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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Is there anything I can do to have my g/f want anal?
Q. My girlfriend since one year ago has had very many sexual partners and she is only 19 years old. (i am 20) People always say that it is a good thing because she is very sexual if she has been sleeping around, but she isnt. She only did it because ...
A. 27 May 2011: I have to also raise the possibility that she has experienced abuse in her past. This forcing you to do unlubed anal sex seems to me to be coming from somewhere dark and ugly; she learned that she deserves to be hurt sexually from somewhere. I doubt ... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to have my g/f want anal?
Q. My girlfriend since one year ago has had very many sexual partners and she is only 19 years old. (i am 20) People always say that it is a good thing because she is very sexual if she has been sleeping around, but she isnt. She only did it because ...
A. 27 May 2011: I'm assuming you are the OP (original poster). That information adds some more to the topic. Your girlfriend is using unlubed anal sex as a way of atoning or punishing herself. Right at this point, she has an unhealthy way of coping with conflict, ... (read in full...)
Lots of men buy my girlfriend gifts with "I love you" inscriptions!
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A. 27 May 2011: I would simply smile sadly at your boss and friends and tell them that alas, the relationship is not working out, no matter how hard you pray. Some things are not meant to be, you say, and me with this woman is just one of those things. Then you ... (read in full...)
Should I try something gay? I do have a girlfriend...
Q. Bi-curious's profile: I am having a big urge to have a gay sexual encounter. I have a girlfriend and she let's me watch gay porn nd gets turnd on by how I get turnd on so much by it. I've told her my fantasies and was a bit unsure about it but sed ...
A. 27 May 2011: It sounds like you have good communication with your girlfriend. I think your best path would be to tell her that you are feeling very curious about your gay side and that you want to see what it is like to be with a man. She may want to take a ... (read in full...)
This girl doesn't seem to realize what she did to me!
Q. Hey Guys, Feeling so stressed out at the minute, I have an unrequited love and not much else going for me at the moment either. I've always been shy with girls in the past, but managed to have a little fun with a girl that I was friends with, ...
A. 27 May 2011: Unfortunately, as you are learning, there is no way to make her act the way you want her to. She is her own person with her own mind, maybe making some poor choices right now, but that's her perogative. All the wishing in the world and the hopeful ... (read in full...)
I love this girl but she said 'no' when I asked to be her best friend. Help!
Q. CAN YOU HELP ME?? I loved a girl she also going to be 15. i loved her more then 5 years but when i told her after 4 years she told me that she had a boy friend so i left her but everytime she looks at me she kills my heart. because i think ...
A. 27 May 2011: Sorry to hear that the girl you liked doesn't like you back in the same way. Unfortunately, that happens or has happened to most of us. It's very disappointing and can be upsetting, but there's just no way to make someone like you back in the same ... (read in full...)
Is he just messing about?
Q. Hi so i have a slight problem, i dont no what too think, this boy who i will call P has been flirting with me for about 3 months we have 3 lessons a week together and we sit next to eachother in all of them one the teacher put us together and the ...
A. 27 May 2011: That IS confusing, isn't it? I have no way of knowing if he's just messing around with you or if he was truly embarassed at having his texts found out. He sounds a bit immature either way and maybe the best thing to do is just to wait and see what ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed after not having sex for a while?
Q. I hadn't had sex for 4 years. I've met someone, we did it, but it hurt so much and I'm still bleeding, not scary bleeding but still. Why is that? I'm not a virgin and I was pretty wild up until 4 years ago. He was long but not too wide. It was ...
A. 27 May 2011: I guess it could be a normal reaction after a long period of no sexual intercourse but there's always a chance that you have something else going on. I think it's safest to check with your gynecologist, don't you think? Maybe find out if your body ... (read in full...)
I kept forgiving him. Why did he do this?
Q. I met this guy 2 months ago, he was my best friend's boyfriend. However, she break up with him coz she was still in love with her ex. This "guy" was so depressed for what she did to him and he started to called me for advice and moral support (we ...
A. 27 May 2011: Based on what you wrote about him, I really don't think you two were going to have a successful marriage with this foundation of mistrust and lies. So, no, you didn't overreact.
You've only known him for 2 months and it seems that most of your cont... (read in full...)
My conservative wife wears low-cut tops that show her bra?
Q. OK, this is going to sound odd, because I certainly find it odd. My wife is in her 40s. She has always been very decorous. Serious professional, dedicated mother, married for 20+ years. A virgin when we got together. Very conservative sex...
