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How do you act graceful in the midst of a former flame?
Q. How do you act graceful in the midst of a former flame? There was a man I was in love with a couple of years ago and now we will have to confront each other at an professional event. I know when we see each other there will be sparks again but...
A. 13 July 2008: You need to focus at the reason as to why you left this man and weigh the options of gettin too close and reviving what seems like flames tht will burn you.
It is normal for the sparks to stur up at the first sight of meeting him especial... (read in full...)
Where do I go, to learn about a woman's anatomy, and how to please a woman sexually?
Q. Hi I am 16 yrs old and I have never had sex or done anything more than making out with girls, even though I have had a few sort of longterm girlfriends (7.5 months the longest... its long for my age I think). I'm not abstinent so to speak but the ...
A. 8 July 2008: "where can i learn what women like"... a real genuine beautiful woman of value and dignity wants a man that will committ himself to her eternally so that she can share with him the most precious moment in her life : sex. she wants a man that will ... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my sister in law!!
Q. I want to f**k my sisterinlaw, but I don't know how to proceed. It's just that she's so sexy!(and sweet) Everywhere she goes she wears a thin, low cut shirt of some time and no bra. I can see her nipples through her shirt. Her boobs are huge. I've ...
A. 25 June 2008: you never mentioned that important part, that you brother passed on... well maybe the responses from uncles and aunties would have been different... but even so, the two of you seem to be lusting each other.. even if it was something real, then why ... (read in full...)
Is he too young for me do you think?
Q. I wonder if anyone can advise me on a startling new problem that's come up. Im 35 and single, never been married or had kids, and a few years ago got to know a lovely guy through some friends, who was 19. i found him really attractive and ...
A. 19 June 2008: as long as you don't look older than him (physically and intellectually) coz a guy should slightly be ahead also in intellect so that you dont baby him. if he's mature and you are happy take it as any other happy relationship.... (read in full...)
Has anyone any experience of dealing with your confidence levels after failing a professional qualification?
Q. i would like to know if there are people out there who failed a subject while doing a professional course such as doctor,engineering or dentistry???how did it go after that..did it put down your confidence level..i need help..thanks...
A. 15 June 2008: I'm not sure if this will assist you, back when i was taking my undergraduate course to prepare me for my current proffession, i not only failed one paper but 3! and i had to re-seat the papers which i managed to pass well. i graduated and i got ... (read in full...)
Should I get revenge?
Q. The boy I was inlove with in my past. Is now that one I offically hate. He cheated on his girlfriend with me, and now I feel as if I should use it has revenge to get back at him. I know this would probably ruin his whole life, and I don't want to ...
A. 14 June 2008: Honey revenge is not only said to be bad for moral judgment purpose but it is becoz of what it does to an individual. the hate and resentment shall grow much more in your heart after you do this and it won't make everything better if anything the ... (read in full...)
Is it possible that I could make this a good relationship?
Q. There is a guy that i have been talking to and i can tell that he is falling for me and, in a way, i am falling for him as well. He's your average guy and he's just sweet, but there is one problem: I have feelings for my teacher. I have liked t...
A. 12 June 2008: Yes i think its not fair for this other guy when you are still infatuated about your teacher. the good thing is that you knw that there's nothing that can happen between you and your teacher (as we are assuming that he has not had any role to play ... (read in full...)
Is there really love at first sight?
Q. Is there realy such thing as love at first sight or is it just lust? Do men say they love you after a couple of dates just so they can sleep with you? Come on guys be honest have you ever done this?...
A. 12 June 2008: I've really had stories like Bella Babe's and i think its true even though i have not experienced that personally. i hear that it has to be at first sight and not after a couple of date... i also understand that those love at first sights do really ... (read in full...)
He makes no effort to call me, is he cheating on me?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my bf for about 3 months now. We spend day and night together for the past 2 months and a month ago he ended up moving away for a different school that he got into, and the deal was that after this summer session ...
A. 12 June 2008: play it differently, stop calling and let him do the calling. he probably doesn't call becoz you're de one who does most of the calling. logicly speaking, there may not be any need for him calling if that's your 'job'. it may not necessarily meant ... (read in full...)
