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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 August 2008: So she never called you or took you up on the offer you extended. And she completely ignored the 'kisses' comment. If she were interested, you have given her every opportunity to respond in that way. She is not responding either to your sexual ... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 26 August 2008: Joey, thanks for the updates. My take on this situation is that she simply isn't that interested in pursuing a relationship with you. You gave her several chances at a date--she basically said her September was booked and that next week wasn't good ... (read in full...)
How do I get my mom to quit telling me to get a girlfriend?!
Q. Hi, Slightly unusual question, but how can I get mum to stop telling me to get a girlfriend? I'm 21 and never had a "serious" girlfriend yet, but this really doesn't bother me. I just simply haven't met a girl that I really like and trust yet...
A. 1 August 2008: Hahaha! I love the dressing up a friend as a really unsuitable girlfriend idea. That's great.
My mother too, sometimes harps on things and really bugs me. I've taken to simply ignoring her when she is like that. I'll tell that the comments are gett... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: Picking up on oldersister's train of thought, that this is the straw, I would ease off on the foursomes being the issue. I would try to tackle the real issue at the root of all this, and that is lack of mature, adult communication. Running off to ... (read in full...)
My "friend" keeps making accusations about me. It's gone too far!!
Q. Hello. I have a lil problem right now. I have this 'friend' who has recently just started accussing me of copying her. I know this is a pretty pathetic situation, but I need some advice on what I can say to her to make her stop these accussatio...
A. 1 August 2008: I like the hair color change idea, only maybe not purple? Maybe a new hair cut and new nail varnish?
I think you should tell people if and when they harass you that you feel sorry for her, as her insecurities seem to be getting the better of her.... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: Going off to a bar for three days isn't a great way to show your girlfriend you care about her concerns. I hate to ask yet another question, but why did he and his wife split up?... (read in full...)
Is there any way to use my hymen to avoid sex?
Q. I am 21 of years n wanna know Can hymen be somehow tightened avoiding sex for 1-2 years?Pl help!!...
A. 1 August 2008: If your question is will the hymen regrow after it's broken, the answer is no. If you avoid sex for a while, your vagina will naturally be 'out of practice', so to speak, and may feel tight again when you start having intercourse again.
I hope I un... (read in full...)
Super sensitive clitoris after orgasm - is this normal?
Q. Hello all! I'm not sure if this really is a problem, but all i'm trying to understand is: does a girl's clitoris remain too sensitive after an orgasm??? I've realised that every time after an orgasm when my bf rubs my clit again i feel a little pain ...
A. 1 August 2008: This is completely normal, don't spend another second worrying about it!... (read in full...)
Was she playing hard to get?
Q. Is it a good sign that my ex girlfriend asks me to go shopping with her and we're having lunch with eachother. Me and my ex girlfriend were together for a year and a half and we did everything together but I got drunk at her prom and embrassed he...
A. 1 August 2008: I'll get you for that!!! No, seriously, don't worry about it. I just hope it will help you.
Xxx... (read in full...)
Was she playing hard to get?
Q. Is it a good sign that my ex girlfriend asks me to go shopping with her and we're having lunch with eachother. Me and my ex girlfriend were together for a year and a half and we did everything together but I got drunk at her prom and embrassed he...
A. 1 August 2008: I think that it's a good sign she's still speaking to you. I wouldn't phrase it as 'playing hard to get.' She has, after all, been yours at one time. And if you really messed up, as it sounds like you did, then you lost her trust and her respect.
I... (read in full...)
Will his jealousy get worse?
Q. I have been dating this guy for about four months. The situation started as roommates and it transitioned from there. This is usually the sweetest most loving relationship I've ever been in with the exception of his jealousy. I still am friends ...
A. 1 August 2008: Oh dear, this sounds like a recipe for disaster. Put a man with jealousy and trust issues together with a woman who has been 'untrustworthy' (does that mean unfaithful?) in the past, and there is going to be conflict.
It sounds like you do not want... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 1 August 2008: Thanks for the follow up. Have you told him that it is the future that you are concerned about? That what's past is past for you? And are you doing this in a loving, non-confrontational way, calmly? And how many times have you tried to have this ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always looks for other gay men and dates them, any solution for me?
Q. Hi buddy, i am gay,now, I got some questions about my boyfriend. We are together for more than 2 months, in these two months, he always looks for other gay men,and dates them, could you give me any solution for this? thanks all. kelsen 2008-8...
A. 1 August 2008: Have you two talked about being in an exclusive relationship? I mean, does he know that this bothers you?
