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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Does grammar matter when people communicate today? Or is it a lost cause? What's your pet grammar issue?
Q. First off I will admit it: sometimes I mis-spell words. And another thing, sometimes when I'm in a hurry I abbreviate some words. And when I was at University I used to have the best set of abbreviations in Contract Law. If I needed to refer to ...
A. 5 May 2011: NEW clee ur. Not NUKE you ler. Nuclear. Not Nucular.
Thanks for the rant space.
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My whole family is hypocritcal about having sex before marriage!
Q. My whole life my family told me, 'sex before marriage it wrong and they never did it' now I have just found out my entire family lied to me, literally everyone had sex before marriage. I was shocked about this news because my whole life they ...
A. 5 May 2011: Your parents and grandparents are calling you a prude and old-fashioned? I doubt that. Your cousins and siblings, that I could believe.
This is the equivalent of people saying "do as I say, not as I do." They say this thing because that's what they... (read in full...)
I need a solution. I'm having an affair with my sister-in-law and don't know how to stop.
Q. So here it goes. I am a married man and have a beautiful loving and caring wife and six months old son too. She loves me a lot and usually we talk over phone for hours in the night before going to bed (Since from last three months I am out of town). ...
A. 5 May 2011: You don't want to cheat on your wife. But you call up your sister-in-law and go out o your way to see her to have sex. So you DO want to cheat on your wife? As I said, as you can't figure it out, you need some professional help in doing so. People ... (read in full...)
Does grammar matter when people communicate today? Or is it a lost cause? What's your pet grammar issue?
Q. First off I will admit it: sometimes I mis-spell words. And another thing, sometimes when I'm in a hurry I abbreviate some words. And when I was at University I used to have the best set of abbreviations in Contract Law. If I needed to refer to ...
A. 5 May 2011: Oh goody! A rant thread! Yay! I hate people who use too many exclamation points! No! Really! Just kidding.
Do you mind if I just post when something occurs to me?
"Each other" is not one word. There is no such word as "eachother." That is two word... (read in full...)
He had an emotional affair, but he wont accept he cheated! How can I make him understand?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together 8 months and we get on like a house on fire, I've never felt like this with anyone before, everything just worked. Before christmas he was having a tough time and I supported him best I could not giving him any ...
A. 5 May 2011: "We get on like a house on fire" um. Let's dissect this one a bit, okay? You had to let him vent and be nasty when things weren't going well for him. You had a rough patch and rather than help you, he told you he couldn't deal with it. Arguments. ... (read in full...)
Ex teacher has feelings for me?
Q. I finished my last year at school last year. I played a lot of soccer, and the head of department seemed he didn't like me. He'd ignore me, or pick on me, or say some pretty harsh things about the way I played.. Maybe to get better play out of me. ...
A. 5 May 2011: Oh, I missed that little sentence, Eyes! Thanks for mentioning it. I guess it doesn't really matter. If you are concerned that he was inappropriate and needs to be reported so he doesn't harass anyone, or if you feel you have been harassed by him, ... (read in full...)
He's chatting up another. What can I do to trust him?
Q. I'm 17 and my boyfriend and I'd been going out for over a year now. Things are going so well. Lately, we have been fighting. We broke up a couple of times and we end up being together. Then as time went on we felt like new. We we're happy. ...
A. 5 May 2011: Who is doing all the breaking up? Do you keep dumping him and then expecting him to come back, and feel the same?
I think you probably do have a reason to be concerned about the new girl, I think she is his friend. But you see, the way you have been... (read in full...)
From exasperation to enthusiasm in 20 minutes... what is he doing?
Q. For the past few months a guy and I have been having what I can only describe as a staring contest whenever we're in the same room. We've been friendly in the past and when I started feeling sexually attracted to him (because of his intense ...
A. 5 May 2011: Is he in his 30s? Because he sounds like he's in in teens! I don't know, maybe he doesn't really have the social skills down pat yet, and is more comfortable from a distance, pulling faces at people.
Just try to have a normal conversation with him ... (read in full...)
Was my boyfriend out of line for the hurtful degrading things he said?
Q. Hello. I would like some advice regarding anyone's opinion of my ex-boyfriend's comments to me last night. He has said that he loves me and will support me yet when he came over last night he did nothing but rubbish what I was trying to do in the ...