When is the right time to give up on a long term relationship?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months today. He is the first person I have ever had a long term relationship with and my first love. I used to think we would get married and live happily ever after. But I have been so unhappy on and off (maybe ...
A. 12 June 2008: you need to free yourself from this kind of rejection early enough before it's encored in your system. soon enough you will struggle with serious self esteem issues that will be a great challenge to get over. this is how it starts and no other way. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend can't trust me because I've confided in other people!
Q. Theres a girl I'm in love with and we've been seeing each other for almost a year but not too long ago she lost complete trust in me. She is a very private person and doesn't like sharing her personal life with others. Throughout our relationship ...
A. 12 June 2008: Jen86 is right, let her go.... you don't have supernatural powers to read her mind all the time. that's her weapon to gain full controll of a relationship only at her advantage.... (read in full...)
My older BF lately does not satisfy me in bed. I cheated on him once and I feel I may stray again!
Q. Hi Im 29 years old. My partner of 7 years is 45. Our sex was great at the beginning but as we got older it started to stop he wouldn't even do foreplay. I cheated on him once and told him i was pregnant with another man's baby. I only did it becau...
A. 12 June 2008: Age here is not the problem and the problem here is not that your man doesn't love or care for you. the problem is you.. he is probably not getting interested in your sexual satisfaction becoz you are getting it else where and you even confess that ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want me at his birthday party! He thinks I was 'easy' in my past!
Q. I'm so hurt and angry! My bf of almost 2 years is having a birthday party tomorrow. Ok, it's not exactly a party, it's just that his friends and classmates have planned to take him clubbing tomorrow night. The thing is, this guy is so hung up...
A. 12 June 2008: O.k Honey no one should judge your present using the past. the fact that you have never cheated on him is worth noting that you have taken a different turn in your life. you told him about your past probably to let go of it and that it may not ... (read in full...)
He says he's suffering from loss of sex drive, but has been using porn as 'relief.' I'm confused!
Q. My partner has confessed that he is suffering from loss of sex drive. I recently found porn on his PC and he says that he used it as relief. He said that if guys don't have sex for a long time, their testicles fill up with semen and it can cause ...
A. 7 June 2008: Sorry about your dilema but i would like to try and give you another dimension of this problem. your boyfriend is addicted to porn. there is no other way that he can get sexual satisfaction for now becoz the porn has dominated his life. he does not ... (read in full...)
What is Karma..? Can someone please explain this to me?
Q. Hi guys, this my sound like a silly question but, can anyone explain to me what Karma is, i knew this guy in the past and he use to say this to me, sometimes two people are ment to be together no matter what, its karma, faith....an unex...
A. 5 June 2008: "Karma is one of the most important concepts in Buddhism. Karma is an imprint in one's Mind. When one performs a good deed out of good intentions, the good intentions come from the Mind. Having done that good deed, the residues of these intentions ... (read in full...)
How long would it take for pregnancy symptoms to occur?
Q. I just wanted to know... if a girl was pregnant, when do the symptoms occur from the time she's had intercourse? ...
A. 4 June 2008: feel tired, constipated, pee alot, feel like throwing up in the morning, feel like when you are on your periods and get really restless and cramps, miss period.... the symptoms vary among different women others may not even have the above symptoms. ... (read in full...)
How can I be more confident at Uni?
Q. Hi, this is a general type of question about my relationships with my classmates in my grad. program at my university. We ahve to work in groups a lot and I feel like they don't value my opinion. As soon as I start saying something, it seems like ...
A. 4 June 2008: Are these the groups that have been assigned to you buy your lecturer? if not, you could change and move to another group especially where members are putting equal effort in what you discuss and read. when most of the times they have not read as ... (read in full...)
Do I have a problem with my direction?
Q. Hi! I'm a 15-year-old girl who is straight and who loves boys! My sister is a lesbian and she gave me some episodes of the L World to watch last week.I wasn't ok with that coz'i'm not a dyke!!!I watched the show and I loved it!!! Now when I go on...