I'm not sure there is any solution for this, other than to lock him away, but since that isn't possible, you might need to consider if he is t... (read in full...)
How do I get him to need me and be with me always?
Q. i always call my boyfriend and he knew that i dont want to say bye,i feel that he doesnt need me,but i know that he loves me,plz tell me what can i do to make him want to call me always and need me so much?? [added from same user] why dont i feel my ...
A. 1 August 2008: Hi, you seem very very nervous and upset by this. I have to tell you that you need to learn some patience and relax. You cannot make someone love you, but you can give them a chance to miss you a little bit. If you are pushing too hard for him to ... (read in full...)
I'm in love, but he's my best friend and we can NEVER be together. Help!
Q. Im getting deeper and deeper into someone that i can NEVER HAVE. we were friends. then close friends. then we slept together. now we are best friends and we talk to each other on the phone and see each other all the time. but the thing is im in...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, it sounds like this is driving you a bit mad. May I remind you that in your original post you asked this question: "Shall i cut ties with my best friend before I fall any deeper and it hurts more?"
Then you get frustrated and upset with the advi... (read in full...)
Do women like being told straight-up that you fancy them?
Q. Hi everybody. I really like this woman at work and have done so for a couple of years. However, I only see her about 2/3 days a week usually, though when we are around each other we get on well. I don't know if she likes me, but I just have to t...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, good question. I expect the answer is that women like it if they fancy the man back. Which you don't really know yet, do you? And if you have a thin skin and are rejected, however nicely, you might not like it very much.
Why not try flir... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 31 July 2008: Female anon, thank you for doing that research. I guess the standard isn't so double? ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to place an ad in a paper asking for someone to get me pregnant?
Q. My husband can not get me pregnant do to a surgery that he had many years ago. My question for this community is this. Would it be wrong to place an ad in a paper asking for someone to get me pregnant?...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, I think it's not 'wrong' but extremely ill-advised and dangerous to consider using an individual you know nothing about to donate semen for you. If you're considering artificial insemination, an licensed and/or accredited sperm bank is the ... (read in full...)
He was into foursomes in the past. How do I make sure he isnt into that anymore?
Q. My question is My boyfriend was once married, and then come to find out he and his wife were into foursomes, when I ask him about it because I just want to make sure that he doesn't still have those feeling because I won't do it he get mad at me...
A. 31 July 2008: Sorry, poster, but your question has generated a little debate here, and I think that it might actually be quite useful.
Troubledtoomuch, I agree that you raise a valid concern about a possible double standard, and I had to think about this one for ... (read in full...)
How can I support my boyfriend during this trying time?
Q. Hello- Was wondering if you guys could give me some insight on this situation: How to comfort a loved one during and after the death of a family member. My fiance's grandmother is very ill and has just recently stopped eating (which is usually...
A. 31 July 2008: That sounds like the right thing to do! Great decision, and you're right about spending the money on the ticket and not on the phone bill. I'm sure your very presence will be a lot of comfort. Best wishes.... (read in full...)
How can I support my boyfriend during this trying time?
Q. Hello- Was wondering if you guys could give me some insight on this situation: How to comfort a loved one during and after the death of a family member. My fiance's grandmother is very ill and has just recently stopped eating (which is usually...
A. 31 July 2008: Sorry to hear about this impending loss; it's never easy to lose a loved one, and even more difficult if you can't be with them or talk to them. If I were him, I'd still talk with her on the phone, even if she can't respond. Hearing his voice and ... (read in full...)
I have had it with this guy and don't want to see him anymore, but my Dad doesn't back me up
Q. Hi, I'm hoping someone can help me with my problem. (i'm sorry it's running long)There was this guy from my church who really likes me. In the very beginning, he was sweet and really polite and fun to ahng out with, yet he is an illegal citizen ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, let me guess, your father and this guy are from the same culture? Then they're doing the 'boys will be boys' thing, and it will probably take something really dramatic for your dad to see your side.
One suggestion for you is to get out of goin... (read in full...)
Please let me know how to handle my crazy jealous wife!
Q. I need advice this issue is tearing us apart. I met a friend online from another country. I find chatting with her interesting. There is nothing being said that is inappopriate. She is just interesting adn from a country I have always been ...
A. 31 July 2008: There has got to more to this story than you've told us. A couple of red flags for me. You're interested in another woman, I don't care what country she's from. If it were the country, you could find another person to chat with.
Your wife scre... (read in full...)
