he's gone off of me
Answered by anonymous on 24 September 2023.
Q. I have been with my partner for 3 years, when wee meet he loved to party, joke and had a great sex life, he is in his late 40s never married or had kids but always worked hard and still does. So that was his life. I'm in my early 30s loved the young ...A. 24 September 2023: I don't understand your question.
First of all, what is it that you want?
Do you want a partner or a stepdad for your kid, or something casual?
What you say about him partying and drinking? If that was also you, at your age and a kid, you sound a ... (read in full...)
Embarrassed him at the airport & things haven’t been the same since.
Answered by kenny + on 24 September 2023.
Q. I’ve made a complete fool of myself and not sure how to fix it…. Please don’t tell me it’s my fault as I know it is and I’m not looking for sympathy. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years- we don’t live together (we both rent our own pro...A. 24 September 2023: I actually agree with your friends and family, i think he is being too sensitive and unappreciative.
You both had not seen each other in a long time, i just think that a couple in love who have not seen each other in months the reaction at the a... (read in full...)
Embarrassed him at the airport & things haven’t been the same since.
Answered by anonymous on 24 September 2023.
Q. I’ve made a complete fool of myself and not sure how to fix it…. Please don’t tell me it’s my fault as I know it is and I’m not looking for sympathy. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years- we don’t live together (we both rent our own pro...A. 24 September 2023: Well, here's the thing. From what you said, I agree that there's something else also going on. After 4 years of dating you're thinking about moving in together and...
He was probably stunned that you didn't know him so well after 4 years of datin... (read in full...)
Embarrassed him at the airport & things haven’t been the same since.
Answered by anonymous on 24 September 2023.
Q. I’ve made a complete fool of myself and not sure how to fix it…. Please don’t tell me it’s my fault as I know it is and I’m not looking for sympathy. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 4 years- we don’t live together (we both rent our own pro...A. 24 September 2023: I wouldn't say you did anything wrong here. Your partner has made you feel that way but honestly? I suspect he has a serious case of the holiday blues. Maybe he had a great time in America and is simply miserable being home. That's normal. A ... (read in full...)
How can I make amends with my friend about the money?
Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 23 September 2023.
 Q. I’m currently feeling very guilty for accidentally misleading a friend regarding helping her out financially….. 18 months ago my friend was facing a potential situation where by she would need a solicitor and she was struggling to cover the cos...A. 23 September 2023: Take a step back and analyse this friendship. She sounds to lead a chaotic life. When you made the offer to lend her money 18 months ago, she assumed you and your husband had it to spare so, when she needed money again, she assumed this was still ... (read in full...)
Early friend dating and sensing a conflcit coming
Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 23 September 2023.
Q. I have an inquiry about new friends. I try and be very open to different kinds of friends. I've seen people who are closed off and I feel they miss out on great people because they are so safety-concerned and any sign of remote conflict, sends them ...A. 23 September 2023: A few things came to mind as I read your post:
1. You have a gut instinct to protect you. If your gut is telling you this "friendship" is not good for you, then listen and call it a day.
2. Friendship should not be such hard work, especially... (read in full...)
Followup to post produce
Answered by Anonymous 123 + on 23 September 2023.
 Q. This is a follow up to my post on the 29th August “ Are we being harsh by no longer giving neighbors fresh produce as they seem to take advantage?” I wanted to thank everyone for backing us up and making us realize we weren’t being harsh for ...A. 23 September 2023: This makes me so happy! Good for you! And a cheeky cow she is! Do let us know if this happens again... I would love to know her reaction ??... (read in full...)
Suffering from PTSD from an event from my past
Answered by anonymous on 23 September 2023.
Q. I am in a bit of a mess emotionally and I am wondering what to do. I stupidly took part in a reality TV show 20 years ago. The footage is damaging bot to my wellbeing and my career and I wish to remove rights to broadcasting including airing...A. 23 September 2023: I would say contact other people in the reality TV industry who have been through this and came out stronger. Katie price is one who has been through it all through TV and media, laws and suffered PTSD she has a radio podcast where she gives advice ... (read in full...)
Followup to post produce
Answered by kenny + on 22 September 2023.
Q. This is a follow up to my post on the 29th August “ Are we being harsh by no longer giving neighbors fresh produce as they seem to take advantage?” I wanted to thank everyone for backing us up and making us realize we weren’t being harsh for ...A. 22 September 2023: Well done you, you did the right thing.
Lol, I agree, what a cheeky cow. ... (read in full...)
Followup to post produce
Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2023.
Q. This is a follow up to my post on the 29th August “ Are we being harsh by no longer giving neighbors fresh produce as they seem to take advantage?” I wanted to thank everyone for backing us up and making us realize we weren’t being harsh for ...A. 22 September 2023: Good for you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Please continue doing this!
She will come back for sure and you need to repat this verbatim. Repeat this every time she comes. Shhe will try to guilt trip you, pout, make you feel uncomfortable... just ignore this and... (read in full...)
Followup to post produce
Answered by Honeypie + on 22 September 2023.
Q. This is a follow up to my post on the 29th August “ Are we being harsh by no longer giving neighbors fresh produce as they seem to take advantage?” I wanted to thank everyone for backing us up and making us realize we weren’t being harsh for ...A. 22 September 2023: Thank you for the update!
Well done! And the cheek of her!
There are plenty of ways to find homemade jam, while hers might be a good one you can find better.
Keep it up!
... (read in full...)
Dating a single parent with a teenager
Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2023.