A. 27 May 2011: What did she say about it when you asked her? Did she have an explanation or rationalization?... (read in full...)
Is there anything I can do to have my g/f want anal?
Q. My girlfriend since one year ago has had very many sexual partners and she is only 19 years old. (i am 20) People always say that it is a good thing because she is very sexual if she has been sleeping around, but she isnt. She only did it because ...
A. 26 May 2011: Here's her side:
"Dear Cupid,
My boyfriend has been bugging me about anal sex a LOT recently. The problem is that we've done it a couple of times so he thinks it's okay with me. The thing is, it's NOT okay.
See, the first time he did it, it was w... (read in full...)
Is it ok to have sex with my professor?
Q. hi, so my problem is that I'm in a relationship with my professor at college I'm only 20 and he is 42...we meet up 3 times a week in this apartment .However, we didn't have sex until now although that we have been together for 4 months because ...
A. 24 May 2011: Why don't you read the school's regulations on the matter? I'm sure they'll have something to say about this.
Why not transfer out of his class; then there would be no issue.... (read in full...)
I'm trying to conceive and my ob-gyn tells me that testing negative is "good." What gives?
Q. I went to my ob/gyn for a check up and she did a pregnancy test. When the test came back neg she said the it was "good" that I was not pregnant. Why does she say that when we are actively "trying to conceive?"...
A. 24 May 2011: "Doctor, why would you say that it's good if the test is negative? You do understand we are trying to conceive? This is a disappointing result for us." Give her a chance to explain herself. We'd just be guessing.... (read in full...)
She refused to shave after eveything I do for her...
Q. Dear fellow readers, I have found myself stuck in a very fragile situation and I am in need of some serious, thought out advice. I am 16 and have been with my girlfriend for about a year now, and I have hit a brick wall. A few weeks ago I ask her to ...
A. 21 May 2011: This question is now closed. If the original poster (OP)would care to make a followup to the aunts who answered, please PM me. Otherwise, thank you all for your answers.... (read in full...)
I'm the only single guy left in my group of friends. Feeling left out!
Q. I'm feeling really lost right now and It's starting to get me down. I'm 25 and recently finished my time serving active duty in the military. I was really excited about getting out and moving back to my hometown, but I'm finding the transition ...
A. 20 May 2011: Thank you for your service. Sorry to hear you are feeling like this.
What did you come back to, in terms of career or school? ... (read in full...)
Do I make him chose me? or his girlfriend?
Q. Heres the story. He is my best friend but he has a gf that he has been dating since April 2007. We met in November of 2008. March of 2009 we were best friends and by June 2009 I was deffinately in love with him. We had always been close and he used ...
A. 20 May 2011: He's been choosing her for 4 years. I'd pay attention to his actions, not his words. I'm afraid you've got feelings for a guy who doesn't value them. Sorry.
You could ask him to break up with her to be with you but I don't think that's going to h... (read in full...)
Does love trump progression in a relationship?
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Where did you have sex when you were a teensger so your parents wouldn‘t catch you?
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Does body odor matter when you feel chemistry for someone?...
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A. 20 May 2011: Smells/odors are most definitely part of our attraction to someone. I used to leave my perfume on my boyfriend's robe so he would remember me as he was wearing it. Sneaky, but effective. And that's all I've got to say about that.... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding a therapist?
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A. 18 May 2011: Your wife IS sick. She has issues with libido, alcoholism and depression. She's not healthy. Go get her a good doctor. Start there and maybe she can get on the path to wellness.
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Would a happily married woman want to know that she has an admirer? Or would it complicate her marriage?
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A. 18 May 2011: I do not want to know if someone has a 'thing' for me. It would make the admirer appear to be a bit 'ooky,' a mix of spooky and icky. It's inappropriate. She's married. What do you hope to accomplish? I'd say don't do it.... (read in full...)
My mum split us up, but I still love him one year later! Should I go to see him?
Q. I fell in love with this guy that changed my entire life! he made me believe my dreams were going to come true he made me the happiest girl in the world hes something god brought me!(tears) he loved me too I felt it deep in my heart !we lasted 8 ...
A. 18 May 2011: And you believe them? Really? ... (read in full...)
How can I find friends with similar interests in highschool?
Q. Hi guys so I am going into highschool and I haven't really been myself. I guess I'm kinda affraid that people will think I'm weird. I really like the scary movies and the punk rock music. I am also really into drawing and art. But there aren't many ...
