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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I came home and found my husband in bed with our doctor! What now?
Q. My name is Christina and I am a 30-year-old woman, my husband is 32, and we've been together for 10 years, married for the last 5 out of those 10 years together. I came home from work one night about a week ago to find him in bed with our GP/doct...
A. 21 August 2008: What an awful man! I hate him just hearing this story.
Right. You need to start planning for the worst. Get to a solicitor right away, you need advice on managing your money, the house, the assets that you own together. Do not stop, do not pass go, ... (read in full...)
Do you guys know when there is sperm about to come out or not?
Q. Ok heres my problem me and my boyfriend have been in a 7 month relationship and i think he the one..so i gave it up to him, but here the thing he did the poke-meaning he went in and then out in and then out we didnt have a condom so iam worryed.But ...
A. 21 August 2008: I am happy for you. I hope that you've become wiser now about protecting yourself and understanding the importance of sex education. You can always stop having sex too, until you're older, you don't need to do it to stay cool or keep the guy. Okay? ... (read in full...)
I want to have a baby to my boyfriend but I'm scared of how my dad will react
Q. Hi im 18 and i really want a baby. The problem is i live in my dads house. My boyfriend of 5 years who is turning 21 in oct wants a baby to me too but is afraid my dad will shoot him and im afraid my dad will hate me. I have even been thinkin of ...
A. 21 August 2008: Isn't it rather selfish of you to lay the burden of childcare and housing a new baby on your father? Why would he want to live in a house with a screaming baby and dirty nappies? He's done that already, hasn't he, with you?
If you're still livi... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to tell me wife she shouldn't have our 3rd child? Times are tough.
Q. Hi my wife just told me she is pregant with our third.I told her a dont want her to have it because bringing another child into the world is alot of money and other things intrest rate ect. Times are harder,I know it takes two to have a baby not ...
A. 21 August 2008: I think that you should look down the road a bit, and think about where you might be then. I think that you and your wife especially might deeply regret terminating the pregnancy simply for financial reasons. I would expect a great deal of guilt ... (read in full...)
She says she has strong feelings for me but that I can do much better? How can I fix this?
Q. Dear cupid I have been going out with a girl for two months. These few days she has been iffy if she wants to continue and doesn't know if she can. She finally told me what she thinks. Heres what she said in a facebook message "Okay scratch w...
A. 21 August 2008: I like PsyCookie's advice, but I'm a wee bit concerned about why she's saying that you can do better. I think that when a person says that to another, in this case girl to the boy, it means that she has mentally started to move on, and doesn't want ... (read in full...)
I'm obsessed with my ex and he's getting married!
Q. Hi,i'm 18 and I have been obssessed with my ex-boyfriend, I'm afraid that this has been effecting my life, personal and professional. I haven't seen him in over 5 months. It was a long distance relationship, But we finally called it quits about a ...
A. 21 August 2008: Pinktopaz is right about the fact that it takes time to get over a break up. There is no short cut to feeling better, if there were, we'd all know it!
I think that there may be some anger about how things went with the split buried inside you. If I... (read in full...)
Should I keep messaging my long distance boyfriend?
Q. Hi posted a question a few days ago now about wanting advice about a guy i was seeing who relocated. Basically i spoke to him this week on the pc and he logged off !! He hasnt been back on since what gets me is he seems to have taken what happened ...
A. 21 August 2008: Create your own closure, as Emily suggests. Don't wait around for him to explain things to you, that is a waste of your precious time. I mean, what's the point? If you're only going to argue with him about what happened in the past (I missed your ... (read in full...)
I thought he was untrustworthy. He thought I was too fussy. Who's right?
Q. What do you think is happening in his head? I ended it for good with him at the begining of the year. He wanted to try again but i didn't want to. He had lied a few times and he is one of those guys you find hard to trust because he is quite se...
A. 21 August 2008: I think you're trying to justify the break up to yourself, and there's really no need to! He sounds a bit of a mess, frankly, and I think you do indeed deserve better. He's just said you're too fussy to make himself feel better abou the split. ... (read in full...)
My ex left me and has moved on, but I want him back.
Q. my ex left me 2months ago, and he got a new girl friend very soon. After I found out, I tried to confirm with him, he just said not telling me because he doesn't want to hurt me. I know its bullshit! but I still can't help missing him, I tried to ...
A. 21 August 2008: Hi, it's so hard to be dumped without being given a chance to save the relationship. I have to agree with LonelyButNotAlone (LBNA) that he might have been speaking with his new girlfriend before he actually ended it with you. I'm also sorry to say ... (read in full...)
