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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Should I consider having anal sex?
Q. in the last year i have had twins. i love them to pieces, but being a single mother is hard. in the last 2 weeks i have had sex with 2 people. now, for the 1st time un my life, i wasnt tight downstairs. they litterally just slid it up and there was ...
A. 21 April 2011: Is the anal sex for YOU or for your partners? Who suggested it and why do you feel pressured into having it?... (read in full...)
Guy I fooled around with from work has not responded. How do I act now?
Q. I fooled around with a guy from work one night that I like, I waited a week to see if he'd text me but he didn't. I saw him at work again and we barely talked but had some small talk. Earlier I texted him casually but he hasn't replied. He seemed in ...
A. 21 April 2011: I'd treat him courteously, but from a bit of a distance, like you have WAY better things going on than waiting for a text from some lame-o guy. Keep your dignity, hold your head high and ignore him unless you have no choice. Polite boredom, a sense ... (read in full...)
Experiences in dating foreign women?
Q. Ok...so I have finally reached the point where I am literally forced to realize the great bulk of American women are not material for marriage. However, there is a great alternative and I have gathered enough information to set about it next summer ...
A. 21 April 2011: Gosh, as I look around my neighborhood at so many successful marriages, and ponder on the long-term relationships my friends and family enjoy, I wonder where you are looking for women. If your perception is that every single woman in America is ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants my blessing to have sex with another guy!
Q. my girlfriend wants to have sex with another guy at a convention and wants my blessing. shes says its cool cause i will be allowwed a free pass too. why won't she understand that i only want to be with and should i see at her wanting to end things....
A. 20 April 2011: She's asking for an open relationship. If you don't want an open relationship, you need to recognize you want different things. I don't see this ending happily, sorry. Stick to what you know is right for yourself. ... (read in full...)
I had melanoma on my penis and had to have it amputated. Ladies how would you deal with this if it happened to your partner?
Q. Last year I was diagnosed with melanoma on my penis. To save my life, I had to have my penis amputated. So far I've recovered well. I've seen tons of trolls on sites claiming to be 18 and having penile cancer (virtually unheard of in young men) but ...
A. 20 April 2011: So it was in the lymph nodes? I hope you are being watchful for lymphadenopathy and limb edema, not a nice side effect!
I had another point I thought of today. When I was helping my sister go through chemo following her double mastectomy for brea... (read in full...)
I had melanoma on my penis and had to have it amputated. Ladies how would you deal with this if it happened to your partner?
Q. Last year I was diagnosed with melanoma on my penis. To save my life, I had to have my penis amputated. So far I've recovered well. I've seen tons of trolls on sites claiming to be 18 and having penile cancer (virtually unheard of in young men) but ...
A. 19 April 2011: Melanoma IS cancer. From the quick literature review I did, it seems that melanoma of the penis is a rare penile cancer and it is a highly aggressive cancer. I trust you have a good oncologist and a competent surgery. Your girlfriend is correct, to ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't find me physically attractive, who is he visualizing in his mind so that he can get aroused?
Q. I thin that the title to my question really say it all, the rest of this is background. While my husband has never come out and said it in a complete sentence, he does not find me physically attractive. He says that our sexual relationship, fo...
A. 26 March 2011: All I've got for you is that you stop trying to puzzle it out. Take that notorious "leap of faith" and trust that he wants to be with you. He demonstrates this by being with you. To dissect his desire/lack of desire into its finite bits is to lose ... (read in full...)
If he doesn't find me physically attractive, who is he visualizing in his mind so that he can get aroused?
Q. I thin that the title to my question really say it all, the rest of this is background. While my husband has never come out and said it in a complete sentence, he does not find me physically attractive. He says that our sexual relationship, fo...
A. 23 March 2011: "So how am I supposed to believe that he can be with me when I'm not that for him?" He IS with you. Why can't you believe that?
I would recommend finding a therapist or talk to your doctor about these and possibly other feelings you have been expe... (read in full...)
If he doesn't find me physically attractive, who is he visualizing in his mind so that he can get aroused?
Q. I thin that the title to my question really say it all, the rest of this is background. While my husband has never come out and said it in a complete sentence, he does not find me physically attractive. He says that our sexual relationship, fo...
A. 23 March 2011: Would you prefer that he turn up his nose and display open disdain for your physical charms? Because that's the direction that path you are walking right now is leading. There is nothing sexy about a woman who thinks she's a zero or one on the ... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my obsession for a girl?
Q. I dated a girl a while back (we stopped dating cause our schedules didn't really match up) but then I graduated, and she graduates this semester. But I don't have a car, and shes like 40 minutes away. I haven't seen here in months, but we email very ...
A. 23 March 2011: She's signalled pretty clearly that she's not interested in you. I think I would find something else to do on Friday night instead, if I were you. Rather than feed the obsession, try to focus on other people and other activities for now.