A. 18 May 2011: I like strongfp's answer. The truth is that high school can be very stressful. The best thing to do is to be yourself and try to be a uniter, not a divider. Include, don't exclude. That will make more sense as you meet people. Assume that everyone ... (read in full...)
Best friend going off into the military but wants me to have his baby. He already has a girlfriend!
Q. I am a senior in high and my best friend is going off to the military. He wants a baby... by me... However, he has a girlfriend. I don't know the girl and she doesn't know me. I do love this guy ever since I was a freshman though. I am also a virgin ...
A. 18 May 2011: Well, when he marries you then you can stick to your promise. Sorry, your best friend is asking you a ridiculous "favor". I would say that it drops his 'honorable' and 'quality' status points down to 'selfish' and 'desperate.' It's sad, really. Poor ... (read in full...)
In a relationship with a married man....where is this going?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm a confused, single woman, no kids, and living independently. But i am in a relationship with a married man for more than a year now. it's not like what most people think of when they hear of this type of relationship. we are not ...
A. 18 May 2011: He's not entirely yours. He's not making you the official "his." That pretty well says that you are the mistress and that is what you will stay. Sorry for all your hopes and dreams but the reality is that you are the mistress. "i know what it's lik... (read in full...)
He dumped me but seems emotional - does he still care about me?
Q. Is it true that if a guy gets emotional towards you after he dumps you, it means that he still cares about you ?. My ex recently dumped me, but he said some cruel things, so it seems like he hates me, but i read that sometimes guys act like that ...
A. 18 May 2011: He said he loves someone he's never met more than you? Oh dear. I'm afraid he falls into the "pathetic" category. That means he's not worth one more minute of your time in figuring him out. That's pathetic. Really really sad. Ah well. We're not rubb... (read in full...)
What is the definition of a real man?
Q. just need answers, i want to know what is the definition of a REAL MAN. ive been dating this guy for over 3 yrs and he tells me he is a real man..... first of all he is 26 yrs old, doesnt have a high school diploma, or ged, doesnt have a job at this ...
A. 18 May 2011: You don't have a real man. You have an abuser. Get out. If you don't feel you can, here's a website for you: http://www.thehotline.org/ Good luck to you. ... (read in full...)
I am not ready to be in the delivery room with my wife!
Q. Hi, my wife is about to give birth and I am not ready to be in the maternity ward when the process begins. I have no one else to be there with her as we are in a foreign country on our own and this is freaking me out. My wife thinks I will be there ...
A. 18 May 2011: Why are you not able to cope with the natural outcome of pregnancy? And why have you lied to your wife about this? If you want to be a hero for her, go get yourself whatever assistance you need to get through the birth process with her. She's th... (read in full...)
My mum split us up, but I still love him one year later! Should I go to see him?
Q. I fell in love with this guy that changed my entire life! he made me believe my dreams were going to come true he made me the happiest girl in the world hes something god brought me!(tears) he loved me too I felt it deep in my heart !we lasted 8 ...
A. 18 May 2011: And how is that working out for them?... (read in full...)
He dumped me but seems emotional - does he still care about me?
Q. Is it true that if a guy gets emotional towards you after he dumps you, it means that he still cares about you ?. My ex recently dumped me, but he said some cruel things, so it seems like he hates me, but i read that sometimes guys act like that ...
A. 18 May 2011: I think Cerberus was giving you the male point of view. I think you are grasping at straws if you hope him saying hateful things to you and telling you to leave him alone means the opposite. My experience with guys is that they are fairly simple c... (read in full...)
My mum split us up, but I still love him one year later! Should I go to see him?
Q. I fell in love with this guy that changed my entire life! he made me believe my dreams were going to come true he made me the happiest girl in the world hes something god brought me!(tears) he loved me too I felt it deep in my heart !we lasted 8 ...
A. 18 May 2011: Do you have many friends with babies?
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Should I marry this bad boy?
Q. How to deal with possibly marrying a bad boy who is slow at shaking his bad boy image......
A. 17 May 2011: Is there some urgency in this?... (read in full...)
My mum split us up, but I still love him one year later! Should I go to see him?
Q. I fell in love with this guy that changed my entire life! he made me believe my dreams were going to come true he made me the happiest girl in the world hes something god brought me!(tears) he loved me too I felt it deep in my heart !we lasted 8 ...
A. 17 May 2011: And you thought that was a good idea.... (read in full...)
How do I behave toward his daughter when she comes to visit?