A. 5 May 2011: Don't let that one comment derail all your hard work on getting your degree now.
There's this quote that I think is attributed to Confucious. "The best time to plant a tree is ten years ago."
So ten years from now, you would look back in sorrow a... (read in full...)
I heard she's dating a married man... but I want her back!
Q. i had a relationship with a woman older than me 4 years. she is my boss. she helped me get into that job. she is divorced with a kid of 7 years old. i dammed her 8 months ago. we still work together. i made a move on her 3 weeks ago and i took a big ...
A. 5 May 2011: If she's your boss and told you 'no', I would take that as a sign she doesn't want to date you. It doesn't really matter who she is dating, if she doesn't want to date you, she doesn't want to date you.
Perhaps the best thing to do is to look for ... (read in full...)
I'm unclear of his feelings can someone help please!!!
Q. Hey guys , I'm starting to really like this guy that I work with, the thing is I'm not sure if he's interested in me.. lately we have been talkIng heaps, just random stuff and flirting... He always says "oh "look there's ya bf " even though they ...
A. 5 May 2011: He sounds like a jokester who has taken an interest in you. The next step would be for him to talk to you like a normal person. If you like him, and he's available and you're available, just be patient and talk to him.
I would caution you thou... (read in full...)
Ex teacher has feelings for me?
Q. I finished my last year at school last year. I played a lot of soccer, and the head of department seemed he didn't like me. He'd ignore me, or pick on me, or say some pretty harsh things about the way I played.. Maybe to get better play out of me. ...
A. 5 May 2011: Oh, and if someone suddenly started staring at me and made me feel uncomfortable with their scrutiny, if I thought they were having inappropriate thoughts about me, I'd probably get pretty fidgety and try to ignore them, hoping they would get the ... (read in full...)
Ex teacher has feelings for me?
Q. I finished my last year at school last year. I played a lot of soccer, and the head of department seemed he didn't like me. He'd ignore me, or pick on me, or say some pretty harsh things about the way I played.. Maybe to get better play out of me. ...
A. 5 May 2011: He sounds like he's a busy, distracted guy who has a lot of students. Maybe he has stuff going on at home that is affecting his outside demeanor. I know people who have parents who are ill or who are going through things like cancer diagnosis and ... (read in full...)
Hey, I want to know if this guy likes me.
Q. Hey so I want to know if this guy likes me. This might get kind of long, but I really have to know. So I will call the guy "Bob" I will call another girl who also has a crush on Bob "Sandra" Part 1: Okay so I always thought that Bob w...
A. 5 May 2011: It sounds as though Bob is a bit shy and maybe doesn't like too much attention. I would wait and see. Be nice, be friendly and eventually, you'll figure it out! I know it's boring advice, but if you have some patience, this will all become clear ... (read in full...)
I want to help him and he wants nothing from me!
Q. i met my soulmate 3 years ago. when you know ,,you know. We were friends for 1 year.. than he took my son and i into his home. He has been divorced twice and hurt. I have never introduced my son till now when he was 8. He is 11 now.. He got us out ...
A. 5 May 2011: Why aren't you still living together? I guess I don't understand why things 'hit a bump' and you have somehow lost your connection? He doesn't trust you anymore or something? All I can suggest is that you tell him how you feel and how much you want ... (read in full...)
I'm getting with dating this guy
Q. ok to the point im a girl, im in relationship for about 4months. the question is, sometimes i didnt feel like i love him, sumtimes i think he is a boring guy. i aint like his old joke -.- well im be his cus he is my old pal, and he ever told me that ...
A. 5 May 2011: It's a little difficult to read your question, but I think you are asking if you should continue with the relationship? Based on what you've written and your age, I think it would be fine if you went back to being just friends with him. It sounds as ... (read in full...)
We all live together, he used to be my bf, now he likes her, how do I move on?
Q. Lately i'm questioning if I can be friends with this girl and guy that i live with. We met as she was friends with a friend of a guy I was seeing. While seeing him she would sometimes be around, and on one occasion I invited her to sit with us, big ...
A. 5 May 2011: I would say that you need to change your living arrangements, if you are living with the two of them as roommates. That would be the start, and then it's time to examine why you feel friendless. What's going on with you that has left you feeling so ... (read in full...)
Feel so alone without my best friend, any suggestions??
