New here? Register in under one minute   Already a member? Login245032 questions, 1084630 answers  

  DearCupid.ORG relationship advice
  Got a relationship, dating, love or sex question? Ask for help!Search
 New Questions Answers . Most Discussed Viewed . Unanswered . Followups . Forums . Top agony aunts . About Us .  Articles  . Sitemap

Newest answers

These are the newest answers to questions on Dear Cupid. You can also now browse the questions by those which have the most active discussions surrounding them recently.

Her fiancé makes me cringe!

Answered by Fatherly Advice + on 14 July 2024.

Fatherly Advice agony auntQ.   No idea if this is the right place to vent but here we go… I’m not at all keen on my friends fiancé. They’ve been together for 8 years and have 2 kids together- he is in his late 30’s but half the time behaves like a child himself- he does...

A.   14 July 2024: So, I see that you are not a friend to the relationship. Go back and read your post with an out side perspective. Think about how you would feel if your friend was thinking things like this about your husband.... (read in full...)

Am I being a fool?

Answered by anonymous on 14 July 2024.

Q.   Hello, So I've been seeing someone from a different country. We've been seeing each other for about 3 years. He does not have a steady income. He sells clothes. Jobs are scarce where he is. He always asks for money and it never seems lik...

A.   14 July 2024: Indiglorex. Most would not want to be with someone who has been arrested or is in prison or a repeat offender with the police, let alone paying for their bail. You need standards that match yours. Mix with people who are the same as you. If you are ... (read in full...)

Her fiancé makes me cringe!

Answered by anonymous on 13 July 2024.

Q.   No idea if this is the right place to vent but here we go… I’m not at all keen on my friends fiancé. They’ve been together for 8 years and have 2 kids together- he is in his late 30’s but half the time behaves like a child himself- he does...

A.   13 July 2024: Yeah I agree with others in that he is trying far too hard to kill you with kindness having sensed you don't really like him. I understand your discomfort but have you thought that a lot of your discomfort may be down to guilt for having inadvert... (read in full...)

Her fiancé makes me cringe!

Answered by anonymous on 13 July 2024.

Q.   No idea if this is the right place to vent but here we go… I’m not at all keen on my friends fiancé. They’ve been together for 8 years and have 2 kids together- he is in his late 30’s but half the time behaves like a child himself- he does...

A.   13 July 2024: They are as good as married with two kids. But as you're recently figuring out, everything is presented in a slightly varying manner. I think you should allow this friend to move on with her life as you do not enjoy being an annex to her fam... (read in full...)

Her fiancé makes me cringe!

Answered by Keen Fox + on 13 July 2024.

Q.   No idea if this is the right place to vent but here we go… I’m not at all keen on my friends fiancé. They’ve been together for 8 years and have 2 kids together- he is in his late 30’s but half the time behaves like a child himself- he does...

A.   13 July 2024: He’s engaged and he’s giving flowers and chocolates to another girl who is not his fiancée? And singing her a love song? I would NOT be okay with my wife doing that. You need to talk to his fiancée and warn her about what’s going on. The... (read in full...)

Do I lend him the money for her engagement ring?

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 12 July 2024.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   My friend has been with her boyfriend for 5 years. He is a really nice guy - I would not say I know him really well but we have hung out on a fair few occasions and he’s easy to talk too and I know he treats my friend well. He contacted me the...

A.   12 July 2024: Do you lend him the money? HELL NO! Not your relationship, not your ring, not your responsibility. The fact that he tried to guilt trip you into it would be the final nail in the coffin for me. YOUR money, YOUR choice how you spend it. He is one e... (read in full...)

Her fiancé makes me cringe!

Answered by Youcannotbeserious + on 12 July 2024.

Youcannotbeserious agony auntQ.   No idea if this is the right place to vent but here we go… I’m not at all keen on my friends fiancé. They’ve been together for 8 years and have 2 kids together- he is in his late 30’s but half the time behaves like a child himself- he does...

A.   12 July 2024: Oh dear. Awkward. Unfortunately we cannot pick who our friends choose to be with. The fact that he keeps tagging along when you and your friend go out would seem to suggest he is either lonely and has no friends of his own, he considers you as a ... (read in full...)

Her fiancé makes me cringe!

Answered by Honeypie + on 12 July 2024.

Honeypie agony auntQ.   No idea if this is the right place to vent but here we go… I’m not at all keen on my friends fiancé. They’ve been together for 8 years and have 2 kids together- he is in his late 30’s but half the time behaves like a child himself- he does...

A.   12 July 2024: Yeah, he is cringe and corny for sure. BUT! And this is a BIG BUT.... Your friend loves him. Or she drank his "cool-aid" and has gotten so used to having a goofy partner. If she can NOT meet up without him and the kids, then maybe you nee... (read in full...)

Do I lend him the money for her engagement ring?

Answered by anonymous on 11 July 2024.

Q.   My friend has been with her boyfriend for 5 years. He is a really nice guy - I would not say I know him really well but we have hung out on a fair few occasions and he’s easy to talk too and I know he treats my friend well. He contacted me the...

A.   11 July 2024: Don't do it. You won't see the money again. Also, it's a big red flag for their relationship that he can't even save up an extra £250 for the ring but can afford to go on holiday. He is asking for money off you so it's not such an 'investment' for ... (read in full...)

Do I lend him the money for her engagement ring?

Answered by anonymous on 11 July 2024.

