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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Could he have mistaken thrush for chlamydia?
Q. a guy i had slept with accused me of giving him chlamydia when we had sex last week. he told me he had been checked up and had it..so i went to get checked out, but am still awaiting the results. he told another guy i had slept with that he should ...
A. 11 September 2008: I'm so happy to hear that you are clear. I hope that the links I gave you were helpful, and that you'll continue to protect your health.
And give the guy who is obviously lying and spreading rumors about you a wide berth. He's got something wron... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 29 August 2008: Please let us know how it goes. Remember, calm and loving, calm and loving.... (read in full...)
I want to spend more time with him but he apparently can't. Should I give up?
Q. i have been seing this guy on and off since late last year. The problem is he cant commit to me. we text every day and talk on the phones about once a week we live a lil way apart but its only a 20 min drive. ( we both have cars and drive) t...
A. 29 August 2008: Sorry, I hit the add your answer button before I was finished with my answer to you.
If I were you, I would switch him to the distant but good friend category. I would stop being his 'friend with benefits,' because it's keeping me from finding anot... (read in full...)
I want to spend more time with him but he apparently can't. Should I give up?
Q. i have been seing this guy on and off since late last year. The problem is he cant commit to me. we text every day and talk on the phones about once a week we live a lil way apart but its only a 20 min drive. ( we both have cars and drive) t...
A. 29 August 2008: He says you're his best friend but he only sees you every 6-8 weeks? You speak to him once a week on the telephone? And you live 20 minutes apart? What does he do for a living that keeps him so busy?
You know what? It doesn't really matter. You ... (read in full...)
Did he take advantage of me?!
Q. I was making out with my boyfriend tonight and he decided to take things further by putting his hands up my top while he lay on top of me kissing. I kept pulling his hand out of my top but he just kept going back to sneaking up my top! I kept ...
A. 29 August 2008: Emily is right, you know.
Fool me once, shame on you.
Fool me twice, shame on me.
Fool me thrice, shame on me for not taking the advice I asked for.
I sincerely hope we don't see you with a later question saying that you regret having gone too ... (read in full...)
Why do I find him so irresistable?
Q. ok so i like this guy... he and his gurlfriend broke up today... blah blah blah... anyway... everytime i close my eyes i picture me laying on his chest... or him and me makeing out... weird i know... and i always! picture me telling him i got raped? ...
A. 28 August 2008: Well, he sounds sensible enough. I suggest that you don't escalate the drama any more and just play it very low key and stay calm. If you over-react to people, they will know that they've hit a nerve and will keep on teasing you about it.
If he's... (read in full...)
I found texts on her phone that say 'hon' and 'babe' and that he tells her he'll dream about her!
Q. I have a girlfriend who has a very good best friend. They do everything together and hang out all the time. I'm alright with this and I understand. She is a texter and is constantly texting a lot of people. Normally she lets me grab her phone ...
A. 28 August 2008: You're in a tricky spot, I see. You can't confront her because she's already defensive about this friend.
One comment I have to make about the 'hon' and 'babe' thing; I find myself inadvertently using those exact endearments with people other than... (read in full...)
A few questions about penile extensions... Do you think my husband would be offended if I suggested one?
Q. I have a question about penile extensions. What are they made from, can the man feel sex while wearing one? Do they add thickness or just length? Has anyone had experiences with them and if so, was it positive or negative and why? My husband's peni...
A. 28 August 2008: Hi, I think any man would be offended if you suggested that his penis is too small and not 'doing it' for you.
Might I suggest that you have a chat and a check up with your gynecologist; it is possible that two vaginal births have diminished sens... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my best friend that I still care about him?
Q. This question is really important. I dont know what to do anymore. I have a best friend. He found someone who he liked and he started hanging round with him lots and sold me out for him who was soon his lover. I still stood by him and was alwa...
A. 28 August 2008: Now I'm really confused. You wrote in your post:
" I still stood by him and was always there for him even tho he left me."
"But he doesn't want anything to do with me."
"He is now ignoring me on msn..."
So are you currently best friends? Are you... (read in full...)
I want her back but she doesn't trust my intentions! Where do I go from here?
Q. My GF of 9 months just ended things with me because I don't show her enough affection and I don't open up to her enough. We broke up several times before but always got right back together. I always said I would do better but never really did. It's ...