Q. I miss my x best friend(with Bennefits) so much it hurts. He was my best friend. Always there wheather I needed him or not. It was a very different relationship as it started when my boyfriend(x) started to abuse me. Robert was always there.. we ...
A. 5 May 2011: Sorry to hear you are in a difficult place in your life. Depression is a difficult thing to experience and people will want to tell you to "snap out of it." Not as easy as that, is it?
Please see your doctor for some guidance. Nurture your... (read in full...)
I need a solution. I'm having an affair with my sister-in-law and don't know how to stop.
Q. So here it goes. I am a married man and have a beautiful loving and caring wife and six months old son too. She loves me a lot and usually we talk over phone for hours in the night before going to bed (Since from last three months I am out of town). ...
A. 5 May 2011: Do you really want help or are you just enjoying your confession of infidelity with your wife's sister? When people say things like: "we tried to stop but this thing is beyond our power to control" I roll my eyes. You are making a choice to cheat on ... (read in full...)
I want my teachers to be more friendly than they are!
Q. Disclaimer: I realize that the topic of this question is a bit of a stretch for this site, but my rationale is that it has to do with relationships, in a sense, so it IS applicable. ;) Now, to actually get down to business. To get right to the ...
A. 5 May 2011: I agree with Eyes that the teacher's job is to teach, not to become friends. So don't be so disappointed. The good news is that you can indeed become friends with teachers AFTER school is all over. Yes, that's true! I have friends who were my ... (read in full...)
Can someone shed some light? Why do I like her romantically, but not sexually?
Q. I have been having feelings for a girl at work for some time now. We don't interact outside of work, I only see her there. The thing is I am not sure if I actually fancy her. I really like her, I think she's pretty and cool, but I don't feel any l...
A. 5 May 2011: If she has a boyfriend, isn't this a moot question? She's taken, so whether you like her or not in a sexual way is irrelevant. I'd stop worrying about how you feel about her and focus on the fact she is taken. In fact, that may be exactly why you ... (read in full...)
I really like him, but I am afraid he will be turned off when he sees me naked.
Q. im 18/f im about to have sex with my best friend whom i have very strong feelings for. The thing is, im a virgin and hes not...and the last girls he's slept with have been extremely thin with models bodies. i weigh around 57kg and im not very ...
A. 5 May 2011: Your body isn't going to turn him off. Your own thoughts and feelings about your body may turn him off. I think your insecurity in this area might be a sign that you are not really ready for this step. Are you "boyfriend/girlfriend"? Or are you just... (read in full...)
I am jealous or judgemental of my girlfriend’s pasts
Q. Ok here is the problem (I will try and give as much information as possible). I always become judgemental or jealous (or both) of my girlfriends pasts. It has happened with my last 3 girlfriends, especially the last 2. I start of ok but then I ...
A. 5 May 2011: I started a thread on this that has some good info and links to other posts that might be helpful to you. I think an aunt here called "Yos" has had personal success in coping with this and has some great advice on the topic. I would encourage you to ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, but he seems to be using me as a business arrangement
Q. It's been hard for me. I have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years with a man who's much older than me and never married. I was so attached to him and loved him. He cared a lot about me too. He's been good to me when we are together. We talk,...
A. 5 May 2011: You are 22-25. I am over twice your age and I can tell you that you have your entire life ahead of you. Live it with compassion and understand of yourself, forgiving yourself would be a good place to start. And yes, cut contact with him. You haven't ... (read in full...)
Men don't like me, what can I do?
Q. I am getting so wary, in my whole life I had only a handful of terrible relationships, and because I prefer to be alone than in a terrible relationship I was mostly alone. I thought for many years that it was because of my looks, last year I even ...
A. 5 May 2011: Do you have any friends at all? You sound as though you have pushed everyone away, and in your original post you say "men don't like me, women do but I don't like them, not for a relationship at least". I wonder if you have a problem with reading ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, but he seems to be using me as a business arrangement
Q. It's been hard for me. I have been in a relationship for nearly 2 years with a man who's much older than me and never married. I was so attached to him and loved him. He cared a lot about me too. He's been good to me when we are together. We talk,...
A. 5 May 2011: You don't have to meet him to give him a hand. He's a grown up; he can figure out how to navigate the world he's put himself in by himself.
If you are having low self-esteem issues, allowing yourself to be the maidservant to a selfish man isn'... (read in full...)
