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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Tis the season...
Q. Hello Everyone. Here at Dear Cupid we receive many requests for help. Some are serious relationship problems, others aren't quite so serious. One such question is "What should I get my significant other for Christmas?" I intend to give you some ...
A. 22 November 2011: You can also go to this page: http://www.dearcupid.org/search and type in "Christmas present ideas" or "gift ideas needed" and you'll get plenty of posts too!... (read in full...)
Thoughts on having sex on the first date?
Q. is it ok to have sex on the first date/night you meet someone?? recently i haven't had a lot of sex, its been almost 6 months, and although i thoroughly enjoy it, i feel the need to get out there and have a few one night stands.. ive been chatt...
A. 15 December 2010: OP, sorry for the confusion, there was no age range given, and based on the way you wrote the queston, it sounded like a much younger, inexperienced person.
If you want to have one-night stands, then by all means, do so. But then you cannot be surp... (read in full...)
Am I a nyphomaniac?
Q. I've engaged in foreplay before but I've never had full blown sexual intercorse. I'm constantly horny and faithfully masterbate everday, several times a day. Does this mean I'm a nymphomaniac and when I do start having sexual intercourse ache for it ...
A. 15 December 2010: Vaginismus will require professional help to overcome. Perhaps tackling that will address the other worry of the latent nymphomania? As part of the therapy you may discover this is something you need not worry about.
Best wishes in handling this... (read in full...)
Whats better for penis size?
Q. So this may sound dumb but I'm wondering from a girls point of view. What's better for penis size, length or Gerth? Cause I'm 5.5 long and 5.75 around, so which one is more enjoyable...
A. 15 December 2010: I don't know one woman who whipped out a measuring tape before having sex with a man. "Wait, you're at 5.73 inches. My minimum is 9.34. Get out of bed."
Please don't fall into the trap of thinking a sexual encounter revolves entirely around your... (read in full...)
Am I a nyphomaniac?
Q. I've engaged in foreplay before but I've never had full blown sexual intercorse. I'm constantly horny and faithfully masterbate everday, several times a day. Does this mean I'm a nymphomaniac and when I do start having sexual intercourse ache for it ...
A. 15 December 2010: Good question. So you've been masturbating faithfully for 20?+ years? Wow.... (read in full...)
I'm female and I can't last during sex!
Q. okay so i am 19 years old and my boyfriend is 20. I have been with him since i was 15 years old and i love him very much. It was a sort of love at first sight kind of thing. We became sexually active 8 months after we got together and he has alwa...
A. 14 December 2010: If you are experiencing pain during sex (I'm assuming you mean intercourse?) then of course you should stop. It's your body's way of saying, "enough" because that means you could be injuring yourself.
I think some sensible discussion surr... (read in full...)
If you were in such a good strong relationship would you only have eyes for your partner?
Q. I'm currently in a really good strong relationship and was just wondering what peoples' opinions were on having crushes outside of your relationship. If you were in such a good strong relationship would you only have eyes for your partner? or is it ...
A. 14 December 2010: Okay, I'll probably get hammered on for this one. But here goes, I think it's perfectly normal for people in committed relationships to find that they are attracted to someone they know. It doesn't mean that they are going to ACT on those feelings ... (read in full...)
She won't shave or trim!
Q. I have had multiple conversations with my wife regarding the shaving of her vag, but she will not so much as keep it trim. I've actually shaved her a few times, but I feel like it's just part of a woman's grooming process to keep it trim if that's ...
A. 14 December 2010: What does she say about grooming her pubic hair, out of curiousity? You gave us what you think but you didn't let us know what she has said to you.... (read in full...)
Does it really matter that he's shorter than me???
Q. There's this boy i really like and he asked me out today i said that i would think about it and call him tonight, i really want to go out with him but he's shorter than me and i know everyone says that the boy has to be taller than the girl but does ...