Is it OK to have an affair with a friend who's a hooker even though I have a girlfriend?
Q. wow...! this' a little funny, but here it goes. I went to a pub one evening after a tiring day from work, and met a hooker. out of curiosity I thought I could just disturb her a little but without being serious on it. so I bought her a drink. b...
A. 21 August 2008: Um, if you're having sex with a prostitute and other girls without your girlfriend's knowledge or consent, you are potentially exposing your 'chick' to sexually transmitted diseases and HIV, and that, sir, is most definitely NOT OKAY!!!!!
Do your... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to commit--should I stay with him?
Q. I have been seeing this guy for 6 months, he is 36 and i'm 32. When we first got together, he said he had issues with the whole 'girlfriend/boyfriend thing, and that he believed in us both being free to see other people if we wish. I am not that...
A. 21 August 2008: Hi, I think you're right, this relationship won't be very healthy for you. You and he want different things from a relationship, and from what you report of him, he's not likely to want to change how he's managed his relationships. It's not ... (read in full...)
My mom thinks I'm useless--what do I do?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have this problem with my mum. Ok, it started like this, i went out with my friends, she gave me 40 dollars. I was thinking of buying books but hesitated but when i got home, i found out that i dropped 10 dollars at the mall. I told h...
A. 21 August 2008: It sounds like she may have over-reacted to what you did. Losing $10 isn't the end of the world, now, is it? But maybe there have been other incidents like that in the past? Where you've lost something that's valuable? It could just be a case of the ... (read in full...)
I have these problems after being sexually assaulted by a family member. Please help.
Q. i was sexually assaulted by my a family member earlier this year and it can really screw me up at times. its not as bad as whatsome people go thru but that doesnt mean it doesnt affect me. i had to explain to my friend today, which im totally fine ...
A. 21 August 2008: Hi, I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you and that you're having problems as a result. The other aunts are correct in saying that you need to tell someone about this. A burden shared is a burden lightened, and you are far too young to be ... (read in full...)
I caught my husband with whom have been married for 1 1/2 years, on a dating site. I know we need counselling, how should I get him involved?
Q. I have been married for 1 1/2 years. We have been together for 3 years. Just prior to the wedding I found out he had several relations with different girls, had been on dating websites, and still texting and sending provocative pictures to some of ...
A. 21 August 2008: That is good news, that you're both going to counseling. I hope that it is a productive session. I expect it'll be very emotional and difficult to get through, but you're off to a positive start, aren't you?
I do wish you the best and that this is t... (read in full...)
We became very close, but now it's all gone complicated. How can I get things back to how they were?
Q. we've know each other for like 10 months. Before that, once in awhile we will hang out together with some other friends.I never taught of liking her and stuff like that but at 3 weeks back, we are getting closer, sometimes she asked me out, ...
A. 21 August 2008: She may be confused about her feelings, she may still be getting over the relationship, as it was only 3 weeks ago. I think you should just give her some time, don't rush anything, don't push her to get close to you. Continue to get to know her, but ... (read in full...)
Should I go for it of leave it?
Q. Hi everyone! So here's my question. A couple of months ago i heard from this childhood friend; lets call him Fred. Fred texts me saying we should meet. So i said sure. The first time he said im sorry i cant. So we arranged about a month later to m...
A. 21 August 2008: Hi Ellie,
I think that you have pretty much already decided that he's not worth the effort at this point. You might as well text him back, and if he does suggest meeting up again, just reply that it's getting to be a bore that he keeps canc... (read in full...)
How is losing my virginity going to feel? And what steps do I take to move it to full on sex?
Q. hi there im 16 and im gunna have sex with my boyfriend at the weekend, im a virgin and have only ever kissed a guy before. i dont know what to do nd hes really experienced and knows alot bout sex and positions but i know nothing whatso ever, wh...
A. 21 August 2008: If you've only ever kissed a boy, I sincerely doubt that losing your virginity this weekend is a good idea. You have some studying to do to be ready. I also have to tell you that teenage boys don't really know as much about sex as they think they ... (read in full...)
I have this urge to sleep with another guy to show my boyfriend how much it hurts to not be the only person in his life!
Q. My boyfriend "hung out" with two other women when we had started going out. I had told him how much I didn't like him being alone with another woman but he didn't listen. So I have this strange earge to go and sleep with another guy just to make him ...