He wants me to be one of those women who cleans the house and have dinner ready for their husbands; but I have a full job with a lot of stress and responsibilities.
Q. My relationship is going downfall. My bf and I don't get along. We disagree on pretty much everything. He is conservative, I am liberal, he plans everything, I live by the moment, he likes to eat at home, I like to eat out, he watches reality ...
A. 5 May 2011: Hey, I just heard about a friend's relative marrying at age 82. If she is that optimistic about life, why not you at only 33?
I think you are with a guy who is fundamentally incompatible with your life goals. The sooner you end this rela... (read in full...)
Really?! "a kiss can mean nothing?!"
Q. I'm currently single and I'm not looking to get back with my ex. but what bugs me is I want to know what a girl means by "a kiss can mean nothing." When I finally got the courage to kiss her one afternoon after a bike ride around a lake and park ...
A. 5 May 2011: I think it means that she didn't like you in the way you wanted her too. She didn't want to be too mean to you and tell you outright that she didn't want another kiss from you.
Sorry it didn't work out for you in the way you'd hoped.... (read in full...)
Past events from my childhood still haunt me. How can I ever enjoy sex without needing to watch porn to enjoy sex?
Q. Hi I am a 39 year old woman who really loves sex and trying new things. My problem is that due to troubling issues from when I was a child, where a person did the wrong thing, it has resulted in me having trouble having an orgasim with my husb...
A. 5 May 2011: I don't have any experience that would help you in dealing with this situation. My initial thought was to ask if you have received counseling to deal with the abuse, to work through the many feelings and problems that arise in the victims of ... (read in full...)
Should accept the fears and limitations of my parents or move on with my life as the adult I am?
Q. i'm a 20 year old woman who still lives with her parents. i have a 25 year old boyfriend who lives in another state. i've been planning a trip to see my boyfriend and go with him to a convention since december of last year. i spent around 200 ...
A. 5 May 2011: May I ask how it is that he became your boyfriend if he lives in another state? And how much time have you spent with him? Your mother's concerns might have some base in reality. She might have found his visit to you to be difficult and is imagining ... (read in full...)
He's broken my heart twice and I still keep running back to him. We still sleep together too. Lost cause?
Q. My "friend" (if you want to call him that) and I have been sleeping together for 8 months. We dated for awhile and he even told me that he loved me and wanted a child with me. He's still married (but seperated). He and I have a really close bond and ...
A. 4 May 2011: You are not doing the right thing. You've ceded your life to a guy who is MARRIED to another woman and who basically has told you in action and deed that he just likes to sleep with you.
It's a lost cause. Take your power back, take your life back... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be a creep -- is this all there is?
Q. My bf of 2 years seems to be a creep. I was looking for a movie to watch on my laptop and stumbled into Google documents for the first time ever. I saw everything that my bf looked up on the laptop for the last 5 years +. I saw all kinds of ...
A. 4 May 2011: And no, this is not all there is for you. Please get him the hell out of there, and let us know how you are getting on. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to be a creep -- is this all there is?
Q. My bf of 2 years seems to be a creep. I was looking for a movie to watch on my laptop and stumbled into Google documents for the first time ever. I saw everything that my bf looked up on the laptop for the last 5 years +. I saw all kinds of ...
A. 4 May 2011: Sorry, but you have a MAJOR RED FLAG WAVING at you. He tried to peep at your TEENAGED DAUGHTER? STOLE her undies???? Um, NOT NORMAL. NOT GOOD. NOT OKAY.
The porn history isn't as concerning as that is. I would very carefully back away from this guy ... (read in full...)
I feel like the biggest idiot, I used an old account on FB to flirt with my boyfriend. Now what?
Q. Ok, I did something super dumb. I had this old facebook I made a while ago for kicks and I logged back in because i was bored. I saw my boyfriend online so I decided to start chatting with him. He started flirting and I let things get out of hand. I ...
A. 4 May 2011: Well, you did something dumb but you've also learned something about your boyfriend that I suspect you won't be able to ignore. I guess the question for you is, can you be happy with a boyfriend who flirts online with girls he doesn't know? Knowing ... (read in full...)
Should I stay or is it time to move on?
Q. my gf and i had a threesome with another guy and i went out side my room for a few minutes and they kept going. i have forgiven her but there has been nothing but arguements recently. i have also met somone else.what should i do, should i stay with ...