A. 14 December 2010: Everyone does NOT say the boy has to be taller than the girl. I have some very good friends, couples, in which the man is shorter than the woman. They are great together and wonderfully in love. The only people who think it's a problem are 'short' ... (read in full...)
Views on student crushes on their teachers?
Q. I really like a teacher...So I have liked many teachers before but once again i am in love with this teacher but the thing is i dont atcually have him as a teacher...he is an computing teacher and the first time i saw him i really liked him...one ...
A. 14 December 2010: Let's see, student crushes on teachers. Recently in my area, we had a teacher/student liaison end with him losing his job and her getting expelled. I don't know if they are prosecuting him, as I don't believe they had sexual relationship. But it was ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin?
Q. I am seventeen years of age, was molested by my cousin at the age of three. scientifically, am i still a virgin? no penetration was made, just fondling of my vagina. ...
A. 14 December 2010: You are still a virgin. Best wishes to you.... (read in full...)
Thoughts on having sex on the first date?
Q. is it ok to have sex on the first date/night you meet someone?? recently i haven't had a lot of sex, its been almost 6 months, and although i thoroughly enjoy it, i feel the need to get out there and have a few one night stands.. ive been chatt...
A. 14 December 2010: Right now, you're just the girl who chats with guys she doesn't know on FB about sex. So they probably class you as "likely to have sex on the first night." If you meet up with them and have sex, they WILL class you as the "girl who has sex on the ... (read in full...)
I have vaginismus and thick hymen. I am ashamed and lonely.
Q. ~ASHAMED and LONELY~ I have vaginismus and thick hymen, which is the primary reason, while not the only, that has presented me with minimal relationship and sexual experience. I have never experience complete penal penetration, due to the ex...
A. 13 December 2010: I think it's apparent the "natural" way hasn't worked for you for many years, and I think the best thing to do is to go see your own person OB/GYN for assistance in this area. A simple surgery to deal with the hymen will take care of one source of ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher!
Q. How do I approach this man before I graduate high school? I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher. I know you've all heard this before but im serious. I know what I want and that's a man. The boys at my school are way too immature and the...
A. 11 December 2010: Ah well, another teenager in the group of being unable to write this question from the teacher's perspective. I'm not surprised, I have to say, just disappointed. I thought that you had the potential.
Well, back to your original question. Tell your... (read in full...)
I've never even owned a fish, how are we going to compromise on owning a dog?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving in together soon. We have always been opposites when it comes to pretty much everything. But now we are having a problem. We cant decide on what type of dog to get. He has ALWAYS wanted a German Shepard. ...
A. 11 December 2010: A German Shepherd in a FLAT? Omigod, how selfish of your boyfriend, and unrealistic and frankly cruel. That's just not a good idea.
A stubborn boyfriend who thinks a dog is a fashion accessory or a status symbol, hm. Not sounding very promising to m... (read in full...)
Separated and finding it hard to let go
Q. Hi all, I separated from my husband 6 months ago and I've been finding really hard to let go. I didn't realise how obsessive I'd become until somebody pointed out to be yesterday. I've had all night to think about it and OMG I've become an idiot. So ...
A. 11 December 2010: Hi there, I'm glad to see you posting again!
I guess the question for you is, what are your interests?
I entertain people at my house quite often. Excuses for parties are: football games, cookie swaps, book club gatherings, wine tastings, birthday... (read in full...)
Am I underweight?
Q. Hi. I know this is not a medical site, but I'd just like some opinions from regular people. I'm a 24 year old female. I am 5 foot 6 and weigh 8 stones. Is this underweight? If so, is it very bad? Thank you....
A. 11 December 2010: Based on your set of symptoms, I'd say it would be prudent to be examined by a physician. It would be a great pity to have lasting health issues due to something easily treatable, yet undiagnosed because the individual didn't seek the proper care. ... (read in full...)
Do you truly appreciate all that your man/woman has done for you and your family?