I am a ratty person and I get annoyed when I crave something and don't get it
Q. My GF wants a break away from sex as she said she gets hurt sometimes, im worried that this will make our r'ship break because I know sex aint the only thing in the relationship but it is one main key to a relationship. I'm a ratty person and I get ...
A. 31 July 2008: Excuse me, you said your girlfriend gets hurt during sex sometimes? Um, don't you realize that is a bad thing? Sex should not be painful.
What are you two doing that causes her pain? Have you talked about it? Are you a gentle lover? Her plea... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 31 July 2008: I agree wholeheartedly with what Artistry said here. It's a que sera, sera situation.
I wouldn't spend too much time trying to analyze his actions or try to figure out what he's thinking. He's a guy, and they are often difficult for us women to unde... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, Joey, thanks for the followup. I just wanted to try to have you get a wider perspective on your situation, rather than obsess over little decisions. By spending a lot of time fretting about the little decisions, you are avoiding the larger ... (read in full...)
He tells me he loves me but it just does not feel enough! I have a fear of our relationship going wrong due to my past!
Q. hi agony aunts ok ive been with my partner a few months and it got a bit complicated with things going on on both sides..but in the end we really do love each other..just i sometimes have a hard time explaining things or how im feeling i want him...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, Yos is right here, you know. These feelings of anxiety and neediness within the relationship are coming from inside you. Perhaps things happened in the past that now makes you wary and distrustful of your new man, but it's not fair to lay the ... (read in full...)
He had an orgasm on top, but not inside of me, what are the odds of pregnancy?
Q. about 6 days agot me and my boyfriend had sort of unprotected sex. hehad an orgasm on top of my vigina but not inside what are the chnces that im pregnant?...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, you must be very worried. Well, I hope that you are not pregnant, but you need to make sure that you are as educated as you can be if you are going to be sexually active. I do think that you are too young, if you really don't know all the facts ... (read in full...)
I'm a gay man, married to a woman... am I doing the right thing, pretending to be straight?
Q. I need help!! I am a gay guy age 29, trying to have a straight life and relationship. I love my wife more than anything. now i have two questions: 1: Am i doing the right thing by trying to be straight? 2: Are there ways I can spice up our...
A. 31 July 2008: Hi, it's interesting to me that you identified as 'gay'; I assume your wife does not know this?
I think you need to take into consideration what kind of life you'll be able to provide her. If you are not truly sexually attracted to her, even... (read in full...)
Thrilled about a new pregnancy! What is something special that I can do for my wife?
Q. Hi all not really a question but more of an announcement! I want to tell the world but I think this is the closest I shall get! I am very excited, my beautiful goddess of a wife has just informed me we are about to have another child!! It wil...
A. 31 July 2008: Hey, good news! In fact, it's great news and a nice uplifting way to start my day here. Congratulations! The cradle sounds like a lovely idea, especially as you can personalize it for your family and perhaps turn it into an heirloom. How are you at ... (read in full...)
What should I do since my parents don't trust me and my BF sleeping in the same room?
Q. me and my new bf have been dating for a month and my parents still don't trust him sleeping in the same bed as me even if they are in the same room. what should i do since my parents don't trust me.please help...
A. 30 July 2008: You can use condoms until you turn 18, at which time you'll be able to take yourself to the doctor's. Did you tell your doctor that you are sexually active?
You can also visit this website to see if you can find a clinic on your own.
http:... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my wonderful fiance, but I don't want this amazing, loving affair to end.
Q. In Love with two people! I'm 35. Fiancé 32, Lover 21! I can't believe I have let myself get into this situation, I have a really nice Fiancé, 2 kids aged 2 and 5 we don’t argue, we still have Sex a few times a week. My problem is this a year a...
A. 30 July 2008: I agree that the three courses as laid out by female anon are the only realistic paths here.
Our poster has to decide, obviously this situation cannot continue without discovery at some point. What I find really angering about the situation is that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend (28) says he does not have a sex drive and does not think about sex anymore?!!!
Q. I'm a 36yr old woman and have been with my 28yr old man for 2yrs. I can count on 1 hand how many times we have had sex. I dont understand I've done all I can to get us there but nothing seems to work. So I just keep asking him why wont you make love...
A. 30 July 2008: Hi, this sounds very frustrating for you, and confusing. I don't have an answer for you, but I do think that Emily has a good strategy laid out for you.
The way I see it, you have to rule out possibilities until you know the cause. After you know... (read in full...)
Irregular period question...