A. 4 June 2008: I think you know wat you want.. you say ur straight and even shout that you love boys! that's a good thing (to know wat u want). Your sister is not being considerate here, she is making you do things that you do not like even when you are firm about ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend dated someone else. I don't know what to do
Q. My boyfriend went out on a date with another girl. He says he was angry at me for asking him about cheating on me (someone said they saw him at a bar with another girl). I gave him another chance, but then heard that one of his friends thought ...
A. 3 June 2008: Oh! it is very confusing.. most of this 'evidence' is only from other people. you are really the type that listens to what other people say..(though at times you can consider their talk but to a very very minimal percentage) i don know how close ... (read in full...)
I can't let go of my ex now we are just friends
Q. hey, broke up with my boyfriend about 8 months ago, and I have constantly texted him I dont know why. Think I still want to feel close to him as he has moved away. I have wished him best for the future and have not tried to get him back, just wanted ...
A. 3 June 2008: its very difficult to let go i know..everyone who is not in the situation advices it quite easily. but there is a good sign there for you, that you want to let go. the reason he is drifting away further and further is becoz you send him endless ... (read in full...)
Do I take him back or keep my guard up?
Q. I need help! my ex bf and I havent talked for 7 months and hes now contacting me again. He claims he changed and stuff. He was really bad and idk what to or believe anymore. He said he grew up and changed....my parents hate him for the way he previ...
A. 3 June 2008: Softball, it seems to me that you have already made a decision to go back and that you want to try and work it out. all i can advice you is to be careful that he does not hurt you the same way. before getting back to him, give him 3simple ... (read in full...)
How do I break up with a suicidal girl?
Q. How do i break up with a girl i've been dating for 10 months when she has a past history of being suicidal and says she couldn't live without me. also she lost her virginity to me to make things that much harder. no matter what i want to stay ...
A. 3 June 2008: your gf is suffering from a psychological problem, you need to have a plan b4 you exit from the rlshp. i know you feel afraid that if she actually kills herself becoz of you(which would not be your fault) you would be traumatized.
you need to ... (read in full...)
A question about pleasure and pain in sex.
Q. this may be a weird one just to warn you :] when me and my boyfriend are together he likes me to slap him because it "turns him on" is this okay? I mean I don't want to hurt him if I do...I feel really bad about it. Is this like a pain fetish?? ...
A. 3 June 2008: i am just sad..... that's it... 13-15 years old you both are?? i don't even know wat to say.. i hope you are not expecting people with a reasonable acquired number of years & life experience to advice you on what best positions and fetishes are ... (read in full...)
I couldn't cancel the bookclub plans in favour of dinner with my husband's family, this created much tension between us. Your opinions?
Q. My Husband asked me if we can go to his brother's who is visiting for four months has invited us to eat dinner, i told him that yes i would love to go, but that the bookclub was that night, so i told him that i may cancel so we can go. i cont...
A. 3 June 2008: Gosh! you are not able to make a decision and stick on it. there are probably other instances this has happened and your husband is getting really upset at it coz you don't have a firm stand and you are very spontaneous. you can improve this by ... (read in full...)
Going by the expiry date, when might this condom have been bought?
Q. Im in a relationship of 3 years, and i found a condom wrapper in the room and im trying to figure out when it might have been bought. The exp. Date on it is october of 2009. It was by some of my boyfriends thing from when he was married. But i cant ...
A. 3 June 2008: he was married.!!.. lol...! or is it that he was a widow? do you stay with him? if you do not use that type of condom? then yes, he is cheating on you i.e only if you are sure you have not used that condom type for the last three years (its kinda ... (read in full...)
I can't help feeling insecure that some girls may want him!
Q. I'm feeling insecure. My boyfriend told me that a lot of people tellhim he's good looking mostly female friends or classmates. I know it's silly and that I should be proud to be with him - indeed, I'm porud - however, I can't stop feeling a bit in...
A. 3 June 2008: when he fell in love with you, he had a reason. he saw some qualities in you that he admired the most. there will always be prettier gals than you and prettier gals than those prettier than you. same applies to you, you are much prettier than other ... (read in full...)