Q. I've been with my wife for 10 years; married for seven. We have three beautiful children and the other day, she and I were just sitting at the kitchen table. She was drinking an orange juice reading the paper and I my coffee with a crossword ...
A. 10 December 2010: Awesome! Yes, I do appreciate my husband, every morning I think how lucky I am and every night before we go to sleep we say appreciative things, out loud. It's very important to appreciate and acknowledge the effort and devotion each partner puts ... (read in full...)
I've never even owned a fish, how are we going to compromise on owning a dog?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving in together soon. We have always been opposites when it comes to pretty much everything. But now we are having a problem. We cant decide on what type of dog to get. He has ALWAYS wanted a German Shepard. ...
A. 10 December 2010: Cerberus, that's great advice. One thing to elaborate on that, is that many dogs in the US dog shelters are pitbulls or part pitbull. I would shy away from those as a starter dog as well.
Don't get me wrong on pitbulls, they can be lovely and wond... (read in full...)
I acted as if I had an abortion!
Q. i have just started talking to the teacher who betrayed me a year ago after i found out i was pregnant and confided in her. i've never had the confidence to talk about what happened next even when i forgave her. i'll never forget what she did. We ...
A. 10 December 2010: Did she tell your parents that you were pregnant, or report it to someone, is that how she betrayed you?
I think you don't need to pretend anything, whatever happened is now in the past. But I would also advise that maybe as you feel so stro... (read in full...)
I've never even owned a fish, how are we going to compromise on owning a dog?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving in together soon. We have always been opposites when it comes to pretty much everything. But now we are having a problem. We cant decide on what type of dog to get. He has ALWAYS wanted a German Shepard. ...
A. 10 December 2010: And I have to say that Jilly is correct. Wait until after you have reached a stable point in the relationship as she advises. I focused on the new dog and failed to discuss the new living arrangements.
So my advice is to follow Jilly's advice FIRS... (read in full...)
I've never even owned a fish, how are we going to compromise on owning a dog?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving in together soon. We have always been opposites when it comes to pretty much everything. But now we are having a problem. We cant decide on what type of dog to get. He has ALWAYS wanted a German Shepard. ...
A. 10 December 2010: DOH! "I'd start with a Lab, they HAVE a good ..."... (read in full...)
I've never even owned a fish, how are we going to compromise on owning a dog?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are planning on moving in together soon. We have always been opposites when it comes to pretty much everything. But now we are having a problem. We cant decide on what type of dog to get. He has ALWAYS wanted a German Shepard. ...
A. 10 December 2010: A German Shepard is too much dog for a new dog owner, I think. He can get one after you have the chance to raise at least one or two dogs who are smaller and will train YOU a bit in the mysterious ways of canines.
Your height and weight don't real... (read in full...)
Am I underweight?
Q. Hi. I know this is not a medical site, but I'd just like some opinions from regular people. I'm a 24 year old female. I am 5 foot 6 and weigh 8 stones. Is this underweight? If so, is it very bad? Thank you....
A. 10 December 2010: This BMI calculator tool says you are underweight. What does your doctor say? That's more important than what a random bunch of people who don't know you and aren't medically trained would think.
... (read in full...)
He spends all of his free texting his co-worker!
Q. My fiance and I have been having problems. We have talked about going to see a couselor but everytime I go to make an appointment he says we are fine and dont need one. My real concern right now is, I found out today that he has been texting ...
A. 10 December 2010: I believe splitting a household in two and child support for a 4 year old child will be FAR FAR more expensive than couples' counseling, so that argument doesn't wash. I think we have a mutual utter lack of respect for the other here and this is ... (read in full...)
Does his facebook stalking mean anything?
Q. Okay so I'm in a long term relationship at the moment, and I'm very happy, we live together, the ususal stuff. However the other day at home I was on the net on my boyfriends laptop- we do share them as his is faster than mine and mine breaks ...
A. 10 December 2010: Thanks K_C for prompting me to add to my thoughts on this. I'm one of the old-fashioned types that don't actually think you should live with someone unless you intend to do so for a long long time. Moving in too early is also a problem because you ... (read in full...)