A. 28 August 2008: It sounds like she had to take the drastic step of breaking up with you to make you realize that you never actually followed through on your promise to her. Not a nice wake up call for you, but I guess this has now galvanized you to action?
W... (read in full...)
I think he's not attracted to me anymore. What can I do to change this?
Q. i dont feel loved by my boyfriend any more.he doesnt show me any affection ..he says he loves but doesnt show it.i want to make him attracted to me again but i dont know how..please help.....
A. 28 August 2008: In my experience, men prefer to be with women who are self-confident, accomplished, attractive (of course), and somewhat independent. They tend not to like clingy, needy, insecure, unhappy women.
So my advice to you is to go out and do the thin... (read in full...)
My high sex drive is straining my relationship!
Q. I have always really been into sex have a high drive I guess. Have been in loving committed relationship for years now and the sex just not enough. Is there any real hope? We have talked but nothing changes... just reamins the same me pining for ...
A. 28 August 2008: Hmmm. I don't really have much to advise on this one. Just some suggestions.
Talk with your doctor, maybe your hormones are going too strong?
Consider what it is that you're pining for in your perceived lack of an adequate amount of sex. Is it qu... (read in full...)
My ex won't let me date
Q. Its been a little over a month since our break up and we were together for two years. He has been texting me several times a day and calling me. He told me he wanted to be friends but the constant texting (some letting me know he was thinking about ...
A. 28 August 2008: I can't figure out why you feel the need to justify yourself to your ex, in order to meet his requirements for being a friend. PTUI to that! He's your ex for a reason, right? And you said that you've never actually successfully turned an ex into a ... (read in full...)
How can I prove to my best friend that I still care about him?
Q. This question is really important. I dont know what to do anymore. I have a best friend. He found someone who he liked and he started hanging round with him lots and sold me out for him who was soon his lover. I still stood by him and was alwa...
A. 28 August 2008: It's a little hard to understand everything you wrote, but I think I have the gist of it.
You have essentially gone through an ugly 'break up' with a friend, and he is completely ignoring you now. He chose another one over you and doesn't show any ... (read in full...)
Ever since we married it all went downhill. Is the love lost?
Q. Hello, I've been looking through this board and I see a lot of great responses to peoples questions. Well here is mine.... I started dating this gal about 1 and a month ago. Things got really hot really quick and we ended up getting married about ...
A. 28 August 2008: I don't have much to add to the excellent words of advice you received from Artistry and Starismine1, other than to emphasize that it is her decision to make. At this point, anything you say is suspect, and as you admitted you lied to make her ... (read in full...)
My mom found out I had sex and it changed everything!
Q. ok so my mom found out 2 weeks ago that my boyfriend and i had sex. and ever since then she has treated me like crap or worse and i cant to talk to her i just cant its too hard for me and my boyfriend wont talk to me until i do and i tried and ...
A. 28 August 2008: Okay, take a deep breath, and relax. You're going to live through this, it isn't the end of the world.
My advice to you is to look at this through your mother's eyes, I think that will be the best way for you to approach this topic with her. Try ... (read in full...)
How do I tell her that we should just be friends?
Q. ive been with my girlfriend for over a year now. we've been friends for several years, and just started to get serious. she and her family are madly in love with me. but now i feel like that we were better off as friends. we have done it all and ...
A. 28 August 2008: Hi, there is no easy way out of this, I'm afraid. You're going to have to 'man up' so to speak, and let her know that you want to be just friends. Obviously, do this with as much gentleness as you can muster up, but be firm. Do not leave her with ... (read in full...)
Why do I find him so irresistable?
Q. ok so i like this guy... he and his gurlfriend broke up today... blah blah blah... anyway... everytime i close my eyes i picture me laying on his chest... or him and me makeing out... weird i know... and i always! picture me telling him i got raped? ...
A. 28 August 2008: Hi, I think that having fantasies is perfectly normal for girls your age, and even when you get older. Right now, your body is changing and your hormones are fluctuating like crazy, and I expect this is all part of the whole picture. Just remember ... (read in full...)
Does this mean my birth control isn't working?
Q. I have a birth control question. I have been on the depo for almost four years and for the last three years I haven't had a period except for occasional spotting when my shot is due. My problem is the last four days I have had bright red blood...
