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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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He's becoming increasingly mean, rude and he intimidates me...
Q. I liked this boy for about 3 years, I didn't tell him because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. This summer we slept together (drunk) it didn't go very well and I wasn't really prepared as in not shaven. So it was never going to be perfect ...
A. 2 December 2008: I'm sorry it's taken me so long to respond to your followup.
Yes, I know you want things to go back, but unfortunately, you can't erase what's happened. So you should think about what keeps you safe and secure and if that means not speaking to him,... (read in full...)
Sick of past pictures with my boyfriend!
Q. I have been in a relationship with "Damian" for 2 years...we are like any other couple who has it's ups and downs....we are engaged to get married next year in the fall. We live in South Florida in the same city he lived for the past 10 years. I ...
A. 26 November 2008: I'm happy to hear it went well and that the pictures are gone; that must be a huge relief to you. I expect he's got some new respect for you with the way you handled it (not that he didn't before, of course). It's taken me many years to figure out ... (read in full...)
How can I keep him interested in engaging in a phone conversation?
Q. I just met a guy that I really, really like, and he likes me a lot too, our chemistry is great when we are together but when we are on the phone we have nothing to say, but we would text each other with no problem. Can you please tell me what are ...
A. 25 November 2008: What do you two talk about when you're together? Or what do you text about? Some guys just don't like spending time on the phone, and he might be one of them.
My recommendation is that you don't push him to talk or try to keep him on the phone; you ... (read in full...)
His grandma's making me NUTS!
Q. My boyfrien of 2 years and I moved in to help take care of his 70 year old grandmother and 91 year old great grandmother. Unfortunately, I am on my own pretty much entirely as his great grandmother has dementia and thinks he is the devil. Besides ...
A. 25 November 2008: Here's the National Council on Aging website:
http://www.ncoa.org/content.cfm?sectionID=308
You can also try typing in "council on aging" and your state or county or city to see what pops up locally too.
Here's the Alzheimer's Association's we... (read in full...)
His grandma's making me NUTS!
Q. My boyfrien of 2 years and I moved in to help take care of his 70 year old grandmother and 91 year old great grandmother. Unfortunately, I am on my own pretty much entirely as his great grandmother has dementia and thinks he is the devil. Besides ...
A. 25 November 2008: Hi, you are amazing for doing all that you have been! I have to give you both a ton of credit for trying to do what's right. It seems to me that you need some assistance in this; are you the only caretaker?
Check into your state's council on agin... (read in full...)
Am I not seeing what everyone else does?
Q. Here I go again - I have been seeing this guy for 3 years - he has two girls I have one at home too. We get along fine when it is the two of us - days fly by - we giggle wrestle and just have a good time and do projects and such I help h...
A. 25 November 2008: I hate to say this, Chippy, but the one who is ruining your holiday is you, because you've continued to let him treat you like this. He does it because you let him. When you realize that, you'll be on your way.
To end it, you simply have to stop... (read in full...)
How do I fix a relationship I screwed up?
Q. I have been with my gf for about 3 years and I believe I have screwed up in that I grew complacent and began treating the relationship like a friendship and not a boyfriend/girlfriend thing. This is my first relationship of any kind and I really a...
A. 25 November 2008: You said that she's been your girlfriend for 3 years, and you've been trying to be more intimate for 2 days. You have to give it some time, and perservere. Don't give up or show your frustration! It's only been 2 days, after all.
She may want some... (read in full...)
They want me to go to college but I don't want to go.
Q. Hi, my name is Selena and I am having a lot of problems with my parents, they want me to go to college but I don't want to go. What should I do! Should I listen to them or not??...
A. 25 November 2008: Hi, Selena, could you please tell me why you don't want to go to college? And do not use the words "mom" or "dad" or "parents" in the answer.... (read in full...)
He's becoming increasingly mean, rude and he intimidates me...
Q. I liked this boy for about 3 years, I didn't tell him because I didn't want to ruin our friendship. This summer we slept together (drunk) it didn't go very well and I wasn't really prepared as in not shaven. So it was never going to be perfect ...
A. 25 November 2008: He's abusive and disrespectful and completely out of line. Look, you sound like you're making excuses for why he's treating you this way, you were unshaven and you have now decided that you disgust him. Honey, that's coming at it from the wrong way. ... (read in full...)
For the past few weeks my fiance's refused to have sex with me.