Does his facebook stalking mean anything?
Q. Okay so I'm in a long term relationship at the moment, and I'm very happy, we live together, the ususal stuff. However the other day at home I was on the net on my boyfriends laptop- we do share them as his is faster than mine and mine breaks ...
A. 10 December 2010: Thanks for the followup, I guess my only comment then is to keep an eye on things. You don't look at someone's account EVERYDAY just to look at the dog's pics. You look once and then done, I think. But you know your guy, and I think tackling it and ... (read in full...)
My parents found out about my secret boyfriend and now I have to break up with him!
Q. Mod Note: 2 questions from the same poster have been merged 1. I have a secret boyfriend at school which my parents immediately knew when our adviser heard the news and told them..Since my parents are strict on dating because they're Asians,t...
A. 10 December 2010: I think it would be a good idea to have your parents in the same room as you call him and tell him that unfortunately, due to parental request, you have to stop being his girlfriend. I'm concerned for you that you say he has "anger management ... (read in full...)
Did I say YES too quickly to his proposal?
Q. I have had this boyfriend of mine for 6 years now, and I am really in love with him although we both have differences (as any couple does). On the other hand, there is a guy that I met at school who is amazing. He is perfect for me in every wa...
A. 10 December 2010: Ignore how long you two have been together just for the moment.
What are the differences between you and your current boyfriend that you referenced but didn't explain.
And what are the items that make the other guy perfect for you?
Thanks fo... (read in full...)
What do I do with his sweater?
Q. Dear cupids: There's this guy who I really like; so far we're just friends, but a few days ago we were hanging out and he gave me his sweater to wear home cause it was cold out. Now, I'm (secretly!) a little bit shy, awkward and unfamiliar...
A. 10 December 2010: Sounds like a good idea. :D... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and need to tell my parents I'm pregnant
Q. Okay, so im 14 and may possibly be pregnant. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and 7 months now. I've been on birth control for about a year and a half. Although, i stopped taking it 3 weeks ago because I am getting a new prescription. Me and ...
A. 10 December 2010: First things first. Get a pregnancy test. Take it. See what the results are. Teenage menstrual cycles are very irregular.
Come back and post AFTER you've taken the test. Then the next phase of this discussion will be practical not hypothetical. Okay... (read in full...)
Tis the season...
Q. Hello Everyone. Here at Dear Cupid we receive many requests for help. Some are serious relationship problems, others aren't quite so serious. One such question is "What should I get my significant other for Christmas?" I intend to give you some ...
A. 10 December 2010: I have a great thread to post here for people who might need a lot of ideas: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-kind-of-a-christmas-present-can-i.html
Thanks for keeping us merry and bright. :D... (read in full...)
Do all men secretly prefer big breasted women?
Q. I've read many articles which say many studies have been done which prove that men prefer larger breasts, even on an unconscious level, because most men consciously say that size doesn't matter. But science has proved otherwise. However, most men ...
A. 10 December 2010: Wait. All guys are shallow. Yet you want to be lusted after by all guys. Does not compute.
Go to one of those photographers that do the "glamour" shoots (I'm talking about the American version of that word, where you get makeup and wear clot... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt my LDR girlfriend give me her facebook?
Q. hey , i just wonder why wouldnt my long distance relationship girlfriend give me her facebook ? shes telling me that she would get jealous if she sees other girls postin on my fb and i would get jealous too seein other guys talking to her, but what...
A. 9 December 2010: I think tennisstar has the answer. I think she's not been honest with you. Two years is a very long time to not see each other. The whole point of facebook is for social networking, to see what your friends are posting and sharing pictures and ... (read in full...)
She untagged our romantic Facebook pictures?
Q. I really like this girl who lives the same floor as me in our University accommodation. We went to a club on Monday and i bumped into her. She was with two of her friends away from the dance floor and looked bit upset. I went over and she hugged ...