A. 4 May 2011: Definitely move on. Try to do so gracefully. ... (read in full...)
Is one of your exes better than your current partner?
Q. Ok guys please be truthful. I want brutal honesty! Are your exes better than your current gf? I realise that your exes are exes for a reason but all that aside, in terms of being a person, being attractive, being more fun/sexier/funni...
A. 4 May 2011: I have a sinking feeling that you're going to be an 'ex' soon yourself. Why? Not because you aren't amazing and fabulous, but because you think you aren't amazing and fabulous. Your self-esteem, or lack thereof, is going to tank this relationship ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing going on a date with a guy I'm not all that crazy about?
Q. I have a problem. I am in grade 12 and I graduate in 35 days. I started seeing this guy after finally giving him a chance, I can't say I'm that crazy about him but he is a nice guy and he has formally asked me to be his date to graduation. I ...
A. 4 May 2011: As I think about your dilemma a little bit more, I think I would follow dirtball's advice closely. "John, as we are getting to know one another better, I have come to realize that I think of you really only as a good friend, and not in a romantic ... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing going on a date with a guy I'm not all that crazy about?
Q. I have a problem. I am in grade 12 and I graduate in 35 days. I started seeing this guy after finally giving him a chance, I can't say I'm that crazy about him but he is a nice guy and he has formally asked me to be his date to graduation. I ...
A. 4 May 2011: You've agreed to be a date at graduation, not to being a girlfriend, do I understand this correctly? If you are not a girlfriend in the strict sense of the word, you do not have to stay home every single night. You accepted one date request, not to ... (read in full...)
My whole family is hypocritcal about having sex before marriage!
Q. My whole life my family told me, 'sex before marriage it wrong and they never did it' now I have just found out my entire family lied to me, literally everyone had sex before marriage. I was shocked about this news because my whole life they ...
A. 4 May 2011: Who is "they", exactly? Your mom and dad? Your brothers and sisters? I'm a little curious, and this will affect how I would answer your question.
... (read in full...)
All my friends are getting happy together. How do I cope with my feelings for one of them?.
Q. Im stuck in a tricky situation. I still like the boy I've liked for like a year now, and now his girlfriend has broken up with him. he's been left single which gives me more of a chance. But now his ex girlfriend has just started talking to me, and ...
A. 3 May 2011: Crushes and friendships can get really confusing; especially when there are close feelings for one another. I think the best thing to do is to acknowledge that you are experiencing these feelings, but recognize that you don't have to do anything ... (read in full...)
G/f gives me bj's just to make me happy
Q. Hello, i have half a problem. Basically my girlfriend didn't give bj's much because she didnt like them. I wanted to boost this number so i read tips on how to make your girlfriend feel more good about giving bj's, and not pressuring her and stuff. ...
A. 21 April 2011: What do you do for her that you don't really like doing? What would make you feel better about doing those things? Think about that for an hour or two and then apply what you learn about yourself to your relationship with your girlfriend.... (read in full...)
G/f has intimate scenes in drama show, should I go to see it?
Q. My girlfriend is in a drama group and they are putting on a show. I really want to see her in action and be there for support but she has told me that she has a couple of intimate scenes with a guy. She said she would love to have me there but would ...
A. 21 April 2011: They're getting naked on stage? Really? Wow! I wouldn't go, I wouldn't be able to tolerate it. I guess one thing you could do is read what actors' partners say about seeing their loves in simulated sex scenes?
In this case, if in doubt, as you seem... (read in full...)
Does he like me?
Q. okay so i have rumors that this hottie vwith the body likes me all his best friends saying that he does. I really like him, but he's a total player. We barely talk and yeah. Is their a chance ? Apparently he has a thing with this girl, but his ...
A. 21 April 2011: Players generally have some assistance in keeping their chain of available women moving along. The friends ensure the available females are told what he wants them to hear. I think it's part of the bro-code. I'd steer clear for now. Basically, don't ... (read in full...)
Should I consider having anal sex?
Q. in the last year i have had twins. i love them to pieces, but being a single mother is hard. in the last 2 weeks i have had sex with 2 people. now, for the 1st time un my life, i wasnt tight downstairs. they litterally just slid it up and there was ...
A. 21 April 2011: Is the anal sex for YOU or for your partners? Who suggested it and why do you feel pressured into having it?... (read in full...)
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