Q. For the past few weeks my fiance's refused to have sex with me. No matter what I tried he wouldn't have sex with me. Even dressing up in sexy lingerie didn't work - he still wouldn't have sex. I asked him if he was stressed, but he said nothing ...
A. 25 November 2008: Something's off here. He actually sounds like he WANTS to have erectile dysfunction. Why would't he want to try to have sex now that the secret worry is out? Maybe a male uncle could give us the male point of view.
Anyway, back to what to do. It s... (read in full...)
Sick of past pictures with my boyfriend!
Q. I have been in a relationship with "Damian" for 2 years...we are like any other couple who has it's ups and downs....we are engaged to get married next year in the fall. We live in South Florida in the same city he lived for the past 10 years. I ...
A. 25 November 2008: I think it's perfectly reasonable to have a discussion with him about your worries. I would use that word you chose, 'ghost,' to talk about it. Let me see, what would I say?
Here's a suggestion, off the top of my head.
Damian, honey, there's ... (read in full...)
I met a wonderful man on the internet, but now I'm afraid I might have pushed him off, what shall I do?
Q. I have met the wonderfull man on the internet , we have spoken on the net, text and telephone for over 3 months. He is away in the USA taking his ill mother for a short holiday, I cannot contact him by phone, although he said he would ring or e ...
A. 25 November 2008: Okay, stop panicking. You've done whatever damage you're going to do, the only thing you can do is wait to see if he noticed. It's possible that he's so busy with his trip and tending to his mother that your message was missed or deleted.
So stop... (read in full...)
Why do so many men have double standards?
Q. Why do so many men have double standards? My b/f is always clicking on sexy videos of hot females in his free time, a habit which greatly annoys me. So I decided one day to simply set up my own account and start watching sexy videos of hot men. He ...
A. 25 November 2008: I assume you've asked him about the double standard he's displaying? You did point out that your watching male videos was a mirror of his watching girly videos? He doesn't have a leg to stand on, and he knows it, so he's trying emotional blackmail ... (read in full...)
Did my husband cheat on me and gave me a std?
Q. my husband of 21 years told me he had sex with another women 1 month before we got married. when we were married i got pregnant on our honeymoon, after i had the baby i ended up with a std, i was 18 when we got married an was stupid i really did ...
A. 25 November 2008: It would be helpful to know what STD we're talking about here. If it is an abnormal pap smear and the cause is HPV, the human papilloma virus, PLEASE make sure you have talked about this with your doctor thoroughly and understand your situation and ... (read in full...)
I'm so skinny and I hate it! What can I do to gain some weight?
Q. Im so skinny and i hate it. Im a 15 year old girl, 5ft4, and weigh about 6stones 9pounds. I hate being soooo skinny. I eat sooo much and im stil the skiny stik i alwayz have been. People can make such horible comments. 1)Erghhh, your arms a...
A. 25 November 2008: I think you have had some good advice from the aunts here; I just want to emphasize that your reaction to these hurtful comments can help you stop them. I think it is perfectly appropriate for you to say to someone who says silly or hurtful things ... (read in full...)
Sick of past pictures with my boyfriend!
Q. I have been in a relationship with "Damian" for 2 years...we are like any other couple who has it's ups and downs....we are engaged to get married next year in the fall. We live in South Florida in the same city he lived for the past 10 years. I ...
A. 25 November 2008: I don't think you're out of your mind. I think you just need to keep calm and focused on what it is that troubles you about these pictures and CDs of his sexual past.
It sounds like he is very openminded and rather more experimental than your aver... (read in full...)
I'm circumsized, will I be able to give a woman pleasure eventhough?
Q. well im 19 and im still a virgin and im scared if ill give a woman pleasure she desreves.and ive been readin that a circumsized male can give a woman pleasure than alot say that isnt true.so i go a big penis and that wont help even if its big its ...
A. 25 November 2008: You're worrying for no reason. When you meet the right woman, and you treat her well, everything will be fine. ... (read in full...)
Break up money trouble?
Q. Hiya, I've recently had a relationship break up which has been very difficult. It was me that did the breaking up and obviously the feeling wasn't mutual so my ex seems to have been rather bitter about it, this of course I understand. However w...
A. 25 November 2008: I'd say that you do need some legal advice, it sounds like you're not liable for any debts he incurred. The only way I could see you being responsible for the credit card debt is if it was used on the house. But in that case, he should be able to ... (read in full...)
Why don't I want sex with my boyfriend any more??
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and 3 months now. He is the only guy I have had regular sex with. Every time he kisses me I get claustrophobic and when he tries it on with me I get annoyed and it does nothing for me at all. I am now only ...