A. 9 December 2010: TALK to her. When you run into her at school, stop and chat with her. Stop and talk to her friends as well, when you see them. Girls talk about the boys they like and if you make a good impression on her friends, they will be positive about you when ... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt my LDR girlfriend give me her facebook?
Q. hey , i just wonder why wouldnt my long distance relationship girlfriend give me her facebook ? shes telling me that she would get jealous if she sees other girls postin on my fb and i would get jealous too seein other guys talking to her, but what...
A. 9 December 2010: So have you ever met in person? I think you may have a problem here; this isn't really a viable relationship from what I'm hearing. I would say that it's actually more of a fantasy that has no real future. I'm sorry to be so negative but this ... (read in full...)
I'm a married woman and want a relationship with my lesbian friend.
Q. I'm bisexual and married. How do I ask my husband if he would have a problem with me dating a woman I've become quite close to. She doesn't know I'm back living with my husband so how do I approach her?...
A. 9 December 2010: I have a website for you to read. It's for spouses who have found out their partners are gay or lesbian. Kind of sad and poignant to read the stories of hurt and the amazing pain people experience when they find their spouse has been lying and ... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt my LDR girlfriend give me her facebook?
Q. hey , i just wonder why wouldnt my long distance relationship girlfriend give me her facebook ? shes telling me that she would get jealous if she sees other girls postin on my fb and i would get jealous too seein other guys talking to her, but what...
A. 9 December 2010: It is a very good question, actually. Why won't she let you be friends with her on FB? It would be a nice way to keep up with each other. It seems rather suspicious.
How long have you been dating? How did you meet? How often do you see her in pers... (read in full...)
Should I get even with my ex?
Q. Hi , Here's a question for all you guys and girls. Whats the best way of revenge on an ex. My girlfriend of two years who I was extremely loyal and faithful to had an affair with two different guys. I don't mean just sex ... she was in an emotio...
A. 9 December 2010: Good for you to move on with some dignity and grace. Get some friends to help so moving out goes very quickly. You can write a letter to her, maybe better than an email, as she could forward that all over really easily. I personally would simply ... (read in full...)
She untagged our romantic Facebook pictures?
Q. I really like this girl who lives the same floor as me in our University accommodation. We went to a club on Monday and i bumped into her. She was with two of her friends away from the dance floor and looked bit upset. I went over and she hugged ...
A. 9 December 2010: You're operating without much information about her and you haven't done the simple task of just having an ordinary conversation. "Hey there, how are things?" "Dating anyone these days?" "How's school going?" BASIC stuff.
You've decided you like... (read in full...)
My dad got mad because I wrote a guy's initials and a heart on my hand?
Q. ok so my dad just pissed me off...i didnt know where else to go to get my mind off it and get some advice. i have a friend named Jared who i REALLY like. he likes me but the thing is he has 3 other girlfriends and im afraid to get hurt. and also ...
A. 9 December 2010: I can see why your Dad feels overprotective of you. You're kind of gullible. Oh well, no doubt you'll grow out of it eventually!
Take care!... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mother in law I find her sexy?
Q. I'm 28 and very sexually and emotionally attracted to my mother in law. she is 45. I have known her for 8 yrs and we get along very well. she knows I check her out every chance I get and has never said anything, she has checked me out before and ...
A. 8 December 2010: Look, everyone has pretty well told you that there is no good way to tell her. If you want that advice, it looks like you will have to find another site. Take care!
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Secret relationship with much younger sister-in-law
Q. I am 42 year old married man. I am very close to my 18 year sis-in-law. She is bubbly and jolly in nature. She is very fond of me. She allows me to hugg, kiss and touch her boobs. She often says she loves me.I too say same. We enjoy a flirting ...
A. 8 December 2010: You know, it is interesting the number of questions we get from posters with Indian flags that concern family incest type stuff. There appears to a fascination with it in that area of the world.
Cheating on your spouse is never a good idea in any ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mother in law I find her sexy?