Q. Is it normal for there to not really be any pattern to the times when u get your period? Because I really can't find anything that's close to a pattern and I don't want anything to be wrong with me. I've never done ANYTHING that would cause my ...
A. 30 July 2008: If you are indeed between the ages of 13-15, then this is normal. Your hormones are bouncing all over the place and you haven't finished maturing, so things take a while to settle down to a specific pattern. I would mention this to your doctor the ... (read in full...)
We've been together a lot, not just for sex, but our schedules prevent actual dates. Is he just using me?
Q. I met this guy about 6 months ago through work. For the first few months we barely knew each other - but he would chat to me, there was a little bit of flirting and on more than a few occasions I caught him looking at me. A few months later we ...
A. 30 July 2008: Cupidguy, I think the reference to sex was there, but it's a read-between-the-lines comment: "He is affectionate towards me, it's not just sex - there has been times when we just cuddle in bed and spend time together."
Is that correct, post... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband's relative to stop flirting with me?
Q. I have an issue, one of my relative's husband constantly keeps flirting with me. It's to the the point where it's getting out of control. I've repeatedly asked him to stop. The funny thing is that he never acted this way in the beginning. He ...
A. 30 July 2008: Hi, I didn't actually see that you were married, so I'm going to assume you're single, and maybe why this guy feels so free to harass you.
You're feeling stuck now because you haven't managed to get him to stop and now it's gone long enough that... (read in full...)
Do men in relationships want to have sex with other women? How much and how often?
Q. How much do guys in a relationship want to have sex with other females? I'm curious. I don't ever get the urge to have sex with some other guy. I wonder if it's the same for men? Today I was telling my boyfriend how weird it'd be for me if he was...
A. 30 July 2008: One other thing I want to clarify in my answer. There is a HUGE difference between fantasy and action/intention. Make sure you keep that in mind. Just because a guy fantasizes about Jessica Alba doesn't mean he doesn't love you or would actually ... (read in full...)
Do men in relationships want to have sex with other women? How much and how often?
Q. How much do guys in a relationship want to have sex with other females? I'm curious. I don't ever get the urge to have sex with some other guy. I wonder if it's the same for men? Today I was telling my boyfriend how weird it'd be for me if he was...
A. 30 July 2008: It sounds to me that you are trying to create a problem or a conflict with your boyfriend where none had existed before. You were the one who brought the topic up and maybe did it for some confidence-boosting? And it sounds like he had a bit of fun ... (read in full...)
How do I ask out the girl I never see?
Q. Cupid: I like lady-like women, the kind that are morally absolute and would make a good mother, wife and professionals. This being said, I met this girl in a group situation (several sessions) who was very intelligent and attractive and s...
A. 30 July 2008: What do you have to lose by emailing her? She may come back and say that she is in a committed relationship. On the other hand, she may be single and looking.
Just keep in mind that you have built this whole fantasy around her, and we women rare... (read in full...)
I smell fishy after masturbating. Is this normal? Should I go to the doctor?
Q. when i masterbate the next day i smell of fish i really dont want to go to the doctor but my ex boyfriend was teasing me about it because he made me wet and i smelt then is this normal? please help ...
A. 30 July 2008: Hi, I agree with Emivia, your boyfriend was being a bit nasty and unkind.
You shouldn't be smelly there, however, if there is a foul odor that bothers you then you might indeed have an infection that should be seen to. It's time to visit the doct... (read in full...)
Where can I get a free laptop?
Q. I know this isn't particularly a love question, but my family is having money problems and our computer recently broke down. With me being a sophmore taking advanced classes a computer may be a HUGE advantage. now my mother works nights so i was ...
A. 30 July 2008: Try finding the freecycle.org group in your area; there may be someone with a laptop available. But you're generally expected to offer things as well, not just ask for them. The idea is to keep things out of the landfills, so all kinds of things are ... (read in full...)
My three friends and I would like four cute names of party drinks, to be placed on our school jerseys, please help us?
Q. So this isnt a love or sex question but its something that i could really use your help on. My school has these jerseys that the junior and senior girls get and you get to put what ever you want on the back of them like it can say what ever you want ...
A. 30 July 2008: I am sorry that we had some innocent fun with your question. May I point out, at the risk of sounding like a disapproving aunt, that you wanted names of party drinks, and that you liked to 'partyy'... That you found other names chosen by other girls ... (read in full...)
I love her and care for her, but I feel like I'm being suffocated; I tried telling her this before, but she burst into tears.