Q.   My friend has been with her boyfriend for 5 years. He is a really nice guy - I would not say I know him really well but we have hung out on a fair few occasions and he’s easy to talk too and I know he treats my friend well. He contacted me the...

A.   11 July 2024: It would be ok if he borrowed from a bank. But he turned to his future wives best friend. That's a huge red alert and you should be aware that it's not normally how it's done!... (read in full...)

Do I lend him the money for her engagement ring?

Answered by anonymous on 11 July 2024.

Q.   My friend has been with her boyfriend for 5 years. He is a really nice guy - I would not say I know him really well but we have hung out on a fair few occasions and he’s easy to talk too and I know he treats my friend well. He contacted me the...

A.   11 July 2024: I don't have much to add other than going off of your response, it sounds like you want to lend him the money and so go for it. It sounds like you have a lesson to learn. Of course I will add however that most of us have been in your position... (read in full...)

Toxic Sil 2

Answered by anonymous on 10 July 2024.

Q.   How do I deal with a toxic sister inlaw who lives in the same family My husband shares a property with his sister bought by the late mum..We live in the main house and she lives in the quarters ..the lady is older than my husband and has been spo...

A.   10 July 2024: Tell her how it makes you feel when she does certain things. It's called using 'I ' statements. It's less confrontational and might lead to a better understanding of each other. I find it surprising to hear that you think she has made it her miss... (read in full...)

Was she being truthful with her goals or was it just some elaborate line?

Answered by anonymous on 10 July 2024.

Q.   I matched with a woman on a dating app and after a couple pleasant exchanges we met for drinks at a bar. We shared some chicken tenders as well and I had an incredibly nice time with her. She was very lively, passionate about a variety of things ...

A.   10 July 2024: We matched on a dating app usually means I like the looks of her and she agreed to meet. Women don't usually go by looks, but they might for just one meet. Then if they find out you lack money, manners, are boring or whatever they make sure they ... (read in full...)

Toxic Sil 2

Answered by anonymous on 10 July 2024.

Q.   How do I deal with a toxic sister inlaw who lives in the same family My husband shares a property with his sister bought by the late mum..We live in the main house and she lives in the quarters ..the lady is older than my husband and has been spo...

A.   10 July 2024: You contradict yourself when you say you sometimes feed her child. Either she provides for the child or she does not. You can report her to social services or the equivalent if she does not work, has a mental health issue and neglects her chil... (read in full...)

Do I lend him the money for her engagement ring?

Answered by anonymous on 10 July 2024.

Q.   My friend has been with her boyfriend for 5 years. He is a really nice guy - I would not say I know him really well but we have hung out on a fair few occasions and he’s easy to talk too and I know he treats my friend well. He contacted me the...

A.   10 July 2024: He works two jobs? A proper job is 40 hours a week, so I am sure he does not work 80 hours a week, which is two jobs. You must mean two small part time jobs that don't amount to one proper job!... (read in full...)

Do I lend him the money for her engagement ring?

Answered by anonymous on 10 July 2024.

Q.   My friend has been with her boyfriend for 5 years. He is a really nice guy - I would not say I know him really well but we have hung out on a fair few occasions and he’s easy to talk too and I know he treats my friend well. He contacted me the...

A.   10 July 2024: I am an old lady now, but when I was in my 20s through no fault of my own I was living alone and having to pay the loan on my very tiny ordinary house alone. I worked from 9 am till 11 pm seven days a week with no days off so I could cover it. I ... (read in full...)

Do I lend him the money for her engagement ring?

Answered by anonymous on 10 July 2024.

Q.   My friend has been with her boyfriend for 5 years. He is a really nice guy - I would not say I know him really well but we have hung out on a fair few occasions and he’s easy to talk too and I know he treats my friend well. He contacted me the...

A.   10 July 2024: You say he is a great man and a hard worker. But there is working and working smart. He ought to learn skills, get an education - he should have thought of this year ago. He is not a planner or intelligent. He allows life to throw him curve balls ... (read in full...)

Recent answerers

Fatherly Advice agony auntYoucannotbeserious agony aunt
Honeypie agony auntkenny agony aunt
mystiquek agony auntMyau agony aunt

Browse

Recent questions
Recent answers
Unanswered questions
Most discussed
Most viewed

Age differences (5798)
Big Questions (35181)
Breaking up (29312)
Cheating (21854)
Crushes (5756)
Dating (84722)
Faded love (7481)
Family (22043)
Flirting (527)
Forbidden love (4518)
Friends (35210)
Friends with Benefits (1189)
Gay relationships (6140)
Health (18255)
Long distance (8485)
Love stories (2335)
Marriage problems (15835)
Online dating (5308)
Pornography (3041)
Pregnancy (8220)
Sex (40578)
Site News (167)
Social Media (439)
Teenage (41888)
The ex-factor (22492)
Three is a crowd (12765)
Troubled relationships (69145)
Trust issues (26916)
Virginity (4588)

Our other life advice sites

Parenting advice
Career advice
Financial advice

Stats

245032 questions asked.

241755 answered (99%)

4.43 answers per question

1084630 answers in total.

(see more stats)

Privacy Policy

Syndicate

You can read this relationship blog in your RSS reader using our XML feed. Learn more...

RSS feedXML feed

Subscribe with Bloglines

Most active agony aunts
(past three months)

= Top Rated by readers!

Our favourite relationship and dating links:

All Content Copyright (C) DearCupid.ORG 2004-2008 - we actively monitor for copyright theft

0.375003599998308!