As for ... (read in full...)
Been told I have spine abifida, my life's over and I'm only 15!
Q. Please someone help:'( i feel as though my lifes over, i cant stop crying, i went to the doctors and have got told i have spine abifida, its in the lower part of my bck so it ok, but i also have a twisted spine, im an average bubbly teenage 1...
A. 11 March 2011: Hm. You might have this one: "Spina bifida occulta
"Spina bifida occulta is the least serious type of spina bifida. In this type of spina bifida, the opening in the spine is very small, with a gap in one or more vertebrae (disc-shaped bones of the ... (read in full...)
Been told I have spine abifida, my life's over and I'm only 15!
Q. Please someone help:'( i feel as though my lifes over, i cant stop crying, i went to the doctors and have got told i have spine abifida, its in the lower part of my bck so it ok, but i also have a twisted spine, im an average bubbly teenage 1...
A. 11 March 2011: Hi there, I looked this up for you: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmedhealth/PMH0002525/
Basically, most cases are diagnosed at birth, so you must have a very mild condition to only have it discovered at age 15. You are the same person you were... (read in full...)
My fiance got a vasectomy behind my back !!!!
Q. I am 32 and my fiance is 45, we had a baby a year ago after not being able to for many years. My fiance that I have been with for 5 years got a vasectomy behind my back 6 months after the baby was born. I would love to have another child in the ...
A. 11 March 2011: Wow, that was an amazingly sneaky move on his part, to get a vasectomy without telling you. Clearly, he didn't want more children and rather than tell you honestly, he took care of it himself.
Of course you can have more children if you are will... (read in full...)
Do you think doggy style is romantic?
Q. honestly ,do you think doggy style is romantic or it`s just for fun ,animalistic passion . would you have doggy style with a woman that you`re in deep love with ,if she `s the sweet n nice type ,if not which position would u choose ? think u g...
A. 11 March 2011: And what is wrong with 'fun, animalistic passion' in a loving relationship? And why should there be only one position in a session of love-making? I'm just wondering why this feels so wrong to you.... (read in full...)
We shared a bed, he kissed me, and then acted normal the next morning.
Q. Well Ive been here for ages and have gotten some great advice, and now I need some more! I ended things with my long term bf in August, it was as amicable of a split as possible, and I was really and truely over him, by the time it ended. No...
A. 11 March 2011: Ooh, intriguing. So you like this guy, and want to know what comes next?
He's signaled that he finds you attractive but also is keeping things quiet and not pressing forward just yet. Maybe he's concerned about the repercussions of dating you and ... (read in full...)
Do you think doggy style is romantic?
Q. honestly ,do you think doggy style is romantic or it`s just for fun ,animalistic passion . would you have doggy style with a woman that you`re in deep love with ,if she `s the sweet n nice type ,if not which position would u choose ? think u g...
A. 11 March 2011: Why wouldn't doggie style be acceptable in a loving relationship? It can be extremely erotic.
Now, if one partner is shy or has certain ideas about what constitutes acceptable positions, and they don't match up with the other partner's ideas, well... (read in full...)
Texting a girl from work and complimenting her, should I worry?
Q. my boyfriend sent a message to a girl he works with saying: "you and your son are beautiful :D i really like your style outside of work! i can dig your style! have a good night ttyl" i asked him about it, he said he was drinking and didn't...
A. 11 March 2011: Did he tell you about the event he apologized for not attending?
Do you guys live together?
Anyway, I guess I can see why you might be concerned. There's the contact with this girl, could be easily explained, but I dislike that he blames forgetti... (read in full...)
Guy of average height being very negative on going after taller girls
Q. Hi, I am 5' 7" guy and I am not comfortable at all with with my height especially making the first move with girls taller than myself.... And I found myself increasingly attracted to girls taller than me. The worst is I've been rejected before ...
A. 10 March 2011: I'm not taller than 5'7" but one of my good friends is 5'9" and she married a great guy who is 5'6". They have two children now. Charles is a great guy, very smart and funny, now balding, alas, but good fun to be around. His last two girlfriends ... (read in full...)
If you have sex, how do you feel, if you cannot make her finish?
Q. If you're a guy, how does it make you feel if you cannot make her finish during sex? ...
A. 10 March 2011: Here are the cold, hard numbers. Only 25% of women reach climax via intercourse. On the other hand, 81% reach it via oral stimulation. Kind of tells you that the key to a woman's climax isn't necessarily located inside her vagina.
I would say that... (read in full...)
Would a woman really lead someone on knowing they were taking the piss out of me for a laugh, or is this my low self confidence
Q. I would love some advice on a situation I have at the moment. Not long ago, I moved to a new area and have got myself a job and really settled well. Since starting I have noticed a girl at work who I really like and get on with. Not long after ...