A. 28 August 2008: Hi, the best source of information about your birth control method is the gynecologist who is providing it. But I have found some weblinks that have information on the depo-provera shot. It seems that irregular bleeding is not uncommon in the list ... (read in full...)
What can I do to have better orgasms?
Q. When i sleep with my girl she gets this fullfilling orgasm HUGE BLAST of an Orgasm!!! and she even had a liquid come out of her too. she starts screaming very hard. and i ask her if it pleasurable and she said yes but i am afraid to tell her that i ...
A. 28 August 2008: How are your orgasms when you masturbate? Do you masturbate? Have you ever had a 'good' orgasm?
I agree with DoubleM that this sounds very unusual. I think you may need to find a really good urologist and have a frank and open discussion with him ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my friends that he's worth it?
Q. Hello to anyone who is reading this. I have a problem, my friends think that i am to good for my boyfriend. They believe that i should leave him. They also believe that he's a waste of my time and he's holding me back from the things that i want ...
A. 28 August 2008: Hi, your friends probably think that they are being helpful and that they have your best interests at heart. My suggestion is to tell them that you have listened to all their advice, and have thought about it, and have decided that you love your ... (read in full...)
Her father died before the wedding and she wants to postpone it. I told her no, but it's causing fights. Help!
Q. My fiance's dad just recently die before our wedding. When I got home she crying her eyes out. After I calm her down she say she to hold off the wedding for a bit. I dont its a great idea cause if we do have to wait another a year to got merried. ...
A. 28 August 2008: Your fiancee has just had one of THE most stressful and sad things that can happen in her life right before what was supposed to be a happy occasion. I'm sorry, but I think you must respect her wishes on this. She is devastated, I'm sure, by the ... (read in full...)
What are the chances of getting pregnant?
Q. I'm 13. Turning 14. I had unprotected sex three times last week. I told my friend about it. And she told me that I am probably pregnant. I don't really know if I am. I had sex 9-10 days into my menstrual cycle. And the guy didn't pull out. What are ...
A. 28 August 2008: You've been doing everything that a woman who wants to become a mother does. I guess you're hoping for that to happen?
Anyway, there's no way for us to tell if you are pregnant. You need to buy a pregnancy test at the drugstore, read the inst... (read in full...)
Why does everyone condemn FWB? We are just doing something we both enjoy...
Q. I have had sex with this guy a couple of times now. It is not very serious, but whenever we have had it has been great. Well he is really a f**k buddy. I have never ever had one before. I know most people think it is wrong to have a f**k buddy bu...
A. 27 August 2008: It's entirely up to your judgement to do what you feel is best for you. My only comment to add to the already good advice you've received is not to discuss your sex life with your friends. If you hadn't mentioned that you were in this FWB ... (read in full...)
How do I please my family but still have a life?
Q. well i need some advice but where do i start.? i live at home with my mum step dad and brother and sister. sometimes i only just get on with my family, but the majority of the time we're always arguing. my stepdads and alcoholic, he doesnt dri...
A. 27 August 2008: How could he find out if you call Childline? It's a freephone call and will not show up on any bills. You could ring it from any phone and it's a free call. He needn't find out anything.
I'm sorry to hear that things are not going well for you. You ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 August 2008: So she never called you or took you up on the offer you extended. And she completely ignored the 'kisses' comment. If she were interested, you have given her every opportunity to respond in that way. She is not responding either to your sexual ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 August 2008: Joey, thanks for the updates. My take on this situation is that she simply isn't that interested in pursuing a relationship with you. You gave her several chances at a date--she basically said her September was booked and that next week wasn't good ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 25 August 2008: So you never called the number I gave you?... (read in full...)
In love with a teacher and worried it's becoming an obsession...
Q. I've recently realised that I am experiencing romantic feelings towards one of my teachers at High School. At first I thought that it was just a crush, and I'd forget all about him and like someone else in a couple of weeks' time. However, things ...
A. 25 August 2008: Hey, thanks for the update! I'm happy to hear that your feelings for the teacher have subsided and that you're no longer obsessing.
You've got approximately 70 years to find love, so I think the odds are good. ;)
Concentrate on school work; I ... (read in full...)
He's maried but living with me!
Q. I am now doing something I thought I would never do. I now live with a married man. When we got together it wasn't suppose to end up like this, it was just for fun because I am 13 years older than him. I was getting a divorce and he wasn't married ...