A. 21 August 2008: Did he sleep with these two women? Your revenge, because that's what it is, is overkill. You are going much much further than he did, and I think this will backfire on you in ways you haven't thought through.
First of all, it is an unbalanced rela... (read in full...)
I have lost my husband's trust, how can I 'learn my lesson' so he stays happy?
Q. ok, so I have contentiously messed up in my marriage and my husband no longer trust me! Its not an affair but he seems to think it is pretty close. I basically took on the responsibility of a kid after I told him I did not want kids right now, and ...
A. 21 August 2008: Okay, this is very weird. You have a friend that you're treating as a child? Is that it? And your husband thinks that the relationship is inappropriate and doesn't want you to have it?
Why is he so upset by this, there must be something more goin... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex to at least talk to me?
Q. my boyfriend and i broke up three days ago through text message ... he is really laid back and doesn't like drama or fights or anything ... im sure he really cared ... but we broke up because i left him a voicemail telling him we needed a break bu...
A. 20 August 2008: I think you need to give him some time. I expect he's really hurt and upset right now, and just wants to nurse those feelings for a while. It might actually be better not to talk to him right now because of his upset, he might say things that he ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with two guys, help me!
Q. I have a serious problem: I have a boyfriend of one year and I love him very much, over the past four months I have fallen in love with one of his friends. We are all in school together. I know I am young, but I know that I love both of them ...
A. 20 August 2008: This is a tough position to be in. As you are still young, do you think you could manage without a boyfriend for a bit? Until you figure out what it is you want from a relationship? It may be that you are still too young to commit fully to one guy. ... (read in full...)
Can a UTI affect the outcome of a home pregnancy test? Can it make me miss my period? Does planned parenthood offer blood tests?
Q. I hate conflicting symptoms. My period was supposed to start almost two weeks ago. I figured I might be pregnant-though I had absolutely NO pregnancy symptoms. I have taken two first response tests 5 days apart from each other. Both came out ...
A. 20 August 2008: I hope you've been to the plannedparenthood.org website to ask this question. I'm sorry, I don't know the answer to it. I believe that plannedparenthood will refer you to a local clinic that should be able to help you.
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Is my long distance boyfriend just giving me excuses?
Q. My boyfriend has gone off to college and he is only an hour and a half away. my mom will not let me drive down there by myself at all. and there would be no point anyways because football is taking up everyday of the week. He has been there for a ...
A. 20 August 2008: Oh, this is so hard, isn't it? I think it will not get better, I'm sorry. The thing about starting university is that you get completely swamped with new people and classes and in his case, football and the practices. It's a whole new world and ... (read in full...)
He all but ignores me at work-why?
Q. I am a tour guide and last year I met a guy working in one of the places I visit regularly. He is a very friendly person anyway but always made a big fuss of me, giving me a big welcome whenever I showed up, which my clients liked very much. We ...
A. 20 August 2008: It's possible that he was told not to be overly friendly with you by his boss, maybe it was considered a problem at work?
I would ask him if his new reticence is a result of that, and see what he says. Is it possible he has a girlfriend some... (read in full...)
Won't she be really hurt when he leaves her?
Q. one of my close friends that as been there for me the past 5 months has finally met a guy. she's been single for a year and abit and i was always worried that maybe she wasn't happy and would become easy with guys to get attention from them. alot of ...
A. 20 August 2008: All you can do is let her make her own mistakes, even though you can tell her that you think she is moving too quickly. And boy, is she! That's lightening speed. The good news is that she's far to young to actually get married, so she'll have to ... (read in full...)
Pregnant and I'm not sure if my boyfriend has accepted it?
Q. I'm 23 weeks pregnant and actually just found out 2 weeks ago (I had no symptoms, period was normal...so had no clue..but the baby is healthy!) Once I found out from the OBGYN, my boyfriend was not too thrilled about it. We both just started our ...
A. 20 August 2008: I like oldersister's advice on this. Just one more thought. He may indeed come around and accept this wholeheartedly. It's just that the baby has rocked his world and your plans. I'd give him time and be patient, but do find out if he's going to ... (read in full...)
What does he mean by "take things as they come"?
Q. Hi aunts and uncles... After nearly 6 months apart my ex boyf asked to meet him at the w/end cos even tho we broke up we were still friends and in contact with each other but just didn't see each other. We were a couple for over 2 years and...