Q. I have always sucked at this part and am not sure what to do... I'm 31 and have been dating a girl for about 15 months now. She's also 31, very nice, and we share a great deal in common. There have been some issues since the beginning of our...
A. 29 July 2008: Thanks for the follow up! I'm sorry to be so negative about this, but it just didn't sound right to me.
And please don't try to keep her as a friend, she might misinterpret this as suggesting there is still hope.
Just tell her that it's not work... (read in full...)
My three friends and I would like four cute names of party drinks, to be placed on our school jerseys, please help us?
Q. So this isnt a love or sex question but its something that i could really use your help on. My school has these jerseys that the junior and senior girls get and you get to put what ever you want on the back of them like it can say what ever you want ...
A. 29 July 2008: We could also suggest the women who made all of this possible for us in the first place!
Susan B.
Emily
Emmeline
Sylvia
Suffragettes....... (read in full...)
My three friends and I would like four cute names of party drinks, to be placed on our school jerseys, please help us?
Q. So this isnt a love or sex question but its something that i could really use your help on. My school has these jerseys that the junior and senior girls get and you get to put what ever you want on the back of them like it can say what ever you want ...
A. 29 July 2008: Oldersister, how about the Four Horsewomen of the sports field? They ride out when there's an injury?
Dementia, Morticia, Embalmia, and Putrefactia!
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I love her and care for her, but I feel like I'm being suffocated; I tried telling her this before, but she burst into tears.
Q. I have always sucked at this part and am not sure what to do... I'm 31 and have been dating a girl for about 15 months now. She's also 31, very nice, and we share a great deal in common. There have been some issues since the beginning of our...
A. 29 July 2008: Survey says, don't cave any more. She now knows that tears will manipulate her and change your mind, and they have worked not once, not twice, but THREE times!
This really doesn't sound like a viable relationship long-term to me for several reas... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt my wonderful fiance, but I don't want this amazing, loving affair to end.
Q. In Love with two people! I'm 35. Fiancé 32, Lover 21! I can't believe I have let myself get into this situation, I have a really nice Fiancé, 2 kids aged 2 and 5 we don’t argue, we still have Sex a few times a week. My problem is this a year a...
A. 29 July 2008: In the immortal words of John McEnroe, you have GOT to be kidding! Which head are you thinking with?
Look, I'm sure your lovely, caring, wonderful, so connected-to-you 21 year old girlfriend would be perfectly happy to take one of the children away... (read in full...)
I'm smitten with this woman, but she says she needs space.
Q. Two months ago I started dating a woman who is six months into a separation and is getting divorced. She has 3 young children (I have not met the children). Yesterday she said she is not ready for a relationship. She has too much "stuff" to take ...
A. 29 July 2008: Hi, JoeyBBB,
I've read this thread and just wanted to add my thoughts to the aunts who have already given you so much great advice.
To my mind, you are spending too much time focusing on card vs. gift, lunch vs. coffee, those are all little d... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 28 July 2008: Hi Katie, thanks for the follow up. Wow, that IS a problem. He told his mother that he was uncomfortable with you 'always' being in the restaurant, AND that he has a big crush on a girl his own age?
Well, maybe he is feeling uncomfortable beca... (read in full...)
What should I do since my parents don't trust me and my BF sleeping in the same room?
Q. me and my new bf have been dating for a month and my parents still don't trust him sleeping in the same bed as me even if they are in the same room. what should i do since my parents don't trust me.please help...
A. 25 July 2008: Interesting way to repay their trust.
Just tell them that you need to see a gynecologist because you are now sexually active. You should see if the vaccine for preventing some HPV strains is something that would be a good idea for you too.
Take ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 20 July 2008: Well, it is easier to get to know someone if you do talk with them from time to time. And I think that you're totally right about the way you'd handle things if you were asked to a baseball game. I have to tell you, though, that baseball games ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 18 July 2008: Well, that sounds good. I guess the best thing you can do is just be yourself, and try to continue to be the kind of girl people can admire. Then time will tell; if you were meant to be together, it will happen. But don't let yourself ignore other ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with someone older than me!
Q. Hi my name is Katie and well I like this guy who is 5 years older than I am. I think that he likes me too but he seems to act differently when he is around his family than when he is alone. See, I think that the reason I am even attracted to him ...
A. 17 July 2008: Hi, he sounds very nice to me, I could see why you'd like to make sure you have a chance at a relationship with him when you're older. Hhhmmmm, I would probably try to continue to be his friend. Does he know that you like him in that special way?
I... (read in full...)
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