Do I take him back or keep my guard up?
Q. I need help! my ex bf and I havent talked for 7 months and hes now contacting me again. He claims he changed and stuff. He was really bad and idk what to or believe anymore. He said he grew up and changed....my parents hate him for the way he previ...
A. 3 June 2008: Its one thing taking one step forward and another taking 10steps backwards after taking the previous 1 step forward.
if you moved on in 7 months (by the way congratulations!) why do you want to go back to ruins and heart ache. unless the ill-trea... (read in full...)
I seem to be the one putting all the effort in. Should I end the relationship? I need input!
Q. Ok everyone this is a big question I have and it might be a decision that I could regret but I wanna know what you all think. I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months and she's a great girl and all...but I have noticed some problems. We...
A. 3 June 2008: Oh you have really made it clear. it is very unusual for someone not to want any affection in a relationship and not even want to talk, i agree with Tisha's advice.... (read in full...)
Just found out my ex is going to be a dad, I'm gutted and regret that we ever broke up!
Q. I went out with a guy for about 13 months about 3 years ago but i finished it, i was kinda pushed into it with everyone telling me i shud be single at my age (17) so i never really fell out of love and we have kissed a few times since but we always ...
A. 3 June 2008: sometimes in life we make choices that we live to regret them. when we decide that this shall never happen again, life is kind enough to give a second chance. lol.. you were young and you were mislead by adults who always think they are right. at ... (read in full...)
I seem to be the one putting all the effort in. Should I end the relationship? I need input!
Q. Ok everyone this is a big question I have and it might be a decision that I could regret but I wanna know what you all think. I've been with my girlfriend for 7 months and she's a great girl and all...but I have noticed some problems. We...
A. 3 June 2008: wat are some of this efforts?? well as to the way you describe that she says that she is ok without being 'close' (define this pls) and affectionate it seems that she doesn't feel the same. on the other hand, could it be that she is afraid of giving ... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my sister in law!!
Q. I want to f**k my sisterinlaw, but I don't know how to proceed. It's just that she's so sexy!(and sweet) Everywhere she goes she wears a thin, low cut shirt of some time and no bra. I can see her nipples through her shirt. Her boobs are huge. I've ...
A. 2 June 2008: Its difficult to tell you what to do XXX. this sister in law is leading you on. she does not respect your brother. blood is thicker than blood, if you love your brother you will not want to see his heart break when he even finds out that you ever ... (read in full...)
I still love the ex that broke my heart...
Q. Well, me and my ex split up just over 5 months ago. He split up with me because he felt like we were falling too deep, and things were becoming too serious. I disagreed at the time (which i'm sure didn't help.). I'm 20 and he is 22, and this is ...
A. 1 June 2008: 5 months is too long for him not to have made up his mind lol.. it's probably better if you move on and don't get entangled with his 'world'. you don't know why he is scared of a committment yet he still misses you and says to his friends that he'd ... (read in full...)
How do you get over the heartache?
Q. how do u get over someone who u liked for 3yrs more than life? Someone who rejected you in a extremely nice way but u can't get over it. Someone who comes in ur dreams every nite? Someone pictures u luk at every nite. Someone u wish u saw everday ...
A. 1 June 2008: Yes as all are advicing its true. i too have broken up with my bf and wat i'm trying to do is take each day at a time and accepting the fate. wat is helping me right now is not kidding myself that its not over and being very composed about it. once ... (read in full...)
Knowing about her past makes me feel inadequate, but I love her! So why do I feel like running away?
Q. My problems kinda about jealousy... So i'm really, really close with this girl. we're not ''official'' but only because I wanna give it time, we do everything a normal young teen couple would do. My problem is with her past...It isn't that sl...
A. 1 June 2008: she is probably not lingering in her past so why are you the one lingering in 'her' past. she has had boyfriends before and left them because she din't love them otherwise she would not have left them to enjoy being with you. its normal to feel that ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the fact that everyone I know loves my abusive ex bf?