A. 20 August 2008: It means don't make any long-term plans with him or for him. The future is tentative and it's like your relationship is back on 'approval.' If it works, great, if it doesn't, you won't be too invested in it. That's the theory anyway. I think that ... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but he loves me more!
Q. A few years ago i fell for this guy who is my friend and i love him. He is a year older and for a while i thought he liked me too. He started to ignore me when he found out i liked him and in May my friend * Hannah sorted things out between us. ...
A. 20 August 2008: I think you should carry on with your life as normal, and spend time with your friends and family. If what the grapevine says is true, that he likes you more than his girlfriend, then he will eventually break up with her and ask you out. If he ... (read in full...)
Recently my girl avoids kisses, cuddles and sex. But none of her lies point directly to cheating?...
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years. we were always close and she was always happy and cheery. we had a great sex life and kisses and cuddles were romantic and nice. However recently she has been very snappy with me at the slightest of thin...
A. 20 August 2008: Is she immature enough to not tell you when she's angry with you, and just expects you to figure out she's ticked off and why she's angry? Could she be angry because she knows you don't trust her?
Time for a calm, honest talk with her. Don't get ... (read in full...)
I want to break up with my boyfriend who helped and supported me through my breakdown...
Q. right, well... i sent a question a few hours ago, explaining that i had a nervous breakdown wen i had a miscarrige, n that resulted in me breaking up with my boyfriend, and i got back with my ex who helped me through the breakdown... ...
A. 20 August 2008: It sounds like you have had many issues in your young life. Are you really in the age range of 16-17? I think that the best thing for you to do is to think this through all the way. By that I mean that you should consider what staying with him will ... (read in full...)
When my wife and I make love she just lays there, I am so sexually frustrated, we talked about this but nothing changes!...
Q. What do you think about this? I've been married for 9 years and we have four kids. My wife is a stay at home Mom which I give her alot of credit for. My Question is this...She has really never been into French kissing, Initiating Sex, Giving Oral or ...
A. 20 August 2008: Hi, Smiles has laid out a very good game plan for tackling this issue, so I'm just going to add some of my thoughts that are worth exploring with your wife. I think that sex is a very important part of a successful and intimate marriage, the bonding ... (read in full...)
Can a virgin have a smear test done?
Q. Hello, I am near reaching an age where the doctors start to suggest smear tests. A thought occurred to me the other day and got me wondering whether female virgins get smear tested because wouldn't it break their hymen?? Can't spell. Unless hu...
A. 20 August 2008: I think that the recommendation is that women get pap smears when they become sexually active or reach the age of 21.
Here's some more information on this subject.
http://women.webmd.com/guide/pap-smear
http://ww... (read in full...)
I caught my husband with whom have been married for 1 1/2 years, on a dating site. I know we need counselling, how should I get him involved?
Q. I have been married for 1 1/2 years. We have been together for 3 years. Just prior to the wedding I found out he had several relations with different girls, had been on dating websites, and still texting and sending provocative pictures to some of ...
A. 20 August 2008: I'm not going to judge you for keeping an eye on him; you had some concerns that he wasn't being fully honest with you about giving up trying to meet other women. You did what you needed to do to keep your sanity. I probably would have done the same ... (read in full...)
Is she in denial to try to save her marriage?
Q. Hi. Imagine this work-place scenario. An unmarried man seduces a married woman into chasing him (they have been working in the same large office for nearly 4 years). He then responds to this indicator of interest by asking her out via e-mail. She ...
A. 18 August 2008: Does this scenario have anything to do with this other scenario?
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/when-a-woman-blanks-a-guy--.html
I think that in this case the man may have totally misread the indication of interest which prompted the initial ... (read in full...)
Am I going to be just a booty call if I keep hanging out with him?
Q. i have been hanging out with this guy almost everyday for a month now and we get along great we hang out in crowds so we are alwys around our friends, he holds my hand and kisses me hi and bye and even infront on everyonee, we have fooled around a ...
A. 18 August 2008: I don't blame you for being confused, he's doing one thing but saying another. I can tell you something else too, while he's treating you as a girlfriend in public, the other guys will take that as a sign to stay away from you. So he's effectively ... (read in full...)
I made a huge mistake going back to my ex. Now it's over, I don't know how to handle it.
Q. I made a huge mistake of going back to my ex, falling in love with him again and getting dumped by him again. It all started 3 years ago when he dumped me for someone else. It was heartbreaking and it took 18 months until I was fully over it. Then ...