A. 25 August 2008: I am sorry that things didn't work out with him; I know that it's so hard to lose someone you love, but I think he was hers first. So I applaud your positive attitude toward the future and the fact that you are moving on. I do hope that you find the ... (read in full...)
How do I ask her what noises she makes without being crude?
Q. I know this very beautiful woman. I would like to have sex with her at some point. However, I don't think it is going to happen now. I am courious as to the sounds she makes when receiveing sexual pleasure, during the sex act, during intercou...
A. 24 August 2008: I'm afraid there is no way to ask this without sounding crude. And once you are perceived as vulgar or gross by a woman, you're toast.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
Is it okay to have sex with my clerk?!
Q. i am a married man 35yrs and am attracted to my female office clerk aged 22 yrs who is married for the last one year.we both are together in office for 8 hrs. is it okk to have sex with her regularly and how to attract towards me. pls advice....
A. 24 August 2008: No, it is not okay to have sex with your clerk. She is married, you are married. If you are her boss, it is even MORE inappropriate to do ANYTHING that indicates that you want to sleep with her. This will put her in a very difficult position, as she ... (read in full...)
I'm crushing on this guy who is married and I'm married too but I'm a little confused...
Q. I'm crushing on this guy who is married and I'm married too but I'm a little confused. He said that he was married and he didn't think he could ever do anything like that. He did give me a hug and a kiss after we talked about all the little flirty ...
A. 24 August 2008: How do you want to be treated at work? Do you want a man touching you inappropriately? Do you want your co-workers to begin to wonder what's going on between you two?
Stop wondering about his motivation, and start examining yours.
Maybe you like... (read in full...)
He has told me he would come to me if I was interested and I am but my conscience says no because he's married. Any views?
Q. I am very recently divorced. I was devastated by this , my husband left me and the children for another woman. For 25 years and long before I was married I knew this other man. I always liked him but sadly chose my ex husband over him and he then ...
A. 24 August 2008: Listen to your conscience. Do you really want to be the 'other woman' when you've been in the wife's shoes? I agree that it would be the height of hypocrisy to 'go' with him. I doubt you'd be able to live with yourself if you did go through with ... (read in full...)
Is there a "right" way to ask out a married woman at work?
Q. Hi! My question is slightly controversial (so humble apologies in advance!). Is there a 'right way' to ask out a married woman at work? Is the protocol different vs asking out single women at work? I know I should really consider married women to be ...
A. 24 August 2008: Sigh. You know, a woman generally gets married for a reason. She has chosen a man to be with for the rest of her life, she puts on a wedding ring, and she continues her working career. Most women who put on that ring do it to show their commitment ... (read in full...)
He's maried but living with me!
Q. I am now doing something I thought I would never do. I now live with a married man. When we got together it wasn't suppose to end up like this, it was just for fun because I am 13 years older than him. I was getting a divorce and he wasn't married ...
A. 23 August 2008: Me, I'd tell him to move out, get his life sorted out, do what needs to be done, then come back when he's a free man. But actually, I would have shown him the door when he told me he'd gotten married. He threw away 4 years of your life for heaven's ... (read in full...)
Could he have mistaken thrush for chlamydia?
Q. a guy i had slept with accused me of giving him chlamydia when we had sex last week. he told me he had been checked up and had it..so i went to get checked out, but am still awaiting the results. he told another guy i had slept with that he should ...
A. 23 August 2008: DoubleM is right about how long symptoms of Chlamydia take to appear. I believe it is as soon as 5-10 days. I'm not an expert, so I have a few weblinks for you to read and do your own research on. I hope they help!
h... (read in full...)
What is a vagina suppose to look like?
Q. I just turned 18, and I've been with my boyfriend for 5 months. Recently we have began to get really touchy and and intimate, but I haven't had sex im still a vigin and so is he. I've never seen his "penis" and he's never seen my "vagina" nor has he ...
A. 23 August 2008: The men have handled this question admirably. I just want to reinforce that you shouldn't use porn as a teaching guide. It's designed to be fantasy, not an educational tool. It's like those romance novels that create fantasies of what the perfect ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend, but he gives me nothing in return.
Q. I have known my Best Friend for over three years now.Over the past year i have fallen for him.He was my first for everything and we are extremly close.I have always given him my all,put him infront of me,and always have tried to make him happy.I get ...