Q. How do i deal with the fact that everyone i know loves my abusive ex bf? They all think he is this great guy, caring, chamring, respectful and a good catholic guy. But hes not...it just really frustrats me. People would always say when we were ...
A. 31 May 2008: If you are happy to set yourself free from this abuser, that's what matters. if he is so good,caring, charming etc... tell those people that they can now have him. coz it seems that they are the ones in need of "care,love,respect" etc. the two of ... (read in full...)
He wont have sex with me should I seek it elsewhere?
Q. ive been with my boyfriend for a few years and we used to have sex a few days out the week if not everyday but now ill be lucky if i get it once a month sex or any type of affection and we have been arguing alot but still im not feeling loved im ...
A. 31 May 2008: Find out if he has a disfunction that he may be embarrased about or better still make him talk to you and find out instead of "forcing" him. there must be a reason. do you feel any emotional connection with him and from his side, have you noticed ... (read in full...)
Do I cheat on my wife now that she cant have sex for medical reasons?
Q. DEAR CUPID I AM MARRIED FOR 15 YEARS MY WIFE HAD AN OPERATION ON HER BACK AND NOW SHE DOES NOT WANT TO HAVE SEX SHE HAS LOST HER DRIVE BUT I AM STILL VERY RANDY. DO I SLEEP AROUND ON HER AND NOT SAY ANYTHING.SHE DOES NOT WANT ANY SEX ANYMORE PLEASE ...
A. 31 May 2008: Hi, if the problem is just temporary and is still undergoing medication and treatment, it is probably best to wait until she recovers. i don't know how long the doctors have said her condition might last, but if its just temporary, give her time to ... (read in full...)
Is he being honest with me over the reasons for our breakup?
Q. I am devastated and I need an opinion...I met this guys 5 years ago while I was travelling. I fell for him and I believed he fell for me as well. It was my first relationship with an older man and because our cultures and language backgrounds were ...
A. 30 May 2008: its true wat Daniel Pew is saying. It is a way for him to say goodbye.. i just don't know why he texts you.. but i think he is apologising indirectly. on the other hand, there seems to be something telling him that yu want to move on. he may even be ... (read in full...)
My bf fingered me and I asked him to stop but he didn't...is this a sort of rape?!?
Q. my boyfreind fingered me a couple nights ago. it felt good but i didnt want to come in front of him so i told him to stop but he didnt. i started crying and ran out. he felt really bad and apologized for doing it. but is that considered some kind of ...
A. 29 May 2008: Yeh i agree with Fiona... let's also just hope that this guy is your agemate then we can say that you both acted silly. Try get over it and do not allow that to happen or one day it could be worse when a guy actually will really rape you and cause ... (read in full...)
Been sleeping with my friends father. What do you think I should do?
Q. Hi cupid, I am in a really hard situation. ok my best friend and I are really close we do everything together. I am 16 and she is 17. I really don't have much of a family of my own my dad left us and my mum spends more time at the pub getting ...
A. 29 May 2008: You know wat, you want people to accept by force but guess wat, majority will never accept it. you have taken advantage of the situation of your parents and made it as an excuse. you have the capacity to make the right decisions even if your parents ... (read in full...)
Is he being honest with me over the reasons for our breakup?
Q. I am devastated and I need an opinion...I met this guys 5 years ago while I was travelling. I fell for him and I believed he fell for me as well. It was my first relationship with an older man and because our cultures and language backgrounds were ...
A. 29 May 2008: Your welcome that shows you there are many good people in this world just tht one that didn't turn out good doesn't mean all are bad. you shall surely get a better one. There is no break-up that is sweet. even when loved ones die it is a pain we all ... (read in full...)
Is he being honest with me over the reasons for our breakup?
Q. I am devastated and I need an opinion...I met this guys 5 years ago while I was travelling. I fell for him and I believed he fell for me as well. It was my first relationship with an older man and because our cultures and language backgrounds were ...
A. 28 May 2008: Gal, to me it seems that you are the one that has decided not to move on even when i believe your heart tells you that it was not meant to be. i will also comment on the guys part so as to be fair, you seem to have trapped him by always dragging him ... (read in full...)
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