Q. I am a single woman in my early 50s with no kids. I'm trying online dating which is a minefield. However over the last week I have made a good connection with a man in his late 50s. We have had two lengthy conversations this weekend on the phone. He ...A. 22 September 2023: You are making out you are dating someone. You have just started getting to know him, there is no relationship and there may or may not be one in the future. Responsible, fair parents who look to the future do not rush into relationships and they ... (read in full...)
I'm wondering whether I made the right decision in changing gynocologists. What do you guys think?
Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2023.
Q. I'm wondering whether I made the right decision in changing gynocologists. What do you guys think? I have a polyp. My usual specialist is away, so I booked with another. I'm sitting in the waiting room and a man phones to ask if he can spea...A. 22 September 2023: Many gynos are totally self employed. They do not have a boss. They often have lots of private patients and they are each individual cases. They are very popular and busy. They cannot sit there chatting to you for ages about your options and ... (read in full...)
Accused of bragging about my 2nd property at work
Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2023.
Q. My husband and i recently bought a 2nd property - it’s an apartment on the beach here in the UK. We’ve saved up and made sacrifices for years to be able to do this and are proud that we have been able to do so. At work last week a few ...A. 22 September 2023: No win no fee do not do harassment cases and this is not harassment anyway. You have every right to be proud of your achievements but if you tell losers about them they get jealous - you should expect that.
Do what you want outside work, face boo... (read in full...)
Followup to post produce
Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2023.
Q. This is a follow up to my post on the 29th August “ Are we being harsh by no longer giving neighbors fresh produce as they seem to take advantage?” I wanted to thank everyone for backing us up and making us realize we weren’t being harsh for ...A. 22 September 2023: Thanks for the post. I find it very amusing that someone says they are having a dinner party and this somehow means that you should grow vegetables and give them to her so that she does not have to go to the shop and buy some!! Then when that does ... (read in full...)
Dating a single parent with a teenager
Answered by anonymous on 22 September 2023.
Q. I am a single woman in my early 50s with no kids. I'm trying online dating which is a minefield. However over the last week I have made a good connection with a man in his late 50s. We have had two lengthy conversations this weekend on the phone. He ...A. 22 September 2023: It doesn't surprise me that he hadn't told his teenage daughter he is on dating websites. He probably doesn't want to freak out his daughter or upset her. If he forms a longer term relationship with someone then at that point I expect he would ... (read in full...)
Suffering from PTSD from an event from my past
Answered by Honeypie + on 21 September 2023.
Q. I am in a bit of a mess emotionally and I am wondering what to do. I stupidly took part in a reality TV show 20 years ago. The footage is damaging bot to my wellbeing and my career and I wish to remove rights to broadcasting including airing...A. 21 September 2023: Two things come to my mind.
1. ACCEPT your past. It's part of how you got to where you are now. Good AND bad. Proud moments and the embarrassing ones.
Once you get past your childhood EVERYONE has made mistakes. Everyone has things they are ... (read in full...)
Suffering from PTSD from an event from my past
Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2023.
Q. I am in a bit of a mess emotionally and I am wondering what to do. I stupidly took part in a reality TV show 20 years ago. The footage is damaging bot to my wellbeing and my career and I wish to remove rights to broadcasting including airing...A. 21 September 2023: I'm sorry to hear about your suffering. I understand that you view situation as having an external problem, wishing to erase your past, that you are constantly being reminded of due to the video footage being availabe online and otherwise. I ... (read in full...)
Accused of bragging about my 2nd property at work
Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2023.
Q. My husband and i recently bought a 2nd property - it’s an apartment on the beach here in the UK. We’ve saved up and made sacrifices for years to be able to do this and are proud that we have been able to do so. At work last week a few ...A. 21 September 2023: As well as going to HR I'd also suggest ring a 'no-win, no-fee' solicitor and ask if you have a case for harassment or bullying by your manager. HR can be helpful but they ultimately work for the company and can be extremely friendly all the... (read in full...)
Suffering from PTSD from an event from my past
Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2023.
Q. I am in a bit of a mess emotionally and I am wondering what to do. I stupidly took part in a reality TV show 20 years ago. The footage is damaging bot to my wellbeing and my career and I wish to remove rights to broadcasting including airing...A. 21 September 2023: I’m sorry to hear this. I have no idea legally what can be done - do you remember if you signed a waiver regarding the broadcasting of it?
Regarding ptsd, have you spoken to your Dr regarding this? They can get you the help you need. Also if you ... (read in full...)
Early friend dating and sensing a conflcit coming
Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2023.
Q. I have an inquiry about new friends. I try and be very open to different kinds of friends. I've seen people who are closed off and I feel they miss out on great people because they are so safety-concerned and any sign of remote conflict, sends them ...A. 21 September 2023: What is wrong with moat women? They want to be equal until you stop courting, wooing, complimenting, paying... and then they with hold sex and act like its a prize to be earned. IF they really wanted equality they'd be a lot quivmcker to put out ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to delete my ex and his friends and family from my social media?
Answered by anonymous on 21 September 2023.
Q. Hello everyone! I wanted to post here because I’m looking for advice, yesterday I unfollowed my ex from all social media, and I blocked him on WhatsApp. Also, I deleted his family and friends from Instagram. This was a huge step for me. It makes...A. 21 September 2023: Anything along the lines of "I don't like labels" "let's just go with the flow" or anything other than "yes, I'm looking for something serious but I want to take it slow to make sure it's what we both want" essentially means he wants primarily sex. ... (read in full...)
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