A. 23 August 2008: Hi, you sound very unhappy with him, and I don't blame you for feeling that you've been taken for granted. The thing is that he hasn't asked you to do all these things for him, I don't think, has he? You've put him first, you think about his ... (read in full...)
I forgot taking my pills, could I be pregnant?
Q. Im a bit worried. I am on Marvelon contraceptive pill and i started my new packet on Saturday. Had unprotected sex on Saturday night (because im on the pill, and im seeing this guy), and forgot to take any more pills until this morning. They were ...
A. 22 August 2008: Hi, sorry to hear that you're worried. I don't know anything about the type of pill you're on, but here's some information about what you should do if you miss taking the pills.
h... (read in full...)
I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?
Q. Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...
A. 22 August 2008: Sorry, forgot the conclusion. You need to find the species of fish that has no scales, does not have a mucous layer, one without sharp or spiny fins, and if it has teeth, those teeth are the pharyngeal type (in the throat). Naturally, you'll have to ... (read in full...)
I'm into animal erotica. Can anyone answer questions on "fish" sex?
Q. Hey, Im kind of new with this.So anyway, Im a 39 year old female, Im overweight, lonley, and I need to get my freak on, Im so used to my 9-5 shifts anyway Laitly Ive been turned on by animal erotica, I had a moment when I was 10 with a dog that Ill ...
A. 22 August 2008: Interesting question. Leaving aside the ethical questions for the moment, let's have a look at fish anatomy. There are 22,000 species of fish, first of all, and many shapes and sizes.
Fish have fins, with can be single along the centerline of the ... (read in full...)
I came home and found my husband in bed with our doctor! What now?
Q. My name is Christina and I am a 30-year-old woman, my husband is 32, and we've been together for 10 years, married for the last 5 out of those 10 years together. I came home from work one night about a week ago to find him in bed with our GP/doct...
A. 21 August 2008: What an awful man! I hate him just hearing this story.
Right. You need to start planning for the worst. Get to a solicitor right away, you need advice on managing your money, the house, the assets that you own together. Do not stop, do not pass go, ... (read in full...)
How do I please my family but still have a life?
Q. well i need some advice but where do i start.? i live at home with my mum step dad and brother and sister. sometimes i only just get on with my family, but the majority of the time we're always arguing. my stepdads and alcoholic, he doesnt dri...
A. 16 August 2008: Wow, you are really in a very difficult situation. I'm very concerned about the physical abuse from your step-father. I expect your mother doesn't know about it, or is unable to help you? I think this is too difficult for an amateur agony aunt to ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, Joey, thanks for the followup. I just wanted to try to have you get a wider perspective on your situation, rather than obsess over little decisions. By spending a lot of time fretting about the little decisions, you are avoiding the larger ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 29 July 2008: Hi, JoeyBBB,
I've read this thread and just wanted to add my thoughts to the aunts who have already given you so much great advice.
To my mind, you are spending too much time focusing on card vs. gift, lunch vs. coffee, those are all little d... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 15 July 2008: Okay, here's the part of the website I mentioned that I want to you read, look at it, okay? And plan for your exit.
http://www.ndvh.org/help/planning.html#2
I really think it is time to tell your parents and/or some friends about what is ha... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 15 July 2008: Get the hell out of there NOW. Go stay with a friend. Do not pass go, do collect your vital financial papers and all your banking stuff, but get the hell out of there.
Did you contact the website I suggested or call the hotline? Seriousl... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 15 July 2008: Toni, thank you for the follow up. I really did think that he would have a string of failed marriages and relationships behind him, based just on what you wrote about his so-called love-making. He really will never change. You know that. Five ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 14 July 2008: I'm guessing in this particular instance, the reason he has ex-wives and ex-girlfriends is that he's a selfish man, an inconsiderate lover, and unlikely to change.
If I were in your shoes I wouldn't spend one more minute in bed with this man. Sor... (read in full...)
In love with a teacher and worried it's becoming an obsession...
Q. I've recently realised that I am experiencing romantic feelings towards one of my teachers at High School. At first I thought that it was just a crush, and I'd forget all about him and like someone else in a couple of weeks' time. However, things ...
A. 29 May 2008: Hi, you've come to this site and have obviously realized you're not the only one who has feelings for her teacher. So it's not uncommon, it's not abnormal, it's just what you're feeling.
The think to keep in mind is that what you do with these fe... (read in full...)
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