Q. I'm 28 and very sexually and emotionally attracted to my mother in law. she is 45. I have known her for 8 yrs and we get along very well. she knows I check her out every chance I get and has never said anything, she has checked me out before and ...
A. 8 December 2010: CindyCares raises a good point. The aftermath. Being a laughingstock is generally a bad career move. "Why'd they break up?" "He went after his mother-in-law." "OOOhhh, juicy! Is anybody THAT stupid?" *laughter*
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Should I tell my mother in law I find her sexy?
Q. I'm 28 and very sexually and emotionally attracted to my mother in law. she is 45. I have known her for 8 yrs and we get along very well. she knows I check her out every chance I get and has never said anything, she has checked me out before and ...
A. 8 December 2010: " No I didnt forget about my wife but feel its worth the risk. i think abut being with her all the time."
Ah, if this is the OP, you definitely need to see someone in the mental health counseling capacity. Obsessive thoughts and inappropriately risk... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mother in law I find her sexy?
Q. I'm 28 and very sexually and emotionally attracted to my mother in law. she is 45. I have known her for 8 yrs and we get along very well. she knows I check her out every chance I get and has never said anything, she has checked me out before and ...
A. 8 December 2010: Forgot to say, NO, don't tell your mother in law you find her sexy. That's inappropriate and will lead her to think that her daughter has married a sexual predator, a cheat, a fake, or a freak. None of which are desirable son-in-law qualities.... (read in full...)
Should I tell my mother in law I find her sexy?
Q. I'm 28 and very sexually and emotionally attracted to my mother in law. she is 45. I have known her for 8 yrs and we get along very well. she knows I check her out every chance I get and has never said anything, she has checked me out before and ...
A. 8 December 2010: If she's caught you ogling her, she knows you think she's sexy. No need to spell it out, really. That's enough of an ego boost for the mother of your wife, no doubt. It's one thing to be desired by a younger man. It's entirely different to have your ... (read in full...)
Should I get even with my ex?
Q. Hi , Here's a question for all you guys and girls. Whats the best way of revenge on an ex. My girlfriend of two years who I was extremely loyal and faithful to had an affair with two different guys. I don't mean just sex ... she was in an emotio...
A. 8 December 2010: You can't teach life lessons to people who are selfish and oblivious. It's like hitting your head on a blockwall. It's a waste of your time and energy to try. Your anger is justified but continuing to fan its flames and amplifying it will ultimately ... (read in full...)
What do I do with his sweater?
Q. Dear cupids: There's this guy who I really like; so far we're just friends, but a few days ago we were hanging out and he gave me his sweater to wear home cause it was cold out. Now, I'm (secretly!) a little bit shy, awkward and unfamiliar...
A. 8 December 2010: Give him a call or a text (I HATE how much communication is done without actually speaking these days) and say nicely, "hey, I have your sweater! Let me know how or when I can get it back to you."
Pretty simple. Good luck.... (read in full...)
My dad got mad because I wrote a guy's initials and a heart on my hand?
Q. ok so my dad just pissed me off...i didnt know where else to go to get my mind off it and get some advice. i have a friend named Jared who i REALLY like. he likes me but the thing is he has 3 other girlfriends and im afraid to get hurt. and also ...
A. 7 December 2010: ok so my daughter has decided that I just pissed her off...i didnt know where else to go to get my mind off it and get some advice. she has a friend named Jared who she thinks she REALLY likes. this unknown guy has convinced her that he likes her ... (read in full...)
I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher!
Q. How do I approach this man before I graduate high school? I'm 16 and in love with my 26 year old teacher. I know you've all heard this before but im serious. I know what I want and that's a man. The boys at my school are way too immature and the...
A. 2 December 2010: The thing I observe in your post is the narcissism. It's all about what you want and what you feel. There is no examination or analysis of why this teacher should return your affection, no discussion of what your revelation could mean for his career ... (read in full...)
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