A. 10 March 2011: She could be an energy vampire who feeds off other people's admiration of her. She could be slightly bored at work and has found a willing conversational partner. She might be making fun of you, or she could have low self-esteem herself and is using ... (read in full...)
What did he mean by his comment?
Q. ok, maybe some of you can decipher this. what does it mean while having sex, your boyfriend grabs your thigh, squeezes it and says, this is what I want not some stick. I'm not fat, but I'm not a stick either. it totally took me out of the mood and i ...
A. 10 March 2011: Have you been dieting or trying to lose weight? Have you made any self-deprecating comments in his earshot about your body or your weight?... (read in full...)
Was she just hiding her nasty self and now its coming out?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for almost a year now, she is 20 and I am 23. The first 6months were amazing, she came across as a very shy, nice, butter wouldnt melt kind of girl. More recently though she is like a different person, she is usually ...
A. 10 March 2011: I don't know if she has changed or is just allowing herself to speak freely and now can let out her less-than-perfect side, but I want to offer an observation based on someone I know.
This person is a well-educated and well-meaning person who suff... (read in full...)
The honeymoon stage in an abusive relationship and why it's so dangerous for the victim
Q. The HONEYMOON stage in the domestic violence cycle confuses many. Often the Abuser has just left one abusive relationship at the height of the abuse in that former relationship. And thus is able to start the next relationship where the the previous...
A. 10 March 2011: I'm going to bookmark this article for future reference and for linking purposes. Thank you!... (read in full...)
How do I move on from this drug-addicted narcissist who now is expecting a baby with his new gf, the one he cheated on me with? Help!
Q. I had been with my boyfriend for 4 yrs and we have now been apart 2 yrs. He started seeing someone else when I became more independent and my mom was dying. Anyway, he is still with the woman he cheated on me with. I know he is a drug-addicted na...
A. 10 March 2011: Hi Chippy, sorry to see you here posting with this, it makes me sad for you that you are having trouble putting your life back together after him.
I am happy to hear that you are actively in therapy and have some diagnoses; if you know what you have... (read in full...)
Bleeding but scared to see a gynae doctor
Q. I have this weird problem that Im a virgin 32 year old and still not been able to give in to my guy, even though I fantasize so much and so wanna have sex but even the mere thought makes me so wet that now I even bleed while Im with him and ...
A. 8 March 2011: Honestly, based on what you've written, the first doctor you should see is a psychiatrist. She will be able to help you with whatever mental block you have and can also prescribe medication that will help relax you so you could be properly examined ... (read in full...)
Ladies, if you’re with a well endowed man, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect?
Q. Ladies...if you are with a man who is well endowed, what is it, exactly, that gets you most excited about sex with him from a purely physical aspect? If it is his size, what specifically about his penis is the most enticing? Seeing it and looking ...
A. 8 March 2011: You'll have to define "well-endowed" for people. Honestly, if men knew how little time we spent thinking about their penises. they'd probably be quite disappointed.... (read in full...)
Do girls masturbate without thinking of boys?
Q. i have a girlfriend. i am in a relationship for the past 1 year. we started speaking of sex and all for quite some time now. initially she would tell me that she loved someone else and had slept on the arm of her classmate in d school while in ...
A. 8 March 2011: Women can masturbate without thinking of a specific person. Sometimes there's not any thought involved, just physical stimulation. Private times like that aren't really for anyone else to know about.
Please don't turn into one of the mind... (read in full...)
After everything he's done, now he wants me back..I don't know what to do!
Q. so we broke up a little bit after our 5th anniversary because he said he doesn't want to ever hurt me. after TWO MONTHS of practically no contact (we did speak two times on the phone 4 a little while) he sends me a message saying he regrets breaking ...
A. 8 March 2011: I'm sorry, he has lost his claim for you. If sex with other women was so meaningless, why then did he have to do it? The answer is he wanted to or he has so little control over his hormones his body made him do it. Ha. So much for women being the ... (read in full...)
I have suffered mental, verbal, physical and sexual abuse by my husband. Help me!
Q. i have been married for over 20 years and my husband has been abusive through out thoes years i have suffered mental, verbal, physical and sexual abuse. i now sleep in the attic on a camp bed bacause that is the only way i can get away from him. as ...
A. 7 March 2011: What a terrible situation you find yourself in, I'm so sorry to hear about it. The only help I can offer is a link that should lead you to practical help. http://www.womensaid.org.uk/
I would recommend using the freephone number they have:
"Cont... (read in full...)
Is she losing her baby?
Q. So the deal is, "Nessy" has been pregnant for 3 months with her boyfriend of 2 weeks before sex (not under my advice). Anyway, she confirmed she was pregnant with several pregnancy at home tests, as well as missed period. Now, three months into the...