A. 25 November 2008: Eek! You definitely shouldn't get married until you figure out why your reaction to sex with him is claustrophobia, annoyance and lack of arousal. Have you ever been aroused by sex with him? Have you ever initiated sex? Are you two romantic, ... (read in full...)
We just broke up and I'm feeling depressed... what should I do?
Q. I've just broken up with my girlfriend of 5 months but during this time the relationship was very serious. Today I received a text saying she wasn't ready for a relationship and we were over. I've tried to meet her and phone her but she's just ...
A. 25 November 2008: Take a deep breath, step back from the intense emotions for a few minutes and just think a bit logically about this. You said it was an intense relationship, yet she breaks up by text message? That is RUDE!!! She must not have reciprocated your ... (read in full...)
My ex wants us to be close friends after the break up - but I want to move on. Is this mean?
Q. well we broke off becoz of her family problems. now that we have decided to remain friends,we had reduced alot but this girl still wants me to call her atleast once a day. we are having hard time to accept this friendship and keep going back and ...
A. 25 November 2008: No, you are not being mean. You are being realistic about how this continuing close contact will hold both of you back. You are not responsible for her happiness; SHE is. She has to learn to get along without you, and she'll only find out how by ... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend always comment negatively when he sees I'm wearing makeup?
Q. Why does my boyfriend of 6 years always comment negatively when he sees I'm wearing makeup. He will comment here and there, stare at my face and ask if I'm wearing makeup. He makes me feel embarrassed and unattractive about wearing makeup. He says ...
A. 24 November 2008: I agree with Fade and Birdy, just continue doing what makes you feel good about yourself. It sounds like you're not wearing Kabuki-style makeup, honestly. And the anon vcd poster raised an interesting tactic. Stop shaving your legs and underarms, no ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend always brings up his ex-wife in conversations, I don't know how to react to this?
Q. my boyfriend is recently divorced. I know he loves me and I know he was unhappy and lonely in his marriage which is why he left. I also understand whether a person had been happily married or not, it still becomes habit/rountine to be with that ...
A. 21 November 2008: You have a couple of options as to how to deal with the behavior. What to think about it is something else. I'd be worried that she was on his mind all the time. Now it may be that they were married for many many years and he's still adjusting the ... (read in full...)
I feel resentment towards her for breaking my heart in this way.
Q. I fell in love with a girl around 6 months back. On one of the first few times I met her. We became good friends and I asked her out a few weeks ago, she said no. It was heart-breaking to say the least and I think about what I could have possi...
A. 20 November 2008: I think you're angry with her for not returning your feelings, and you want her to see things from your perspective. Or at least the perspective of the males she encounters. I hate to tell you, but I sincerely doubt she's going to 'get' it. She's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has another girlfriend but I can't decide to leave him!
Q. i can't decide because i'm blinded with my strong love for this person...my boyfriend right now has another girlfriend...i am the third party...the situation is killing me because im the second priority.how can i deal with this...i can't let go of ...
A. 19 November 2008: He sounds like he's never actually going to be "yours" or "hers" or for that matter, anybody's!!!
Why are you afraid to be alone?... (read in full...)
I had begun to put this all behind me but now am forced to try and talk it out.
Q. I'm trying to recover from an always unrequited love. They were my good friend beforehand and they know that I like them. I just never told them that I love them, to spare us both the humiliation. I told her that I liked her almost a month a...
A. 19 November 2008: Girls are socialized to keep things all "nicey-nicey" and while this is a sweeping generalization, this might apply to your situation. She doesn't want to have anyone angry with her or ignoring her for whatever reason. Frankly, if you want to drive ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father that I'm pregnant? He has absolutely zero empathy and worries more about money than anything else!
Q. Hello All, I would like some tips or advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. Here is a little info: I am 26 years old and in a stable relationship. I have told my mother, sister, brother, and all my friends. Everyone seems to be ex...
A. 19 November 2008: You know what? That's not the cowards way out. That's actually a sensible solution. You don't need the stress and he will have time to process. You'll still have to see him after the revelation, but you won't have to have that difficult ... (read in full...)
Will we be safe enough with just a condom?
Q. Quick question: Me and my boyfriend are going to have sex, however I am not on the pill or anything, will we be safe enough with just a condom?...
A. 14 November 2008: You could add a condom-safe spermicidal jelly or cream for extra protection. Make sure he withdraws after ejaculation while holding the condom in place at the base.