A. 18 August 2008: Hi, sorry to hear you're hurting. You do need to reach out to your friends and family, as they are your support system. Just tell them that you know you made a mistake and that you've beaten yourself up about it, they don't need to pile on and ... (read in full...)
He flirts with me and tells me he wants to be with me but when I say lets be together he says nothing?
Q. please help!recently i started talking to my very first boyfriend.im talkin high school sweetheart.the thing is i still have very strong feelings for him.i told him but he didnt realy say much.he flirts with me and tells me he wants to be with me ...
A. 18 August 2008: Oldersister gave you great advice. I agree with her 100%. Treat him as if you had just met him and keep your head about you. Sometimes when you see people from high school, you revert back to the old patterns of behavior and thinking. All the ... (read in full...)
I want to stay for the kids but she has other things on her mind....
Q. Hi everyone! I don’t have a lot of close friends, and that is why I’m hoping to get an advice that might help me sort through this! I have been married for over 10 years, and have two beautiful kids. My wife and I have been in a great relationsh...
A. 18 August 2008: Hi, thanks for the follow up, I'm glad you took the words I wrote in the spirit with which they were intended.
Let us know what you decide to do and how things go for you. We aunts sometimes get a little bit attached to hearing the outcomes, and ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to date your ex bf's acquaintance?
Q. Is it ok to date your ex bf's acquaintance? My ex bf broke up with me about 5 months ago. Recently this guy who is an acquaintance of my ex asked me out on a date. I knew this guy before I went out with my ex but we were never really friends o...
A. 18 August 2008: If this guy is just an acquaintance, not a close friend, I don't really see that it's wrong to go out on with him. To be fair to the new guy, however, you should mention that your ex might have some problems with it, so that the new guy can make his ... (read in full...)
Is it really always so wrong to fall in love with someone who is in a relationship?
Q. I'm in love with a married man and he's in love with me. I told him to stay with his wife as she is devastated and wants him to stay and make things work - they have young children. Is it really always so wrong to fall in love with someone who...
A. 18 August 2008: I personally don't know of any affairs that have turned out well for all parties involved. There is always someone hurt, there's just no getting around that.
I don't think you can help having feelings for someone, but you can control your acti... (read in full...)
What does a orgasm feel like?
Q. Hi this is a question for girls only cuz i don't think guys can answer this question. Anyways i'm 13 and i have a boyfriend who's 15. And yesterday he was finger banging me but it wasn't the first time. But yesterday was different he got me ...
A. 18 August 2008: Um, guys, read the original date on this post. June 2007. Over a year ago. So calm down everyone and try to stay rational, okay?
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Do you guys know when there is sperm about to come out or not?
Q. Ok heres my problem me and my boyfriend have been in a 7 month relationship and i think he the one..so i gave it up to him, but here the thing he did the poke-meaning he went in and then out in and then out we didnt have a condom so iam worryed.But ...
A. 16 August 2008: To answer your most recent question, no, your body will not change nor should it feel different. However, being stressed and worrying a lot may create the idea that it has.
If you're really worried about being pregnant, go buy a test and read and ... (read in full...)
I want to stay for the kids but she has other things on her mind....
Q. Hi everyone! I don’t have a lot of close friends, and that is why I’m hoping to get an advice that might help me sort through this! I have been married for over 10 years, and have two beautiful kids. My wife and I have been in a great relationsh...
A. 15 August 2008: Your wife has't become an online agony aunt, has she? That might account for the computer use. The rest of it is either as you suspect, an affair, or possibly she's going through her mid-life crisis? I know I've started working out more and am ... (read in full...)
Do you guys know when there is sperm about to come out or not?
Q. Ok heres my problem me and my boyfriend have been in a 7 month relationship and i think he the one..so i gave it up to him, but here the thing he did the poke-meaning he went in and then out in and then out we didnt have a condom so iam worryed.But ...
A. 15 August 2008: Whoops! Here's the link to the video.
http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
I learned a lot watching this and before I did I thought I was well-educated in contraception and sexual h... (read in full...)
Do you guys know when there is sperm about to come out or not?
Q. Ok heres my problem me and my boyfriend have been in a 7 month relationship and i think he the one..so i gave it up to him, but here the thing he did the poke-meaning he went in and then out in and then out we didnt have a condom so iam worryed.But ...
A. 15 August 2008: He's either lying or he's ignorant of the facts of life. Either way, you're the one who's going to get pregnant if you keep having unprotected sex. He doesn't have to go through 9 months of pregnancy for 6 minutes of unprotected fun. The trade off ... (read in full...)
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