A. 6 March 2011: Her mother is going to find out in a few months anyway. It is now time to be brave, act like the grown up and tell a grown up. The baby needs antenatal care which she should be getting anyway. She needs to see a doctor ASAP. No kidding.... (read in full...)
13 year old boyfriend wears briefs. Does it really matter?
Q. My boyfriend is 13 and he still wears briefs. Does it really matter? He wears ones like these: http://direct.asda.com/george/kid-s-clothing/older-boys/underwear/5-pack-camo-briefs/GEM61476,default,pd.html...
A. 4 March 2011: Is this a 'pants on the ground' issue, as in his undies are showing or something? I hope you aren't making fun of him.... (read in full...)
Female input needed!
Q. For women only. How would you feel if a guy that you are interested in had 9 inch long penis?...
A. 4 March 2011: Oh, and just tell her you are larger than average. Most women don't really care what the exact inch size is, that's mostly a male concern. http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sex_relationships/facts/penissize.htm
Men seem to think that their penis the be-a... (read in full...)
Female input needed!
Q. For women only. How would you feel if a guy that you are interested in had 9 inch long penis?...
A. 4 March 2011: She ASKED you what size your penis is? Really? Well, I guess you can only tell her and hope for the best. Very peculiar. I certainly would never have asked this question of a man and I can't imagine any of my girlfriends ever asking that question. ... (read in full...)
Mycosis, again, ...really?
Q. mycosis, vaginal mycosis. really so a few months ago, my gf has a swollen / red p**sy, my own fella is a bit white colored - 7 day bateria treatment program including sheets, towels (changed daily) plus a creme both of us... nice. im ''assu...
A. 4 March 2011: http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/womens-health/yeast-infection-19854.htm http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Candidal_vulvovaginitis http://women.webmd.com/tc/vaginal-yeast-infections-when-to-call-a-doctor If she hasn't cleared the infec... (read in full...)
What's the deal with his friend who thinks I'm ugly?
Q. So my boyfriend has this friend. Let's call him Joe. So Joe keeps telling my bf that I am ugly. Now Joe has only seen me in person once. He also does not have a girlfriend, just a bunch of different girls that he calls up for sex. Joe constantly...
A. 3 March 2011: If you've only met him once, how do you know what he's doing or saying to your boyfriend? How old is he and how old is your boyfriend?... (read in full...)
What are some ways to tighten your vagina, aside from kegels??
Q. Blegh..Look: I'm sure I'm just "asking" to be mocked here, but the thing is..I was with a guy for a good while (the only guy I've ever been with). We've been broken up for a long while (about two years)and I've started dating a really good friend. ...
A. 3 March 2011: No, I don't know of any creams or pills or lotions. I would be suspect of any products making any such claims. It sounds to me as though you are worrying about something that hasn't actually presented as a problem.
My suggestion is to take this... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of sex.
Q. i have a phobia of sex and cant sleep with a man at all. im very loney as i cant have sex so a relationship will not work out and i am scared to give birth so will never have any children. i have no idea why this is because nothing bad has ever ...
A. 3 March 2011: I agree with TEM, only a professional will be able to help here. If you are sincere about wanting help, please ask your GP for a referral to a qualified therapist, psychologist or psychiatrist. We can only guess. Why not get qualified help? We get ... (read in full...)
Female input needed!
Q. For women only. How would you feel if a guy that you are interested in had 9 inch long penis?...
A. 3 March 2011: "Oh crap!"... (read in full...)
My wife regularly had anal sex with her ex boyfriend but will never allow me to
Q. My wife regularly (once/week) had anal sex with her ex boyfriend but will never allow me to; what should I do? My wife's ex boyfriend had a fetish for anal sex so she allowed him to engage in this with her once a week...They had what they called...
A. 18 February 2011: She doesn't like anal sex. It hurts. You have an anal fetish. You are sexually incompatible. Sorry, you're going to have to let her go. Someone's going to be miserable no matter which way this goes and I think you know that already. You just want ... (read in full...)
How can I attract a girl without coming off strong or seemingly putting a lot of effort into it?
Q. I'm not sure if this is a specific question or just kind of an emptying of my head, but I'll try to make it as clear and brief as possible. I've just come to the realization that every relationship, or even just situations where a girl lik...
A. 18 February 2011: Depending on the age of the girls you like, teenagers are notoriously fickle and can tend to follow the herd, rather than think independently.
This can apply to both boys and girls, by the way, I don't want to be too sexist here, I just will use ... (read in full...)
She likes me. How do I show her I like her too?
Q. I have never been in a real relationship before and I know of a girl who likes me. This could be quite a real one but if I do get involved how do I show her that I still like her and that I dont push her away?...
A. 18 February 2011: Why do you think you are going to push her away? Just talk with her and tell her you like her too. Take it nice and slow and you'll be fine. Don't rush things and don't expect her to drop everything for you, like her friends and activities.
H... (read in full...)
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