Here's a link for some additional information:
http:... (read in full...)
She broke up with me and broke my heart after promising to be with me!
Q. well this is a long story i'll try to make it short but plz try to be a bit patient and read the whole things cos i really need help. i'm a 22 year old guy livin in asia i'm not a very social person cos i was bullied most of my childhood by cla...
A. 14 November 2008: I have to agree with the first answerer; this girl does not sound like she is 18 years of age. If she was, she could move out and make her own decisions. I'm afraid you may have been talking with an underage girl.
Okay, how do you get over it? Firs... (read in full...)
I am tempted to befriend this creepy person again, but only to get int ouch with his friends, any advice?
Q. Okay, I had this friend a couple of years ago who I used to hang out with. We originally went to school together, and years later bumped into each other in a gay club (I'm not open about my sexuality to any of my friends). I then broke down, sobbing ...
A. 14 November 2008: This is like a scene in one of those horror movies. You want to shout at the teenagers on the screen, "NOOOOO!!!! Don't go in that building! Don't open that door! You KNOW how this is going to turn out!!!!!"
And I'm with Dr. Pete on his frie... (read in full...)
My boyfriend who has cheated on me wants me and our kids to move in with him. Do I finish my school fiirst?
Q. Dear Cupid I am 19 years old with 2 young children.I have been dating the father of my children for 3 years now.He cheated on me a few years back but, we made up since then.Now he tells me he has to go work in the same place he cheated on me in,wh...
A. 14 November 2008: Finish your schooling first; having an education and the credentials that go with it will help you get the career you want and ultimately it'll help you make more money than if you don't have the credentials. Drop-outs tend not to be high earners. ... (read in full...)
If we both put effot into a LDR, will it work?
Q. I am 18 years old. I moved from idaho to kentucky for my boyfriend we have been together for almost a year. I put my life on hold for him for 5 months now. Well I decided to go to school back in idaho. So I am going home. Both of us have been ...
A. 14 November 2008: You sound like you will be just fine. And as you can see from several posts here, it can work out well! Good luck and congratulations on your choice of career!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has another girlfriend but I can't decide to leave him!
Q. i can't decide because i'm blinded with my strong love for this person...my boyfriend right now has another girlfriend...i am the third party...the situation is killing me because im the second priority.how can i deal with this...i can't let go of ...
A. 14 November 2008: You need to figure out why you have such a low opinion of yourself. Someone with a strong and healthy ego wouldn't tolerate being treated like this. My advice is to take your focus off him and look into your own heart and life and find out why you ... (read in full...)
I am afraid of taking the legal way in case he (husband) flips.
Q. I am separated for two years now, husband gets copies of the keys to the house off my son's keys, they are the ones you leave in the door. My sons won't get involved and I understand but my ex just lets himself in and snoops, I am afraid of taking ...
A. 14 November 2008: When you say 'flips', do you mean become violent? Won't he flip when he can't get in, too? That is a worrying word to me... I would make sure that you are as careful and protected as you possibly can be. I hope you've spoken with your solicitor and ... (read in full...)
If we both put effot into a LDR, will it work?
Q. I am 18 years old. I moved from idaho to kentucky for my boyfriend we have been together for almost a year. I put my life on hold for him for 5 months now. Well I decided to go to school back in idaho. So I am going home. Both of us have been ...
A. 14 November 2008: LDRs can work out if you put in the effort and you are truly committed to making it work. I was in one for nearly 2 years, and now I'm married to the guy. It can happen. BUT and there are a lot of BUTS in your situation from my perspective... let me ... (read in full...)
Could my girlfriend be pregnant from mid-day sperm?
Q. alright. new to this so i'm going to be blunt. I masturbated about mid-day and just kinda wiped myself off. the old once over with some tissue. then later on, unexpectedly, my girlfriend of two years came over to visit me and we ended up having sex ...
A. 14 November 2008: If you had sex without a condom, there is a chance that sperm in pre-ejaculate fluid could have seeped into her vagina. If the mid-afternoon semen was still wet and kept warm by your body, well, who knows?
Check out this informative video. I know... (read in full...)
Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist?
Q. Where are all the decent men who don't lie? Do they exist? If they do where would they be or how do I find them?...
A. 14 November 2008: Well, I'm married to one and most of the men I know fall into the decent category. Read 'bemused's' answer carefully; she makes some excellent points. I met my guy through friends. It took me a little while to realize that he was a real find. ... (read in full...)