Q. My partner has one daughter who lives with her mum. When I first met her it was on a day out with her dad when we went to visit her and I thought she had no time for me on that day. I kept my thoughts to myself because I was unsure. About 6 m...
A. 17 May 2011: I think the only way you can expect to have any sort of 'normal' relationship with his daughter is if he and she and you acknowledge that this has been difficult for her for some reason. I would adopt the attitude that she is mildly mentally ... (read in full...)
My mum split us up, but I still love him one year later! Should I go to see him?
Q. I fell in love with this guy that changed my entire life! he made me believe my dreams were going to come true he made me the happiest girl in the world hes something god brought me!(tears) he loved me too I felt it deep in my heart !we lasted 8 ...
A. 17 May 2011: When you say "I was going to get pregnant," what do you mean, exactly? Were you trying to get pregnant at age 14?... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding a therapist?
Q. So often the advice on here involves seeking out counseling or therapy. My wife and I have some sexual issues dealing with her lack of desire that she is not comfortable talking to me about. She sees herself as completely asexual at this point an...
A. 17 May 2011: Frankly, I'd start with your GP or her GYN. If you have a good physician, he or she will have some good people to refer you to. It also helps that they are committed to patient privacy and there's a chance your insurance will be able to cover part ... (read in full...)
Two boys that like me...
Q. i really dont have a clue of what to do i have to guys that like me one at my school and one at a different school. i have been out with them both before but the one from a different school i only broke up with 3 months ago. i like them both but i ...
A. 17 May 2011: How old are they, by the way, and how old are you? That might help.... (read in full...)
Does playing 'hard to get' and being slightly unavailable keep a guy?
Q. Hello everyone. I have a question - does playing hard to get work and how do you do it? I am always the very willing one, always available, always wanting to spend time with my guy, quite needy and I always end up losing the guy I'm with! I think I ...
A. 17 May 2011: The book that worked for me was "A Fine Romance" Judith Sills, PhD. It taught me not to play games but how to manage my behavior so that I didn't self-destruct the relationship. I was great at being too clingy and available, not so good at ... (read in full...)
The weight and height difference is getting in the way of us being together!
Q. ok so im a freshman in high school so is he. we text a lot it seems like he likes me. the only thing holding me back is my weight. im 5'2" and 115lbs. hes 6'3" and so tall and skinny. what do i do?...
A. 17 May 2011: If you didn't have a little extra curve in your belly, you'd look like a guy. Is this guy into other guys, or does he like girls? Because if he likes girls, he probably won't be attracted to a girl who looks like a guy. I'm pretty sure you look like ... (read in full...)
Two boys that like me...
Q. i really dont have a clue of what to do i have to guys that like me one at my school and one at a different school. i have been out with them both before but the one from a different school i only broke up with 3 months ago. i like them both but i ...
A. 17 May 2011: You don't have to do anything. Just say you're not really sure you are ready to date either one right now. Hang out and get to know them a bit better and then you can decide when you know your own feelings a bit better. There's no rush to decide. I... (read in full...)
Is there any point in telling these roommates just how inconsiderate they are?
Q. sp im at uni in london living with my boyfriend and another couple who were once good friends to us. They have become un-friends because things just change when you live together. We have had arguments throughout the year on pulling weight and how ...
A. 17 May 2011: I'd take out the dishes you need from the dishwasher and leave the rest. I'd ask them to turn down the music or use headphones while you are doing your revision. I wouldn't bother telling them off, it's pretty clear the relationship has broken down ... (read in full...)
Not looking for sex or anything serious, how to tell him without being harsh?
Q. i met a nice guy on a night out, we didnt have sex, just cuddled and talked all night. he told me that he had been in a relationship for 4years and now he is just looking for something causal. i dont know what he means by that, is it causal sex or ...
A. 17 May 2011: "Casual" I expect means to him some nice sex with no strings attached. I would clarify your definition of "casual" to him in this way: "I'm not looking for a serious relationship just yet but I'm also not into jumping into bed too early. I need to ... (read in full...)
How do I behave toward his daughter when she comes to visit?
Q. My partner has one daughter who lives with her mum. When I first met her it was on a day out with her dad when we went to visit her and I thought she had no time for me on that day. I kept my thoughts to myself because I was unsure. About 6 m...
A. 16 May 2011: "Her dad and I talked it through and we both felt that he get through her visit as best he could without any questioning of her behaviour." And now she's being called to account on this, is that right?
I am curious how old she is now as well. Also... (read in full...)
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