Why does he flirt with my friends when we've had a fight?
Q. Why do guys think that just because him and his girlfriend are in a fight that he can go around flirting with his girlfriend's friends who he just likes as friends????????????????? ...
A. 13 November 2008: I'm guessing here. He does it because he wants to really hurt her and make her angry. It gives him the power over her when she gets angry and she becomes hysterical, because then she's easy to manipulate.
He does it because he's trying to feel like... (read in full...)
I need to lose weight badly... I resemble a cow!
Q. I need to lose weight badly, and I have made up my mind to do that. I'm particularly insecure about my breasts... they're too big, and too saggy. I realize there are worse things but I resemble a cow. If I were to lose weight, would it affect ...
A. 13 November 2008: Google Oprah's favorite bra if I've spelled it wrong.... (read in full...)
I need to lose weight badly... I resemble a cow!
Q. I need to lose weight badly, and I have made up my mind to do that. I'm particularly insecure about my breasts... they're too big, and too saggy. I realize there are worse things but I resemble a cow. If I were to lose weight, would it affect ...
A. 13 November 2008: Yes, they get smaller when you lose weight. But if you do it right, it's all proportional. And if you combine some upper body stuff, the underpinnings are nice and firm.
Look for Le Mystere bras. *Blush* they're called Tisha. Ahem. They are fabu... (read in full...)
I am so disgusted with my weight that I cringe every time I look in the mirror
Q. I am so disgusted with my weight that I cringe every time I look in the mirror. I would like to have a nice figure, and I would like to be able to wear stylish clothes and be poised and confident, and it makes me cringe to see all the blubber ...
A. 13 November 2008: Sorry for my quick reply, I'll try to give you some personal attention and answer some of your questions a bit later. PM me or leave a followup here if I forget to do it. Life's a bit busy!!!
xxx... (read in full...)
I am so disgusted with my weight that I cringe every time I look in the mirror
Q. I am so disgusted with my weight that I cringe every time I look in the mirror. I would like to have a nice figure, and I would like to be able to wear stylish clothes and be poised and confident, and it makes me cringe to see all the blubber ...
A. 13 November 2008: Okay, I just wrote my story on this thread:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-do-i-tell-my-wife-that-she.html
You can do it!! You can!!! I promise.
Sorry for the shortcut but I think everything I said there applies to you too.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife that she needs to lose weight? I love her but am having problems with her neglecting these aspects.
Q. How do I tell my wife she needs to lose weight? We have been married for 8 yrs, 2nd for both of us. When we met she was much thinner ans said she worked out and stayed in shape,but over the years she has slowly gained weight and seems to have lost...
A. 13 November 2008: WAIT!! I forgot clothes. She needs to have a day with a personal shopper. Take her to one of those fancy department stores, with an appointment for the personal shopper. Watch some 'What Not To Wear' on TLC or is it Bravo? That show has some great ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my wife that she needs to lose weight? I love her but am having problems with her neglecting these aspects.
Q. How do I tell my wife she needs to lose weight? We have been married for 8 yrs, 2nd for both of us. When we met she was much thinner ans said she worked out and stayed in shape,but over the years she has slowly gained weight and seems to have lost...
A. 13 November 2008: Oooh, tricky spot. I know, because I was that wife. Yep. It's a vicious circle, you don't feel good about your looks, you stop trying to look good, and voila! You don't look good. The worst is that it just creeps up on you, a few pounds a year, and ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father that I'm pregnant? He has absolutely zero empathy and worries more about money than anything else!
Q. Hello All, I would like some tips or advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. Here is a little info: I am 26 years old and in a stable relationship. I have told my mother, sister, brother, and all my friends. Everyone seems to be ex...
A. 26 September 2008: You could also be upfront with him if he does attack you. Stay calm and tell him that you dreaded telling him that you were expecting a baby because you knew he would have nothing positive to say and would only attack you. Tell him that you are ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my father that I'm pregnant? He has absolutely zero empathy and worries more about money than anything else!
Q. Hello All, I would like some tips or advice on how to tell my father that I am pregnant. Here is a little info: I am 26 years old and in a stable relationship. I have told my mother, sister, brother, and all my friends. Everyone seems to be ex...
A. 26 September 2008: Yikes, he sounds awful! Sorry, I should remember he's your dad. Well, it sounds like you know what his concerns will be, so head them off at the pass. When you have this conversation, which you will have to, obviously, set up all the ... (read in full...)
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